Destination conception ... route PMA.

[Hippychic79]

Ok so I am bravely attempting to set up a new thread for anyone tTC.
Plug in your stats ...
Share the highs of your journey
Limit the lows - yes it's a challenging time but being negative gets you down.
I'm thinking positivity breeds positivity and positive thinking gets positive results -
It may take some of us a little longer than others ... but does that matter? I think not.

New rules - instead of saying af due ... we say bfp due ...

So here goes ... my stats
Age 38
Cycle 3
Bfp due 14/02

You're not the only one hippy. Dh won't come near me. Says blood smells metallic and it lingers thankfully my periods are now 3 days instead of 6-7! I used to be climbing the walls by time my period was done haha!

Anna I definitely agree! Everyone keeps telling me to relax and I do think 'let's just do a month of no trying' but i think I'd still think about it all and I'd kick myself at the end of the month if nothing happened feeling I might have missed a chance.... so hard!

Thanks everyone I'll be happy when I get out of the limbo as then I can cheer myself up focusing on the next cycle. Its mostly just my boobies that seem to still have hope at the moment, I'm not sure why they seem to have gotten so over excited this month, perhaps it's all the PMA
I'm the same with my OPKs I like watching them go darker and i get a mini bfp high when I get positive opk

ladies your updates and sharing really is fantastic - iv had a few questions this evening (basal temps) and you're answering them - think we might have a psychotic psychic connection

i have never looked forward to AF in my life - hence 20+yrs of contraception - but this 2WW is driving me mad, hence the completely pointless POAS (twice might i add) today.

this is TTC #1 and cycle #1 for me - jeeeeeezo it's an emotional rollercoaster with mental torment isnt it?

sending lots of positive vibes out to you all-
hope y'all have a lovely romantic val day!

foot note - gave DH a card with a love voucher in it. amongst the options for him to choose were a massage, a snog session, a blow job, DTD, you get the drift. he carefully read through all the options, turned it over pretending to look for more. i said "surely you can pick from that list" and he said "is there not an option for 3 points for my footie team on sat?"

who says romance is dead eh? lol

Bella LOL but i hope you informed your husband he's voided his voucher due to improper use. Yes it does drive you a bit up the wall, for me the worst part is, that i seem to struggle to think about much else. I attempted some crafting yesterday to distract me, it kinda worked only i've made baby clothes haha
does any one else like crafting?

Rose I like card making. Have dipped in and out of it for a while, but made most of my Christmas cards last year and trying to make birthday cards for close family and friends this year too. You're right about it being a good distraction, but maybe not so much depending on what you make :) I'm impressed you made some baby clothes though!

Happy V Day lovely ladies! Ah I am so behind! I have been following but haven't had time to respond. I'm not going to try and respond to everyone individually!

Rose - so so sorry for bfn :( but as others have said you're not out til you're out so there's still hope!

I hate this limbo between af and fw - it's such a write off / waste of time! I was thinking earlier we call the last 2 weeks of the cycle the 2ww but what do we call these 2 weeks? Then hippy (?) made a good suggestion earlier (which I now can't remember and can't scroll back on my phone for fear of losing this message!) I'm feeling very frustrated and anxious for some reason - very strange. Much as I hate af if she came every 2 weeks that would give us twice the baby making opportunities ... anyway we dtd earlier tonight so we are on track for the SMEP. I'm on cd 12 so going to start opk'ing tomorrow. My cycles are at least 30 days so not expecting to ov until Sun / Mon but I'm poas happy as someone said above so I can't wait to start peeing on sticks again! It's so boring just having a regular wee these days!! :D

Lots of talk of temping - we've bought a thermometer but I just don't think I want to start doing that yet ... I don't know what it is I'm just not keen.

Bella - we've all been there. I was a mental crazy lunatic on my first ttc cycle. Had butterflies in my tummy and everything! (Which of course I thought was a symptom and Google confirmed argh!!) In 5 and 1/2 years together i don't think we had ever gone unprotected for oh finishing so that was very strange for me and you're always told "have unprotected sex and you'll get pregnant" I thought it was that easy! Apparently not! You're in the right place - lots of ttc oracles on this thread for support and advice :)

Ps Salem I hope you're feeling better :)
Pps I don't craft but I love colouring in :)
Ppps I also wondered about the bold and strike through so thanks to whoever asked / responded hopefully this works

Positive tTC quotes xxx

Charley - nice to hear that I'm not the only one with a dp who won't come near when af is in town. Fortunately she was light last so I had a quick shower and managed to get my wicked way without him noticing - which sorry tmi coming up ... caused a bit of a secondary surge in af this morning :(

Rose - I feel for you I really do, strangely enough my boobies seemed to do the same this month in that they were tender and tingly for almost a week! I know what you mean about limbo ... it's almost like if you're coming af just bloody hurry up (sorry about the pun).
I like crafting but don't do it very often - since you mentioned your house drawing I'm determined to do draw a baby ... I love his idea and got my how to draw book out at the weekend ... dp is working this wk end so I'm hoping to get round to it ... like you it's a bid to take my mind off it ... but then drawing a baby is kind of missing the distraction point 😂

Bella ... still making me smile... my dp would have said the same about the footie :)). And yeah tTC is definitely an emotional rollercoaster ... at least we've got each other and our dp's to ride it with ... hopefully the ride won't be too much longer :))

