Thread 23. TTC #1 - New Year, New Opportunities. Let's keep those BFPs rolling in!

[AlexiaB]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

Happy New Year! It's 2017 and it's OUR year

We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We've ditched the Gregorian calendar in favour of the TTC Cycle Day calendar, and we don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

We have a new Grad's Thread. We recently lost a whole load of ttc veterans to the good side and we're absolutely desperate to join in the fun! May 2017 lead us all to upduffed heaven and the Grad's thread, amen.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly, don't convince yourself that you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Welcome back flash!

Pyjamas love fuck it days!

Right. Must get up and go to work.

Welcome poochy!

Ugh I hear you Hep - where the fuck did Christmas go. It's absolutely freezing here, so hard to drag myself out of le bed.

Welcome supper!!!
If you have a normal BMI then you should take 4 iu a day, however if like me your BMI is over 35 (you should check this number) then you should take 5mg daily that is 5000 iu. Unless you want to take a gazillion pills then GP can prescribe - what I do is take 4000 iu of Solgar Folate (folic acid in natural form so more potent) and then a further 800 iu through my PCOS supplement Inofolic (which also contains myo-inositol).

jam

Like your "fuck it days" plan pyjamas

I also take uniquinol/co-enzyme q10 - it helps egg quality. I strongly recommend this book:

I knew I could count on you fxskip
I too am trying to talk myself down off MC fear ledge - much the same way you are.

Welcome poochy!!!

On my way to work

Its good to hear so many of you getting your tests sorted. We all know how many people get their bfp just as they start tests x

I have a case of the missing egg. Im a day 13/14 ovulater every month. Im on cd 17 now and no +ve opk. No sore boobs which i get without fail after ovulation. My opks are getting lighter if anything. This morning i have af type pains as uncomfortable as if i'm due on. Maybe it will just be a late one. Hey maybe thats a positive... my day 14 eggs didnt make babies so maybe one thats been cooked a bit longer will

Welcome poochy.
I've been lurking but don't want to baby bomb (even though I don't feel preggers at all) but to give you a little hope. I got a BFN on CD32 and got my BFP on CD34. Only DTD 4 times and possibly 5 days before ovulation. Anything is possible. Invoking Sod's law helps. X

Flash my UN was slightly different and slightly more revealing to my real identity

Thanks pyjamas I hadn't heard of that one

Welcome poochy hope you've got a BFP imminent!

EJ have you been poorly? That's the only time my egg has been delayed. Keep up the DTD!

Due this week we have me, kathrino, binky, Harriet, pug, bluebird, alexia and orangecloud. I reckon we should have 2 or 3 BFPs out of that, right? Fx for you all girls.

No jam not been poorly. Only thing out of ordinary was DH being in the accident on CD 1 but i'm not convinced thats it. Had EWCM cd 10 / 11 as normal. Maybe i just wont ovulate this month or maybe its late. Just odd as its never happened before.

Congrats again mouse! Your story gives me hope as we missed first half of FW due to stupid early ovulation!

Hope you find that egg soon EJ - they play tricks on us sometimes.

Wow! How chatty has this thread been

peaches
37 (seriously how the f*ck did that happen!)
Started ttc dec 2015
BFP Feb 2016 mc may2016
Not a hint of a bfp since!

Going to call today for gp appointment. Haven't managed to sleep last 2 nights thinking about ttc and it's literally the first thing I think about when I wake up . Have been putting off visiting my friend and her new born, need to get my act together. I'm just rather scared how upset I'll be, silly I know.

Also have started pricing private tests incase NHS is going to take an age. Have convinced myself I have left it too late and will miss out on my illusive bfp.

kwick I had a bit of a read and I have started taking ubiquinol/coq10 last cycle. Fingers welcome back flash I also remember you from earlier threads.

ej maybe the strss/shock of dh accident has thrown your cycle a bit? Bodies do strange things without us realising.

pyjamas fuck it days sound great! Think I'm going to book a comedy/drinkscan night for end of this cyule, a good laugh and night out sounds just the tonic.

london hope your doing OK

Lots of newbies, welcome everyone

sk1p glad your appointment went well. Yeh for moving forward with tests.

fx looks very interesting read the hycosy/tube flushing info. I can have it done privately for £450 (best price near me). I'm with you kathrino it gives me some sense of control. Plus I really cannot afford to loose several months this year waiting on referrals.

Sorry for posting lots of posts my phone is scrolling very slowly this morning. Like us all think it is rather sluggish to get started today .

pug harriet* hope you both had lovely birthdays

Welcome poochy, may your stay with us be short and sweet!

Peaches I promised myself that I would call the GP yesterday and then chickened out (and justified it to myself because it was the first day back and they'd be really busy...) but I will do it today too. I found it v hard when my best friend had her baby earlier this year although now he's a bit older (9 months), I'm finding it a lot easier because more of his personality is coming through rather than him being, in the nicest way!, a generic baby.

