Thread 27. TTC #1 - we're stressed, we're fed up, we're bitter but I promise this will all be worth it when we're holding our precious babies

[AlexiaB]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Here's our Grad's Thread. May 2017 lead us all to upduffed heaven and the Grad's thread, amen.

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Alexia you are a spring chicken the greys are most like genetic and would have come at this exact moment no matter the stress in your life. It must be upsetting though I understand. I get rosacea on my face and have to wear cover up everyday to hide the redness - it's very frustrating so I can sympathise with when your appearance changes and you can't control it.

That is sweet quiet . My DH saw me putting dates into the BFP list and was like - wtf is that? When I explained he just didn't get it at all. I was like we're a community we help each other!! Plus I've been posting here for well over a year and tell you guys things I don't tell my closest friend or mother!

Flash I'm being braver on AIBU these days! Secret parent club makes me want to throw up

Quiet thanks for being so lovely. I hope you're right! Please don't feel like you will be letting your DH down - you're a team and you're in this together. You are lucky to have such a sweet DH who wants to be involved in everything. It means he wants this a lot! Lean on him for love and support. My DH is similar and I like that I can share everything with him so I don't feel alone or have to burden my friends with it. (You all help too )

Thanks for the offer kwick. For now I just plucked them out and I'm praying it's a one off. When did you get your first? Hope you're currently in a nice hot bath!

That's brilliant Flash

Cross-post Jam. I'm calling my mum at 7pm so I'll see what she thinks. I know my dad didn't go grey until definitely late 30s/40s, he's early 50s now and not fully grey. Will double check with my mum exactly when she started. I wear makeup every day too but I can understand how much it must affect your confidence. TTC has already made me feel like crap and gain some depression weight which I'm working on

Sorry for the radio silence guys - combination of getting my phone replaced and laying low for a while. Apologies if I've missed anything big!

Alexia - don't fret about a couple of greys, they mean nothing! I got my first greys in my early 20s and hair dye has been my best friend ever since ha ha. It is shit when you first spot them though, so I do understand.

What a shot thing for your friend to say pug. Massively insensitive.

Quiet I know what you mean about partners knowing too much (or thinking they do). I initially thought DH buying a couple of books was the sweetest thing ever. Nope, he reads one out of date study on alcohol and ttc and now he's some sort of guru 😒

Sorry about AF kath 💐** At least you're not in limbo though. Hope you enjoy your 🍷 with dinner tonight 😊

Glad you're feeling stronger jam - the sadness can hit us when we least expect it.

Spontaneous sex went out the window months ago kitty for us ha ha, if you have any tips, do share! Am very firmly in can't be arsed but we must mode.

I'm doing ok over here on CD8 - started back up with EOD on Sunday, FW starts tomorrow. Me and DH are much better but I'm still feeling a bit blue about what happened. And trapped if I'm honest. Hopefully that feeling will wear off with time, but his behaviour really did make me see him in a different light. He's doing everything he can to be lovely, but it's still on my mind. It was a lovely sunny day today and some people from work went for a swift half in the sun. I obviously didn't go as I think it's too sensitive and too soon after our big blow out, but I definitely don't want to get into the habit of not doing things because I'm worried about a reaction. Changed my plans for after work bevvies this Friday for my birthday as well - now going for lunch with work friends and going for dinner with DH. Seemed like a good compromise! I'm back to not drinking again for FW and TWW anyway.

Sorry quiet - just realised my situation was not like yours at all and I'm projecting! Your DH wanting to know about your cycle is of course lovely 🙂. Like alexia said though - you're a team and use it as a way to support each other ☺️

Alexia I started going grey at 21 and am now 28. It's got a bit more since then but not significantly worse. I use olia which is a permanent dye but with no ammonia.

Jam amen to that. When we get our bfps I don't want to be in that frigging club that makes people with fertility issues feel bad about themselves!

So I'm symptom spotting like a crazy person. 7/8 DPO and now have some brown tinged stringy cm. But no actual blood, just tinged beige brown. Sorry that's gross. Also sore nips have returned and twingy pain behind belly button/right hip. I don't believe I will ever get pregnant again and yet at the same time can't help feeling these must be symptoms! Craziness.

Hi Ladies,

Pyjama's glad things are a bit better try and take it easy as you have been through a lot of stress. I hope you have a nice birthday lunch and dinner.

Kwick, sorry to hear about your leg, hope your feeling a bit better.

Pug, can't believe what your friend said how insensitive, I think you should explain to her how unkind that was to say, not that people should be told as its quite obvious!

Sorry to those who have AF hope you are treating yourselves to something nice and good luck to all those in FW.

I've been given a new date for my op its now in a few weeks. I feel much more prepared now. However I am feeling a bit sad because its FW and I feel likes it's wasted as obviously can't ttc till after the op and will then have to wait 3 months after the op which seems so long.

I will still be on here though as I like hearing the updates from everyone else.

Hope you are all well.

Thanks guys, you're right of course - good to embrace it & hopefully means we're on the same page

Don't worry pyjamas, knew where you were coming from - and hope things settle down quickly for you; it's rubbish treading on eggshells

Glad you've more time to prepare hopeful - must be frustrating to wait but fingers crossed 3 months will fly by

Hi all just checking in... after an early mc have spent a long time under a stone hiding healing.
Now we are back on the TTC train. I hate it every minuet.
Just wanted to say hello.