I echo what Baking said as well Rose - impressed you made baby clothes xxx

thanks for the reassurance @moo - i knew i'd become obsessed as i'm like that, always give my 100% but by god, this is a mindfield of emotions, stern internal talking to oneself AND having to tell DH that the cat normally does sit on my belly of an evening and no it's not a sign that i'm upduffed even though i did think that myself for a wee while

i thought of my days post AF but pre ovulation as my time to get any guilty pleasures out the way with - sort of "treat myself days" is that selfish? probs is soz 🙈

said cat picture attached - stalker much? lol

Moo - I can't remember what I called it now but it is soooo boring waiting for af to clear off and fw to arrive... and I'm feeling anxious too .... I think as the months go on it's natural to feel more anxious about it ... my anxiety is very much around timing as dp doesn't know how hard I'm trying so he doesn't realise how important the peak day is ... I need to catch him within 48 hours of that smiley ... and then and I got to hope and pray he can finish dtd .... and that's exactly what I am doing this month ... praying morning noon and night! You're post made me laugh too so thank you ... It's so reassuring to know I'm not alone with some of my feelings and as I can't share how I feel with dp about it, or even my friends ... I really don't know what I would do or how I would get through without you ladies ... so.....
Thank you ladies xxx

Morning Bella - thank you for the pic of your cat ... black cats are lucky :))
I'm exactly the same in terms of giving it my all ... thus all the tTC books and research -I think it's a good thing and shows how much we want it xxx

@hippy - love this one. soooo true!

hope you're on last day of any AF signs and you can do a bit of "treat yourself days" before OPK.

has anyone tried the "resign yourself to be fact it's not going to happen" method and then conceived? my friend did that, after 7yrs of TTC, stopped tracking etc, booked a holiday, went out and had a lot of fun, then discovered at 42 she was preggo with twins!

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I like that one too Bella :))) I thought it was pretty apt as we all try so hard.

I took the casual approach since I met dp - not exactly resigned myself to it not happening as I would never do that .... goes against my PMA lol ... but casual in that We just had unprotected sex and I thought sooner rather than later I would be upduffed ... I love the example though ... twins would be my preferred choice as I'm 38 and WILL have two children :))
Xxx

Morning ladies. Thanks for the quotes hippy. Positive as always.

Bella I wanted to do a relaxed 'fuck it' month as everyone who knows keeps telling me I 'can't put so much pressure on it' but all I do is OPK and obviously time dtd so I'm just going to do that this month, but do SMEP rather than dtd everyday. Your cat is beautiful! Looks so chilled too!

Rose and hippy, same here with the boobs. Really tingly and hot, more uncomfortable than sore and never normally get that after period.

Ugh wish we could fast forward a week! I totally agree that the week after AF is just a waste haha! Although this weeks gone quite quick so far thankfully!

Morning all!

Not selfish at all to treat yourself during the post af / waiting for fw time. I've enjoyed a few glasses of

I've heard stories like that too - people who give up and fall pg. I like the idea of not opk'ing etc but in reality I'm a bit of a control freak and would probably go crazy not knowing whether we had got the right time or not. I feel like I want to give myself the best possible opportunity.

Your cat is lovely Bella - oh would love a cat but I'm allergic :s

Love the positive picture vibes hippy - thank you :)

The middle one reminds me of a valentines verse I did for oh - I always get him a card and fill it with "roses are red" verses relating to things we have done in the previous year, planning to do etc. So one of this years verses was

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
Ttc, af, opk, fw, dtd, 2ww, poas, fmu,
I can't wait to have a baby with you!

I was impressed he knew what they all meant - although he did do research when we started ttc and he was the one getting the opks and telling me to poas so he probably knew what they meant before I did!

Morning Charley
Morning Moo

Cd5 ..... 😴
Another 9 days to go till peak for me .... i think I called it 1wfw - 1 week fertile wait or something like that.
Yeah I wouldn't recommend not using opks ... I think it's quite easy to miss the optimum time if you don't use them and although it would be lovely to just not think about tTC all month and wake up to a bfp ... i think we would miss each other too much :)))
Xxx

Wow Moo - I'm impressed with you oh too ... lovely idea about the verses too. I've written dp a few poems but I didn't bother this v day ... I wish I had now xxx

I totally agree with the satisfaction felt after seeing the smiley face on the OPKs. It is so reassuring to know something is happening!

My in laws have arrived for a stay so I am glad I am not in FW now. That could have been difficult.

I am 6dpo now and definitely have sore boobs. I know this as my DS kicked me in the chest while rolling around in our bed and it was agony! However, although not every cycle, I have had the whole sore boobs thing before so trying not to read too much into it yet!

If you have 12 day luteal phase, at what point would you implant and make hormones that create symptoms? Because if it's too early, then every twinge has to be due to something else!

Which is also why doing a pg test early is not going to get a bfp, if you can wait a bit longer!!

Morning Magpie
I've read that implantation happens 6-10dpo and remember ovulation happens 24 -36 hours after positive opk (that's the clear blue digital ones not sure about ic's) .....
Eeeeeek I wish i was in 2ww
Xxx

I think testing with a frer at 10dpo is the best bet (humble opinion / based on observations from mn threads) xxx

That's if you want to test early xxx

Half term for me this week so off to cinema to watch lego batman with kids. Then they go to their dads for rest of half term. That's when it will get harder trying not to test til Saturday! I've waited this long what's a few more days. Why am I suddenly thinking about it constantly?? FX for everyone.