TTC after miscarriage thread #7

[SayItIsntSo1]

Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Welcome LittleMiss and so sorry to hear your sad news, it is a horrible experience anyway you go about it, sending lots of hugs and and ...

We were advised to wait until my first AF after the MC but have since found out that this is largely requested as it makes it easier for dating any pregnancy which might come about in the weeks following a MC, not for any medical reasons.

My DH and I started trying again a week after the bleeding stopped, as this was advised to limit the risk of infection..that was only 2 weeks ago for me, but my bleeding did stop incredibly quickly, within 3 days of my MVA (I would definitely recommend to anyone) so we were back on the horse (forgive me!) pretty quickly and really hoping for a New Year BFP!

Take some time for yourself though, you will be fragile for a while, it still creeps up on me now and again and takes me by surprise and I just feel overwhelmingly sad.

We're all here for you, it's such a great place to let it all out to ladies who are going through exactly what you are x

Woops. Meant trying, not crying! Although crying is a pretty common occurrence these days.

Thank you ladies; I'd definitely appreciate the flowers and wine right now

I passed the pregnancy sac yesterday and I'm only bleeding lightly now still with some mild pain so not sure how much longer it'll last?! I was advised I'm likely to get a bfn in about 3 weeks, but did anyone get it sooner?! Xxx

I got my BFN last week, exactly 2 weeks post MVA, but it was all over very quick, so I don't know if it will take a little longer with medical management?

I started taking tests about a week after though and noticed the line getting fainter and fainter, so you can see the HcG getting less and less..

I do think that TTC gives you something to work towards and to keep your mind busy with..Christmas and a couple of boozy lunches and dinners with DH have also helped, definitely get a bottle of wine in and treat yourself a little!

Hi littlemiss
I recognise you from other thread, sorry to see you here. I passed the sac last Saturday 10th and still BFP on this Saturday the 17th. Gonna check again before heading home for Xmas on Friday. Scan today at epu confirmed all but minor thickening has passed, they were very relaxed about it so I am assuming it will either just stay til next AF or will come away in a couple of days.
In terms of trying again, think we are going to leave it alone until at least after AF, for mental stability more then anything else. But everything I have read says if you want to just to go ahead. All the best with it.

I think I'm going to wait until I've stopped bleeding then begin testing every couple of days. Feels strange to think that I want a negative test :/ but at least then I can be sure it's all over and look forward xxx

Hi Little, sorry you're here.

I have taken myself to bed for a cry. Today has just been too much and I can't face getting dd ready for bed so DH has taken over. Don't know what I'd do without him.

I thought it would get easier but the 2WW is torture of the highest order. My boobs are driving me nuts. It's like a cruel joke. I thought I'd done a much better job of relaxing about it but 2/4 days before AF due and here I am again!

Sorry for all the woe is me. I'm hoping a film, tea and chocolate will sort me out of this hormonal mess

I've still got a bit of pain so I've just had a hot bath and poured myself a fruit cider whilst dp is cooking tea. Feeling slightly guilty that I'm having to rely on him so much but he understands that I need to take it easy and rest.

I'm hoping to get a sick note tomorrow as I can't face going back into work just yet, and especially after my manager told me I've got rubbish rota this year coz I'll be off next Xmas and new year (and now obviously I won't ) I would much rather be working this Xmas and new year being pregnant than having it off sick due to a miscarriage :( xx

Hi little, welcome to the group that no one wants to be in! Sorry for your loss hun

Oh say, sorry you're having a bad day. Hopefully you have a nice chilled evening and get some rest. Tomorrow is a new day and all that jazz x

So, being as there is still no sign of af here I thought I'd start checking my temps (not done it for a while due to the whole "break" thing) just to see whether they were pre/post ov. Anyway, I started taking them a few days ago just to check and... They're all PRE-OV! I'm CD 39 today and it looks like I've not even ovulated yet!!

Bloody hell Holly, that's a headmelt. At the risk of sounding flippant are you sure what you're testing with is spot on?

Also, hello to all new joiners and welcome to being part of a club of lovely people united by massively shit reasons for being here.

Nothing to add really apart from a humblebrag: got my beautiful engagement ring today and it's diamond and sapphire, very unusual Art Deco design and I bloody love it. Diamonds are DPs birthstone. As sapphire is for September is it tragically sad that I'm thinking "MAYBE ITS A SIGN" that I'll be having DC2 in 9-odd months?

desperate? Me? Noooooooo-

I'm counting each mc as one cycle and the cycle after as a cycle because mine have been fairly unchanged and we haven't stopped trying at any point.

