First time TTC - thread 6

[bassetmum]

Well thats another thread full of our comings and goings.

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Cycle 6
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Sorry af got you flora.

Loxy fx for you.

Kitty I really hope that your cycles sort themselves out for you.

Pjs your situation sounds like mine re hormones. Today is my and OH 8 year anniversary and for 7 of those years I was on the pill so the cracking mood swings I have now been having are surprising him. I really hope you and DH can sort your relationship out. It definitely sounds like the stress is getting to you both. Having counselling sounds like a good thing to me.

I am in total agreement re if i couldn't vent here id go crazy.

Sorry Flora, hope you feel better about things soon x

Pjs I have to admire your patience and willingness to work things out after all you've been through. Hope things improve and you can approach IVF together on more solid ground xxx

Thanks ladies, I'll be OK. Just with each month that passes I start to worry more that something is wrong with us.

PJs my husband is exactly the same and it always leads to arguments too as he can't understand why I get upset and why sometimes being upset is the best thing as you feel better after a good cry. He keeps suggesting that I should find a hobby to take my mind off things... bearing in mind I have a full time pretty demanding job, exercise about 3 times a week and have a collection of mad pals to deal with. I think it is just that they really don't like to see us upset and that they have this real need to try to fix things. I'm not sure this helps but just wanted you to know that the same thing happens in my house every month and you're not alone.
And maybe we should think of some sort of joint anti-sadness, non-existent hobby to keep our husbands happy!

That's EXACTLY it flora, he just doesn't understand why I don't plan things in advance to stop me being upset, well because sometimes I just need to feel sodding sad for a damn bit! Sorry it happens to you as well, but I do feel better knowing I'm not the only one.

Yep bassett I think that's what part of the issue is for him as well - hormonal women are a totally alien concept to him. He'd better grow the F up soon. I think we just need to stay away from each other when AF arrives, I can't deal with this much upset every month. We do need to sort it out though - hormones aren't going to be any better during IVF and if we do get to pregnancy, I'm sure they'll be a treat then as well.

No probs PJs - without sounding heartless I just don’t really get upset by those arguments these days as I know it’s just a lack of understanding on his part and too many hormones on mine. I had my meltdown last night and hubby is offshore so I got peace to do so and might go for that going forward as it was nice to cry and lament without him to try to talk me down. And let’s be honest, even if you were flying out to the Maldives for a fortnight after an AF was due – you’d still be upset!!

Counselling before IVF sounds like a good plan though. Think we would do the same (even though I’ve not thought about it that much) because a) hubby needs to understand what we would be entering into and b) because he would then find out that all my negative thoughts are totally normal!

Meant to ask in the last comment about the Headspace stuff – how do you do that?

Not heartless at all flora - that sounds like a much better way of dealing with it than what I do at the moment!

Headspace is an app you can download for meditation - it's excellent. You get 10 free days of 10 minute meditations, then if you subscribe (about £6 a month) you get access to a whole load of other meditations for relationships, health, stress, anxiety, TTC etc. It's really great and was a definite turning point for me today for turning down the volume on terrible thoughts!

Eva hopefully the concoction will do it's magic, thinking of you.

Sorry pj's and flora that you and others are having a tough time at the moment I think ttc is tough all round, men feel like they should only have to look at a woman to get them pregnant!

I've also pretty much given up hope of it happening naturally as there's quite clearly something wrong with my cycles. I have severe internal scarring in my pelvis and abdomen from appendicitis complications which I feel likely have a part to play. Hoping that the ultrasound at the end of the month sheds some light.. In the meantime I'm coming up to fertile week and I'm still having a lot of pelvic pain that is not making sex appealing... Urgh! Baby bombed twice on Facebook in the last week too.

I've got it downloaded PJs wonder if it counts as a hobby for DH's sake!

Sorry you're struggling too Pie. Are your cycles really long or short? And very frustrating that those surgeries have left damage. Really hope the ultrasound helps and thereafter a plan is made.

Oh I hope you like headspace flora - I really like his voice and the non-hippy non-plinky plonky music-ness (if you see what I mean) of it all. Amazing how much those 10 minutes helped me today.

Thanks ladies, love this website to have a good moan and vent! definately keeping me sane.

Im pretty sure this month is a write off anyway I have no idea when/ if i have ovulated and we havent DTD very much recently. If im having a christmas baby ill be changing my stat name to the virgin mary! .

Loxy that sounds like a good plan hope you get a BFP on friday :) Flora Sorry AF got you sorry to hear your feeling a bit blue too. Pjs sorry to hear you and DH had a fight about all this the counseling sounds like a good idea though if your both willing to benefit you both and hopefully mend any old wounds all the TTC may have created. The headspace app sounds really good! I think i might give it a try myself :) Pie FX the ultrasound gives you some answers and doctors are able to come up with a plan for you and your partner :)

boo to baby bombing! until its us thats doing it

Hello all

Sorry to those who've got Af and those feeling shitty.

