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No period or pregnancy symptoms :/??

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16MrsE · 04/06/2017 18:44

Since coming off the pill I have had my period bang on time, arriving always on the 3Rd or 4th of each month. Therefore I was expecting my period to come today or yesterday (sat/sun).. Instead since Friday j have had odd bit of brown discharge which I've only noticed from wiping or once using a tampon for a few hours.. I've since been wearing a panty liner and had nothing show up.

I didn't expect to be considering pregnancy this month as I'm the pervious weeks we have been on holiday and avoiding pregnancy via the "pull out" technique. We were told by our nurse before going on holiday to avoid pregnancy until we returned and had a test for the Zika virus.

We hadn't had sex since coming home two weeks ago but haven't had the money to have the test for Zika yet.

Any thoughts on whether this sounds like pregnancy? I haven't really had any other symptoms x

Thanks x

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Writerwannabe83 · 10/07/2017 11:06

Have you taken another test?

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16MrsE · 10/07/2017 11:17

I took a pregnancy test yesterday asda one, was neg
Opk was strong again x

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16MrsE · 10/07/2017 11:18

I took a pregnancy test yesterday asda one, was neg
Opk was strong again x

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Writerwannabe83 · 10/07/2017 11:32

I think I would call the doctors only because you haven't had a 'proper' period as it sounds like you've mainly just lost brown blood and it's been quite light?

I'm not 100% sure but most women who have Chemical pregnancies go on to have a normal period albeit a bit late whereas that doesn't seem to have happened for you even though all tests are saying you aren't pregnant anymore.

I think it's in your best interests to go in case there have been any complications and it's best to get checked out. Plus it will give you a chance to talk to them about the Zika testing for your husband.

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16MrsE · 10/07/2017 12:08

going to try doctors later. Bleed has been lighter than I expected without any clots really. I'll post my opk from yesterday x
Can't get zika though NHS so I've paid for the husband to go for private blood test tomorrow afternoon and said we'll get results in five days time x

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16MrsE · 10/07/2017 12:31

Opk yesterday

No period or pregnancy symptoms :/??
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Writerwannabe83 · 10/07/2017 12:52

Even though your lines are strong on the OPK they are still a negative reading so I wouldn't worry about them anymore in terms of your current problem. If it was HCG they were detecting then pregnancy tests would have faint lines on them too. It may just be that your body is gearing up to ovulate again, who knows what happens hormone wise within our bodies sometimes.

I'm glad you've got the Zika test booked as st least that will be one thing off your mind and it's great the results come through so quickly. I hope it comes back negative!

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16MrsE · 10/07/2017 13:04

Thank you.. I hope so too.. Couldn't bare them being positive to have to avoid pregnancy for six months or to think that might be why I've miscarried x

Not been able to get in touch with a doctor x

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Writerwannabe83 · 10/07/2017 13:13

Maybe you could try 111 and just ask their advice?

Just explain you had two days worth of positive pregnancy tests, they've now turned negative and you've had some brown/grainy bleeding but not your normal type of period even though it's been a week. Say you've tested again at the weekend and the result was negative and that based on the fact you haven't bled 'properly' you're just after some reassurance that there isn't anything to worry about in terms of the pregnancy not being expelled properly.

The nurse at the end of the phone may be able to help but if not she will get a doctor to call you instead.

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16MrsE · 10/07/2017 13:23

May try that just didn't want to call 111 if it was necessary xx

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MouseLove · 10/07/2017 14:01

Why are you using OPK as an indicator for pregnancy. You will have a second line almost always whenever you do it throughout your cycle. It's an indication of hormones in your wee. When the second line is just as dark or darker than the control line that is an indication that your body will spike within the next 12-48 hours and hopefully ovulate. Any other time it's just normal. That OPK is negative.

I think you are stressing yourself out so badly that you've become irrational with how you're thinking about. Maybe a step back, speak with your GP about your mental and physical health and then go again when you have an all clear for zika. I do worry that you're doing yourself so much damage by constantly testing. Please look after yourself.

Tweetypie19 · 10/07/2017 14:18

Hi MouseLove,

I've just been reading this thread and I just had to comment. I'm also ttc number 5 (crackers I know) but what I really wanted to say is that you give brilliant advice and support in such a lovely way. I wish you the best of luck. The advice you give is also correct!

You lovely lady you xx

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16MrsE · 10/07/2017 14:22

I only did the opk to see if pregnancy hormones had started to fade out that's all. I know I'm not pregnant anymore. I've grieved and I'm OK with it. Not trying this month and getting the zika test done. As I've mentioned before I'm not a "cereal user" of opks or tests. This is the first month in 7 that I've done a pregnancy as I had symptoms etc and I waited til I was late. Opks as I said are just to see when hormones have settle as I get only one line usually during non fertile days and during periods. On usual cycles I only use opks during days I know I usually ovulate to watch out for the rise and peak. And I'm not demanding sex on bases of a positive test etc. We have sex or we don't, we catch it or we don't.

