Getting Ready for Baby Challenge -Pt 2

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Just a follow on from our 1st thread!

Theres is our motherhen, we are all just a bunch of crazy ladies either TTC or waiting to start!

Been worrying about TTC a lot today for some reason, just have this horrible feeling that we're not going to be able to. There's all the vitamins and tracking and opks and everything for us, but what about our men. What can they do to get ready and make sure their little fellas are in tip top shape? Wish there were SPKs as well as opks!! Don't you have to be trying for a year before you can go to docs? I want to know now that everything is okay! Sorry, just been thinking about it a lot and getting myself worked up 😔

Buzz I know exactly what you mean I just keep in mind 92% or people are pregnant in a year, 60% in 3 months 80% in 6 months! It's so frustrating when you know you've done everything 'right' but no luck!

Oh buzz I worry about that a lot too. But I suppose we will transfer our worries to worrying about the baby when we succeed in conceiving!

For the men, I think stopping smoking and cutting down on alcohol and caffeine is a big one, and having enough zinc (in diet or supplements). I also saw an article that said avoid hot baths and hot tubs - shame - sounds quite romantic!

Stress is supposed to be bad for conceiving too, but I can see how that could end up in a vicious cycle when worrying about conceiving!

Everyone worries about that Buzz, I definitely did and had all kinds of crazy worries buzzing round my head about how my tubes were probably fucked. Chances are you'll be absolutely fine.

Buzz I stress about that too. My DP said before that he wishes he knew for sure he was fertile or knew how long it would take us. This is one of the reasons why we're going to ttc a couple of months before the wedding so I'm hoping that maybe I'll be busy and preoccupied so won't have much time to obsess and become over anxious.

Oh gosh yes, me too. Worry about fertility all the time. Especially when, like last month, we did everything down to the day that we could and it still didn't work. But even then it's just not that easy. I think we would consider having private testing if no joy by 6-9 months. Not waiting a year to find out either way. Obviously if all is well then we will just be patient but don't want to waste all that time if there is something that could be addressed quite easily.

Buzz Literally just yesterday, i ordered DH Wellman Conception vits! I don't really have worries about him cos he's super fit and healthy (a good influence on me, who would eat pizza every night if i could!) but thought it couldn't hurt!

Definitely paranoid about having issues, but possibly made worse by reading MN!

Totally with you buzz. Feel like I've been waiting my whole life to be in this position if trying, and now literally no guarantees it will work, or how long it will take. My oh is really chilled, which balances my stress out nicely, but I sometimes wish we could talk about 'what if'. He says just to come to that if it happens, which is sensible I guess.

I'm still in no af but bfn limbo. Feel super nauseous, which means nothing as also af symptom! Think I hate this more than tww!

Sorry about your bfn this morning dancing but you're definitely not out yet! Are you going to try again tomorrow? Exciting!

Oh glad it's not me! And I really hope it's plain sailing for all of us! Will have a look at wellman tablets!
Those stats are reassuring as well- thanks everyone- feel a bit less mad now!

Jupiter only have two tests left! (Bought five last week!) so not sure about tomorrow. There wasn't even a tiny hint of a line this morning!

Also, surprisingly not too upset by bfn. Kind of ready for the next cycle to start!

Maybe wait until the weekend to next test so AF has chance to show tomorrow. Glad you're feeling okay though :) You never know... FX

I know I really struggle with the what ifs Buzz I am also aware that personally I will struggle throughout all the different stages of conception and pregnancy! The things I lack are really important:

Vitamin B12 - Helps with implantation
Folic Acid - Important for early development
Iron - Just very very important!!!!

I know the odds are stacked against me but I know I will (and we all will) put our most into this and we all WILL end up with a baby even if we have to have a little bit of help along the way.

So me and DH DTD last night!... He seems to have had a complete change of heart and was asking me what days we need to do this and when we will find out if it has worked etc.

The only person letting the side down atm is me with no peak/positive OPK!!!! I never thought I would say I want the TWW so much! (Still thinking this is an after effect of the possible chemical last month)

Good morning ladies,

CD31 here and half way through the tww. Feel very impatient this month. It's strange to think we're fast running out of time to have a 2017 baby!

Glad your DH is more on board now confused. Your positive opk will happen soon I'm sure. Just enjoy the shaggeroos until then.

I'm a bit worried cos DH is on antidepressants and I stupidly read the information and it said can effect fertility. But the doctor never said anything when she put him on them and she knew I had come off my pill so I am hoping they won't!

Off to work with a bit of a sore throat but it's only for an hour then I can come back and work from home for the rest of the day. I love working from home 😁😁

Wahay confused! Glad you dtd!!

Glad Your DH is on board confused... your peak will come, don't worry.

