We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread 11

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Not sure if I should start new thread for this? Is there one open already?

Were they testing for Hughes? And does it say negative?

Sorry, dyslexic here!

I can't see anything called Hughes on there, sorry. What is it? Have you been tested for it yellow?

I know it's an awful lot of text, I found it boring and it's about me! But posting in case anyone has had similar or is going to get testing done.

Muppet, sorry, I've just looked it up and it's the same thing....

@AnneLovesGilbert oh no not boring at all! I am genuinely dyslexic!
I was just wondering what the results show but I couldn't tell xx
I haven't been tested for anything because I've 'only' had two. We were debating private testing but have decided against it.

APS definitely isn't on there. But I had a quick look at the NHS page on it and apparently they treat it for TTC with low dose aspirin, so I'm quids in anyway

Thanks for having a look at it! xxx

I know what you mean about "only" and it's bollocks. I get the rationale is that two is often random shitty luck so they don't want to give you intrusive tests or treatments as it should happen anyway. But I remember the sonographer saying, as I sobbed, "well the good thing is as you've had two losses already, we'll get you some tests and they can find out what's wrong with you!" Twat. Of course as it happened, they haven't found out what's wrong with me! So still just shitty luck.

You can see how you feel and always look into testing if you change your minds x

Whereabouts are you in the country if you don't mind saying? Hope AF sods off soon and you're feeling better.

I'm so sorry grumpy.

Anne, are you on thyroxine?

unicorn haha I wasn't judging, I can never pee neatly on those damn things it's impossible! Glad to hear nothing new or fancy was involved just good old dtd - I too have had two very odd cycles post mmc and this one finally seems more normal, well af is normal with no spotting beforehand so keeping everything crossed my body is ready for another pregnancy!
I'm still holding onto hope that 2 was bad luck and nothing else. I'm gearing up to pee on more fancy opk this month!

Only on aspirin ek, all my tests came back clear.

Are you? I think you said you were.

I'm actually surprised ANYONE can pee on a stick accurately. I mean, dipping is your friend. I have a ramekin pis. 😂

@MouseLove I have a special dip jug too! 😂

@AnneLovesGilbert I'm in SE England.

I need a jug! Do you keep it in the bathroom all the time?

Me too yellow. You can see my guy privately so might be an option if you do want any investigations. But fingers and toes crossed you won't need to and you get a bfp very soon and one of those boring pregnancies we're all desperate for! xxx

I have a special pee receptacle too - ramekin pis (DH thinks that's very clever!). It lives on the top shelf of the bathroom cabinet.

I have a dip jug too. It's the lid from one of my son's old bottles. Ha the irony! I'm using old baby equipment in my quest to get another baby!

Annie it's in my bathroom/bedside drawer or handbag if I'm OPK-ing!

I'm getting quite attached to my piss jug!

Also definitely worth bearing that in mind, about your doctor. Can you pm using the app??

Done x

I'm using one of my DDs old snack pots as my piss jug! The irony hadn't occurred to me till now...

After our chat the other day about bumps v babies for heartbreak potential, I've heard from my friend who had her first 2 weeks ago and I'm sitting here sobbing gently over my phone.

She sent photos and chatted about the labour etc. He's gorgeous, obviously, and I'm pleased for her.

But that painful hole in my heart seems to have come back. We were pregnant at the same time, though I didn't know until after I'd lost mine and it's just so fucking excruciating my babies are all gone and hers is here and she didn't even plan it and spent the whole time moaning about what an inconvenience it all was.

I know the timing sucked for her but here he is now, perfect, gorgeous, and apparently the easiest baby ever...

I've know her since we were 3 and our lives have always run parallel, we went to 3 of the same schools, dance classes, nearly the same uni and our babies would have been born 3 months apart. But mine died. And then the next one abandoned me too.

My chest literally hurts. I don't know if we're ever going to have a happy ending to the whole period of crap and even if we do it won't erase the pile of unfair awfulness we've been through.

DH is tidying. Never a good sign!

Right, wallow over x

Thanks for the pm.

Annie I don't know what to say other than I know how you feel & how bad it sucks arse. Huge, ginormous arse.
Wallow & rant all you like.

Anne I am so, so sorry. You're right, it is so unfair and so awful and you don't deserve any of it. Let yourself be as sad you as you want about it tonight. You're allowed to be sad: you're grieving and scared. It's not 'wallowing' to acknowledge that it hurts.

