TTC First Time... #3!!

[MistyBxx]

Hey girlies, thought I'd make a new thread for us to continue on!!xx

@Misty, I've read online that you don't need to O to conceive! I'm now in the 2ww. No symptoms apart from sore boobs, but I always get those before AF. Anyone else due to test soon-ish?

Yeah @flatwhite I concur! Re the O thing that is... What CD are you on?

@Misty your new nails look great btw. I am gonna get mine done I think!

I'm on CD 18 @Pibbee. How about you?
We are having a very 'married life' day today. We went to John Lewis to buy new bedding, haha! DH then watched football while I tried to make a dent in my ever growing pile of school work!

Misty your nails look lush!! I always cut mine really short so can't do much to them!!

Ooo flatwhite how exciting it's been a while since we've had a tester!! When you going to test? August can't come quick enough I'm sure my DH won't know what's hit him😂

Painted my kitchen yesterday just to try and make it look a bit fresher!!

I'll be testing around a week on Monday! I'm on half term that week, so if I'm disappointed I can cry into a big tub of ice cream during the day LOL! Going to visit my parents for a few days that week too. I haven't told them we are trying. On that note, have you lovely ladies told anyone you're TTC?
@charl, love the colour! Looks fab. August will be here before you know it. It's not that long til June now!

Ooo exciting! I'm on half term that week too- off to Guernsey to my nans house with the family so that will distract me nicely into June and then back at school until the summer holidays, almost perfect timing😂

My sister was first to know when got a BFP, and since MC she has been asking if we are trying. Told mum about MC, and she's been concerned about us not being able to afford a baby.. they both seemed pleased with the answer when I told them we were waiting a few months to try again... I haven't told them it will be August and I think me and DH will probably keep it between us next time until we get a BFP and get a few weeks along!

@misty I read that having an O can push the swimmers up along but you can still get pregnant without it, loads of women never O in their life and yet still get pregnant.
@Flatwhite oohh it's so good you get half term around testing time, fx for you 😘

@charl August will be here in no time, I think it's best to keep it between you two as then you dnt need to deal with the pressure from other people. I love the colour you used in your kitchen.

It's been almost a week since my stomach bug started and I'm still uncomfortably bloated and nauseous, dizzy and constantly tired, last night my nipples started hurting randomly and this morning in bed I had a horrible cramp on my right side, it was so strong and sudden I actually cried out. Still in bed now and it feels tender. Because I only took 1 opk I have no idea wether the positive I got was my 1st peak day or 2nd which means I can be either 6 or 7dpo. I'm so confused 🤷‍♀️ lol. If I am 7dpo there's a high chance I'd implant around this time as we DTD the evening before and the one before that. I am definitely overthinking this lol. My dad is flying in next Sunday and it would be SO great to know that soon I can tell him he's finally getting a grandchild.

I have everything crossed for you @Jellybean! My boobs are SO sore today! If I'm on a 28 day cycle, AF isn't due til a week on Wed, but of course I can't when we now how far in advance I get sore boobs before AF, so this could easily be down to that. This whole process is so frustrating!

Got my fx for both of you ladies!! We haven't seen a BFP in a while!!☺️☺️

Omg bloody iPhone! That's supposed to say 'I can't remember now', not 'I can't when we now'. Aww thanks @charl! X

@MistyBxx thanks for new thread!! I've just caught up after being AWOL.

@JellyBean89 you look so beautiful in your wedding dress!!

I'm sorry to all who got AF. Allow yourself the down day then pick yourself up!! We will get there!

I'm still going on the gym thing but I seemed to have gained weight!! What is that about?

I've been really not obsessing this month & it was kind of a relief. Been updating Ovia a few days at a time rather than every last symptom, every hour!! Lol. Almost missed FW but we DTD once. It only takes once I know but there was no real goal to try so I disappointment this month (she says).

Hope everyone is ok otherwise & welcome to newcomers!