I think your judgement of me is well off and as I've said previously, after a miscarriage, really shirty time for lectures and false opinions.

No offence meant but careful how you interpersonal people from a few messages on a forum

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16MrsE · 10/07/2017 14:23

Interpret*

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ThisisImpossible1 · 10/07/2017 14:45

The others are right. Your doing yourself damage. In other threads you have spoken about how many tests you have done and always wanting to go to the docs. You may need help with your mental health.

ThisisImpossible1 · 10/07/2017 14:47

The only way to make a baby is to have sex while ovulating, if you are desperate for a baby ( from all your posts it seems you are) then you need to have lots of sex... It is fun!

Louise511 · 10/07/2017 14:59

I am thinking of relocating from east London to hastings/St Leonard's with my 9 year old daughter. We hardly know anyone there, but I just love the place and imagine being really happy there.
I am worried however about whether this is the right thing for my daughter, both in terms of the area's 'reputation' for drugs etc, but also in terms of activities as she becomes a teenager. She loves drama, art and writing and London obviously offers a lot in those areas (I just don't want to live there any more!)

Would be great to hear what people's thoughts and experiences of the area are, and also thoughts about secondary schools (both state and private).

Thanks! Louise

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16MrsE · 10/07/2017 15:00

I stick by my last message. I'm not stressing and certainly don't have mental issues.

I've asked for advise and taken it in regards to testing and doctors. I personally don't want to bug them but with it being a miscarriage I was simply seeing what people thought I should do as I don't want to do the wrong thing in this situation.

Going to quit posting as I never intended to come on here for advice and be told I'm desperate and mentally unstable after one months testing and worry over a miscarriage.

Sorry guys

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ThisisImpossible1 · 10/07/2017 15:05

You can't deny something that is over the internet. There are posts you have written AND PICTURES of other tests you have done. Your living to yourself.

ThisisImpossible1 · 10/07/2017 15:05

Lieing

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16MrsE · 10/07/2017 15:19

Maybe not, but judging my mental health and judging me as an individual is too far, when in reality no one on here knows nothing about each other.
I'm sure lots of the women on these forums sound "desperate" when they're talking nothing but baby talk on a baby forum to others who only talk babies. It's mumsnet, what else would you expect. Doesn't make them mentally unstable. And to pass these impressions on someone after a miscarriage is pretty low and not helpful in the slightest.

As you all know yourselves and your situations, so do I..
Do I Want to have a baby as much as any of you, sure.. Am I Mentally unfit, no. Physically unfit, no.

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MouseLove · 10/07/2017 15:38

I think what I'm posting is hitting a nerve. You are worrying yourself sick! That is not good for you in a TTC journey. Your messages come across as you are struggling and not coping well, I'd rather you understand that than take my messages as me being mean to you. I'm not. We're all here for the same purpose.

Using OPK to see if you have any pregnancy hormone left is absolutely pointless. You are causing yourself unnecessary heartache. A pregnancy test will tell you if there's any left. If that's negative then you are good to move on. I would look at temping or even online articles to better understand how ovulation happens and how better to understand your cycles. And I would still make a GP appointment as they might want to send you for 21 day bloods and an ultrasound scan.

I'm sorry if you think I'm coming across harsh, but your posts are alarming and despite you saying you don't test a lot, you've posted so many pictures In this thread its all there to see. Please look after yourself.

whyhastherumgone · 10/07/2017 15:40

i think people are just trying to help OP.
As others have said, OPK are not a good way to even measure if your hormones have gone back to normal - if I do an OPK for the next few days, I would expect to see the same as what you're getting - as a PP has said, that's perfectly normal. They're not really pregnancy tests at all, - when I had a miscarriage I wouldn't have used them to check my hormone levels were back to normal as the results would have been misleading.
As other posters have also said, go and see your doctor regarding your unusual period [sounds like you've had two now] and the Zika concerns, but they won't do anything in regards to your confusion over the tests as they won't see it as anything being wrong.

I would recommend you stick with the OPKs for just checking ovulation - as others have said the only time you pay attention to the line is when the line is darker than the control line - and using first response tests if your period is later again. Otherwise you're going to end up being so confused and frustrated as the OPK will always give a misleading result in my experience.

It's so hard, but try not to obsess too much, I know so many people who have been a year + trying to conceive and getting more and more stressed and yet as soon as they gave up a bit [sounds awful] and relaxed and put the tests away and just tried to go with the flow a bit more, it happened for them. It's not easy, and I know it can be really disheartening but try not to let it take over.

MouseLove · 10/07/2017 15:43

Tweety, thank you. I suppose some just don't want to hear what they can not accept.

16, Miscarriage is a very serious thing, please don't dance around it. Get yourself some proper help.

whyhastherumgone · 10/07/2017 15:48

I too think you've given great advice Mouse and agree with every single point you've made.