I did an OPK out of interest last night and was pretty much white, maybe slight colour. I think I get a line throughout my cycle though. Will start OPKing tomorrow on CD8 and expecting a positive next Thursday

Confused I'm sorry about lack of surge. Is there any chance you missed it? Hopefully it will come soon then dtd will be pretty well timed! Glad your dh is jumping on board! :) Have you spoken to dr/nurse re ttc? Hopefully all the what ifs we are feeling are just that, and we can forget about them once we've al got pg!

Sorry to hear about DH Seven i hope they arn't effecting his swimmers!.. i am also very jealous that you can work from home i miss doing that so much!

Thanks Buzz and Mummy

There could be Dancing i am CD16 today so if no peak by CD21 i am going to stop testing because then i will have tested for the 2 middle weeks of my cycle. It also means i would only really have a OWW lol... i think it is more likely i just have not caught it rather than it being so drastically late though... think even if i got a +tomorrow it could be CD19 which i ov which is a few days late!

Wooop for DH playing ball now confused!! Perhaps he did the man thing and go away & think about things

I'm pretty much where you are seven although this week has gone fast!

How was Zumba Tigger?

I went on a 5k run last night and done circuit training this morning, my legs are empty now, nothing left in them at all!!

Buzz i feel the same.
I have a large confession to make which makes me worry more than normal i think.....

From the ages of 16-20 i was in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. When i was 18 i got pregnant on the depo injection. Back then i was adamant i would never ever ever have children, hated the very thought of it, even more so that i knew i couldn't be tied to that bf for life. I had a termination (operation not pill) and never once felt guilt for it. BF agreed, he actually took me along to it. I didn't tell my parents although in hindsight they would have supported me (they know now). Back then i was riding 8-10 horses a day for clients. I actually rode the evening of the abortion to keep to normality & stop my mum wondering what was wrong, it was a crazy thing to do. During that operation they put in a copper coil. 6 months later i had a MMC! It seemed i was super fertile but i felt relieft that i wouldn't have to go through another termination. Anyway, eventually my dad caught my bf holding me up the wall by my throat, dad instincts kicked in and he beat up my bf, picked him up, threw him out of the front door in to the road. I never saw him again.

I often wonder if that will change things, i believe the operation is fairly invasive.... & will it be fate that it won't happen now i want it to??

Oh red I really feel for you the chances are it's all fine, but of course natural to worry. I think more people than you expect have had terminations around that age (I almost did too, actually went to the appointment then chickened out, classic teenage head in the sand).

AF is very brown and light now. So 2 days of heavy bleeding and 2 days of light so far.

I love working from home too but just got told I'll have to rein it in a bit in case other lazier people start doing it a lot

Red I'm so sorry to hear what you went through. Go and talk to your gp about your concerns, the likelihood is all is fine but they should be able to support you.

I suffered with endo when I was younger, last check showed that the pill did its job and actually retrograded it so it was just a small patch on my bowel, I also have a tilted womb so worry about conception although gyne said there should be no issues.

Zumba was good, hard core but good. Came home and had 2 glasses on wine and because I was dehydrated I've woken up with a stinker of a headache! Lots of water for me today.

2lbs on not surprising but a bit pants however hurtling towards peak ovulation so focusing on that ATM. Need to buy some pre seed or equivalent, can't find it in boots although have seen a different brand, I'm not sure I need it as a lube but a bit worried I don't seem to be producing a lot of ewcm?upping my water content considerably this week to see if that helps too.

Sorry to hear that red as others have said it's natural to worry but so many women have had terminations and go on to have successful pregnancies.

Oh Red Can I just pick you up and give you a vertual cuddle!

I bet this TTC thing is bringing up all those emotional thoughts you had put to bed years ago! I am very much pro-choice and what you did was 100% the right thing! I wouldnt think that any of those things would effect you now!! Just know that whatever happens we are here for you whenever you need us

Tigger I am using the lube from boots at the moment, I really like it to be honest. Since taking the pill I have suffered with Dryness down there and wanted to try something to stop Thrush/UTIs etc.This seems to have worked really well for me!

I think he did do the man thing Red although when he came to bed that night he woke me up trying to be all snuggly and I couldn't get back to sleep so I got up and left him in bed... I think this may have upset him enough to stop acting like the spoilt teenager he was earlier in the evening.

Sorry Danicing I missed you earlier, Yes I saw my GP and unforutantly there is very little they can do as I already max out the amount I can take of all 3 of the vitamins (B12 is an injection) so there is nothing they can do pre-conception then they will just monitor me closely afterwards to see how I am coping.

I didn't want to come back & read replies just in case you all flamed me
But thank you so much, i've wanted to say a few times 'i had X symptom when i was pregnant the first time' and things like that but haven't been able to. I still hold no guilt from my then decision, but feel happier i can mention things in our chats now, so thank you again

So what CD are you on now Grumpy?

Annoying about weightgain Tigger, but next week is a new week

I lost 1lb at weigh in this morning, i hoped for more, but a loss is a loss. I remember holding 1lb of fat in a SW class and it was massive! So i cna't be too annoyed.