TTC after miscarriage thread #7

[SayItIsntSo1]

Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Sorry to hear you're out Bertie, glad you're looking ahead though.

This is slowest cycle ever for me, swear time is going backwards. Day 28 tmrw, def AF symptoms but even with the neg test last week I can't help hoping. Stupidly don't want to test though cause I don't want to be disappointed! Sis due baby no 2 over Christnas & trying not to be jealous, but I am and I hate that I am! I was supposed to be 6 months by now and I AM jealous - so there!!

takes a & slinks off to the naughty step....

Sorry to hear about AF Bertie. I admire your positivity! My usual attitude is to think bugger it and pour myself a large glass of wine!

No naughty step required Eden. Totally normal to feel jealous.

I've been getting my knickers in a twist. One of my best friends who has been unbelievably supportive through all of my MCs (I don't know what I would have done without her.) recently told me she's come off the pill. I have convinced myself she is going to instantly get up-duffed. Whilst it would be great for her if she does, and I would genuinely be happy for her, I can't help hoping that doesn't happen. And then I feel terrible. Sometimes I hate the person this has turned me in to!

Oh Emily I know exactly how you feel. I'm terrified that announcements might be on the cards from a few of my friends and I can't help hoping that there won't be until I have a BFP. DPs SIL is expecting a baby two days before my original due date and it makes me feel physically sick.
I think AF is making me feel more unreasonable than usual though! First AF since mc in November and still bleeding on day 9! They usually only last 5 days max - is this normal?
I don't know what this will mean for my cycle. I've never had to use ovulation kits before and don't want to start if I can help it as think I might get a bit obsessed but I have no idea when my most fertile days will be anymore.

Oh ladies, I'm so sorry for all the AFs and BFNs and disappointment over the last couple of days...it makes me sad

Any pregnant feelings I had yesterday have totally disappeared. I just feel completely normal and not pregnant now..so I didn't test this morning, I might do on Christmas Eve when DH is home and we can do it together, as I won't be doing an awful lot of drinking before then and will just take it easy over Christmas I think, if I do get a BFP over New Year then I don't think a couple of glasses of wine at Christmas will hurt too much?

I'm off to get my hair done this afternoon (early Christmas pressie from DH) and can't wait! Full head of highlights and a cut for the first time in about 12 months - it's been driving me insane the last few weeks as there's so bloody much of it!!

Sooo, no need to test tomorrow. AF showed

Trying my best to be positive that at least that's two cycles of 26 days now so maybe they're settling in to something more regular. And I can drink and be merry over Christmas.

Can't decide whether I want to chuck the towel in on 'trying' or whether to go all guns blazing on vitamins, decaf, no alcohol, saintly food... something in the middle ground is probably best...

No pressure ladies, but we could do with some BFPs soon I am desperately hoping they're contagious!

Oh say that's crap, is anyone having any luck?!

I hear you on the detox versus load yourself up with alcohol thing. Surely the booze would help me just relax And then it will surely just happen or maybe the vitamins in December will be the miracle answer to everything

Still getting rotten AF symptoms, still refusing to test just in case the reason I didn't eat my sambo at lunch is some sort of Christmas miracle!! I'm so over this tww.

Very sorry to hear that Say and hope the prospect of a festive and jolly Christmas can go some way to cheering you up? Maybe have a little blow out now and then a bit of a detox in January!

Still hopeful of a BFP here, but trying to hold off testing for a while, though it's difficult to know when to test as I have no idea when I OV'd...MC complete on 2nd December, EWCM around 10th, but am still not quite 3 weeks post MC and only got my BFN a week ago...although I guess that means if I get even a faint line there's a very good chance it's a new pregnancy rather than left over from the previous?? Going to try really hard to wait until Saturday morning to test but there's a good chance it will be tomorrow/Friday...later today!?

Bummer about the witch Bertie and say. Better luck next month. At least you can go all out for christmas now. Maybe do that, then have a saintly january. Although I am convinced that it makes no difference. The number of people I have worked with who have got upduffed easily and had perfect pregnancies while abusing every substance going.

Little that could be ligaments. Have they scanned you to see what is going on and whether there is anything left? (Sorry I could probably read back and find out but I am rushing through this on a tea break at work).

Eden you are allowed to be upset and jealous. You are not wishing her not to have it, just grieving for what you could have had. So have a great big technicolour tantrum and get it out your system.

Emily same for you. It isn't that you don't want your frined to be instantly upuffed, just that you want to be there with her. See above for advice about tantrums.

