TTC After MC 12: Hopeful Twats and Emotional Wrecks welcome!

[BertieBotts]

Come one, come all, new and old, no-one wants to be here, but at least we're glad we've got each other :)

Hope your stay here is short.

Now, some BFPs if you please and BFNs for those who are waiting for them too!

Hello! Am here! Thank you lime. Spent a lot of time in A&e yesterday as had a huge flood again but they couldn't scan so holding out hope until 2 weeks time. They can't scan as it might irritate the clot again so hoping it was the clot leaking.

Anyhow! Nausea and tiredness in full flow and off work for two weeks so hoping to keep bean in the right place!

Stuck I've got all my fingers and toes crossed for you! Hope you are resting up..

Thinking of you stuck ♥️

CD13 here lots of good EWCM and DTD this morning so feeling like a HT again. I should ov by the weekend at the latest, then I'm off on holiday next Thursday which will be a good TWW distraction!

Stuck, still keeping everything crossed for you.

Still no sign of ovulation although on cd 18 now. Never ovulated this late before but still having all the symptoms causing me to be a HT. I'm beating myself up about testing "early"... in inverted commas because I don't really know if this is cd 18 at all.

Anyway, hope you all had a good weekend x

Fox, I forgot to say, I'm so sorry about your dad and how you're struggling at the moment. Please be kind to yourself x

Stuck fingers and toes and everything crossed! And as they say here in Germany "Pressing thumbs" for you :)

We had visitors last night and ended up getting into a conversation about miscarriage and it was refreshing because they were curious without being overly syrupy and sympathetic which I find a bit awkward TBH. Talking about it all reminds me of wanting to be pregnant though whereas sometimes I can just forget about the whole thing and live life not really thinking about it at all.

stuck everything crossed for you. Glad you've got time off work to rest. Stay where you are little bean!!!

grumpy I'm with you in HT land. Dtd twice at more helpful times than normal and finally a nice normal cycle with clear ov on clearblue and also third time lucky after mc. 3dpo now and wondering when it's too early to test!
It's going to be more of a disappointment this month when af shows as I actually feel very twatty hopeful!

Also interesting to read everyone's worry about whether to live a little or not. I feel very guilty after enjoying definitely at least 3 glasses too many of wine fri night. But at the same time I'm feeling oh f*ck it, why should everything be put on hold for months and months. It was only maybe ov day or 1dpo so trying to be good now in the two week wait. It's a tough one getting the balance right

I don't worry about alcohol but I don't smoke any more. I used to have one or two at parties but I just don't think it's worth it at the moment.

Alcohol didn't stop me getting pregnant any of the three times I have been! And in the case of DS even though I drunk heavily the night before getting a positive test (he was unexpected!) it doesn't seem to have harmed him at all.

Yes bertie I know so many stories of people drinking not knowing they were very early pregnant, like just before testing. And I know baby uses its egg sac for a while so it's sort of safe? Is that right? I do love a proper coffee though as my treat, so sometimes I worry about that but I guess it didn't stop me getting pregnant and having my two children already so I guess I ought to not worry. I give up most caffeine once I get a positive test anyway.

Rest up stuck, sending you a gentle reassuring hug. Can you draft in help with your little one so you're able to do as little as possible? Get people to bring you biscuits and magazines!

In South Africa they "hold thumbs" Bertie, funny all the variations on the theme for luck

I'm CD10, expecting to ov in the next couple of days. Really really tired at the moment, nothing particularly wrong, just not quite right either. Got a manky eye today, lost my appetite, mostly off booze, not sleeping that well, feeling pretty run down.

Nothing wrong with HT territory grumpy, hope this is you month And holiday to look forward to.

Smurf, I think of you and hope all is well with you x

Hi all, Emotional Wreck in this corner. Did a CB digi yesterday and it said 2-3 weeks which matched with my positive opk 16 days earlier so was in full HT mode. But I woke up last night and my breast tenderness seemed to have gone and this morning I have a dull ache in my pelvis, so now expecting the worst.

