We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread 11

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Not sure if I should start new thread for this? Is there one open already?

hometown yay!

Yes definitely fingers crossed for more. hopefully something more definitive for grumpy tomorrow.

I'm not testing until at least Sunday.

Congratulations hometown. I know it's so hard after loss but try and stay positive and happy about this brand new pregnancy and brand new chance.

Anne, after conversation earlier had a look at my blood test forms and these are the tests they ordered for me. I also had day two hormone tests (they're the ones I did yesterday - these blood tests aren't for a while as they told me I had to be 12 weeks past miscarriage when I did them). Did you have same/different ones done?

Congratulations @hometownunicorn

I think I can see something @TheGrumpySquirrel still have everything crossed.

So thoughts on this situation, today my best friend told me that my first love, the first man I ever felt strongly for, is having a baby with his girlfriend. They are due 3 weeks before I would have been.

We were out in town and I said I needed a wee and had a small cry in the toilets. She knows about me and my situation and said she didn't tell me sooner because she didn't want to upset me.

I am totally in love with my husband and I haven't spoken to this other man in over 7 years, he live far away now but still in touch with my friend. There's a lot of history and by no means do I have any feelings for him but I was so upset to hear this news. Is that allowed? DH doesn't get it. But him breathing is irritating me at the moment.

Head fuck.

Thanks ladies. Fingers crossed there's more BFPs to come for those of you testing soon. I'm going to keep lurking about as I want to know how everyone gets on!

I think I was slightly in shock as I'd utterly convinced myself my period was about to start imminently. Going for muted happiness now, although I did just get a bit tearful over dinner. I'm blaming the hormones...

@hometownunicorn congratulations!!! Can't imagine how you must be feeling. Hope it's a sticky one for you x

Thanks guys I think it's an evap as FRER just now was negative 👎🏼 so fed up. Still no AF

Congratulations, hometown! That's amazing! Fantastic news!

Grumpy, sorry to hear. That sucks.

Blissful, I think it's normal to feel like that when you've gone through miscarriage. It doesn't mean you still have feelings for your old boyfriend, it just means you want what they've got. And that's what we all want. Please don't beat yourself up about it. Hugs.

I think I can see something Grumpy, try and hold off as long as you can before testing! It's sooooooo horrible waiting for squinters to turn into clear lines. Both of my last pregnancies have been like that. The first one more so. I've just looked it up and I got a negative at 11dpo, absolute squinter at 14dpo (DH couldn't see it, and you can't see it in photos) another squinter at 15dpo (DH thought I was absolutely nuts), held on until 17dpo where he could finally see it, but he wasn't sure enough to trust it, and wanted me to go to the doctor and ask. So I took it into the doctor like a wally and the receptionist told me to get a clearblue because they are the "best" (to be fair, there's no First Response here and pregnancy tests in general are DIRE) So I did the cross type at 19dpo and there was a clear enough cross.

Obviously it could have been slow to rise because of it being non viable but I think it might just have been a combination of non sensitive tests and a late implantation - ovulation date also wasn't 100% clear because I wasn't temping then. I had a blood test on 21dpo which showed a hCG level of 99 which if it had doubled at normal rates (36-72h, guessing on the slow side of that) would have been a bit less than 50 at 19dpo, somewhere over 25 at 17dpo - which is right when I got the test that normal people husbands could see rather than the one only strange women who scour internet forums for pictures of strangers' pregnancy tests can see at 15dpo, when I reckon it must have been just about 25, and just under 25 for the absolute squinter at 14dpo.

Who was asking about PMT boobs? It's weird because the first pregnancy I had this time of trying, the boobs were the first thing and it was absolutely unmistakeable. They were so sore that I couldn't walk and I had to go out and buy a sports bra, I never wear bras normally so it was a bit weird. And they were enormous. Second pregnancy they weren't quite as bad but still noticeable. So I got this idea in my head that I have a built in pregnancy indicator and I'd have to definitely know because of that, but then over the last 11 months since then I've had several false alarms when I've felt like they couldn't possibly just be PMT boobs but they have turned out to be So I've given up on that sign.

