TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Think AF has finally arrived! However because it has started so late in the day (5pm) do I still class it as day 1? If so I shall be taking Clomid again tomorrow night !

How are you littlemiss? AF turn up for you? X

Hi littlefox, I'm glad af has finally arrived for you and that everything seems to be getting back to normal. When I took clomid I was advised that if af showed up later in the day to count the next day as cd1. So I'd probably take the clomid on thurs if I was you. Do you have to go in for an internal scan day 11 to see how many follicles are there?!
I'm cd6 today. Bleeding lasted a couple of days longer than normal for me but it seems to have stopped as of last night. Can't believe it's almost time to start trying again soon. I've ordered a clueblue digital ovulation test so I can try and track my ovulation a little better rather than using the cheap tests from eBay xx

Thank you for the information, I was never told this before so good to know. I presume I don't due to having two cycles before and falling pregnant on the second cycle. I was tracked on cycle one and because everything was looking good I didn't need it on my second cycle.

I'm glad AF showed for you in the end too :) yes I need to order some more as I realised the ones I have are now out of date! Oops! I could never get on with the cheap ones, so I prefer the clearblue ones as they are a lot clearer to read. How long are your cycles? Mines normally around 32 today but we shall see what this cycle brings. Glad we're still near each other in our cycles. :) xx

When I had clomid I went in for a scan and there were 5 follicles there so the nurse told me not to try that month because they didn't want to risk me getting pregnant with 5 babies and then I had to go in the following month for a rescan on a natural cycle (no clomid) and there was just 1 follicle so they gave me the go ahead and I got caught that month. Unsure whether the clomid the previous month kick started me to ovulate?!
Yeahh we are very close in our cycles, we shall have to keep each other updated I've never used the clearblue ovulation tests before, hoping they are easy enough to use.
Fingers crossed for us both xxx

Having a really bad day today. I've cried and cried. I feel like I do the week before my period. I hope tomorrow will be better for me.

Oh wow imagine having 5 babies! I was surprised enough when they told me i was having twins! Although we come round to the idea of having twins and got a little excited, but didn't work out for us.

Clear blue is so so easy to follow, it tells you when to start testing depending on your cycle length, then it's either a blank circle (nothing), a flashing smiley (high fertility) or solid smiley (peak - dtd as much as possible!) I'm pretty sure our lucky night was the night before my peak as I held my legs up for atleast 20 mins - sorry tmi !! But I'm pretty sure it was because of that why it happened lol xxx

Sorry you're having a bad day theotherend, maybe have an early night and I hope you're feeling better tomorrow!

Haha that made me laugh littlefox We tend to dtd as we're going to bed anyway and then I can lay down all night to make sure none spills back out lol and try to avoid the toilet until the morning if I can help it (a little more tmi than you haha).
Sounds like you're an expert on the clearblue tests, I may just be on your case throughout my cycle lol! Is it best to dtd during 'high' or 'peak'?!
I'm not convinced I ovulated between my mc and my first af so fingers crossed for a bit more luck this month xxx

So sorry your having a bad day sock. I hope tomorrow is a better one for you.

So I need someone to give me a slap please. I'm having a woe is me why is life so unfair moment. My best friend went to EPU for a scan today because she'd had pain and bleeding. Fortunately it was a good result which I am very glad about. However, I can't help but feel why does she get to go and see her lovely 8 week baby with a heartbeat having got instadiffed when in 2 years trying and multiple trips to EPU the only outcome I ever got was I'm sorry there's no heartbeat.

Such is life I suppose. Bloody unfair.

Emily

I have insanely jealous moments. I'm a children's nurse and my first day back yesterday there was a lady who was boasting that she had 9 (yes 9) children, had never worked and got more than I earn a year in benefits.

It was so difficult and she asked me if I had any children. I pretended not to hear her and went to the loo and had a bit of a cry.

I see someone pregnant or hear of someone I know announcing and I just can't help the green eyed monster rearing. I know I should be happy and I am but inside it hurts!

Glad to hear your friend is OK but I totally understand how you feel

Coming to the end of my fertile week and every ovulation stick has been low fertility why do I feel so disappointed I hope I haven't missed my chance this month xxx

Amanda
Sometimes the peak is very quick, I am sure you haven't missed your chance.
Emily
I have massively jealous moments of everyone, unreasonable ones. My sister has 4 kids that she can just about manage (financially and emotionally) and the last one was a complete accident. And I am jealous, I am jealous of how easy it was, I am jealous of the chaos in her house. I am just jealous.
I struggle with announcements.
I want to scream at people who tell me they are going to start trying when they have just done sympathising with me about my losses. And now I am on the countdown to their impending announcement as I am sure they will be upduffed any fucking minute now and I will still be here thinking when is it going to be us.
It is all just a complete pain in the arse.

