TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Bertie
Bad sleep can totally mess with your temps. Up to you? I would just pee cos it's cold and I didn't want to have to leave the house, but the compulsion to poas is strong!! Hand holding here either way, I hope it is for you.

Sorry turquoise.
At least you know for Christmas? (I realise this is not helpful but it is all I am clinging to at the moment).

I feel crappy and tearful so I don't know whether it's a good idea but OTOH it would cheer me up if it was positive

Argh :( I think I will go to the shop. I can finish DH's Christmas present off too. But I'm starting to find this TTC thing hard.

Bertie I feel your pain. By my last cycle I'm due on Weds. My boobs are killing me, I've been crampy for days and now my emotions are all over the place.

I think I know what's coming and it's not the answer we want. This just feels cruel, I never used to get sore boobs or so much cramping pre MC. And I didn't last month so I thought things had finally settled down.

I got all hopeful yesterday but checked my cervix this morning and it seems low (but closed). Surely it would be high if I was going to get a BFP.

AF over Christmas and on to cycle sodding 6 we go. If I wasn't already I would cry

Going food and wine shopping on Thurs so if I haven't got AF by then I'll poas as it's either abstaining or getting drunk whilst eating cheese and pate.

BFN, not even a squinter. Argh! I didn't mind when I thought I could tell what was going on, but apparently I can't?! And now I've tested the normal AF cramps have come on

Thanks for your message Turquoise - I feel exactly the same way. So grateful for my DD but very sad that many friends already have their DC2s and started trying after us. Sorry about your loss. I hope 2017 is our year!

Sorry Bertie, that's shit.

It's so hard to tell what is AF and what is early pregnancy. I 'knew' both times I've been pregnant and now I have exactly the same symptoms as preg' before I get AF. It's really making me doubt myself, I've always felt like I know my body quite well as it's pretty regular and routine, but not now.

Small mercy, but at least all the delights of Christmas can be had

Yes, I know :( This has really been a crap year for our family.

Sorry Bertie that's rubbish. Hope AF arrives quickly now for you so you can focus on a new cycle. It's the endless waiting, getting your hopes up and then having them slashed when AF shows or you get a BFN which is just so hard to deal with.

Sorry AF showed for you too turquoise, enjoy all the Christmas food and drink! (A small consolation but I'm taking anything I can at the moment)

CD17 here and got a peak opk yesterday, managed to dtd sat night, sun morning and hopefully will again tonight. So just about to start the tww, will test NYE if no AF by then, really going to try and hold out this cycle. What are everyone's thoughts re drinking in the tww? I'm thinking moderation is most probably ok? After all I'm not expecting a BFP so don't see any point of depriving myself of the treats in life!

Say know what you mean about wanting to cry, in fact I quite often do so your not alone. I'm starting to find it really tough too, this is cycle 10 for us.

I'm with you all, TTC is terribly hard. I finally got my BFP in November, 6 months after my early miscarriage in May, only for that to end with an ectopic. Now 12 days post surgery and waiting for cycle to kick in. I'm 36 with a 10 year old Dss and almost 3 year old Dd. If we're going to have another, I don't want there to be another huge gap (already have a large gap to cope with) so feel that we have the next few months and then that's it....

Hi everyone, is ok to join you? I just got a bfn after my miscarriage at 6 weeks which happened a fortnight ago. The irony of hoping for a bfn after TTC for so long has not been lost me , but at least means no more hospital and no ERPC.

I had a late loss at 5 months pregnant in the spring and this miscarriage was supposed to be my rainbow. It took over two years to conceive the son I lost and 7 months to conceive this last time.

I have two living children aged 5 and 7, I know the age gap will be big if I ever do get my rainbow baby but I can live with that, more than I can never having tried to get that rainbow here, if that makes any sense! I'm 38 and can't help feeling my losses are linked to my age....

I'm thinking of trying reiki and acupuncture in the new year, if anyone can recommend anything else, would be interested in any tips! In the mean time I shall be filling up on wine, pate, runny cheese and just counting down the days to wave 2016 goodbye, I shall be very pleased to see the back of it!

Good morning everyone, welcome to the newbies and so for everyone getting BFNs and AFs over the weekend

I have no idea what's going on with my cycle at the moment, am now 17 days post MVA and all I have to go on is considering the day of MVA CD1..Having said that I had loads of ewcm CD7-9 and also some more this weekend (CD14-16)...DH and I have done very well (I congratulate us heartily!) by DTD twice a day most days over the weekend (we have to make up for lost time as he works away from home during the week)...

So I am now considering myself to be in the 2ww...going to try and wait to test until after NYE...will just have to take it easy over Christmas and avoid too much non-pregnancy food...we will see!

I've been having really vivid dreams over the last couple of days though which I always get in pregnancy and have had stretchy tummy cramps too, so fingers crossed...

