TTC after miscarriage thread #7

[SayItIsntSo1]

Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

I only had pains when I passed the sac an then they did pass after that so I can't really help on that. But everybody is different. Maybe check the doctor today? Your body just needs time to re-adjust

AF caught me this morning 🙁 So I'm out until next month. Me & hubby we're hoping for a nice xmas present. Just want the wanting to be over!

Hollymae how long have you not been temping for? It's amazing how our bodies work actually but annoying when it tells us stuff we don't really want to know! Do you think you may start telling again or is all that too hard?

I've charted my cycle for about a year. I did think maybe I should stop an just let be what will be. But then I'm such a control freak I know I would sneak some temps so it would be pointless!

Anna; I had no pain for nearly 24 hours after passing the sac but it seems to have come on again and I'm finding I now need to take painkillers every 4 hours on the dot. I will see if the doctor have prescribe me any stronger pain killers today xx

littlemiss I'm sorry I can't help you on this one because my 1st mc was really early so was just like a really heavy af and the others were erpc and an induction for the late one. I hope you get some answers at the docs today. Maybe ask if it's safe to take buscopan. I had it after my first erpc as I was in loads of pain but I wasn't bleeding so idk if it's safe to take whilst you're still bleeding because it stops the cramping. If that makes sense?

say I hope your day gets better chick. I know it's hard but nothing's set in stone yet. It's not over till the witch shows

Hi anna I thought I'd stopped temping ages ago but turns out it's only been since July lol I was in loads of pain over the weekend (predicted af on ff) so I was convinced she was coming but it's all stopped! I made the mistake of testing with opks last night and this am (never used them before) total amateur when it comes to those things and got lines on them so I'm now even more confused. In actual fact I'm probably better off not doing anything and just waiting lol but this is me and I have no self control when it comes to poas lol

I don't know if we'll start telling ppl again. I doubt it tbh can't stand the constant: how's it going and do this and try that we did this and fell pg in 2 mths....

As you can tell my brain doesn't engage until after 10am and I ramble a lot before then so I shall shut up now and wish everyone a good day

Ok thank you for your advice Holly, I shall suggest that today. Anything to help me to get off the sofa :( I really need to do some Xmas shopping xx

So I'm convinced I'm pregnant...I had horrific tummy pains last night for about 20 minutes, which I think were really really bad wind, I've only ever had that once before...when I was about 3/4 weeks pregnant with my DS (I had no idea I was pregnant, and was about 8 weeks when I took a test!)...that and nausea this morning has convinced me...

It's 3 weeks today since my bleeding started with my MC, and I only got my BFN last Thursday, so I think it's probably too early to test, but I want to know before Christmas so I know if I can have a few drinks and some yummy food or not...maybe I will see if I can wait until Christmas eve..I wanted to leave it until New Year, but if I keep symptom spotting like this, there's no way I'll be able to wait!

olivers - would you feel better mentally if you just "proceeded as normal"? I know that it's a loaded question but I wonder if testing testing testing too early (with potential too early to tell results) may melt your head more than if you were to have a few beers and a pate over the next 5 days or so?

I understand where you're at: I found out I was pg two days after a wedding where I'd knocked back several proseccos and smoked a few fags. To know that must've been around when my baby stopped growing really upset me as I thought the two were linked. But my consultant told me nope, she nigh on guaranteed that it was nothing I'd done and that deterred my guilt from really taking hold.

It IS a different ball game when you think you know....but I do worry that to avoid all booze and eating selectively may draw attention that may not be good for you.

I dunno. I'm so quick to dole out advice but no good at taking it myself

Legend you're absolutely right, and I'd been thinking the same this morning. Because I found out with DS so late, I hadn't held back on my drinking and had a couple of heavy nights which worried me, but he turned out fine, and with the last pregnancy, I did everything right and it ended in MC...so just goes to show!...not sure exactly what it shows, but something!

We are going out for Christmas day lunch and I said I'd drive when we booked it as I thought I would be pregnant and still will be driving, so when we're out seeing friends it's easy and will just hold back a little while we're home..I might see if I can wait a couple of days...then again, I might have a cheeky test tomorrow morning just to see! I would like to say I'd wait, but knowing myself as I do, I probably won't!

Thing is, I could test over the weekend and it be negative, enjoy Christmas as I want to, then get a positive a few days later and feel dreadful!

Your engagement ring sounds beautiful by the way, congratulations! x

Sorry you are feeling so down say this ttc journey is so tough. Hope you will know one way or another soon, it's the waiting and hoping that are so difficult. Just try to remember you are still in with a chance.

Hope the dr is helpful for you sugar and you start to feel better soon.*
*
Sorry to hear AF showed Anna, the small consolation this cycle is the Christmas food and drink at least.

Had a static smiley on Sunday and so assumed I'd have ovd sun or yesterday however temp was quite low this morning but I've been really erratic with temping this cycle so I'm going to ignore it and perhaps just keep dtd for a few more days just incase. Anyone finding that dtd is starting to become a bit mechanical and lost its romance? Last night DH was like really? Again? And it all just felt a bit odd as I think we both knew that the only reason was because I'd had a positive opk. I am starting to wonder how much longer we can try for and maybe we need to take a break from trying but then I know in my heart I will never be able to do that.

Sorry for the essay this morning, off to finish my Christmas shopping and lunch with DH now!

