Anyone ttc baby #2 in July?

[Impatientmummy36]

Hi all,
Anyone ttc number 2?!

I know lots of you are so I thought I'd see if anyone in same boat wants to chat on a new thread?!

I chat to some lovely ladies on the monthly ttc buses....I know some are ttc their first baby (some with real difficulties like MC, or just for a long time) and I feel so bad to be worrying about conceiving #2 when I already have a lovely little one tucked up in his bed upstairs, when I'm sure they'd love to be in that position. (Not that they'd ever say anything or show any resentment, as they're all lovely and just as supportive whether people are trying for 1st or 5th!!!)

It is a bit different though, different emotions... grateful for what you have but longing to be a mummy again... and different challenges (trying to fit in dtd when you have a little person sabotaging your efforts and popping up to demand a drink/teddy/phantom tummy ache, I swear he has a radar for it!)

So I just wondered if anyone wanted to chat who's in same boat ttc #2, as it can also be hard when you desperately want to have another baby, to give your others a sibling, and it's seemingly not happening...

I'm ttc#2 (ds just turned 3)
Age 36
Cycle 5 (af just ending). Feeling disappointed but hopeful ...

Good luck all ttc whatever number you're on!

X

Loving the lines ladies! 😃 Many congrats.

Curliegirlie, I know what you mean with fertile window not coinciding with the weekend.....mine is next week and we almost never bd during the week; we're both too tired from work with early mornings and late nights, and lo still waking twice a night most nights. Only chance is the weekend when we can catch a bit more sleep...and feel more relaxed.

What can I do?! How to convince dp that it HAS to be done at these times, when he is substantially less interested in another baby than me too (basically said yes to make me happy and because I kicked up such a fuss....initially said he wants one sometime in the future, but not now....and I was like, but I'm 37!!!!!!!)

He will also be really tired after running a race on Sunday. I think I really need to get my womanly wiles in gear (whatever they are...!) to seduce him!!

This is me, already worrying about whether we will dtd at the right time (although it has made little difference the past 4 months anyway....). Also last month I ovulated on cd15, when usually it's on cd18 or 19. We were seriously lucky to catch the right time - really more luck than planning. I was all planned for 4 days later!

Does anyone else have as much as 5 days difference between o day month to month? The month I got pregnant last time I o'ed on cd20! My cycles always used to be 30 days but now they vary from 26-31 because of this fluctuating ovulation....

Hoping this thread brings me luck! X

Lopey and Curlie... Also the same here regarding weekends! Only cycle one and I think the only reason we started TTC again this month (instead of August when planned!) was because I think I ovulated on Sunday! Also knackered here as DD also an unreliable sleeper (though touch wood the past few weeks she has slept through more than she ever has).. Although alternates that with either not going to bed until 10 and/or waking up at 5! So we made the most of her morning nap Obviously can't do that in the week!

Lopey.. Mine have been the opposite actually! Before DD, they ranged from 23-31 days whereas now they are bang on 27/28 days every month. I don't think it matters really if your ovulation date changes though I guess it depends on if there is something eg stress, illness causing it to be delayed?

Those are some beautiful lines Blue!

blue don't get my hopes up!!

silver I can't believe you haven't tested yet!

lopey I had that issue re dtd as dh used to get annoyed if ever I hinted it was o time. This month felt surprisingly relaxed tho (just got back from weeks holiday probably helped!) and actually ended up being more adventurous thN usual which took dh by surprise And no complaints! Definitely more enjoyable than previous months. So by that I'd say if you can do smth in rub up to ov that distracts you from ttc then do, as if you aren't thinking about it all the time you want to dtd more and it comes across more natural iykwim rather than trying it on for sake of it? Worst advice ever I know tho as all you do 24/7 is think about it and worry if you aren't dtd when you should be...

Congratulations blue looks like its official!

X

Yep same here - dtd on demand at a fixed time is a killer... I know he finds it really off putting, especially after the first couple of days! Was hoping we'd done enough last month but no, pretty sure af going to be here Friday on schedule-

I haven't bothered testing because I can feel it, same every month, so I'd just be kidding myself :(

X

You never know Impatientmummy.. As I've said before, when TTC DD, I was so convinced we were out the cycle that actually worked.. The cramps I was getting were so familiar that I was absolutely convinced AF was on its way.

I do know what you mean though.. I think that's why I haven't tested yet.. though to be honest if I had a test in the house I probably would have done by now Am a bit of a test snob though so only a FRER will do and I can't quite justify POA fiver (as I've seen it referred elsewhere! ) just yet.. And like it was said before, if it was negative, I would just convince myself it was too early and that's where the craziness starts..

Think I'm definitely getting pre-AF symptoms.. Woke up in the middle of the night boiling hot and with a headache.. Two things that always happen when AF is looming..

As has probably been uttered by countless women since before the dawn of time, there really should be just the one symptom that's only indicative of pregnancy!

Absolutely silver! And if I had a test in the house I probably would have done by now to! & Thanks- You are right I know, Still holding out tiniest bit of hope.

Well I don't know whether it's Pmt, but am an emotional wreck today!

Not helped by my just-turned-3yr old who, amongst other things, egged on by his little friend, getting his willy out at the play centre, poking through the rope mesh at the highest possible point, and refusing to come down. In the end for that, and many other antisocial reasons, and after being up and down the frame many times to read him his rights, had to leave!! After which he cried til he was sick and fell asleep. At which point I realised he's possibly not well, in addition to (or hopefully instead of) being a little lout/flasher. Maybe he also senses my anxiety today. Either way I have never seen him behave like that or been so ashamed!

Anyway it took my mind off being/not being pregnant for a bit :)

Oh that sounds tough, impatientmummy I think I'd be worn out by all that too! My rubbish journey home from work doesn't seem so bad now ...

