Thread 28, TTC #1 | We may be hormonal giraffes but we don't eat no low fat humous

[Londonjam]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

(*of not off...)

Sorry quiet what an arse.

Alexia that woman! No words

We've kind of made up but I still feel rubbish. Just done an OPK and it's blank white so I've idea what's going on. I always always ovulate on day 16 (tomorrow). Hope the stress isn't throwing me off track.

Sorry to hear you're going through that again with hubbie *jam, I really struggled last year when DH was having performance anxiety at the key moments and you could just see the egg slipping away.
I feel so thankful that's he's so onboard with it now with all his supplement taking, asking what day we're on etc as it makes this experience so much more bearable. I wish I had some constructive advice, or some invention that allowed us to tap into their brains and find out what the hell is going on up there!

Sorry Quiet, that's rubbish. Better luck next cycle hon

Kerry - That's exactly how I feel. I would love a girl but right now I just want a healthy baby. I get the desire to experience both genders but this woman took it way too far. "Devastated" is how it feels to lose a baby not finding out you're having twin boys! Definite case of "fertility privilege". Had she had major struggles ttc she wouldn't dare be so ungrateful (I hope!).

Jam hope all is well now and a GOS has been had. Did you get a positive opk later on? Last cycle mine was very negative at 4.30pm but clearly positive at 7.20pm!

That is awful Alexia. The opportunity to be a parent is a huge blessing, and frankly, if you only want one sex then you should either not have children or go to a country that allows you to select by sex. Otherwise just be glad for what you have!

Appreciate the support ladies so much. Bit bizarre, bleeding has now stopped, even though it was definitely beginning of af style, and boobs are now super sore again . I think it was an af warning shot and I'm afraid I just can't face feeling hopeful, so assume af will arrive at some point. But perhaps LP will be longer than 9/10 days.

Sorry about your temp winging. I think I might start temping again next month. Keep a bit more track but was no good at opks.

Jam sorry your DH is being rubbish. Look after yourself.

Quiet sorry about af.

Can I ask some advice? I know it's only been 6 cycles of trying again, but one option I have is to get an HSG test to check if my remaining tube is still clear. Would you wait a year or so of trying and check or just go for it straight away?

Also yes, Alexia will definitely consider upping to b100 as it has massively helped the spotting.

How frustrating Flash. I get not wanting to be hopeful as it hurts too much in the end. Still keeping 🤞 for you.

I would get a HSG to check your remaining tube asap. Purely for peace of mind and to rule out any major / minor issues. It could also be the 'fertility booster' you need. A girl on FF actually received a HSG during surgery to remove her right tube / ectopic pregnancy. I thought that was neat.

I think all this spotting sounds like a potential progesterone issue so that would be good to get checked out if you haven't already? Also ask about Clomid, it can help with LP and progesterone issues. Plus the benefit of releasing more eggs / one from each ovary could really help you (I know the remaining tube can receive an egg from either ovary).

Another thing I've seen is a woman who spotted loads after O got investigated and they found she had a uterine septum. I'm assuming you would already know about this though? Thought I'd mention it just incase.

Hope this doesn't come off the wrong way, just throwing a few ideas out there.

No it's very helpful. I assume the surgeons investigations were thorough but asking questions other then 'can I still have a baby?' wasn't a priority and of course you never get to see them again and the Gps are pretty clueless. It would be good to find out what options I have as I'm not sure how they will treat me as obviously I'm fertility challenged but not infertile (that I know of!) My GP said I can't have hormonal issues because my periods are regular I definitely think that's crap but it's so hard to argue as then they treat you like you're being hysterical!

Not sure if a gynae will have all the answers to this, as I know they are not necessarily a fertility expert, but I'm.going to take every opportunity I get to ask questions! DH was nervous about me getting an HSG as I think there's a (very tiny) risk of infection. But I think we may be getting to the point where we need to know.

Hello cycle 15

So no 2017 baby for me, but 11 day luteal so that's ok. 27 days this time but ov'd a day earlier than normal so achingly regular.
So annoyed at myself for believing symptoms this month. Had a few days earlier in the week where i just felt 'weird' had some headaches which is unusual and also had one evening where I swear my sense of smell heightened. These only lasted a couple of days so my head was saying ignore them but heart couldn't help giving me hope.

Winging - was just about to ask you if there was any news, so sorry hon xx

Jam - sorry things with your DH aren't going so well. I don't think men worry about fertility in the way that we do so they can't understand it why we get so frustrated and upset. I'm perhaps misunderstanding your post a little, have you managed to HS at all in your fertile window? Have you got an app table you can post, I am sure you are still perfectly in time.

Alexia - your post about that woman on FF...er, do people like this actually exist?! Her little boy looks gorgeous, I literally don't know what her problem is. I can honestly say that if I got upduffed in cycle 1, I stll wouldn't be this hollow, burnt shell of a woman regretting the sex of my child - "fertility privilege" is no excuse.

