Thread 23. TTC #1 - New Year, New Opportunities. Let's keep those BFPs rolling in!

[AlexiaB]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

Happy New Year! It's 2017 and it's OUR year

We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We've ditched the Gregorian calendar in favour of the TTC Cycle Day calendar, and we don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

We have a new Grad's Thread. We recently lost a whole load of ttc veterans to the good side and we're absolutely desperate to join in the fun! May 2017 lead us all to upduffed heaven and the Grad's thread, amen.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly, don't convince yourself that you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

binky You're right, the ITU staff are AMAZING. That place really is the NHS at its very best. He's had brilliant care 24 hours, over the weekend (will resist the urge to start a Jeremy Hunt rant)

london I read that article as well. I think reading any stories of pregnancy and birth are really hard when you would give anything to experience it yourself. And I know what you mean about pregnancy feeling like a mythical state, TTC is so consuming that it's hard to look beyond it.

Still positive news about brother coming through. It's DH's birthday today so as everything is moving in the right direction we're going to go out for the lunch I had planned.
Just entering the TWW but I'm going to have a glass of wine, I bloody need it!

lexilou as hep said ovulation happens after +be opks so you in with the chance. There have been quite a few "less is more" bfps on here recently.

Thanks for the info re ibuprofen Jam, I'll do some research. I've never really found that paracetamol did very much for me so I'll have a look at heat patches etc too.

I haven't read the guardian article yet but one of my good friends has been quite vocal about how hard she found pregnancy and birth and how isolating and difficult she found having a small baby. I try my best to be sympathetic to her because as much as I would give anything to be in her position, whatever I'm going through doesn't diminish her feelings about her own situation but it's really shitty and really hard a lot of the time.

lexilou, as hep says, it sounds like you might have just caught it this month. Good luck!

I thought It Starts with the Egg was a great read - am now taking ubiquinol as a result.

I haven't read that article either but have read many like it and I love the unmumsy mum blog. One of the big reasons I've put off ttc is fear of losing my old life and it's taken me this long to realise that it's ok if I miss my old life future, but I'll have many things making me happy in my new life. It is hard though striving so much for a bfp and reading about those kinds of experiences.

11dpo here and still nothing! Not one sore boob or tingle in sight.

so my tww-zen like state might be slipping....

I don't trust myself symptom spotting, so am staring at my resting heartrate which has increased again .....

however, the rise also corresponds to me starting back at work so doesn't help me too much ! it also isn't as dramatic as when i had my bfp. ah well....

I've now read the article. The comment that made me laugh most was about how fond the author is of an adjective (or three). I am filing it in the category of self-indulgent twoddle.

I think it just caught me at a low point. I get that pregnancy and birth and having a small baby are not always easy. I'm just so envious of people having these things ☹️

Fx testers 🤞🏼

Glad it's good news about your brother macs

There's a fertility phone in on This Morning now - if anyone able to catch it. They are talking about trying after a mc at the moment.

As i am a geek, and like charts, I also attach the plot for my bfp and miscarriage and EPRC.

(this is also for my own record keeping).

Something just pinged up on my twitter for a discussion on male infertility on BBC Radio 5 Live at 1pm today. Not sure how much it's medical vs the emotional impact but thought it may be of interest to some.

for you Jam. Every time I read the definition of infertility being TTC for a year without success it really hits home for me that this is the reality now

Hep just stay calm. I have no idea about heartrate/pregnancy but very nice looking charts!

How many DPO are you?

Jam things like that are really a kick in the [insert appropriate reproductive organ here]. Things just get to you sometimes don't they? I'm irrationally agnry at the moment whenever my coworker talks about how amazing his 2 1/2 year old is. I feel like saying "That's lovely, and I'm pleased for you. But please stop rubbing your child in my face!" (Not literally of course).

In other happy news, AF arrived early and I feel like my uterus is being pulled out bit by bit.

flash

I am 9dpo . your resting heart rate increases by about 10bpm in your first trimester. I think it raises 1-2 weeks after ovulation.

so since you lovely ladies have banned me from boob poking, I am now staring at my plots

I had no idea about the heart rate thing, but interestingly have just started tracking mine in the last week on my SHealth app as I like recording stuff like this!
Started as my heart was feeling like it was really racing after AF had been and gone so I was a bit confused when that's normally a TWW symptom to want to check. It got up to 86 one day but now back at 60ish.