I know there's nothing I can do except wait, keep taking the vits and aspirin, but it is doing my head in. I've got a really stressful day/week ahead at work and I don't know how I will concentrate. I think I was really convinced this was the sticky one and I don't know how I will start again if it isn't.

Msnjuniper - could be uterus stretching?

I enjoyed myself throughout the last few months - i thought I didn't ov in June as I did he cb smiley face of of doom testing from cd12 to 22 and never peaked. So I drank allllllll the drinks and steak and ate cheese boards with bad cheese at the end of June ready to start again as I thought af came for 10 days on the 30th June. Was a false af with a mooncup ( another bad thing!) and I was in fact pregnant. But didn't know. Got a positive ov on what I considered cd14 - but now realise that was due to hcg not lh hormones. So yeah. Guilt was heavy as I wailed at the gyny in a&e how all my bleeding and loss of twin was my Fault. She kindly snorted and said it was nothing to do with anything I did and that I was relaxed helped more than any blue cheese did harm. Not sure this is what you want to hear but is my story. I am ok now that I did all this.

Now I am glad I enjoyed the wine, steak, oh god, hot pools, flukes and rapids at centre parcs in what would have been my tww!

Luckily though I have not done anything fun in July unless you count a few nightnurses to get over a rotten cold.

I really have done all the bad things.....

Thanks stuck, I've been thinking of you a lot. There's no point in analysing every twinge (or lack of) and as your mw said it's important to be relaxed but I just can't switch my brain off.

When I had DS I had quite a big implantation bleed which I thought was AF so I went out and drank ALL the mojitos at a friend's birthday. A few days later tested and but all was well. Maybe I should have tried that with all the other pregnancies?!

Thanks Anne im doing alright, having a duvet day today as I've come down work a pretty horrendous cold. Like ms juniper I'm finding it hard to make my brain switch off.. But trying to remain positive.. Scan on Wednesday..
Juniper I've found the breast tenderness comes and goes for me although I panick every time I think it's gone..I'm hoping it is just one of those things that does come and go.. Nausea that I can only describe as feeling car sick also seems to be coming and going and honestly I can't tell whether I'm imaging the symptoms. Like you I'm trying to only think positively and take the aspirin, folic acid and vit d everyday and rest.

Keeping it all crossed juniper and stuck

Keeping everything crossed for you stuck and juniper, and good luck for your scan smurf!
I'm having a tough morning. It's the first day since the mc last week that I've come back into work and the guy who sits behind me has just come back in after his paternity leave. I'm having to put in headphones so I don't cry as he tells everyone how wonderful being a parent is. Which means it must seem like I'm being really cold and unfriendly.
I'm still debating what to do RE alcohol. Obviously this week has been just doing whatever it takes to get by (which has been lots of wine and biscuits) but once we get back to trying again, I'll probably cut down and just have the odd glass here and there.

It's the whole not being happily child free/living life in limbo thing again though - most of my socialising is meeting friends for a drink so I worry if I stop drinking altogether my friends will get bored of hanging out with their sad, sober friend - and I've already spent so much of this year pretending to drink or making up excuses about driving or early starts!
But at the same time I want to make sure that if I am lucky enough to fall again quickly, that I'm doing absolutely everything by the book so I have the best chance of it all working out.

AF is here things just don't make sense.

Someone at work just found out the sex of their baby today...