Thanks @twisted.
How do your clothes fit? Muscle is heavier than fat so if you have been going to the gym and put on weight maybe it's muscle? Check with your clothes if they feel more comfortable/looser. The number on the scales might not look the way you want but pay attention to your body changes x

My belly still feels tender today and I have creamy CM, keep thinking it's AF. My boobs still hurt and since yesterday I am so tired, every time I close my eyes I can feel myself dozing off (I get extra sleepy before AF but she's my due yet) I have had a busy few days so I think they're catching up to me. So far I spent the day on the sofa watching shit comedies and trying not to think too much as I feel like crying, it's my 28th birthday and I just feel down. Also doesn't help the fact that my dad seems to have forgotten. Mind you he called me 100 times on my younger sisters bday telling me to go see her and get her a gift. DH couldn't get the day off work which makes me sad but I am also glad he is not here to see me feel sorry for myself. I usually never bother with my bday and I am ok with getting older but today I just keep thinking about all the things I didn't achieve. Honestly everything is just upsetting me and I can't wait for today to be over.

@JellyBean don't feel down! 28 is no age, you shouldn't feel so burdened! Have you got anything planned to celebrate?

My hubby has put the kaibosch on TTC for the timebeing. He is worried that if I fall pregnant now, and have to work away during November and December (a) he won't be able to look after me (which I totally get) and (b) I will face a huge amount of sexism that could be career crippling. Disgusted though I am to say it, he's probably right about that. So for the time being we're just going to stick with monitoring cycles and I'll keep taking my folic acid and vit D. Then we can get cracking properly at Christmas. I feel sad that we're "wasting" these months tbh, but I'm trying to appreciate that it is a well reasoned decision.

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@JellyBean89 first of all HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

It's your day to do as you wish and take time for yourself! We are all also entitled to some self pity days from time to time. Could you do something that might help like a pamper session, nails, facial, etc?

I hope the birthday blues do fade for you but I think most of us have been there. Vent away.

Also clothes wise I lean towards the baggies stuff so hard to tell. I feel like my jeans are looser but also they do stretch over time.

I just got back from the gym, hot bath time 😂😂

Hi ladies, not much from me today as I'm currently nursing concussion! Was hit in the head by a flying football today, and it hit me so hard I fell to the floor. Went to the docs to get checked as I felt bad afterwards, but it's just a concussion thankfully. Head is throbbing. Had a small 'leak' of discharge which was like water this morning (TMI!), but no other symptoms to report.

Happy Birthday @Jelly!

Omg @flat how are you feeling now? Hope you are OK!

Sorry to hear that @mrsmelron. I totally get the feeling of "wasting" months. But if it's the better decision all round to put it on hold then I guess it makes sense and fingers crossed for December!

Good work on going to the gym @Twisted. I need to get back into that this week!

Sorry @jelly, forgot to wish you happy birthday. Xx

Aw jellybean happy birthday!! Hope you've managed to celebrate a bit tonight!!

I've put my running stuff on tonight with every intention of going for a run but now I've sat on the sofa with a cuppa.. think that's as far as my run is going to go 😂😂 twisted you are far more motivated than me!!

Oh flat that sounds painful!!! Glad you're ok! Take it easy tonight! X

Aw mrsmelron I know how you feel.. we've decided to hold off until august and it's killing me!! I think I'm ovulating this week as well.. got proper emosh to DH last night about it all but the reason we are waiting should hopefully give us a bit more maternity pay so I know it's the right thing to do, just so frustrating! Know how you feel about wasting the months though!!

Hope You've all enjoyed the sunshine today ☺️☺️

Xx

Thank you for the wishes guys, I feel a bit better now, had a good old cry and decided I don't want to go out, so dh has popped down to Tesco and will cook me my favourite dinner and we'll just cozy up and catch up on our favourite shows.

@flat that sounds painful! Make sure you take things easy, how are you feeling tonight?

@MrsMelron I know how you feel about wasting months, but it sounds like it makes sense to put things on hold, now you can get to know your cycle properly (oh the joys lol) and I have my fingers crossed for December.

@Charl your run sounds like my idea of a work out @Twisted and @Pibbee you are definitely more motivated than me.

@Flatwhite31 I hope you're ok, concussion can be horrible, rest up.

@JellyBean89 I'm glad you feel a little better. Your night in sounds lovely too. Enjoy.

