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Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

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Miami81 · 05/02/2017 20:07

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

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fluffiny31 · 01/03/2017 17:47

Miami its good that bloods are all good but i can imagine it being much nicer if it was a fixable problem.
Did you enjoy your malteasrs sock

Is b12 your iron?

Gracie17 · 01/03/2017 18:52

Hello everyone and thank you. Peony and User I think we will try as soon as I get a negative. Two weeks tomorrow for me so will give it a go and p o the saddest stick ever 😥. I'm so sorry User that you had a loss after trying so long 💐🍷x

Gracie17 · 01/03/2017 18:53

Fingers crossed for the old wives tale about fertility after miscarriage!

user1480930113 · 01/03/2017 19:05

Thanks gracie I feel alot more positive now even though my erpc was only 3 weeks ago it feels a lot longer. My 4 year old keeps me busy and he reminds me if I never end up having another then that's OK as he is so amazing.
I know what you mean about peeing on the stick, bitter sweet isn't it! I was so relieved to see a negative so I knew that chapter was over and we could get cracking again x

Gracie17 · 01/03/2017 19:06

Also can I ask what people think about baby aspirin? Is there any downside to taking it if/when preg? I have heard many many positive stories about this for recurrent miscarriage.

Anne, Fluff and everyone thank you for the warm welcome and 💐

Gracie17 · 01/03/2017 19:18

User I know I am blessed with my daughter and for that reason this mc was much less traumatic than my last emotionally as well as physically as my mc before DD I was terrified I wouldn't be able to have a child. However the only upside was I got pregnant easily in those days (2012/13) and now that is no longer the case.

FWIW I have a friend who is a midwife who sent me some research by Lesley Regan at St Mary's which says that after even up to 5 consecutive mc the chances of the next pregnancy being successful are more than 70%.

ZylaB · 01/03/2017 19:43

Ok, I think we're going to give it a try for two or three months and hope this whole "more fertile after a mc" thing is true. Then will rethink if not Pregnant.
Now I need to get a negative pregnancy test...sigh

theotherendofthesockportal · 01/03/2017 20:25

@fliffiny31 b12 isn't iron but it is a kind of anaemia, for me it leaves me feeling tired and dizzy. It is not very well researched in the uk although a lot of us have it

Malteasers were amazing btw, and I have no guilt about it Grin

TeamLentil · 01/03/2017 20:39

Hi all - I've stayed away from the board for a little while because, just when I thought I was doing better, I got all depressed and hopeless about ever getting pregnant again and then the fear I'd have to live with, since it took us 3.5 years to conceive and then I went and miscarried.

But today, 3 dpo, I noticed pink CM and now I'm back on the TTC anguished symptom spotting wagon.

Not sure which is better Hmm

AnneLovesGilbert · 01/03/2017 21:05

Hey lentil, symptom spotting and the 2ww is a complete shitter. Sorry you're having a tough time of it.

I've got awful heart burn and am so bloated I look like I've swallowed a beach ball. Just munched a rennie, they're grim. Had nausea all day but don't want to eat.

fluffiny31 · 01/03/2017 21:36

I didn't know pink cm is a sign. Gosh I've got so much to learn. Makes me really realise how lucky i was to get my dd first time. Feel a bit like i shouldn't complain about my lost baby. Lentil I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
Anne this sounds promising.
Did you all have symptoms with all of your pregnancies? My first i had everything from very early on my second i didn't really have many. I had bloating and constipation and tiredness that was it really. Although before af was due i got darker urine and ulcers in my mouth. The only reason i tested was because i had implantation bleeding. I'm hoping for symptoms but don't even think I'm in the running how ridiculous is that.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 01/03/2017 21:54

Been off this thread so long it dropped off my TIO...
Had my two week check after conservative management and I've stubbornly clung on to it like a baby's grab reflex. Ironically.
Going to book a SMM (surgical management of miscarriage - only heard this acronym today) next week after which I hope to return to normal asap.
Hate the constant spotting etc

Hope everyone else is OK. Often think of the people on this thread going through the same and worse.
Flowers

swimchick1980 · 02/03/2017 01:10

Been off thread for a day and so much chat! Too much for me to reply to but unmumsnetty hugs to all!

Here on planet swim, not much had changed and I'm still *king bleeding. My EVA Period Tracker tells me AF is due in 8 days, little does EVA know I have had what appears to be AF for the past 6 days Angry! It's not getting any lighter, although had only ever been a medium type flow (day 3 or 4 of AF).