I just broke down again in tears in the Doctors, I thought I was feeling better coz I didn't cry at all yesterday He has given me a 2 week sick note anyway and prescribed me for co-codamol so hopefully they will ease the pain a little better alongside the ibuprofen xx

Oh Littlemiss I'm sorry you're having a bad day, please don't feel bad about crying, it's all part of the grieving process and will make you feel better in the long run. Just take it a day at a time and do what you need to do to make yourself better. Good of the doctor to sign you off for a couple of weeks, take some time to spoil yourself a little over Christmas and New Year

Oh Sugar you poor thing. It's so so hard and it's going to take you time to come to terms with this so please be gentle on yourself. It's a confusing, lonely time & the feelings can be overwhelming but you have to let them come.

I told a friend of mine one day that I had thought I was 'over' my mmc but had then broken down like you. She told me that I would never be over it but that I would be OK and I can see now that she is right. These losses will stay with us forever cause only we understand how much we lived those tiny beans but we will be okay. From reading on this board what others have gone through, we really don't know our own strength. Mind yourself.

Thank you so much, you ladies are truly lovely genuine kind souls. You have all been so supportive and helpful; I really appreciate it.

I thought that the bleeding had come to an end, last night and this morning it just looked like old blood and was very light, like the end of a period. But since lunch time today I've started bleeding fresh blood again and I've passed another big clot so I'm not sure if there's some tissue still stuck. Epu are rescanning me tomorrow to see so hopefully that'll give me some answers xx

Sorry to everyone who's having a rubbish old day. My pattern seems to be a good day followed by a rubbish day at the moment. I'm aiming for 2 good days in a row across the Christmas weekend fingers crossed.

Littlemiss I hope your pain settles down know the clot has passed. With my last MC my pain and bleeding picked up again 5 days after I had the medical management. I passed a reasonable sized clot and then it all settled down from then on. Good that you've got a scan tomorrow to check though.

Today I managed not to POAS! Hurrah!

It's still been another tough day. AF due tomorrow from my last cycle. Not sure whether to test tomorrow and put myself out of my misery, or wait until Thurs if AF doesn't show??? Scared what my reaction will be to a BFN but then maybe I could move on and focus on the next cycle...

I'm still feeling low which has really caught me off guard as I did a lot better last month, but then I did have a ski holiday booking to distract me! It's hitting home that I would have been 7 and a half months pregnant by now and having a lovely Christmas before we became a family of 4. I didn't really contemplate I might not be pregnant again by my due date in Feb but that may be something I have to face up to.

Mrs I know what you mean about dtd becoming a bit mechanical. Even thought it's been fairly enjoyable so far I think it's reaching a tipping point where it's at risk of becoming a bit samey. We've not dtd regularly on consecutive days for years so trying to do that or every other day for a week a month is becoming a tad repetitive

Sorry you're having a rough day Little. Hope tomorrow is a better one.

I would wait until AF arrived Say. I did a few tests which were negative and decided I want testing until AF was 2 days late. I felt less gutted when I got AF cramps today as I expected it. Somehow easier than a stark white test!

I know what you mean about approaching he due date. I'm hoping to fall pregnant before my due date in April. It's hard as we don't want disappointment but we can be positive and hope. Fingers crossed it's your month this month!!

AF came for me. Should have a nice stress free FW this time with the Christmas break. Funny thing is if we conceive this cycle I'll have a very similar due date to the one I had with DS! So could have baby on his 9th birthday

This is when I massively regret that I let DH talk me out of doing a party for DS this year by promising him an extra big one next hear considering that HOPEFULLY I will be rather pregnant by then

Sorry she got you Bertie. But onwards to the next cycle. All the best.

Sorry af showed up for you Bertie fx for the next cycle.

Say I would try and hold out til Thursday if you can unless you can cope with the possibility of a bfn?

Totally get what you mean about wanting to be pregnant by your due date, I feel the same but know I can't really control it however hard I try. Try to remain positive that you will get pregnant and have another baby even if it's a much hard journey than you anticipated.

Thanks Mrs. I managed to hold out this morning. In truth that's because I couldn't get the test open, but that made me think it was probably for the best

Will definitely test tomorrow if no AF as we're doing the Christmas food and wine shop. It's only the 3 of us so no hoards of guests to pass things on to.

It may just be I'm finally settling back in to my pre MC 28 day cycle. I've given up trying to second guess it too much!

Sorry AF turned up Bertie. Glad you seem fairly positive about it though.

Hope you're feeling better today Little.

I have my fingers crossed for you Say; it would be nice to get some good news on this thread.

The pain has settled down a little thank you but I'm now taking the painkillers before I get the pain so it might just be that its a bit more controlled xxx

I just blew my nose and then had a sharp pain really low down behind my pubic bone, I'm convinced something is stuck :/ xx

Morning ladies,

Sorry af got you bertie I suppose if it's any consolation you can eat drink and be merry and not worry fx for next time chick

say you're made of stronger stuff than me! I would've been using teeth to get that test open (yes I have a problem I know lol) GL for when you do test tho

Glad you're feeling a bit better littlemiss and GL with the scan today

I'm starting to get the ump now, I hate being in limbo just want a sign that something could be happening, even if it is af trying to show up. Just, anything....

Holly I tried the teeth, it wasn't having any of it! I could have gone and got a different one but it all seemed a bit daft as I was desperate for a wee!

Boobs are still iffy. Can't help but hope it's something, but onwards is the only way if it's not.

Is it wrong that I keep an emergency test pot next to the loo just for that situation?
It's not over till the witch shows and if she does you're right, onwards is the only way or as we say in my house 'head down, chin up'