Sorry to hear some ladies are having a bad day and I hope it gets better for you, I don't know at what point it gets easier yet It does seem that everyone woman and her dog are pregnant or giving birth at the moment, maybe I'm just noticing it more than normal?! A close friend is due around the time that I would have been so I think it's going to be a test of strength not to get emotional, we literally haven't told anyone other than our parents about what happened.

Have a bottle of bubbles chilling for the weekend, had a spending splurge online clothes shopping and booked a weekend trip away in a few weeks time. Distraction tactics I hope will work!

I hope this isn't inappropriate to ask, but we would really like to do something small as a memory for our little bean that never was, I was wondering if anyone has done anything or have any ideas?

Thank you in advance

Owl

I kept my first positive pregnant test and I bought a charm for a charm bracelet of mine after my miscarriage. I haven't told anyone as its a plain white glass one but I know what it signifies.

It helps me anyway....

Thanks Miami. I'm just so confused about the whole thing. Folk have said not to start using ovulation kits too early but I don't know what to do! Off on holiday on Saturday for 10 days so won't take them with me hopefully just go and enjoy.

Just can't work out why the app said this was my fertile week and & all low results lol!

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Thank you for sharing, that is such a lovely idea and something that can be kept close forever. We'd really like to do something before TTC again as it wouldn't feel right otherwise, but this seems just perfect

Thank you. It's a trollbead bracelet which I wear every day. It just seemed right to have one of the beads with me. There was a baby cherub one (ok for some but I didn't like it) so I went with the white one as we never found out if it was a boy or girl.

Hope you can think of something nice as a memory or keepsake

Sorry you've had a bad day socks! Hugs for you.

Life is very unfair sometimes Emily. Both me and DP had a cry the other night, missing all our babies, especially with so many pregnancies around us.

Littlemiss yes, it will tell you in the instructions what everything means. But the flashing smileys (I usually get about 5 days of these before my solid smiley) is just practise then the solid smiley is when your most fertile and this last for 48 hours so no need to test again, so get as much in as you can.

Xxx

Owl
I attend an evening jewellery class and made myself a stacking ring. It has the birthstones for November in topaz and citrine as we never knew if our first baby was a boy or girl. I am currently making another band with a moonstone in for my wee July baby who would have been a cancerian like me.
As claire says I like having something with me every day as a little small keepsake. My babies were tiny little humans to me and I just felt it was right to keep them with me a little bit.

We also got some special glass baubles for Christmas tree. Only the two of us know what they are for, but again just felt nice.

Amanda
Sorry for the stress, it can all be a bit complicated. Do you mind me asking when you had your mc? It can take some time for your cycle to recover and even when you think it has it can pull a double bluff on you!!
Enjoy your break and if you can at all try not to think about ttc too much. Easier said then done I know!

Hi Miami thanks so much for ur response honestly I appreciate it.

I had MMC on 22nd October then then d&c on 24th October. First AF came 5th December and was about 2 weeks long. Got AF on Jan 9th there just seemed my usual 4 day period slighty heavy but nothing major.

Xx

Thank you Miami, a really lovely idea and I'm really liking the idea of a piece of jewellery as a small memento as it will be personal so no one will know what it means. I'm also so sorry to hear about your previous losses.

We're going to sit down later and decide on what to do this weekend, DH feels we need to do something to help us move on and look towards our next few months and when we can start TTC again.

Xx

Gorgeous ring Miami! I wish I had the capability to make something like that.

I've been thinking for a long time (since after the second MC a year ago) about getting a tattoo for my MCs. I'd get 3 swallows somewhere that'd only be visible if I was wearing a bikini. Next Wednesday I'm going to the memorial service at the crematorium following my last MC. Think I might get it done afterwards but don't know if others would think it is a bit extreme? I can't wear jewellery to work but a tattoo would always be with me. Haven't even mentioned it to DH yet.

I quite like the thought of a tattoo emily86 I think it's a nice permanent reminder. I suppose it's whatever you feel is most appropriate to have but your design idea seems very personal and lovely x

I also got a ring Miami, it's a small eternity symbol and I wear it on my little finger. DH got a bracelet with the same symbol on the clasp. It's for our baby girl from the MMC in November and, for us, symbolises starting our family together and how it's all part of our journey.

We had two early losses before but this one felt different so we think of her as our first baby who we loved so much. We both like jewellery so something we can wear and have on us felt like the right thing.

Special Christmas decorations is a lovely idea. Anything that means something to you. I don't have any tattoos but I know people do that, birds is a lovely thought, so I can see how nice that would be.

Other people have little ornaments for home, which I can also see being special, but I wanted something to carry/wear.