2ww#3 - hope, hormones and help

[lisara79]

I think the last thread was full. I hope you all find this one!

I completely understand - and again, no disrespect to anyone younger who is trying, as each journey is tough no matter the age. But you are both right - I don’t think I look or feel 43.... but I keep being told about the quality of my eggs being dubious at my age! And my life seems to be in constant limbo - which is why we have made the hard decision to stop by a certain date if it hasn’t happened. Just hope it does and if not I have the strength to move on.....

Life’s a real Bi*ch sometimes...

I'm not over 40 yet... approaching 38 but I still feel the pressure of age and keep being told to get on with it... I do sometimes wonder why I was so careful when I was younger.... it's strange... in South Wales, where i grew up and live now, my school friends all had children in their late 20s/early 30s and are all pretty much done while my friends in London, where i spent my 20s and early 30s, are all trying now or aren't quite ready yet... I have so many friends starting their family's in their late 30s and early 40s.... It seems to be the way forward. Biology needs to get with the program!

I'm in my early 30's but really wish I'd started my family earlier. You spend so long being educated on how to avoid pregnancy but nobody tells you how narrow the window is to actually conceive they just pump you full of contraceptives. You ladies are teaching me more than I ever learnt at school!

@rhibee29 I'm not sure you are taught much at school except the mechanics and not to have sex without contraception unless you want to get pregnant or get an STD.... nothing really about your reproductive health apart from STDs... iv e certainly learned more from here and Google than anywhere else.... women sharing info is brilliant!

Yeah, I can't believe how little knowledge I had about my fertility before starting TTC. Like you Rhi I spent my twenties doing everything I could not to be fertile, and now I'm wondering why I bothered (although chances are I'd have got pregnant then and I am SO glad I am not tied to my ex through having children).

Hope you're all doing ok.

I'm having the usual week-before-AF-due mood crash and symptom spotting. Cried at work today. Urgh.

Lisara I love your comment 'biology needs to get with the program'!!

Couldn't agree more. I wish now I'd started earlier too but would I have in reality? I don't know. We women are given so many wonderful opportunities these days but fertility-wise it's a double edged sword. In my 20s/early 30s I was busy travelling, getting two degrees, busy with my career and holding out for Mr Right. All the things sensible girls are told to do. But it's all at the expense of your future family in many ways. I'd have loved a large family if I'm honest but time is tickkbg loudly now. I know how totally blessed I am to have my two babies but I'm just don't feel done.

Anyhoo, here I am and at least I'm having one last crack of the whip before my internal organs shrivel up for good

13dpo and holding off testing until AF is actually late. Aren't you proud of me!?

so proud @littlemimosa! My 20s and early 30s were the same... I lived in 5 cities, travelled, got educated (also 2 degrees!) and had no desire to settle down. i moved back home when my dad got ill 5 years ago and looked after him until he died and then I met DH nearly 4 years ago... life has been busy and full and I'm ready for family... just need mother nature to play ball... I'm cd11... waiting for the all important ewcm and positive opk.... getting ready for this month... I be joining the symptom spotters next week!

No idea what cd I am! Sitting here eating cheese and feeling sorry for myself so maybe AF is imminent.

@rhibee29 Cheese sounds like a good solution to most things!

Well I'm out. AF finally decided to show up on cd47. So cd1 now, ttc #2, cycle 4!

So sorry Shred:( I think I'll be joining you any hour on next cycle. 14DPO and feeling like AF is on her way. Boo.
How's everyone else?

Oh no, @Shredtheevidence :(

I'm still waiting for my ovulation smiley face - thought it would be today, but not yet... trying to be patient

Doctors appointment on Friday to discuss fertility issues

Sorry shredtheevidence :-(.

I'm 9dpo and feeling like I'm almost certainly not pg this month, but I know it's far too early to tell and I should hold out hope until AF arrives. Just not pinning my hopes on that one shag this month (which I think was well timed but still only one).

How is everyone else?

@katiegd it's all it takes. Dc1 was a one shag wonder (was over Xmas and had been sharing bedroom with family so had pretty much written off that month)

Ah shred... another month to try. I'm with you @melodypond17 just waiting and testing for ovulation. got some ewcm this afternoon evening so cajoling DH to dtd this evening... when did that become difficult??! Good luck to those still in x

Fingers crossed for you @lisara79

I've never experienced the ewcm but thankfully my dh is pretty rampant so dtd isn't an issue... except sometimes I think we do it too much which could also be as much of a problem as not doing it enough! 🙈🙉🙊

Ah, thanks Shred, there is still hope for me this month!

Lisara - good luck for ovulation. I am totally with you on finding it difficult to cajole DP into it. Mine announced last night that he was so stressed right now he was glad we didn't have a baby to complicate things, and that is making him not want to try. Nice. At least we're not in fw.

Melody - have you been to doctors about it yet or will this be the first time (sorry if you've said this before)? We went last week for first time. Doctor was really nice and ordered loads of tests.

@katiegd this will be the first time and I'm bricking it that she'll say dh and I are too old, or that as we've both has kids in our first marriages that there's nothing they can do second time round finance wise...

Hello all!

Sorry Shred..... I think i’m out too.... 10 dpo but have what looks like the start of AF! Maybe I ovulated earlier than I thought, though my temps definitely stated it was Sunday 9th July with Fertility Friend.... feeling really low today, just so fed up with the monthly disappointment when more and more of my friends and friends of friends are announcing pregnancies.....

Good luck to those still waiting and best of luck to those waiting to ovulate....

Sarah could it be implantation bleeding? I desperately hope so for you lovely. Thinking of you x

Lisara and Melody any smiley faces yet??

Katie any news?

I'm now 15dpo. Not tested but not hopeful. I just feel too PMSy. I also feel like I might need a miracle to conceive:( feeling very negative today about my age/my fertility. Ironically that's probably the PMS!

Sorry Rhi I forgot you!

How's things with you? Still comfort eating cheese?!

@littlemimosa - smiley face this morning. Dh has the day off work today so snuck home from work in my break to dtd!

Really not feeling positive though. It seemed so easy 20 years ago! With dd's it took 3 months and I month of trying, and this time round we're on cycle 6! Dh impregnated first wife on first attempt so disillusionment is really settling in :(

Doctors in the morning to discuss fertility...

How are you doing @Sarah2209? Still in? x

Hi @littlemimosa no positives yet... I use cheapies... I'm expecting it tomorrow... going to dtd tonight and then probably tomorrow and sat so hopefully bases covered... DH was too tired last night... he felt very guilty so it'll deffo happen tonight... Sarah... could be implantation bleed... fingers crossed!

Lisara good luck. Fingers crossed this is your cycle.

Ha ha I remember sneaking home from work to dtd once too when ttc DC1 Melody. So funny. You feel like a teenager again!
I'm so with you. My two are only 6&4 but yes it seemed so much easier then to conceive (early to mid 30s). It's kind of stating the obvious but then again it's hard to accept. How do you feel about your appointment? I've recently had blood tests for fertility but am too scared to phone for the results:( too scared they'll say 'whoa there, that horse has bolted':(