Oh impatient don't worry we've all been there! Mine has taken to doing alfresco poo's. Certainly takes your mind off trying when you're shuddering with embarrassment and ushering your toddler away to the toilet.
Your post really made me laugh! He sounds like he has a lot of character

Just started AF yesterday...gutted as I thought it would be our month. Now on to cycle #4 trying for number 2. I'm 39 sooooo I feel this is my last chance to do it. Baby dust to all x

Ha thanks ladies, I'm laughing at it in hindsight now! He's not done an al fresco poo yet, but I think anything could be possible! I know someone who's daughter did that in Sainsbury's in middle of an aisle! I'd have died!

Hi Nubian- Sorry to hear that, it's awful when it comes and I'm pretty sure it'll be me in a couple of days too. Fingers crossed for this next cycle for you too Xx

Thanks impatientmummy36. I've decided to remain positive. I just decided to join this forum as felt a bit alone in all of this until I came across this thread. No doubt we can keep each others spirits up.

Sorry Nubian it's lonely and stressful isn't it. You can always chat to us- I've found it really helpful. Hope the next cycle is your cycle! If I'm not p this cycle (find out on Saturday and I'm not hopeful) I'll be ttc #2 on cycle 4 too, so you won't be on your own.

Oh god, Sainsbury's?!! That would be mortifying.

Lol, impatient mummy, that's hilarious! Good that you can laugh about it now....it'll be a nice story to embarrass him with Shen he's older!

Nubian, I can empathise so much. Don't worry, we are all in the same boat. The day of af and the few days after really are the most miserable days of the month....each time seems to get worse for me. I'm on cycle 5 now....

We must keep our hopes up though: still many months to go. Many many women go on having children into their forties.

I start getting hopeful again by the middle of the next month, and I'm sure you will too. Best of luck

Having the support of you lovely ladies has given me renewed hope. We will all celebrate our Bfp soon. LopezLopez I know what you mean...everytime the evil witch arrive I feel absolutely miserable! We shall overcome!

1000jobstodo please let us know how you get on on saturday. You are not out for this month until the evil witch arrives! Will be x
Crossing my fingers for you to get your bfp

Thank you. I'll update on Sat.

You know you can chat on here anytime- we're all a nice bunch I think! Everyone is either going through the same or has been there just a few weeks ago. Eat plenty of chocolate and drink hot tea

Thanks 1000jobstodo. Lots of baby dust for Saturday x

Al fresco poos made me laugh. Good luck for Saturday 1000jobs and sorry for your result nubian - fingers crossed for next cycle for you.

Hello ladies

Sorry for the BFNs, and congrats to blue.

I'm on CD30 of probably a 32 day cycle. Tested today but not with FMU and got a BFN. Slightly sore boobs and feeling emotional, but that could just be PMS. Starting to feel a bit low about it all, even though it's only cycle 3.

Is anyone else finding being away from your first child whilst working harder? I'm full time, with the plan that I'd go part time after a second child, but that now feels an eternity away. Not sure whether to go ahead and request part time now (which isn't guaranteed) and try to forget the impact on mat pay.

Squashy sorry you're feeling blue, don't forget it's not over until the witch appears!

I'm thinking of going the other way, I work 4 days a week but I'm thinking of going back full time so that I can save more for Mat leave. I do love my days if with DD though and so far that's the only thing that has stayed my hand. Plus the thought they might not agree to part time again if I came back after 2nd mat leave.

I'm on CD13, 3DPO and already feel like I'm out this month, have cramps and my back is killing. Although I'm full of cold and all my limbs are hurting so it could be that but I'm bracing for another 17-19 day cycle, possibly even less.

Sorry about the Bfn squashy. Always hope until Af arrives. I know about feeling really down. My heart cries a little everytime I see only that single line appearing . Baby dust

Sorry nubian and squashy. Each month that passes it is more disheartening isn't it. Had a little cry on way to work today as I don't feel pregnant at all and next month will be cycle 6 which feels like some sort of milestone

Temp went up a little this morning. It not much. It's still high compared to normal (36.95 - cover is 36.54) but it didn't spike back up after my dip like I thought it should. Had annoying pulling in uterus today but I think it is just body playing tricks as have next to no cm, cervix is hard and closed and no other symptoms. I've had pulling in previous months that were all bfn! Argh. Good news is I am 9dpo today and haven't poas yet. Longest I have EVER gone in a cycle without cracking

Also squashy - yes I do find it hard but I think mainly cos of my commute (hoping to move if we can sell our bloody house - topic for another time rarrrrr!). I leave the house at 6.30am and am not back til 6pm so hardly see DS during the week. I do miss him but yet at weekends if I have a whole day alone with him I find it quite daunting and don't know what to do to keep him entertained which stresses me out! Maybe cos I'm not used to it! I think I would like to cut down to 4 days after dc2 (fx!) so that I don't miss out so much but that would depend on a) if it was worth it financially and b) if dh would let me (he secretly wants to be a sahd so would get jealous!)

Squashy I work 3 days per week. It was a battle to get it. We're not having a holiday this year and we don't have much in the way of money for dinners out etc but comfortable. I know it all depends on salaries etc but you might be surprised at what you'll still earn by dropping 1/2 days or whatever you'd like. It's likely that a big chunk of your money goes on tax and other contributions, and once I'd worked it out, I knew we would earn more than I had first feared as your tax etc goes right down. We save a little towards mat leave but have said we will again adjust if needed after a 2nd.
So a positive story if you're worrying.
Of course only you know what's best for you and your family! There should be no judgement on what you know and feel is best as nobody else lives your life.
I also bloody enjoy my time at work. hot coffee, private toilet trips, and being 'me'