I am feeling a bit more positive since this morning. I looked up the dates from my first pregnancy this year and I didn't get a BFP until 14dpo then, I'm only 12dpo now (according to my estimate anyway). Have decided I'm not out until AF comes. :)

Hi littlemiss so sorry for your loss.

After my MCs I didn't wait for one AF because I am impatient and I felt ready.

I also had a peek at the medical literature and couldn't see any medical benefit in waiting. It was mainly about dating. I think do what feels best for you.

Baby dust to you!

Yep legend pretty sure Even started waking up at the same old time I used to take my temp (just to make sure everything was as close to what I used to do as poss) and checking all my charts I have never had post ov temps this low. The ones I've taken over the last few days are near enough the same as all my pre ov on my old charts. I was due a stupidly long cycle anyway, my body likes to keep me guessing every month lol

Beans your engagement ring sounds gorgeous.

Just did my post-miscarriage test as it is 2 weeks since I had the medical management. I was really hoping for a bfn but the stupid thing was still positive. I really wanted to be able to try and draw a line under this before Christmas. Not impressed I'm not sure when to test again, might wait a week until all the festivities are over.

Hi little, so sorry to hear of your loss. Be kind to yourself for the next while, as the feelings may surprise you from time to time. I had my mmc in September and we started almost as soon as bleeding stopped. No joy yet but trying to keep positive (apart from the occasional meltdown of course

Your ring sounds stunning Beans congratulations!

Sorry to hear your news little. It took 3 weeks from when I started to miscarry before I got a negative test. But mine was a natural miscarriage and not medical management. The negative will come eventually! Hugs for everyone.

Thank you for all being so kind and welcoming. It's nice (if that's the right word) to know that you all understand how I'm feeling in this terrible state, I'm finding it really helpful and slightly easier to overcome this with the support from all of you.
Xxx

Hi and welcome LittleMiss. With my MMC I waited until after my first period. For my other two miscarriages we started again as son as I had a negative test.

Hugs Say. I hope that christmas give you some distraction.

Beans your ring does sound gorgeous. When I was pregnant with Rown, the baby that turned into a MMC my MIL gave me a lovely sapphire and diamond, art deco style ring that FIL had given to her. I love it even more than my engagement ring. I do feel a bit guilty wearing it right now, somehow it feels like I didn't manage to give her the grandchild I know she is desperate for, so I don't deserve it. However I know she owuld never see it that way.

Holly most people have some anovulatory cycles, this may be you getting yours out the way for the next wee while.

Emily, I hope you get your BFN soon.

Hi Brenna Yh I'm used to annov cycles. Pcos and very irregular cycles are fun like that. Mainly tho when I have them my temps are very rocky and my chart looks like mountain peaks. These one are pretty regular atm, guess I'll have to wait and see

You are definitely not on your own Misssugarplum. It's a horrible experience which nobody should have to have. I was 13 weeks when I miscarried and I had sac measuring 12 weeks but the foetus only measure 5. It was devastating. That was in October and we have had two cycles since both with no luck. I just got AF today and had convinced myself I was pregnant again. Better luck next cycle I guess! I'm convinced 2017 is going to be a better year for us and I am due to ovulate on New Year's Day so hoping it might be a brand new start.

Here if you want to talk. The emotion you are and will go through are so intense. I thought I was going to feel this dreadful forever but gradually you do come to accept it some way or another.

Thank you Anna and I'm so sorry to hear of your loss too.

I passed the sac on Sunday afternoon and I thought that the pain would have eased off by now but it keeps coming back now and again; quite sharp pains...paracetamol and ibuprofen aren't really helping too much :( I just want it all to be over now :( xxx

Little I found that after my D&C only the 500mg ibuprofen and doubling with paracetamol touched the pain and I had to get ahead of it if that makes sense. I had quite bad pains for 2-3 weeks afterwards, mostly in the mornings so I knew when to dose up. I appreciate it can be much more random times than that.

I got oral morphine in the hospital, that was amazing.

I thought I was going to have a better day but feeling very tired and low. At least I've not poas.

Just need to accept whatever comes. Still having cramps but more back pain today and boobs are continuing to make their existence known

Sorry to hear you're struggling Say. AF is due on Thursday & despite the negative test with the GP last week I can't help hoping. Have the sore boobs & crampiness I always get beforehand & zero positive symptoms. No comfort to you except you're not alone.

Say; thank you for sharing your experience. The nurse advised me I should only have stomach pains for 12 hours after passing the sac so I was beginning to worry that there is something wrong as I'm still in so much pain. It's just come on again now as I've woken up, I can't even stand up straight and I'm supposed to be at the doctors at 10.30 :/ xx