If you have had a negative then there is every chance a positive could be a new one Olivers.

5DPO here. Should I be good over christmas or not?

Brenna I am very much of the opinion that a couple of glassed of wine over christmas won't hurt...I'll probably just be giving the paté and brie a wide birth...that's if I don't have a new BFP before then..

Sorry to hear AF showed say

Brenna I'm 2dpo and will have a few glasses of wine over Christmas, I'm thinking moderation rather than all out binge though!

So whilst I thought I was 2dpo I actually think I haven't ov'd yet, have just had so much ewcm (sorry tmi) which would also go with the fact that my temp hasn't really risen after my positive opk which I did think was a bit odd! Feels like time has just gone backwards and means I'm ov'ing quite late as It's CD19 today!

What is it with all these witches turning up!

Oliversmummy do you do opks to confirm ovulation? I only ask because you said you are 3 weeks from the mc and had a negative test a week ago.

I got EWCM like 2 weeks after my mc and positive opks like 5 days in a row. However I hadn't had a negative test yet it was still fading. I didn't get a negative test until 3 weeks after. I assumed I had ovulated due to my opks and EWCM an I know you can with still some HCG in system but seems my body was tricking me. My body geared up again to ovulate a week after my negative HPT an so I didn't actually ovulated until 4 weeks after my mc and had a 6 week cycle.

Just wouldn't want you to miss it! So if your not sure maybe look out for the signs still xx

Sorry you've been got say. I vote for chucking in the towel (but maybe still pop a few vits) until the 1st of January and then turning saintly.

Anna maybe the witch thinks she's being kind by letting everyone have a boozy/cheesy/pate and cured meat filled Christmas and New Year? Does she not realise we'd all rather be up-duffed?!

Evening ladies, hope you're all ok.

I had the repeat scan and I felt so nervous and uncomfortable because it was the same room that I was told the bad news last week :( Anyway the scan went ok, the nurse just said that the lining of my womb still looks a lot thicker than it should be but that it's probably fluid or blood clots and should come away with my next period. The pregnancy sac has definitely come away which I thought it had anyway so I'm pleased that I don't need any more intervention.

I've been out Xmas shopping all day and felt so tired when I got back, and then found myself sat crying in the bath. I think I was just over tired What a horrible time of year for us to experience this. Hoping 2017 is a better year for us all xxx

Hugs littlemiss. Sounds like an emotionally exhausting day. Good news that you don't need any further intervention though. Take it easy and Fingers crossed that another BFP is just around the corner xxx

I hope we both get some positive news soon. Must be awful for you that your SIL due date is around the same time as yours would have been, fingers crossed you'll get a BFP way before then xxx

Hello all.

Just catching up. Sorry to those AF got. It's always rubbish. That sounds like such a draining day littlemiss - hugs xx

I think I had an annovulatory cycle this month as opks never showed a positive. I'm ok with that, I guess it happens, frustrating and feels like another month wasted of course. But having said that I'm still secretly hoping for a bfp. How silly is that!! You think I would know better by now. Annoyingly AF due anytime between Christmas Eve and 28th so I guess I'm just going to have to have a few glasses of wine here and there and hope for the best. I don't want to test early as I just hate seeing a negative and I've sworn this month I wouldn't!

I was drinking wine when I posted that

I was not feeling great about it earlier this week but feeling much better now even though I'm still disappointed.

Things I'm desperately hoping for:

1. That someone on this thread gets upduffed. And soon. Too many witches about for my liking.

1. That whether actively TTC, passively TTC, or recently m/c'd that some comfort can be found in wine, beer, runny cheese and pate.

1. That whatever happens to us all, 2017 will bring some kind of mental rest to us all.

Just seems appropriate for now as there's a lot of posters on here my heart is going out to right now.

But much more importantly, as terribly outing as this will be, please see pic attached of lovely engagement ring

YAYYYYY

beans that is stunning! So classy!! Congrats to you and your fiancé. Hope this is just the beginning of happy times for you both.

Still on AF watch, just come on already witch & let me be done with this. Shattered today & still crossing all my fingers - enough!!

Aww, Beans, that is absolutely gorgeous.

Those sound like good wishes to have.

Beans, I definitely like your number two xx

Aww beans that's gorgeous congrats hun x

Beans I would like to second all of your wishes.

And your ring is stunning!

Day 28.... Do I poas in the morning and ruin Christmas or wait for the witch tnrw night and ruin Christmas?!

Hope anyone who's on the runny cheese & wine are enjoying it at least