Jesus!!! I nearly got caught in a bus door just now

jam and kathrino I am not sure if I advised on the acid thing but I used to take Naproxen - I have very bad period pain and this is the only thing that has ever made a difference. I have been taking for last 25 years or so.... when I started TTC I finally read leaflet - can impact fertility!!! Gave them up... now I take liquid paracetamol and use a hot water bottle and suffer...

jam I hear you honey. I really really hope you get upduffed soon - it really is your time now!!
Note to self: stick to reading inocuous Metro!

Welcome lexi!!!
Have you tried Inofolic for the PCOS?

hep namaste!!! 🙏🏼 LSFX!!!

flash

Have had many womble pains this afternoon - hope this is a good sign boobage pain is insane!!!!

Flash

How do you track your heart rate ?

FFS Davina is cohosting This Morning! Cannot stand her!!!! Only watching to see fertility bit.

jam you & i are on the same page. You describe exactly how i feel about ttc. I really feel it will never be me. I cannot image my family chasing my toddler around or me out walking with my baby. To me its something otjer people do. I was watching house move type programme earlier and the presenter said "x &x got married, had 3 children and bought a house in cornwall" and i was generally astounded that having children sounded so normal and every day when it seems so difficult to make one.

Everytime i think of how much i want this, pain just wells up in me & feel almost like im being taken over by it. Ive spent 2 days with my pregnant friend and its hurt so bad. I'm also not going to my colleagues baby shower as i literally just cant for my own sanity. Selfish yes. Necessary yes.

Maybe we should go to a bar & get s*t faced drunk to forget it and wail together about how freaking hard it is. Or maybe we will just put on our "im a normal, sane woman" look and go to work everyday smiling when people say "anyhing to tell us?" if i eat more than normal or say im tired. Yes you are nosy and insensitive & the f**ing stalk doesnt drop babies off on demand so dont ask when im having one.

Thanks kwick, useful to know. I'll stick to paracetamol and hot baths from now I think!

for you Flash, hope you're doing okay.

I always forget how boring AF is when you're TTC...

thanks #hep#
I know how you feel #Jam# one of my best friend announced shes pregnant today really happy for her but cant help the twang of jealousy..

i havent tried infolic #kwick# what is that?

downloaded wrong This Morning episode... today's one not yet available....

lexi apologies: my phone is out of storage so no photo but take a look at www.inofolic.org.uk
"Significant benefits were enjoyed by women using two sachets per day during extensive, randomised, published studies."
Inofolic contains myo-inositol (see It starts with the egg) and folic acid - they both help normalise cellular metabolism.

Sorry af got you flash 💐💐 hope you're alright

You're right kwick I need something more innocuous to read!

God ej yes the amount of times I read or hear someone say they had children and moved here or did this or that and I think - hold up you did what? You managed to have children? How???? I have to stop myself from asking strangers with babies how long it took them to conceive. It feels utterly unattainable. Yes please to drunken bar rants about this, I've hit a ranty point I think.

My mum today going through my gran's things and found all this wool and actually said to me and my sister Maybe I'll hang onto this in case I ever get any grandchildren I might knit something! In this kind of nudge nudge wink wink way and she and my sister know I've been trying to get pregnant for over a year!! What the hell mum!! Bit my lip as she's going through all this shit.

Fx for all testers 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Thanks for all the flowers ladies. I think a bit of Heps zen has rubbed off as I just feel glad to get last month's horrid cycle out the way and move on to a new and better one.

Hep I'm going to make encouraging noises at you re the heart rate, if only because you have found a new and scientific way to symptom spot and I applaud that kind of ingenuity.

I had acupuncture today and it was so relaxing. It always makes me really tired afterwards so I'm angling for a good night's sleep.

Sorry about the guilt knitting jam. My MIL got a dog a month after my ectopic and whenever me and DH are with her, she keeps saying that now she has the dog it's feels like the family is complete . It's hard when the people you love say insensitive things as it makes you feel guilty for wanting to kick them in the shins.