TTC #2 (August bfps)

[Impatientmummy36]

Hi all, here we are again :)

New thread for all those ttc second babies.

Good luck everyone this cycle! xxx

I don't see the line curlie but sometimes its hard to take a picture! My AF due 3 September but have been hovering around here too!

Big hugs Nubian not out until she arrives! Well done for making the steps on the appointment kash I imagine it is nerve wracking though but a lot fall pregnant after seeing the doctor I think due to relief! So you never know!

AF has arrived...😥😥😥

Sorry Mito. Curlie can't see line. Can you try a different angle and repost?

Thanks for encouragement everyone.

Can anyone please look ot this opk and tell me if it's positive. If so why would I get a positive opk 2 days before af?

Ooo, I'm not sure curlie....maybe wait for other's opinions...? I can't see it sorry but maybe it didn't come out very well on the photo...? Good luck!

Well my previous post was positive and glad it helped some people but I still feel the same inside...like a lot of people on here lately it seems....a bit despondent and tired of waiting, wondering if it will ever ever be me. I see pregnant women everywhere!!! Another colleague up the duff at work. She will be off on mat leave in Dec...urgh, so jealous and so wish it was me! Our children go to the same nursery too and I see her picking up her little girl all the time.

I think with the age thing it does matter, but like others have said, fertility is such a very personal thing, different for each individual. A 25 year old could be much less fertile than a really healthy (and lucky!) 40 year old. Really is just luck of the draw I think.

It took me 9 months at 34; no wonder it is taking me ages (7 months and counting...) at 37.5! This time I am even more impatient than before because of the age factor....

In terms of my wonderful aims for this month (!!), I have kept up my temping so far so that is good. Due to start running again on Sat as too busy with work this week. But still not had the all important talk with OH....I just get too upset and emotional. And I am scared we won't think the same. I think I need to write it all down to make sure I don't miss anything out, and just gather my courage and go for it ( after a glass of wine, and when DS is in bed....!)

I will make docs appointment hopefully next week if I can get the online booking thing sorted tomorrow (another of the endless list of life chores that never seem to get done....) . Does anyone know (who has already started the investigations with the doctor) if/when oh will be asked to provide a sample, and where he will have to take it? Do we have to start attending appointments together? I'm assuming I can go alone at first to just make enquiries and get booked in for my blood work etc....! Any info from those in the know appreciated...!

Good luck all, stay strong! X

I know - the photo was crap, as was the autocorrect in that post, it was meant to say "it's not even really come out on my camera". I did go out and buy more frers, but the next poas I did wasn't much more conclusive. Just hope that morning wee tomorrow is better. Have a horrible feeling it's going to be another CP though - surely 12dpo shouldn't produce such frer squinters?! I don't think I'm likely to be earlier than that, as FF put ov at the day after I got a +opk (I think on that day I also got a very dark opk, but not quite as dark as control line, so assumed ov had happened). Who knows. All I can do is wait and see if tests get darker and/or if af turns up.

Ironically, we went to the doctors today to get the ball rolling for fertility tests, so if it does turn out to be a cp, I have a day 21 blood test next cycle to look into....

@LoopyLopez, it probably varies depending on where you live. We made a joint appointment (technically 2 consecutive appointments) and explained that we'd been trying for a year with no joy (didn't mention the CP in May), and that we'd also had trouble conceiving DD (who was in the end conceived naturally 16 months, just after we'd had our first appointment with fertility consultant). I was given a form for my "day 21" test and DH will get a letter about his semen analysis, telling him when to do it. Last time round, he had to collect the sample pot from the doctors, "come in a cup" (as he put it!) at home, then drive it straight to the hospital for the analysis.

Oh, and, apparently there's such a thing as an 'exception clause' you can try and claim, if you fall outside the criteria for ivf through the NHS, I.e. you can argue your case, and if it's exceptional enough, they may make an exception for you. This is something we might try, if it looks like ivf will be our only option to have another child. Our daughter has Down's Syndrome, so we'd really like a sibling for her, partly so s/he can look out for her when we're not around....

Thank you Curlie, that was really helpful.

OH can't drive so we might have an issue...! Bus timings might not fit in with keeping the sperm fresh, as it were....!!

Hello ladies...since af arrived Im so upset that Ican not stop crying... the failure hurts so much that the heartache is almost painful. I think I have to stop. I can not bear this again. I decided I stop temping as it gives me so much stress..and I think I stop using this thread ( I need a distraction).

I wish u all the babies u long for..

Im out..bless!

