2ww buddies continues...

[lisara79]

Hi all.... as the 2ww buddies thread has got so long... thought we'd start a new one .. cd13 now... waiting for ovulation (next 2/3 days) and will then be back on the 2ww! How's everyone doing?

Littlemimosa don't feel judged... I think as women none of us should feel bad about how many we want or have had. I'd just love one but it must be just as painful trying to conceive, having had children... it's our basic human right to bear children and it's awful when people judge your age or the number of children you have - I've had some odd comments about having children at my age! So I'm keeping it to myself now... sad isn't it..

I'm feeling a bit low tonight.... just feel in limbo land not knowing either way... just have to get to Tuesday and then I'll know either way...

Oh Sarah what a lovely thing to say. It brought tears to my eyes. You're so right. It's a womans primal instinct. The urge for this baby is as strong for me as the first and second. Nothing has changed in that way.
I'm so sorry you're feeling blue. You must feeling in limbo-land. No matter how much you try to get on with your life it's hard sometimes. If you're anything like me I bet you struggle not to think about it a million times a day.
I so hope this is it for you. I don't even know you but I'd be over the moon to see your bfp! Like totally ecstatic. It sounds like you waited and waited so patiently for all these years. Are you tempted to test even though that nurse said wait a week?

Jords, very impressed with your resolve to not test again!

Aww... Mimosa and Sarah.... I may be a few years younger but at nearly 38, people usually just assume now that I never wanted any... the time or relationship has never been right... iv e told no-one except close family and friends because I don't want them to judge or feel sorry for me if it doesn't happen. I have the added issue of having spent my adult life battling my weight... I feel judged about that too... I too feel really down at the moment... I was feeling quite positive but can't see how a sensitive opk could be negative at this point if I was pregnant... boo!!! i. sure half of the misery is hormonal so I'm sure I'll cheer up and feel more positive soon x

Lisara, Mimosa and Sarah, it is so unfair the way that we, as women, are judged in so many aspects of our lives. Too old, too young, too thin, too fat... it is just a continuous bombardment of expectations and judgement. But, having spoken to you all for a little while now and having heard your journeys so far, I can safely say that you all sound like incredible women. I think that anybody who can focus their energies on supporting others whilst going through the whole TTC mind-f*ck is just amazing. Thank you

Jords am so impressed you have decided to not test for a little while. I will try to do the same and hold out until Monday!

((Lisara)) massive hugs. I really understand all that. Its easier not to disclose anything but at the same time it just becomes this big secret 'thing' We carry around.

I'm not convinced that opks are a reliable marker of pregnancy. I wouldn't read anything into that hun.

Think we are all feeling low tonight. Hormones definitely making things worse for all of us right now.

Blueskies you are totally lovely. That was a gorgeous post.
Right back atcha sister x

Blue and mimosa... Thanks so much... it does mean so much being able to talk to people who really understand, there is so much pressure on women to be and do everything. It's so lovely to have "virtually" met you all... it really does help!! As Mimosa said blue, right back at you!

I think tomorrow we need to find some new positive energy and channel it into either getting our BFPs or planning for the new cycle ahead. Let's show the world that their judgements are irrelevant to us and we will live our lives in the way WE chose. And we know whoever we are, however old we are, whatever our BMI is and whatever choices we have made in our lives to date that we are worthy. We can do this ladies

Yes we can!

I third that. Good nights girls x

What wonderful, strong and amazing women you ALL are - and I feel proud to have virtually met and be on this journey with you all... and I'm so pleased I saw this before going to bed as it's really cheered me up.... they say it's not the destination it's the journey that's important and without that I wouldn't have posted here and wouldn't have had this support and heard from all you lovely ladies - girl power to us all and BLOODY BFPS for us soon....

Morning everyone. So this morning I have quite bad cramping which makes me think AF might be on her way early. So i will start to think about my plans for next cycle to avoid any meltdown moments as and when she does arrive! Think I might also go to the Drs for a chat about that bleed on Friday. Would be interested to know more and just want to check it's not anything more sinister. But am feeling much more positive today after our chat last night and ready to handle whatever Mother Nature throws at me over the next few days. Am also going shopping today to cheer myself up! Hope you are all feeling a bit better today. Sending positive vibes! xx

Good morning ladies.

