No period or pregnancy symptoms :/??

[16MrsE]

Since coming off the pill I have had my period bang on time, arriving always on the 3Rd or 4th of each month. Therefore I was expecting my period to come today or yesterday (sat/sun).. Instead since Friday j have had odd bit of brown discharge which I've only noticed from wiping or once using a tampon for a few hours.. I've since been wearing a panty liner and had nothing show up.

I didn't expect to be considering pregnancy this month as I'm the pervious weeks we have been on holiday and avoiding pregnancy via the "pull out" technique. We were told by our nurse before going on holiday to avoid pregnancy until we returned and had a test for the Zika virus.

We hadn't had sex since coming home two weeks ago but haven't had the money to have the test for Zika yet.

Any thoughts on whether this sounds like pregnancy? I haven't really had any other symptoms x

Thanks x

Yeah, I thought you had t tested early, I just couldn't remember.

My tests starting fading over the course of three days until I eventually got a negative on both a FRER and a CB Digital. I went to see the doctor who said the pregnancy had failed but to go back in 3 days for blood tests to check my HCG levels. I declined though because it was obvious what had happened and blood results weren't going to alter that.

As I said though, take comfort in knowing that you can get pregnant but unfortunately this time you were just unlucky.

Some say that CPs be miscarriages are natures way of discarding fertilised eggs and pregnancies that have some abnormalities I.e if the pregnancy had progressed then there would have been something wrong with the baby, and I found a bit of comfort in that actually.

Don't blame yourself but allow yourself to be sad because it is upsetting x

Can't get through to doctors.
I understand what you mean with the idea that maybe it's happened to prevent more hurt but I honestly thought this was out month and for it to have been due on our anniversary is would have been so special :'( xxx

Try not to focus on that otherwise your actual anniversary will be shadowed by thinking about this. Hopefully though you will be pregnant by the time your Anniversary comes round.

Some women feel ready to start TTC again straight away whereas other women want to wait a while so just do what feels right for you.

It wasn't meant to be this month but it will happen for you soon I'm sure x

Thank you.. I appreciate all your help over the last few days xxx I wasn't looking to try this month for other reasons and maybe it would be best not to so my cycle can get back to normal xx

I had a friend who miscarried twins at 9 weeks pregnant and decided to TTC again straight away where she fell pregnant immediately but again had an early miscarriage. She TTC'd straight away again, got pregnant that cycle but unfortunately it was ectopic and had to be rushed to theatre and ultimately lost the baby and one of her Fallopian tubes. Her GP then told her she needed to stop TTC'ing for at least 3 months to allow her body to recover and her cycles to settle, which she did, then got pregnant straight away and is now 14 weeks with a healthy baby.

I hear a lot of anecdotal stories about women being very fertile in their cycle following a CP or miscarriage and falling pregnant again straight away.

When I miscarried my DH wanted to start trying again straight away but emotionally I just couldn't face it and we ultimately waited about 3 or 4 months before TTC again.

Talk it all through with your husband and just see how you both want to proceed

Husband just called and could tell I was upset, told him even though I wanted to wait til he got home. He's upset and is wanting Me to call docs. Waiting for a call back from them x he'll want to try still but he'll want whatever I do too, he won't push for anything x

Oh bless him.

Be prepared for the doctors to not say or do much though as what's happened can't be changed. They may ask you to go back in a few days if your period hasnt started for bloods but apart from that there's nothing they can do really.

It will be good for you to talk it through with someone one as they may be able to reassure you and some GPs are brilliant at giving a bit of TLC when you most need it

Been to toilet and there was some blood but not much, guess it will get heavier over coming days :'( x

At least it's the weekend so you will have your husband with (assuming he doesn't work during them) so take some time to do something nice for yourselves

I'm working this weekend, I work nights :'( xxx

Just to follow up on my last message. You said you were getting a second line on an OPK.... that's completely normal. You can also get two strong lines just before AF is due. Everyone should get two lines at any time during their cycle. When the line is as dark as the control line it indicates that you will have a hormone spike. It's not a positive for ovulation. Also do you have a positive pregnancy test, I can only see opks and negative tests? I'm sorry you are in a little limbo right now but this is the main reason why I do not and will never test before AF is due. It's not worth the confusion and heartache. Xxx