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Hi Mito sorry that you're feeling low Be kind to yourself and plan some distracting fun for the bank holiday. MN, and probably this group, will still be here whenever you feel it would be helpful again. And leave temping etc if it stresses you out, you probably have a good idea of your cycle now anyway.

I wish I had a suggestion of how to truly distract yourself and relax, but I think that's what we're all struggling with.

Enjoy some this weekend xx

So sorry that you're feeling down Mito. It's such an emotional rollercoaster, just know that you're not alone in feeling that way. I hope you manage to find distraction now that you've stopped temping and as Squashy suggested, cake and wine this weekend might help. Big hugs x x

Nubian I have heard of people getting a positive opk when they're actually pregnant! But I think its also to do with the fact that your body does release whatever it detects around the time of AF.

Big hugs mito and fingers crossed for you curlie have you tested this morning?

I've decided if I'm not pregnant this month, I am booking to go to Disneyland Paris in April/May next year! My little girl would absolutely love it - she's princess mad! And suddenly now I've made that decision, I feel great. I'm 4dpo so a long way to go yet, but I keep booking things for each month to give me something to look forward too! xx

Sorry Nubian, forgot to reply to your question. I have heard of opks showing positive when pregnant too, have you tried a pregnancy test?

Yep and I couldn't see a thing 😔. Tampon time tomorrow I reckon. It's gutting. Last time round I didn't have a whif of a line for 16 months. This time round I've had two sets of lines within the space of 4 months but the buggers keep disappearing on me....

Mito sorry you feel so low. In the last few months I had moments of crying to feeling angry to feeling hopeless. As I wait for af to arrive and feeling those familiar twinges my shoulders sink and I ferl utterly frustrated. The struggle is real. I still feel that I too should back off from ttc but SO and I agreed that we will try until January. Maybe give yourself a timescale. Try to book some time away together. Sending you the biggest HUG🤗.

Kashy I have taken a test and bfn. So I guess Karpuzkiz you are right that it might just be detecting af. Our bodies are such mysteries. Coming back from hols to a bfn just blows.

You ladies are the best. Wishing you all lots of baby dust and BFP for this cycle!

Sorry Nubian and Curlie, bfns just suck 😞
Big hugs to both of you x x

Thanks Kashy. Baby dust xx

Got my bfp today!!!!
Thrid month trying, first baby.
We are over the moon

Sorry to hear about bfns mito curlie and nubian - it always feels so cruel when af arrives. Hope you are all finding ways to take care of yourselves this weekend and some nice distractions

Am currently 12dpo and due to test on Tuesday. Have had a sharp pain on my lower right side, wondering if it might be implantation? Can't decide whether to test early and potentially upset the bank holiday weekend or just hang on until Tuesday.

Fingers crossed for anyone left to test - karpuzkiz when do you test?

Good luck with testing Tiramisu and Karpuzkiz and all those still left to test. Af due tomorrow arg.

Congrats on your bfp Chlow.

Baby dust all

Meant to say Chloe

Definitely could be implantation tiramisu sounds positive! Let us know what you decide!

Im currently deciding if I will test next Friday at 11DPO before I go away, or to just leave it so me and hubby can enjoy some wine on the weekend?! As I'm away it would mean not testing until 14DPO Monday if AF hasn't arrived in the meantime! Not going crazy testing this month but that would be a record for me if I waited and didn't test!

Karpuzkiz I am a serial tester but not taking any tests on my holiday just made it so much more relaxing and enjoyable

Thanks karpuzkiz - as I am going to a food and drink festival at the weekend and having my ILs over to celebrate DS's second birthday on Monday, I think I might wait and test after the weekend. I think stressing about being pregnant or AF is not what I need. Will try to be strong and not test until afterwards

Congratulations Chloe and good luck for next week Tiramisu.

AF did rock up yesterday, as expected. So pissed off with the frer squinters, but I suppose on the positive side, it shows that something's happening? Unless they were just indent lines? Has anyone else seen indent lines on frers?

It feels depressingly like 2014 all over again, although I suppose if that's the case I'm only a few months away from my BFP. A 3 year gap would probably be ok. It just seems crazy that that's what we're looking at when I've been off contraception since DD was 4 months old!

Sorry about af Curlie. It always sucks when that nasty witch arrIves. In the meantime I'm 2 days late for af. But I'm not holding any hope as I can feel it will be here soon any day now. Boobs started to hurt along with lower back and lower abdomen. BFN on htp this morning. So I will just sit here waiting for af to arrive