Anne, I'm so sorry, that's awful. Grief is such a horrendous thing. Just when you think you are dealing with it, it comes back to bite you in the arse. Allow yourself to be really sad. It's all part of the healing process. When you finally have your baby in your arms (and you will) it will hopefully just become part of your past. Big hug and a hand hold. We all get it so rant and vent and be sad as much as you like x

Anne so sorry you are feeling all of these powerful emotions. It's normal. It's healthy. I would encourage every single blast through your chest because it will make you stronger. You are amazing, we all are, and that's what makes us ready to follow our own path, at our own speed, with our own outcome, to our little ones, because when the time comes you will realise it was all worth it. Every single second. Remember today is one day closer to that dream. It will happen. Xxx

Hi ladies,

Sorry I have been absent for a while- now back from sunny Cornwall!

Have tried to catch up on some posts!

Congratulations smurf, unicorn and Fresia! Fantastic news for you ladies!

Anne- you are such a strong, compassionate, lovely woman. I am certain you are a wonderful friend, but feeling so upset about your friend is completely normal and I think how any of us would/do feel. Sometimes I think we need to give ourselves sometime to feel like this. Don't think it will ever really go away until we have our happy endings- as step said- you will, I am sure!

I think at least once a month I put off seeing a new baby/heavily pregnant friend- just because some times of the month I can cope with it and sometimes I just can't. It's seems especially hard when they're due the same time as one of yours. Now I think I need to protect myself and if I am not feeling very strong that day- I need to cancel- I hope my friends all understand- and I believe they do- since the second mc, I have been open about them (mainly because I have been an emotional wreck so feel I need to offer people some explanation so they realise I am not mad!) but that has definitely made it easier and made me feel like I can 'look after myself and my family' more.

Haha- pee pot discussion made me chuckle- I use an old sippee cup from my DS!

Sorry about your AF grumpy.

AF arrived here today, but didn't feel pregnant, so not a surprise. feel much better about it all compared to last month. Have re-started acupuncture and hoping that helps.

Morning everyone,
Ive been avidly watching this thread for a couple of weeks now and have finally got to the point where i feel its ok to ask if you mind if i hop in? 3 weeks ago today i was in the EPU telling them my decision to opt for a natural miscarriage. This morning i did my first test and got the BFN I've been waiting for. I guess i was relieved, then I wept at the sadness of it all and hoped i hadn't dreamt the whole pregnancy etc. I found this site such a support when i first found out as it helped me prepare for what i can only describe as a shit storm. I wouldn't have known if i hadn't of read up on the practicalities on here. Also, afterwards i would log on everyday as i felt a real emotional support that helped me get through the first few days especially after DH had gone back to work. Anyway if its ok id love to join you guys on the next stage of this journey and wait for my first AF and get on with trying to get my little rainbow. Im 41 in October so I'm not hanging about!! Ive already got a 19 year old son (and 9 month granddaughter) but had a lovely surprise when i fell pregnant in may with my husband of 5 years. I really hope i can do this despite the worry involved, i don't care....im not giving up yet.

I went back to work on Monday and I'm quietly struggling as i work in the baby and photo department in Boots which sees me dealing with pregnant women ALL day!! not sure how this is doing me any good at the moment but i wanted to crack on with getting back to work as I'm not sure if sitting at home was any better. I think I'm ok lol except i could have ripped a heavily pregnant lady in two for complaining about her bump being uncomfortable....grrrrrr i couldn't look at her.
I was hoping for any opinions on the clearable digital opk? are they a waste of money, do the smiley faces flash for ten days in a row? are the older ones better? or should i just use the cheapies? I can't dtd every other day as my DH is a chef and is basically knackered ALL the time so just getting a shag is hard enough (or not, as the case may be). Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I send everyone on this thread massive hugs and my fingers and toes are crossed for good news for us all xxxxxx

Welcome dude! Of course you can join. These ladies are massive support. We can vent and cry without judgment. And it's the only place where hearing about a bfp from one of our group gives me hope and doesn't make me want to cry all day.

So sorry to hear about your loss. I'm 8 weeks post surgical management today. Things do get easier with time although I still have bad days.

Regarding opks, I've never tried internet cheapies but I did have success with clear blue... at least they showed what they meant to show at the right time.