Hi miw welcome back. And i hope it it is a shortlived return for the right reasons.

Hey Miw - good to see you again xx

Hep - how are you doing too?

Pyjamas glad things are better and hope you can let your hair down to enjoy your birthday 🎉

We're back in FW and HS EOD too. Am quite enjoying it. I don't know what CD I am and I'm not sure if I can be bothered to OPK. It all feels a bit academic really. But at least we're having good sex. And not fighting!

Flash that sounds really promising - LSFX

Three months will fly past harriet , we had a three month wait for our consultant appointment and that just went in a blink. The weeks seem to have sped up for me!

Welcome back miw and hope you're doing well hep

Hi jam, skipper

Am doing ok, just really needed to step back this month.

AF due on saturday, so for the 100th time, trying not to get hopes up before inevitable disappointment.

All symptom spotting and boob poking is banned.

Hep - I've always felt you've been quite controlled when it's come to symptom spotting. You've always been the person to pull others back from the ledge...not sure if that necessarily represents how you are feeling right now but you're stronger than you think. Understand your need to step back though...I am rooting for you hon. I root for everyone of course but it's that little bit sweeter when a long time vet achieves a sticky BFP.

Just had to comment on your greys, Alexia - seriously, you have nothing to worry about! I got my first one at 13 years old (no joke) - Dad went grey pretty early and I'm a good 50% at least these days. I call my regrowth my skunk stripe and apparently DH finds it endearing (I personally hate it and dye the crap out of it every 4 weeks, though I've been trying to spread that out since my BFP as I know advice on dyeing hair while pg is a bit mixed.

You're not old! You just have a few extra natural highlights. ;)

Thanks everyone for your welcomes! This thread does move fast!

So I spoke to my mum last night and she didn't need to dye her hair until she was in her early 40's. I really hope they were just a few random dead hairs as it makes no sense! Thanks for sharing your experiences 😙

pyjamas glad things have calmed down. I hope as time moves on the memories fade and all will be normal again. It's never nice feeling controlled so keep communicating and working it through.

Flash that was very young!

Welcome back miw. I'm so sorry for your loss

Hopeful good luck with your op. You can of course stick around here, I hope the 3 months fly by for you!

Hi Hep, it's always good to take some time out LSFX

Lol thanks Kav. I can't believe so many of you are gearing up for 20 week scans over there! Where has the time gone? I feel so far behind and can't wait to join you all but you'll probably have babies by then I'll be stalking you Monday week good luck!

Afternoon all,
I wanted to apologise first of all for being MIA for a while and then posting and running last weekend. I posted and then realised I wasn't ready to talk about everything. I still don't think I really am but I wanted to drop by anyway.

Thanks to Missyjones, kathrino and Jam for the kind notes.

Jam, please can you put me down for BFP/AF due on 6th April on the list? Thank you.

Sk1pper - the doctor has prescribed me tranexamic acid to help with the heavy periods. I'll be totally honest I didn't see much change this cycle when I took them during AF but I'll give them a go again next cycle as got to be worth a shot.

Came out of the doctors feeling loads better about stuff knowing my periods should be lighter but now feel like I'm back to square one again.

My emotions are all over the place, since I've come off the pill I don't seem to have much control over them. It's so tough.

Sorry to all those who are having a tough time, especially pyjamas and Jam who I noted have been having a tough ride.

I hope you enjoy your hols Harriet.

I'll try and check back in again soon to see some good news stories.

Thanks MrsBlue - why oh why has my Doctor not prescribed me this. So frustrating, it's all I talk about when I see my GP.

Sk1pper - could you perhaps ask? I went to see the doctor to say is there anything I can do to make it easier to deal with and it was the first thing he suggested.
We aren't very far along the TTC journey, only 6 months so it was a plea for help from me if I've got to keep enduring these periods.
Hope you get sorted. It's truly horrific having to deal with it month in month out.

Hep hope you sail through the weekend in a state of nonchalant calm. Also hope AF doesn't come in the meantime.

Good to see you kav hope you are doing well. We don't hear from many grads, I have no idea how everyone is doing. All blooming and good, I hope

Bluebird no need to apologise, no judgement here. It can be incredibly hard staying on top of the emotional side of all this, don't give yourself a hard time for finding it hard

Hi all, just swooping in to say AF got me today (CD-fucking-40)...of course after I'd just started to allow myself to hope and pissed on a FRER this morning. What a head fuck!

I'm currently in the worst mood possible so sorry for ignoring all the chat and being so self absorbed- will try and catch up and do a proper post later when I've finished having a tantrum. Sorry for my ranting! Hope my behaviour does not get me kicked out of the group 'cause you girls are officially the best and the only thing keeping me sane

Oh binky what an absolutely arse. You are absolutely entitled to post and not reply to everyone!! No judgement here 💐 Hope AF isn't too painful.

I'm taking a cue from your comment about not seeing much of the grads, jam, and jumping on so say hi!

I check the thread often but am normally too out of date to post something particularly meaningful at the right time so I tend to hold off! But I just wanted you to know that I am still here lurking and rooting you all on for your BFPs

Ah bless hello music good to see you and hope you are doing well!