I'm currently 11dpo cd 25 and have usual pre Af rage and cramps. DH is actually being rather nice but I'm finding it super irritating and almost clingy. Not sure which situation is worse. Anyway I was sneaky at work today and looked up my blood results. Stupid idea really as I still don't know what they mean.

If those of you who've had day 21 bloods would you mind sharing what your result is? I'm finding mixed results on google and I can't ask any colleagues without outting my TTC secret.

bliss the one thing I have gleaned is that I think they look for a number around 20 to prove that you've ov'd? I saw it on another thread. Have you got an appt set up for blood results?

Yeah bliss my doc told me they look for above 20 and mine was 43 so they were happy. Be careful looking up your own results, it's a dismissive offence. Someone at my place got sacked for it

Morning ladies! Nothing happening here yet. No AF, no symptoms, no cramps. I swear whoever said ignorance is bliss has never tried to get pregnant. Bah! Feel like I'm tempting fate by posting, she's probably waiting for me to click send.

Hmmm.

I've had the day 21 tests twice, first time the result was 24. My GP said under 15 was no ovulation, 15-30 was equivocal and over 30 was ovulation. The repeat test 2 months later I got 43.
Be careful as you need to check the reference values used by the lab.

Got my static smiley face on Clearblue Opk yesterday morning. About 5 minutes before DH headed to airport for work trip. 😠
DTD on Sunday and will pounce on him in the morning when he gets home just in case there's still a chance but so peeved about the timing of the trip. Have been having acupuncture this month and giving it our best shot and then work gets in the way. (We were aiming for Sperm meets egg plan 3 days at ovulation time).

Anyway onwards and upwards. Next month is our (self-imposed) deadline and then I think we need to take further action. Fluctuating between hopeful and OMG this will never happen. Trying to stay on the hopeful side or I'll go mad!

Pie any progress after bladder cam?

P. S. Loxy (and everyone else waiting) hope AF stays the hell away.

Fx for you Loxy

Baguette Aw, bad timing! Hopefully there's still time :)

She's stayed away so far. Confession: I may have found myself in the preggo test aisle at ASDA. But! I didn't get any, none were on offer! So expensive when they're full price. Will hunt around this week, see if I can find a bargain, haha! Gives AF more time to pounce if she's gonna.

I was careful Eva nobody pays that much attention at work it's a mad house.

My result was 55 the result page said it needs to be greater than 30 so looks like I've ov'd, just saw some threads with results nearer 100 and wondered what the 'norm' might have been.

Anyway lots of cramps and brown spotting today she will arrive tomorrow and I will list my kidney on eBay to pay for ivf.

Good luck loxy fingers crossed to those others waiting.

Also interested to see how you got on pie

flora cycles are just weird with much spotting and v short LP as well as cysts..!

blissful if you send me the listing I can bump the price up for that kidney nice bit of scam bidding! I'm sorry it's getting to the ivf point for you

Oh baguette how bloody irritating...!! Again, really sorry your body isn't playing by the rules

loxy fx for you!

Bladdercam showed nothing of interest so it's "just" a diagnosis of neurogenic bladder now, have declined further testing as urologist said it wouldn't change management so I'll just continue to self catheterise! Waiting on lumbar puncture when I eventually see latest neurologist as whilst my brain scans over last 10(!) years aren't typical they want to fully rule out MS as I'm getting more and more nerve involvement body wide. MS would be one of the better diagnoses really, at least there are some treatments available!

I think I'll join in on the organ selling ha ha

Glad bladdercam didn't show anything worrying pie, but hope you get definite answers and treatment soon.

Good luck loxy!

That's really bloody annoying baguette - but hopefully still in with a chance!

I booked our appointment to discuss ivf with our fertility specialist for 15th May - come on Sod's law!!

Thanks for all the luck and crossing of fingers, ladies. I think it might be working!

Bliss Sound like your result is positive, its good that you ovulated. And who needs kidneys anyway?

Pie I'm consistently amazed by how well you handle all that's going on. Hope the docs come up with a plan for your health and baby making soon xxx

PJs Double up - book an expensive holiday for 9 months time

No AF still and I'm feeling a bit more comfortable with waiting to test now. Keep reminding myself that either I am or I'm not and testing won't change that. The signs continue to be good - no cramping and I checked my cervix, it's gone really soft. Told DH we can go buy a test after work tomorrow and do it Friday morning :)

😂I'm in on the organ selling too
pjs hope Sod's law works so also it's actually going ahead with ivf if not - I know it's far from ideal but a tiny bit exciting that miraculous science might get you a bfp soon right?
bliss good result on the cd21 test

I'm 4dpo now and AF is due whilst I'm on my next holiday, unbelievable luck. We are going away for Easter and then DH has his repeat SA when we get back.

Ha ha maybe I'll book a rock climbing holiday for 9 months time 😂

Yep Eva the thought of ivf is shit scary and I am sad that it's come to that, but yes, a large part of me is excited that it's at least a proactive step to getting that elusive Bfp.

Oh no on AF timing! Fx it doesn't arrive, but at least you'll have plenty of distraction.

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