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Thread 27. TTC #1 - we're stressed, we're fed up, we're bitter but I promise this will all be worth it when we're holding our precious babies

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AlexiaB · 11/03/2017 11:00

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Here's our Grad's Thread. May 2017 lead us all to upduffed heaven and the Grad's thread, amen.

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Thread 27. TTC #1 - we're stressed, we're fed up, we're bitter but I promise this will all be worth it when we're holding our precious babies
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sk1pper · 01/04/2017 16:54

Pyjamas - this is my last chance before my first IVF appointment. Absolutely gutting.

Kaydee2017 · 01/04/2017 16:58

Just dropping in to say congrats to mac Grin

Londonjam · 01/04/2017 17:07

Skip it's shite isn't it. Didn't realise your IVF appointment was creeping up so soon. That'll be something to focus on at least if AF does come. Not something to relish - but an option. A way to break out of Groundhog Day!

sk1pper · 01/04/2017 17:20

Yeah Jam, really not sure how it's going to go down. Think there is a waiting list, but not sure if they'll make me wait until the 2 year milestone regardless. No point worrying...

Mrsbluebell17 · 02/04/2017 09:21

Sorry that AF got you Sk1pper and pyjamas. Onwards and upwards, stay strong.

Macs that's an amazing line, congratulations.

I went to the wedding reception, had a couple of half glasses of wine, and moved onto tonic (sans gin!!). Seeing me with wine in my hand helped distract people I think. I've had on off cramps for a few days so I think it's a matter of time before AF arrives anyway.

WingingIt83 · 02/04/2017 09:22

So sorry jam and pyjamas xx

Pyjamas81 · 02/04/2017 10:22

Feeling a bit better today and am off for a massage in a bit - I'm definitely treating myself this weekend!

DH is going to start reading that ivf book today which is great - and I'm going to book our consultation now for a couple of days after next AF is due. Trying to invoke law of sod and all that!

Glad you could relax a bit with a couple of glasses of wine bluebell and fx AF doesn't show.

Still have my fx for you skipper - hopefully that appointment won't be needed.

As much as I'm gutted that it's looking like IVF is the next step, I am strangely relieved that we're doing something proactive soon. I know chances aren't great there either, but at least we're doing something.

MissyJones80s · 02/04/2017 10:35

Sorry been awol but glad I checked in! Hoorah macs so exciting!!!! So glad to see some more lines...

MissyJones80s · 02/04/2017 10:38

I'm out this month I think, DH is off out of the country during fertile week whoop-de-doo so unless I ov mega late (which isn't unknown) I have no chance

MissyJones80s · 02/04/2017 10:39

Sorry to hear about you guys jam and pyjamas xxx

sk1pper · 02/04/2017 13:47

Pyjamas - although shit for all three of us, looks like you Jam and I might be starting IVF around similar times. That makes me feel a tiny bit better about the whole thing.

Missy - them spermies can live a good 5-6 days. Not even a chance?

I feel so normal, no sore boobs, nada. Can't really believe AF is due imminently.

Pyjamas81 · 02/04/2017 14:02

That's true skipper - it's shit but at least we're not alone!

DH being pretty sulky and sullen (he withdraws and gets distant when he's moody) - I'm way too over sensitive at the moment, so have holed myself up in my study and am staying well away. Shame, as I was hoping we could spend some time together and maybe enjoy a pint in a beer garden, but I just can't be arsed with trying to bleed conversation out of him and/or sitting in silence. Went for a massage earlier and it was amazing! All those knots that have built up over the last year in my back and shoulders - vanished.

Londonjam · 02/04/2017 14:46

Me too skipper I wouldn't wish this on anyone but I'm glad to not be alone

Pyjamas I could do with a massage so badly! Moving house with horrible period pain is not a good combo! Keep having to stop and bend double and breathe... almost like being in labour... although I would not know! Angry

Hola missy hope you can squeeze one GOS in

Carley27 · 02/04/2017 14:52

Ah sorry about AF Jam Flowers

Annoyed with myself, had a party last night and got far too drunk. Didn't HS as planned so we only managed it once in FW. Hungover as shit today too Sad

KerryLeanne84 · 02/04/2017 16:04

How is everyone's Sunday? Mine is a bit meh, final few days of the two week wait (due to test Thurs) and I literally can't imagine ever seeing a BFP. At least the weather is nice!