EJ, I agree that the stress may have caused a delay, even if it was right at the start of your cycle. I think that kind of shock to the system takes a while to work itself out. FX for an egg in the next few days!

High five to all my cycle buddies! I doubt very much that I'll be one of the BFPs but I'm rooting for the rest of you.

AF arrived today I thought it would. On a positive not that means this cycle was 28 so maybe a return back to normal for me??? Who mows!!!

So an update...
Age 34
TTC #1
Cycle 4
CD 1
Next AF 31 Jan

X

Morning all, Flash how could I have missed your post?!! welcome back, 2017 WILL be your year lovely.

So I'm missing ages and cycle numbers from Flash, Supper, Poochy and Eva to help with Skips stats, also any other relevant info such as mcs, tests or anything that is relevant to your story if you want to share it. If not, its no problem so don't feel like you have to tell me your life story just to be here :(

We're running at 19% grads, with 9 testers in the next 7 days so hoping Decembers luck rolls over, and keeps on rolling over

Hi Skip! No worries, the thread is moving pretty fast so it's easy for posts to get lost! Fingers crossed that 2017 is a good year for us all - we bloody well deserve it!

So stats are: Flash, 28, TTC No. 1, 1 ectopic, I'm calling it cycle 2 as we haven't tried since the last time. I'm really the Feb bus as we missed the boat this cycle, so next test date for me will be around 5th Feb. I feel like I'm in a super long 2WW just waiting to get started!

Also, I know this is probably just me being paranoid, but does anyone else (especially anyone who's had trouble getting pregnant or staying pregnant) feel like if they don't do everything absolutely perfectly that it will be their fault if it doesn't work? I'm obsessed with trying to take everything, eat or not eat everything etc etc.

flash yes! I was totally fixated on the do's and don'ts in the run up till Christmas. It was my tww and my birthday and I felt I just couldn't relax, volunteered to drive so as not to raise suspicions about passing up drinks, planned out food etc.. for Christmas based around what should and shouldn't be consumed. To be honest I feel it's getting on top of me now and I'm totally over thinking everything. But as you say, the minute af arrives know I think right back to that glass of wine, extra cuppa etc.... In reality the stress I'm putting on myself is probably doing more damage than anything else! Personally I'm the kind of person who, when faced with a problem needs to find the solution, fix it and move on. The truth is ttc simply doesn't work that way

kathrino have to admit I did laugh at your post. Same reason I never called yesterday my GP never even mentioned my mc at my last appointment (which was only a few weeks after it happened). I actually had to say to him do you realise I've just had a mc, he said yes I seen it on your notes! I was like we'll surely you ask a patient how they are? So god knows how my request for tests will go down . Not letting go him put me off though. Hope you get on better than me.

Thanks mouse that makes me feel better

I don't feel pregnant or sign of period.
No sore bbs or usual acne. Extremely bloated, few cramps and constipated. Apart from that feel fine!
Trying to forget it until the weekend and just get back to work.

missy

missy sorry AF got you

Is anyone taking bromelain supplement? I'm not sure if I should be taking it all the time or just after ovulation?

Missy -

Flash - definitely, but my GP said it was that kind of thinking that can stop it happening. He told me to stop doing all the crazy shit I was doing (my words not his) and live my life normally over Christmas. As it turned out I still got my period but who knows, maybe next cycle.

All

I'm a total stress head, hate not being able to control my body and my health so much so it has led me to really bad anxiety...my resolution this year is to take a step back, live in a the moment and to stop with the 'what ifs' and 'I need to do this to make this happens' ...it's not easy but stress and anxiety about stuff can at the end of the day make you physically ill in itself and can impact on TTC and many other things to do with your health and body.

Now I've only been TTC for 4 months so who knows this time next year if it's still not happened I might be totally freaking out but for now I'm going to relax about it all, if by summer nothing has happened I'll visit my GP and I might do a few OPKs just to figure out when exactly I do ovulate!

No harm in keeping fit and healthy but definitely not going to start obsessing over this I think it will personally do me more harm than good.

Might be easier said than done but that's how I'm starting my year!!!

Good luck to everyone else can wait to see your BFPs xx

Flash, I definitely felt a bit like that at the start but I've had months where I've done everything perfectly and it hasn't worked so I'm taking a much more relaxed attitude now. In my view, the things that will maximise my chances are the stuff that I should be doing anyway (getting enough sleep, moderate exercise, eating well, not drinking too much) so I do them for me. This is hard enough without all that additional pressure and I think that any benefits gained will be so marginal that the stress of that pressure will probably counteract them. I agree with you Peaches though that it's really hard not to want to try and control it especially if you're the kind of person who is used to be able to solve problems.

Sorry too that you had a bad experience with your GP last time Peaches, hopefully they'll be more sympathetic this time. My SIL is a GP and she has the worst bedside manner in the world so nothing surprises me anymore...have you made an appointment yet? (I haven't!)

So sorry about AF Missy