Thanks for typing all that out @BertieBotts phew! Very good to know - although my FRER are showing nothing at this point (13dpo) so I'm not too hopeful. Last time I got a faint but very clear line at 10dpo

Congrats hometime so happy for you! I hope you have a long, boring, healthy pregnancy :-)
Grumpy honestly I don't know of I see a line or if I think I might see something because I really want it to be positive for you hope you get a clear answer soon, the waiting game is horrible!!
Anne I didn't really realised sore boobs were a pre af thing.... They aren't for me.. Or else I've never noticed so not much help to you in afraid!
Hope your all well :-)

Well AF is here and I'm devastated- not because I was a HT - but because I should have been 19+2 today so why is it not happening straight away? Life feels so unfair.

Cervix had got firmer and lower the last days to be fair. And my temp dropped this morning (but not that much, still in the high range).

So sorry Grumpy.
I thought I was clear of my bleeding but more today. Going to the loo now actually makes me feel sad!! I can't help but wonder 'what if', think it must be natural.
For my first pregnancy I'd be pretty much into my third trimester & I was hoping to arrange my 12 week scan for this week with my second.
But now we're starting all over again and I feel heartbroken.

Sorry grumpy. It's totally crap. I really hope it happens for you soon

Sorry grumpy

Oh no I'm sorry Grumpy. It's such a horrible feeling.

I also get v sore breasts/nipples in early pg but because I spend the days leading up to AF prodding them I think they end up hurting either way now, which is not very clever!

Congratulations hometime fingers crossed for a sticky one for you. Xxx

Sorry Grumpy for AF. I really think you're putting too much pressure on yourself. I know it's hard but I think you need to grieve a little longer. I'm so sorry you're struggling. And you're right. Life isn't fair. But unfortunately there's nothing we can do to change that so we just have to ride the wave and keep smiling. Sending hugs. Xxx

Oh grumpy thats shit. I was hopeful with you...I hope you can plan something nice to do this weekend to take your mind off it all. Life is unfair sometimes, I'm sorry.

unicorn such wonderful news. Happy for your news, I love seeing piss covered positive sticks!! Did you do anything different this month? I really hope it all works out, please stick around and let us know how you're getting on x

grumpy I'm really sorry. It really isn't fair. Take care of yourself.

Sorry about your bleeding too yellow.

nocats nothing different - DTD every two days ish from the end of AF. My cycle had been a bit weird until last month - shorter and loads of pre AF spotting so I don't think my body was quite right until now.

Also I hadn't realised I'd posted a picture with pee all over the stick till I looked at it again yesterday! I've got terrible aim!!!

Argh sorry Grumpy :(

Amazing news hometown! So so happy for you, sending ALL good wishes and love and hopes for an uneventful happy healthy pregnancy xxxx

So sorry grumpy and yellow, have gentle days.

Had a heart stopping moment earlier where I couldn't find you guys anywhere, I'd accidentally hidden the thread when I was half asleep! This place is my sanity life line.

Thanks for thoughts on boob pain and growth. Since I came off the pill 18 months ago I've had a week of painful massive boobs pre af and it's got worse as the months have dragged by.

I have two sets of bras as they literally go from a handful each to two handfuls each, they stick out sideways and front ways, completely change shape (today they're like Madonna cones) and hurt like hell. Especially sore on the outer sides and tops. They were worse in pregnancy but they were so awful last month I can't imagine them being worse ever again. Once af hits they tend to go down and I get 3 odd weeks before they're back

At least pain and discomfort in pregnancy is for a good reason. PMT is a complete bitch.

Not sure when I'm at, despite the epic chest, at 11DPO today. Temp is up and down (hit 37 for the first time today?!), lots of creamy CM, quite tired. But I've had all of those pre Af and pre BFN. So, you know, no fucking idea what's likely to happen.

I know what you mean yellow, I've grieved for each of my lost babies, knowing that the second two wouldn't even have been possible without the loss of the first one. The loss and sadness juts piles on top of itself sometimes.

Everyone feels differently but I definitely felt a weight lift once the due date for my MMC passed. I couldn't stop checking in with where it should have been until then. Having been pregnant, I knew what I was expecting, whereas I don't have any babies so the idea of a life outside of mine was harder to imagine.

I absolutely dreaded the day, especially when I realised I was going to be pregnant again when it hit, but the anticipation was so much worse than the day and it's been easier since then. Of course the longer I'm not pregnant again the worse it sucks! But something of the big pressing deadline is gone now.

I'm really sorry, grumpy, yellow and everyone else who is having a particularly tough time. I just had my first counselling session - I cried a couple of times during but it was nice to talk and I feel quite calm now, though now on way to work meeting that I suspect will take all my zen!

Glad counselling went well Lisa x

These are my tests and results from RMC.

Last one.