CD3 and I am making the positive changes to make my life positive. This month might not be my month, this month might not be your month; but it WILL be someone's month and for them I will be happy and see the beauty of the new life beginning.

Every single one of us in this group is capable of doing incredible things and we live through these frustrations, disappointments and hardships because we can. Remember that you have survived 100% of the worst and hardest times in your life and you are still here to read this. People can judge, place expectations and make assumptions about your life but it's really just their failings and their insecurities they are projecting. No one knows what you, we, I are all capable of and no one knows us like we know ourselves. So what if we have one child or ten children? Would we love or want the next one less? No. It's human nature to want a child and until those eggs stop popping out we are not out of the game! Your body will tell you when you are too old and so keep trying till the end... and then try some more! My friend just had her first child at 46. She's all she ever wanted and her patience was rewarded. She's not too old for her first and she's shown us that.

The day AF arrives is awful. But we have to think of it as the beginning of our new journey and adventure. If we see it as an end we will start that journey being disappointed and sad. Remember it will happen. Just because last month or this month didn't work it just means this one might. I look at it as the more times I don't get my BFP the more excited and happy I will be when I do.

Have a beautiful day today ladies. Give yourself a massive high-5 for just being awesome. I love you all as virtual hands to hold on this journey and together our positivity in the world will bring amazing things. ❤️🤞🏻😘

Have some piccys too. The second one is a teeny little dude I live with!

Well said plain. That has made me feel even more positive. Thank you. Love the pics too. He is gorgeous!!!

@littlemimosa in answer to your question...

When I was 12 my mum took my younger sister to the dr because she worried that she, like my brother, had asthma and wanted to get her sorted out. The dr asked about her other little girl (me) and why she wasn't worried about me too. She said I was fine and it was only the youngest two she was there for. The dr was surprised as my 8yr old brother was head and shoulders taller than me and at 12 I was still tiny. He sent me to a growth specialist who measured my height weight and took X-rays for a bone age test as well as blood tests to measure hormone levels. It came back as suggesting I had stopped growing at around 7/8yrs old and was not producing any hormone at all which I needed to grow. So I was put on HRT and shot up to the grand old height of 5ft1 which was far beyond their expectations. Since then my issues have been my own doing.

Interestingly enough my acupuncturist wonders if I banged my head as a child and have pressure on my pituitary gland which might suggest why I had issues. My day 3 and day 21 tests were all super high though. He's seeing if he can work it out 😂.

So that's why... any other questions. I'm a really open person so don't feel nosy at all!

Wow Plain that's such a sad story.... but you are obviously so much stronger for going through it... I had counciling in my early 20s and at my last session my wonderful councillor who saved my life gave me a card with a message in and I hold on to that saying sometimes.... "the world breaks everyone, then some become strong at the broken places"

Plain lovely, thoughtful words and thanks for the pictures - what a gorgeous little boy...

Well I think I know I'm out this month and my weird early bleed was af - but I'm going to look forward to next cycle 🚲 and the tww symptom spotting with you all... and the pleasure of hearing about more BFPs. Love and respect to you all x

Aw ladies every single thing you guys have said have touched me! Such a said story plain but you are definitely a strong woman!! What lovely pictures too! Is anyone testing or are we all full off willpower lol? No sign of af so fingers crossed!!

Plain... thanks so much for sharing your story... means so much that you did... This is such an amaźing group... feeling so much more positive this morning, and I put that down to you guys!

Plain, thank you for sharing your story. It's so lovely that we can share our journeys with one another on here.

I am officially out. AF arrived this morning, which is 3 days early. I'm doing ok. DH has been amazing. Went shopping this morning and then saw family this afternoon. And even though I am so disappointed, I know how lucky I am to have these people in my life. And to have all of you too! So actually feeling rather blessed today, despite AF being here. I also went to Hotel Chocolat during my morning of shopping and am about to devour a few slabs of chocolate. It's all about a chocolate filled CD1!

Sorry to hear that @BlueSkies87. What fab women you all are, I feel lucky to be in this thread! Thank you all for sharing.

I am going to give it a week and test again- if I can hold out til then. Or unless the elusive AF arrives. Fx for all xx

So hard yet inspiring to hear you stories. You are a wonderful powerful group of women xx

Ha ha! I'm a total cow too you should all know! Sarcasm is a nasty habit but I'm almost a pro!