Quiet - sorry about AF my lovely xx

I've had with these advanced opks from Clearblue! Yesterday, I had my first flashing smiley face (high fertility) after 3-4 days of low fertility displaying, which indicates an estrogen surge. As I am due to ovulate on Tuesday, today I should either have another flashing smiley face, or a solid smiley face (indicating peak fertility) but its gone back to low fertility again...I didn't think it could even do that!! Have I missed the LH surge again this cycle? I have never had this problem previously and now, it's happened twice in a row.

I am starting to worry that I've stopped ovulating, mainly because my luteal phase was 3 days shorter than normal last cycle and I haven't had the LH surge or my usual ovulation pain at all for 2 cycles now. :(

😘❤️❤️Winging so sorry. I'm sure the symptoms were there. 🌈

Sorry winging don't give yourself a hard time for symptom spotting. I still do it. There is after all a real chance we could get pregnant, even after all this time trying. The sense of smell thing I get every month - I think it must be good old progesterone again.

If egg is due Tuesday skipper I wouldn't worry about your OPK too much until tomorrow. I think LH fluctuates in the run up to the peak.

I can completely sympathise though - OPKs have the power to send me doolally. Today it's still negative. Egg is due today (day 16) and I haven't had a positive yet. In terms of dates we HS CD 9, 11, 15 and will again today. He goes away again tonight until Thursday. So I'm alright if egg comes tomorrow - which is now not looking likely. I am getting a little left hand sided ovulation pain so maybe it's just taking its time.

I dunno about you Jam but before last month, I had never stressed about opks before. And I've had my surge late and early in the past with no dramatics from me. Might be time to for me to stop doing them.

Hope your egg departs the station soon xx

I thought about not doing them but I felt stressed about not knowing. It's pointless for me though as he leaves for South Africa tonight and won't be home until Thursday - and there's nothing a positive OPK can do about that. If there's anything worse than having no control over fertility it's having no control over even being able to have sex at the right time.

A bit fat FML moment today. I hate that infertility is ruining my Easter bank holiday weekend.

Having a big fat FML moment as well. Me and dh were away last week and had a fab time and felt really positive and happy and then this weekend I went on a hen do. It was good fun at times but so much baby chat and I felt so left out and miserable a lot of the time. Lots of mums there with new babies and the ones who don't have children yet were talking about it constantly. So bloody hard. Hate that this is doing this to me and making me feel so shit a lot of the time. It's effing rubbish. Even find it hard with my best friend as her baby's only 4 months so we're just in completely different stages. Totally fed up of this

Ugh just coming home from a day of 4 nephews & nieces under 5 - I know I'm still fairly new in the TTC game, so don't want to be too much of a moaner, but still - feel a little of your pain, chlo

At one point, someone jokingly said 'bet this puts you off ever having kids' - cue overcompensating laughter from me. HA. HA. HA.

Feel huge respect for those of you who've been dealing with it for longer, and to those of you doing it tough on the bank holiday xxx

P.S. sorry for the rant; and thanks so much for the kind words guys

winging sorry this wasn't your month - hope you're doing ok

Quiet - cue overcompensating laughter from me. HA. HA. HA. Oh my god, that situation you've described is so familiar...

Hi all just checking in to say pasg Hapus-happy Easter 🐣.

Hope everyone is ok

Sorry you're feeling rubbish too chlo it's so so hard at times 🌼🌸

Lol at the overcompensating laughter quiet I know the feeling

Hello miw how are things?

I've managed to cheer up a bit. Apologies for my total misery of late. DH called ops and said my wife is unwell is there anything you can do, so they found someone else to cover the trip and he now is home until Wednesday. Gives my egg more of a fighting chance - although OPKs are still very much negative. Ovulation pains ramping up today so hopefully it's on it's way.

for jam and chlo. That's good for DH will be home a bit longer jam, I'm willing your egg on its way.

I'm wide awake, can't sleep. PMA has taken a nosedive I just feel like crying Googles "crying 8dpo pg symptom"

Morning all. for everyone.

No af here still but spotting everyday and poas this morning and nothing. I know I'm out really, just got to wait for the witch to kick in.

Just wish it would so I could get on with things.

I'm glad your DH did that jam.

Gaelach sorry you had a rough night. Hopefully better this morning?

Hope everyone has had a lovely Easter weekend. Having to do some work today but at least I'm in my pyjamas and in front of the TV.

Jam, so glad DH managed to change his schedule. Hopefully you get that lovely positive OPK later today.

Gaelach, I hate the middle of the night sads. I hope you managed to get some more sleep and things feel a bit brighter this morning

Ah quiet, I know that overcompensating laughter so well. I also hate the underlying assumption in those kind of comments that people can just get pregnant whenever they want and you must be choosing not to have a baby. Ugh.

Chlo, so hard isn't it? I'm always so glad that most of my friends are single but it must be awful if you're surrounded by that all the time.

So sorry for AF winging. I hope you're okay today.

Hi Jam feel ok but like I'm in a bit of a storm lately TTC is really messing with my head.

It's all consuming and no matter what I do it's in the back of my mind all of the time.

Sorry I've been so AWOL lately just needed space.