Still a bit of an emotional wreck, just into tears in the car for no apparent reason today.

Although I'm still desperate to get my BPF, right now I'd take being back to "normal". Think I'll give it another couple of days and then maybe phone the doctor.

Had anyone else had a really short cycle after their first AF after MC (CD15 and 4 dpo per OVPK for me)?

TeamLentil · 02/03/2017 05:00

fluffiny,

I didn't know pink cm is a sign

It's not, from all the rabid googling I did yesterday. Apparently, it's just a sign of ovulation. Had it been later, like 7dpo, it could have been implantation bleeding. But at least I know I ovulated...

TeamLentil · 02/03/2017 05:01

swim, yes, me. My regular cycle is 31 days but the first one after my MC was something like 25 or 26 (too lazy to look it up)

Miami81 · 02/03/2017 07:33

Swim
I think perhaps your mc is ongoing! Sorry, I am sure I read somewhere that if AF is within 20 days of mc then it is not a true AF. I can't recall if you had natural or medical or surgical? Perhaps you have some retained tissues. I would give your EPU a call.

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Miami81 · 02/03/2017 07:35

Also opk can be well out of whack when you still have pg hormones rushing around your system. I didn't bother with them until I had a negative hpt.
Anyway like I say I hope I am wrong, but sounds like worth a chat with health professional. All the best.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 02/03/2017 11:14

swim, I've read the same as Miami and I'd get checked out if I were you love. You must be sodding exhausted from bleeding so much. Are you taking any iron? Floradix is slightly less harsh on the tummy than pills. Just if you're feeling really wiped out.

I was desperate for first af but chilled a bit when I read it should be at least 20 days after mc stops. Is your EPU any good?

Cashmere, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Neither conservative nor medical management did anything for me. My baby had stopped growing 4 weeks before they found out so nothing seemed likely to happen anytime soon. I did two lots of medical management and lost quite a bit of blood and tissue but a chunk ended up getting stuck which was horrifically painful so it ended with an MVA.

Will you be awake for your surgery? Several of us have had it so please ask any questions. Do you know when it'll be? Sending love x

I'm glad I didn't rush to surgery the day we found out. I needed the time to process the shock of what happened. If I'd thought about it before the idea of carrying on as normal knowing what happened would have been too awful for words. But it didn't feel yuck or upsetting at all, I needed time to say goodbye to my baby and all my hopes and dreams of that pregnancy and wanted to keep it safe inside me for a few more days.

I'm not sure anyone can really understand that if they haven't experienced it. Don't get my wrong - a few days later I was off my face on painkillers and wishing the whole thing would come to an end, so the surgery was a blessed relief and once it was over I could focus on trying to feel better a day at a time.

Take care of yourself Flowers

harrietm87 · 02/03/2017 11:19

Hi everyone. Sorry cashmere sounds like you've really been through it. Good luck with the SMM.

After thinking my cycles were back to normal I've now had 5 days of flashing smiley on clearblue opks, not seeing progression on the cheapies, and ovia has shifted my FW forward by 5 days. Not had any EWCM yet either.

Has anyone else had a longer first cycle after mc/how long after bleeding did you ovulate?

I'm so impatient to get started again, feeling bit run down and demoralised. Why is my body letting me down argh.

fluffiny31 · 02/03/2017 12:16

Harriert i had my surgery 4 weeks yesterday i ov between sat and tues last week so due my period next week. I'm about a week behind my normal.

Peony24 · 02/03/2017 13:10

harriet I'm about a week behind my normal cycle too. Think I ov'd beginning of the week and due af in just over a week

emsler · 02/03/2017 13:47

Hello lovelies, I've been off for a while as I was on holiday. Too much to catch up on but sending you all love. I'm just about to start OPKing for March, should O around March 9th.

Swim, my first cycle after my miscarriage was 25 days and I'm usually 30.

AnneLovesGilbert · 02/03/2017 14:37

Hey emsler, hope you're well rested!

We've had a bfp since you've been gone, which was awesome. It was lights good news.

I've had heartburn! Not quite as exciting.

harrietm87 · 02/03/2017 14:41

fluff and peony thanks that is comforting! Think I'm probably about a week behind too, if ovia is right (questionable!)

MulderitsmeX · 02/03/2017 14:46

harriet i think u ov'd as usual but AF was 2 weeks late, cant ever get opks to work tho so not really sure. Period came 6 weeks after mc

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