Hi everyone, I'm cd12 and feeling really crampy. I just wondered if anyone else felt like this before ovulation? Starting to worry that I've ovulated early and missed it

Mrs moving into cycle 10 too. It's so crap especially given that I was pregnant in cycle 1 and then lost it. I even felt slightly guilty about it happening too fast and then that the loss wasn't so bad because at least we knew it could happen fairly quickly. Apparently not! I have been under a lot of stress though since mc #2 so perhaps that is why.

Well, new year, new start. I think I'll get DH and I some more vitamins, order a bulk load of pg tests so I can amuse myself and maybe some opks as well? Writing 2016 off as a bad job.

Sorry to everyone who's had a bfn/been got by the witch these past few days.

And welcome but sorry to the newcomers.

I'm going to do my post-miscarriage pregnancy test tonight so perversely hoping for a bfn.

I'm already on the stinky cheese, pate, red wine etc. Everything I couldn't have last Christmas.

Olivers twice a day?! Thumbs up to you. Think DH and I have DTD twice in one day about twice in our entire relationship and that was way back when. Pre-TTC anyway!

I've had so many TWWs now that I abandoned not drinking during it a long time ago. Feel I need some of life's small pleasures at least. I think moderation is fine. For the first few weeks the nutrients come from the yolk sac whilst the placenta is developing.

Hi Emily DH is always up for it! Twice a day is only possible when DS is at his dad's though, as otherwise we only have evenings to DTD...it's all really making up for lost time...I know something's up though if we haven't DTD for 2-3 days, and DH will get himself in a grump...so just keeping the peace! ...not that there's nothing in it for me of course, all "clean" fun!

It's so crap isn't it Bertie. We conceived our DD first cycle so I had naively thought it would be as easy this time and We'd have a baby in time for Christmas but no baby, not pregnant and two mc instead I've been under a lot of stress too which I don't think can help.

Like you say a new year, a new start! 2016 has been pretty shit, 2017 can only be better surely!

Stark white BFN on an FRER. Wasn't fmu and I must only be 9/10dpo. I am gutted.

I had spidey sense boobs for two pregnancies, two CPs and now just ahead of a very likely AF

Are you ladies counting before your MCs as time TTC? That would put us on cycle 11 next but not sure if being pregnant for nearly 4 of them means they don't count. Is that the case?

I'm starting to think there is something wrong. I made the mistake of googling and 80% catch within 6 cycles. We've had 5 post MC now and only 2 CPs to show for it. I'm considering a GPs appointment but worried they'll just send me away for another several months.

Sorry, I know some have been trying a lot longer and had more loses. I just felt fairly positive and now a bit crushed.

Say it might not all be over yet...I got a BFN on an FRER at 10dpo and got a positive on a clear blue 2 days later...so you never know, there's still time yet...good luck!

Say
It definitely isn't over until the witch has definitely arrived. I am crossing everything for you.
But if she does come I would definitely get along to doctors. I am not sure what the views on cp are as I haven't had one, bit it is totally worth asking if you can get some checks. As I said to my OH - no harm in asking.

Hugs to all those dealing with announcements.

Welcome Cash and Mardy. Sorry about your losses.

Hugs to those getting BFNs. The eaters of souls that they are.

Well done Olivers. Although watch out - it takes 24 hours for sperm to mature, so if you DTD too many times a day you end up with only immature sperm. We are trying to keep to onnly once a day druing my fertile week. Although we DTD at least twice a day when we were away for our romantic weekend 2 weekends ago.

I ovulated on friday. The last few months since April's miscarriage I have had very wonky baselines and second halfs of the month for temperatures. They ahve been up and down and all over the place with weak rises and I have not been surprised not to get pregnant each month as they looked awful. I was starting to despair that my body was all out of whack and not going to come back from it. Ths month I have the most beautiful graph. All temps for the first 16 days were between 35.6 and 35.75. Then saturday, sunday and toda they have been 36.49, 36.48 and 36. 42. It looks like a really good cycle. I ovulated friday and we DTD thursday night. I had EWCM on thursday during the afternooon and boosted it with a bit of concieve plus thursday night. This month I feel like we have a chance. I'll be properly gutted if AF turns up - currently she is due on the 1st of January.

Now - do I drink christmas day or not?

May I join in on the thread ladies?! So sorry to hear all of your negative experiences but here's to hoping 2017 is a lucky year for us all.

I had a mmc last week, should have been 11 weeks but only measured 7 weeks and with no heartbeat So I've since had medical management and I'd like to try again as soon as my body has recovered. Fearing the worst already about TTC again as this last week has been so horrific and traumatic.

How long did you ladies leave it until you TTC again following a miscarriage?!

Sending you all lots of magical baby dust xxx

Say I second Miami that it ain't over the witch turns up. I reckon it is definitely worth a visit to your GP. I have seen other ladies who's GPs considered the chemical as a very early miscarriage and were referred to recurrent miscarriage clinic.

Welcome littlemiss. Sorry you're having to join us. With my previous 2 MCs I've started TTC again once I've had a negative test. I haven't waited until I had a period. Emotionally I just felt that I needed to start crying again asap. But everyone is different.