I ache after going to the gym today! I was so tired & fell asleep on the sofa this afternoon. I've not felt tiredness like this in ages like it's my head and my body if that makes sense.

@charl19 your version of exercise seems far more enjoyable 😂 there is no in between for me. I'm either extremely motivated or I accidentally put in my pyjamas instead of gym clothes & there is no coming back from that!!

Hi all!

@Twisted I am the same re PJs vs. gym stuff! also, sometimes I even put my gym stuff on first thing in the morning (e.g. now, as I am working from home today) and STILL don't manage to make it to the gym! There is literally NO excuse!!

@Flatwhite how are you feeling today? Take it easy missy!

@Jellybean sounds like your bday improved somewhat. Mine is next month and I am going to be ANCIENT compared to you. Ha!! Oh well sod it. I am old and therefore WISE ().

I am getting all wound up about FW again. I have added Ovia app and I can't make head nor tail of it. I have been getting -ve OPKs, and one which was near-as-dammit a positive (will post a pic in a sec). BUT I am pretty sure I ovulated Sunday/yesterday, as I have ECWM Sunday, and then pains and actually really bad cramps which kept me awake most of Sunday night (on a side-note, is that normal?! I usually get cramps but these were something else!!!). Plus Sunday and Monday were CD 13 and 14 which would make sense for Ov (and pretty much in line with previous cycles).

So: I added the -ve OPK data (for Sunday, Monday and this morning) to Ovia, and it told me that my FW will run from Sunday gone to this Friday. I don't think that's right at all. However, I then added ovulation day as Sunday, and it changed my FW from Sunday to Friday, to last Tuesday to Sunday. WHAAAAAT???? I am pretty sure I have ovulated as mentioned above. I think it is placing too much importance on the -ve OPKs.

FF thinks FW was last Wednesday to Monday (y'day).

Either way, I DTD last Wed, which I think is in FW given that I am pretty sure I have ov'd already. Which is good, but it was only the first day of FW and so I am not expecting much but better than nothing.

And now comes the monthly FW rant . I had thought the most important days this month were Sunday and yesterday. HOWEVER, we attempted DTD on both days, and on both occasions it didn't quite work . I am getting really annoyed with this happening all the time! He knew it was a potential FW day on Wed, and it was totally fine then. I think the problem is that I really do harp on about it too much and just need to chill the F out, but HOW?!? I am aware that I am acting like a crazy person. The recurring pattern is that I go on about it during the most important days, DTD then doesn't work, and both of us get really stressed out and frustrated! I think I need to just stop mentioning it, but I can't! I also can't lie to him either, and he does ask when the days are. I'm just gonna start saying I don't know, I think!

In any case, none of this is an exact science and apps seem to move FW around like nobody's business. And the OPKs aren't an exact determination of anything at all either! So they can all just do one .

I just REALLY wish we have done one more DTD yesterday or Sunday. I had been away for a few days prior to that so couldn't fit any in after Wed.

I think this is taking my life over far too much and I am a bit obsessed. It's only been a few months, and it may well take ages so I just need to chill! it's so hard though...

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Here are my OPKs from Sunday to today. The one that looks most +ve is the one from 6am yesterday. What do you guys think? I dont think its an actual positive, but that doesn't necessarily mean anything as like I say, I have had all those cramps the last couple of days...

I also forgot to mention in my last post that DP is majorly stressed out at work right now (as in wants to quit, pretty much). So i guess I shouldn't be too hard on him. In fact I feel like a bit of a cowbag for hounding him for sex ha

I'm not feeling great today. Was sent home from work with a terrible headache. It's a bit better now I'm at home doing nothing, but it looks like yesterday's knock to the head will take a few days to get over.
Feeling sad about the events in Manchester too. So awful.

@Pibbee I have same issue regarding hounding DH & stuff not working when dtd!! This is why I've taken a break from OPKs & Ovia. I still enter bare minimum data on Ovia to keep on top of my cycle but not entering too many symptoms or cm observations that might trigger a recalculate as that just gets me ranting so bad.

Try & have a break & remember that dtd should be fun!! Also remember though you are not alone and your feelings are all normal & we've all been there!