Hi, this is my first ever post on one of these boards so bear with me. DH and I have been trying properly since the start of the year. Came off my pill last September and got a lovely new job with great maternity package in Jan so we could start with gusto! I turned 34 in march and after watching numerous friends struggling TTC I was quite anxious. We had a chemical in early March and then a BFP in June whilst on holiday - best holiday gift ever! Unfortunately I had a natural miscarriage at exactly 7 weeks on 30 June. All happened very quickly and my hcg was back to 1 by 9 July. Thought I was coping pretty well with it all - EPAU and hospital were amazing - and hubby and I rather threw ourselves back into TTC having looked at all the research which says you only really wait for dating purposes. Now I'm driving myself slowly crazy looking for pregnancy symptoms (experiencing regular cramping and nausea in the last week) and waiting to see if AF turns up or not. Took at test on Saturday as had friends over for a BBQ and wanted to know if I could have a couple of drinks and got a BFN. Now don't know how long to wait (AF due weds if cycle back to 32 day normal) and just found out that my religious taking of pregnacare post MC may be the cause of the nausea! Grr! Any advice or experiences gratefully received. How long did AF turn up if you had an early MC? Did you start trying straight away? If so, with any success? Feeling rather down today as I think the prospect of AF will make it all feel rather real and think we were hoping to just get preggers again straight away to hide the pain a bit.

Hi HFH sorry you've had such a hard time, it sounds like you've dealt with it all so well. It's the uncertainty that's the worst, isn't it?

I've had 2 x mc at 9 weeks and 4 at 4-6 weeks. With the 9 week one it took at least 6 weeks before my next period, but I was bleeding for a while after. With the earlier pgs/chemicals it was just a normal cycle later (my cycles are quite irregular but within the range of normal). So maybe count it from whenever you stopped bleeding + your normal cycle if you want to be on the safe side? Saying that as you can see from the conversation above lots of us have drunk in early pregnancy without knowing.

I just had a call from the people whose study I participated in (I had an endometrial scratch) and I was trying to keep it quiet/vague as at work but she was so excited and shouted Congratulations! I don't think anyone heard though. She said if I get my GP to refer me to the RMC hospital then they will arrange an early scan. I can also take part in a study that would mean weekly scanning. It sounds tempting but I'm not sure whether to go for that or not. Peace of mind or more to worry about?

Hiya... I had a miscarriage in march I was so upset.... iv just got my BFP last night .. it was very very faint
I'm very worried as iv been having cramps though
Keep hope ... having a miscarriage is horrid but is a sign of future fertility xxxxx

kingswood welcome although very sorry of course you too find yourself here. With regards to trying again straight away I did after my first natural miscarriage which also happened at 7 weeks and fell again straight away which unfortunately ended in a mmc at 10weeks. (Baby had stopped at 9weeks). So this time without meaning too I'm now in cycle 3 post mc, but that is mainly due to odd cycles and bleeding. Hopefully your cycle will either go back to normal for you and start on Wednesday and at least you know where you are, or better news you are pregnant again but have tested too early.

Pregnacare never made me feel nauseous but I know lots of others that have found the same so maybe switch to another brand. Not the one I have though as it's so natural and hippy it makes me gag when I take it as it reeks of seaweed! Sticking to normal folic acid I think next time!!!

Everyone here is super supportive so stick around and let us know how you get on.

Hi everyone, very confused poster here. Had early MC 6 weeks ago. AF still hasn't arrived, and for the last few weeks I've been quite ill. Went into hopsital just over a week ago where they checked me out for possible MC complications - scan and urine pregnancy test showed nothing.
Last night symptoms got worse so went back in. After 7 hours of various tests, doctor finally decided to do another urine test. It came back positive. As you can imagine DH and I pretty much fell apart - last thing we'd expected, no sleep for 24 hours and don't want to get our hopes up. They did a blood test which confirmed pregnancy and ultrasound (not internal scan) showed something there.

I've got to go back for a proper gynae scan tomorrow, but I'm just so confused. We've had sex since MC but I did a pregnancy test 2 weeks ago and obviously last week's at hospital came back BFN too. Could this still be some remnants from MC, despite previous BFNs/last scan showing nothing? I am so terrified of getting my hopes up and then tomorrow's scan showing it's old material. This is such a head fuck. DH and I had convinced ourselves it wouldn't happen again for us for a few months and then... bam.

Sorry, what a ramble! Can anyone shed any light/ talk sense into me/ stop me getting my hopes up?

juniper I would personally want the extra scans for peace of mind, but I can see how it would also add an extra stress waiting for it each week... it's a very personal thing.