SmittenPears · 02/04/2017 17:32

macs!!! omg!!! that is the line TTC#1 deserves, AND the one it needs right now. :D

Chlo22 · 02/04/2017 17:38

Hey ladies,
Are you looking at ivf through NHS or private? We've been researching ahead of our appt with consultant. A few people have recommended the lister? X

Flashinthepan · 02/04/2017 18:02

Sorry for af jam and pyjamas. For you ladies heading towards possible ivf, there must be so many mixed emotions but you're all strong amazing women and I still have faith it will happen for all of you one way or the other.

I think I'm heading into FW. Cd 11 and Ewcm starting today, and HS Friday night and hopefully tonight. Then will keep it up hopefully every day while ewcm is here, then eod for a few days after just in case, then see how we go. Fx for another 14 day lp this month.

Pyjamas81 · 02/04/2017 18:29

And as always, just when I'm feeling at my shittest, DH makes me feel even shitter. He's been moody all day so I've kept to myself, he asked if I wanted to go for dinner (still moody), I asked him if he was ok as he seemed down, he then got moodier and said he's "not my entertainment." Apparently I have suggested nothing for us to do together and it's all on him - not true - I suggested lunch or dinner yesterday and he didn't want to, suggested cycling in Richmond Park today and he went off on his own, I suggested lunch today but he didn't want to go out, then I said perhaps an early dinner with one pint in the sun - and it seems it's the suggestion of a pint that's made him angry. Even though he bought me a pint on Friday. He's gone out for dinner alone. I just don't understand and I feel so down and sad that he always makes me feel worse at this horrible time of the month 😞

If we can sort our relationship out chlo we'll be going private at the lister - had all initial tests done there and they were brilliant. The way I'm feeling at the moment, I'm not sure we're even strong enough for the even tougher work ivf will be.

Londonjam · 02/04/2017 18:31

Chlo we're being referred on the NHS due to DH low morphology - waiting for the follow up for the referral. His morphology has improved but I've read elsewhere others couples still get referred as it fluctuates but is still very much on the low side.

The waiting list is 6-8 months before treatment starts - so we could have our first IVF cycle in December.

I'm not sure if I can wait that long - I'm going to ask again about trying clomid in the meantime - I mean why not?

And I'm also looking at Serum in Athens to go private as another option. We can't really afford to do it privately in the UK at the moment.

MissyJones80s · 02/04/2017 18:36

Not sure skip will have to see when I bother ovulating this month! He's away for 5 days so there might be a very slim chance if I ovulate on time OR if I ovulate late. Who knows!

Loads of positivity to those of you venturing towards IVF and fx something happens in the mean time Grin

Londonjam · 02/04/2017 18:36

Pyjamas sorry things are so difficult with him. He may be finding it hard but surely it's better in that case to say so and talk about his feelings rather than sulking. You are going through this together and he needs to remember you're a team and need to support each other through it. Him stressing you out is probably more detrimental than you guys enjoying a pint and relaxing!

MissyJones80s · 02/04/2017 18:39

Sorry just read your post pyjamas he sounds like he's totally depressed and having mood swings, not fair to blame it on you feel for you Flowers

Pyjamas81 · 02/04/2017 18:58

That's exactly right jam - I don't think I'm asking for much, just want him to understand that this is a difficult time and give me a cuddle. But he just totally detaches and sulks which makes me feel worse.

I think you're right missy with the being depressed and mood swings. I just don't know how best to handle it - I don't confront him to not antagonise him, I try and act normal but it's like talking to a brick wall and it brings me down and if I gently ask him what's up, he feels like I'm picking a fight and I'm 'hard work'. Honestly don't know how to approach it.

Why not indeed on the clomid jam!

Chlo22 · 02/04/2017 19:10

Sorry to hear that pjs. You need support and you do need him to pick you up when you're feeling crap, that is kind of his job and you've tried to engage by also making suggestions. Not fair that he's gone out for dinner on his own. I know I've had my fair share of moments where I've just sulked and been upset all day and dh has had to force me to go out and obviously I felt better for it once I got there but I know I've been difficult. This whole thing really does take an incredible toll on your relationship though and I've seen the strongest couples really struggle when going through this so please don't feel bad or alone. I knew I was getting to that point last year so made my dh go to counselling with me. It definitely helped. Does he not like you drinking then because of ttc?
Did you go private to the lister? Was it recommended or did you research? It's been recommended by work colleagues and dh's boss so not people I can directly ask and I know he wouldn't feel comfortable asking either so great to get your feedback. Is there anything they specialise in? It
seems they just get a really good overall review.
jam I asked about clmoid but was told if ovulating normally it's not for me? Not sure what your situation is in that respect (or if advice I was given was correct.) a lot of people seem to be going abroad now for treatment, I've read the success rates are much higher? Don't blame you not wanting to wait, once you've made that decision you don't want to hang about.

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