Thread 23. TTC #1 - New Year, New Opportunities. Let's keep those BFPs rolling in!

[AlexiaB]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

Happy New Year! It's 2017 and it's OUR year

We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We've ditched the Gregorian calendar in favour of the TTC Cycle Day calendar, and we don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

We have a new Grad's Thread. We recently lost a whole load of ttc veterans to the good side and we're absolutely desperate to join in the fun! May 2017 lead us all to upduffed heaven and the Grad's thread, amen.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly, don't convince yourself that you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

💐💐hippy

Skipper still plenty of time to get a BFP this cycle. Fx for you

Ah hep I hate it when you feel the progesterone decline. I hope you're wrong

Sorry gee 💐 am excited for your IVF though

I am feeling rather cross and upset today so I'm very sorry I don't have required PMA to help. DH has been drinking down route and then last night he went back to the captains hotel room as a member of the crew was upset about her dog dying. He's never done this before. I didn't know where he was and called the hotel but his bedroom phone just rang and rang. When he finally got my messages he called me and lied saying he had been in bed. This morning he told me the truth. He said he didn't even want to be there but there were a few of them there and she was very upset. I feel completely betrayed - he was drinking, he lied to me and he went back to a colleagues room. None of these are acceptable and he's never done this before. He said he's feeling very low and didn't even want to be there but had said okay because it was the captain who asked. I feel like he's just prioritised them above me. Being there and drinking was more important than being there for me and doing everything he can for our BFP.

Sorry for the vent I am just all over the place today. I feel like I don't even want to look at him let alone DTD.

I hope everyone is alright xx

Thank you Binky I will have a look!

poppet How did the employer take it ? I am worried this might happen but I do not want to put TTC on hold for this.

Well I'm out. AF arrived 4 days early while I was away celebrating my birthday. I feel utterly utterly stupid! I was convinced we had conceived this month. I spotted pink a week ago which I've never done and had cramps all week. It seemed exactly how everyone describes implantation and I was so convinced I wouldn't use the hot tub or drink a drop while we were away.

Every month I tell myself not to trust any symptoms and to wait until AF is late and then every month something different happens to me that I've never experienced making the disappointment of a BFN worse.

Having irregular cycles makes it worse because you don't even know when you're late. Sorry for the moan just feeling like shit for getting my hopes up.

On to cycle 7. New test date is the 12th Feb.

NEW THREAD

Didn't want to leave you hanging girl! See you on the new thread when I'm feeling a bit more stable. ❤️

Thanks for the flowers ladies xxx
Fx winging - sounds like your in with a great chance this cycle xxx

Jam
Sorry to hear your dh has behaved like this ... on the plus side he has never done this before and he did tell the truth albeit a little too late. I know it's hard (my ex husband used to drink) .. but at least this is a one off and I guess the men feel the pressure of tTC just as much as we do... I'm not condoning his behaviour but men do handle things differently than we do and it sounds like he really didn't mean to upset you .. eve n though he has... i would let him make it up to you and try and put it down to a minor blip xxx

Jam - if it was me, I'd be fucking fuming too! Obviously TTC is taking its toll on him more than you thought but drinking yourself silly is an awful way to cope with it. I'm sorry you're having such a rough time with him Jem - your relationship with him is very important though, don't let TTC drive a wedge between you. It seems like you're going to have to be the strong one right now xx

Woah Jam I'm so sorry! I would have been losing my mind if I didn't know where my DH was and then to find out he'd lied is just It seems like he's really taking this ttc stuff hard and is acting out of character. I just wish for your sake he'd stop the drink. Sending hugs

Welcome all newbies!

Sorry about AF pyjamas, Colour and everyone ELSE

kwick I LOVE the spell!

Sounds like you've nailed it Wing

Binky and everyone who needs them xx

Just wanted to say Geeup I'm sorry about af I know it's scary and not how you wanted ttc to be but IVF will bring you your baby/babies. It's such a positive step. Don't lose hope

Skipper hope you're healing up Beautiful ring! Sorry about the BFN today but there's still time, and if not, the HSG is going to bring you your BFP. I can feel it!

Orange absolutely fine! To be fair they can't be anything but supportive really

She was really nervous about telling them as the job was temporary and it meant that she wouldn't even get to the end of the contract but they were fine about it and very happy for her. She had been TTC for well over a year and it just showed that changing her job made all the difference.

Hope your interview goes well!

Thanks everyone for the and kind words especially alexia coming out to say hi - I've been thinking about you. I hope you're coming to terms with things. I'm also trying to see the positive that we now have a plan and something to plan around.
Jam. - I agree with what skipper said. It's really hard when your OH is behaving out of character but try not to let ttc come between you. He's likely to be acting up as he feels vulnerable because of the MFI. When you're arguing, try to imagine what you'd say if you weren't ttc - your relationship is the priority. I know easier said than done though. I hope you're ok. Look after yourself. Hope you have friends in RL you can talk to that know your OH too. X

Thanks gee 💐💐💐

Ahhhh got my first peak on my clear blue this morning!! DH is already at work - so not DTD until tonight!! I'm a little annoyed he's gone into work so early!

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I never had one positive OPK, dtd every fertile day sometimes twice and yesterday I got my BFP!!!

Congratulations mum ! now off to new thread