She had two positive FRERS (pictures have bren included) and didn't first test until the day after her period was due.

as writerwannabe83 has said, I was due af Sunday, I got a positive Monday and Wednesday then had brown spotting last night. Used a different test, cheap one from asda, this morning, which was negative. But opk was still a strongish with second line. I've been spotting red/brown old and new blood today. :'( xx

Ah sorry, I can't see the positive test pics on my phone. Just OPK ones. Maybe they didn't load properly.

I'm sorry you're having a tough time, it sounds like a chemical. 😔 Keep positive though because our bodies are weird and wonderful things and you might just be having an early blip. If this isn't meant to be, please consider waiting for zika to be out of your system as I know that can be a real worry. I waited after our zika holiday.

Good luck, I hope it's a positive outcome for you. Xxx

I'm worried maybe we have zika and that's why I've lost the baby :( we just don't have the money to pay approx 300 each for the test xx

How long has passed since you think you were exposed to it and have you been unwell?

I though the virus only lasted about a week and only affected already established pregnancies as opposed to causing Chemical pregnancy type scenarios but I obviously don't know for definite.

Definitely something worth talking to the GP about though if you do go and see we one or talk to one.

We went to Thailand in may which has had cases of zika. We both have been well but I know it can live in sperm for six months and in women for eight weeks x

Oh right, that's really interesting, I had no idea. Maybe it is best to wait until the end of the year then to TTC again? Although I imagine that sounds life a lifetime to wait!

We have money saved for a deposit on a house I think I'll suggest to the husband it's worth now spending the money to prevent this happening again :( xxx

Maybe to save yourself some money you could just get your husband tested because if his comes back negative then at least you know you haven't got to worry about the 6 month rule.

Even if your DH's test comes back negative, if you had have been infected and If it only stays in the woman's body for 8 weeks then surely you must be approaching that time line now anyway?

If your DH is negative then it's unlikely you'll be positive seeing as it's transmitted sexually.

Logic would say you'd either both be positive or both be negative.

If your DH comes back positive it would then just be a case of using condoms I assume until November to stop him from infecting (or re-infecting you).

I hope it's ok for me to jump in here. I have read through the thread.

I think you need to relax.

The more you stress the harder it will be.

I know your excited and anxious to become a mummy- I know the feeling. But if you think about it constantly and test constantly it won't come easily.

Also have sex twice a day for 10 days during ovulation. Worked for us 3 times!

My period is a week late and I am very nervous I am pregnant with number 4. I don't think my vagina will last another baby!

I really hope this happens for you as you seem so ready. And I hope my post doesn't come across as rude.

Take care

Also wanted to say good luck! And if you have any pregnancy related questions I am happy to help.

I knew I was pregnant each time as I felt like i had been hit on the head with a hammer when I woke up in the mornings. And that lasted most of the day for about 4 months!

Again, sending baby wishes.

Writerwannabe83 I think that's what I'm going to do this month and just hope the husband is clear xx

Thisisimpossible1 thanks for the advise but I work nights and the husband works alot too I'm not the sort to demand sex just because I'm ovulating so though I use opk kits to check ovulation I don't then fuss over timing of dtd I relax in that sense and do it as and when we feel it's right. I've only tested for pregnancy this one month because I was late and had other symptoms

"I've only tested for pregnancy this one month because I was late and had other symptoms"

I have read some of your other posts and you have tested loads in other months to.

Like another poster wrote. Just be careful or your drive yourself mad.

And your body will feel stressed and under pressure.

But your right about DTD. Just enjoy the baby making and don't pressure yourselves to DTD.

I have no idea what an opk is! Is it something to do with ovulation? I never calculated when mine was, not with any sort of device anyway so I am unsure how it works.

I would get tested for the virus and at least that will give you peace of mind and a date to aim for.

I don't know where you read that but I know I don't take pregnancy tests I only use opk (ovulation prediction kit) just pee strips basically which indicates when your about to ovulate