TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

I've been through EPU with all 3 of my miscarriages. With the third I went into the ward for a day to have medical management so that the pregnancy could be sent away for testing. The ward then referred me on but I was a bit impatient waiting for the appointment and have rung the secretary a few times.

I happen to have already seen both the consultants who do the RMC clinic because I managed to get my GP to refer me for an opinion in the summer. My (many) scans in EPU indicated I may have a bicornate uterus so I was referred for further assessment of this. The GP told me she had a friend with a bicornate uterus who needed IVF so she thought it was best to just refer me. I imagine things might have been different had I seen a different GP that day.

Emily & Anne thanks. It's a tough one because I have just moved house, so new GP practice. This is my first ever appointment, so I don't know any of the GP's. Had I not moved house I could of seen my other GP who has known me since I was little, knows all my history etc. So I'm sure I could of wangled more tests with him. I have only ever had 2 MMC and 2 chemical. But I'm sure the chemical don't count as proper miscarriage. The GP just said we will do some blood tests Monday, and that I don't have to fast for them. So I don't know what they are testing for tbh. Guess I will have to ask the day of my appointment.

Hello guys. Been underground for a while but thought I'd pop up and say hello.

So here's a weird one. AF is definitely due. DEFINITELY. So I am 99% confident I'm out this month. However my PMT mentalness has been off the chart this week, much much more than normal and (TMI) I've got freakin colostrum/milk coming from my right nip (and a tiny dewdrop from the left). They're also megasensitive.

I've looked up the causes for lactating without being pregnant and yes if it continues I'll be consulting GP sharpish but I've tested, its negative and I'm now on pins waiting for AF. It's basically due now.

Ho-hum. Hate the way TTC makes you super hyper mega sensitive about your body's tiniest changes.

Hi I had a mmc at 11 weeks back in May and had a erpc end of may I have 5 children and 3 previous miscarriages before having my beautiful brood. Baby 6 was a big surprise/shock and I was left very guilty after the miscarriage. We are currently trying again though again I feel guilty as I already have 5 and my family felt complete before but now I just feel like I won't heal my soul without another though I defiantly feel I'm trying for number 7 as our sixth baby is in heart not my arms... sounds very dramatic but it's how I feel. Problem is its just not happening. With all my other pregnancies I have conceived quickly in the first month of trying but we've been trying since August but nothing any advice reasurence would be great it's tearing me up the longer it takes convinced something has changed and I'm just not able to get pregnant my gp isn't very helpful

Hi everyone. I'm feeling hopeful this morning as I've had a strong positive opk last night and this morning, exactly 3 weeks post miscarriage. This is exciting for me as I often have long annovulatory cycles with no positives, so it's a good sign! Managed to fit in dtd last night even though we're both down with stinking colds (such a glamorous business!)
Bean that does sound odd, what makes you so sure AF is coming? I can never really tell the difference between AF build up and early pregnancy
Sorry to those who've got AF in the last few days I hope this cycle brings better luck.
Hi iecgi and sorry you're here. I have also just miscarried a surprise pregnancy and had to try hard not to feel guilty for lots of things: not knowing about it until 6 weeks so drinking alcohol, not taking folic acid etc; not being aware of it and feeling that love and excitement from 4 weeks like I did with my other kids; being a bit scared and unsure when I first found out. But I know it's highly unlikely any of that made a difference to the outcome and in the end we were so happy about the pregnancy so are trying again straight away like you. It doesn't necessarily mean there's a problem if it's taking longer this time, my ds2 took 1.5 years to conceive although I do have PCOS. I think GP usually only take action after either 6 months or 12 months, depending on your age and history.

I wondered if maybe my cycle was just messed up I started out with a 31 day cycle pre baby one getting a shorter cycle after each little one until I had my youngest then my cycle was 27/ 28 days post mmc it was 25 days almost to the hour regular as a clock last month and this month both 27 days long again 😕 has this happened with any of you? After my first miscarriages I didn't try again for ages so don't know how long it took my cycle to regulate again as I went back in the pill

Hi everyone, haven't been around for a while as I was trying to enjoy Christmas with family and not filling my mind thinking about all this...the only thing that got me through was knowing I had my recurrent mc clinic appt this Thursday, just got a letter from them to say it's been cancelled though and they'll be in touch in the next few weeks. I'd already waited 5 weeks for that appt. Going to read back through the thread now. See a lot of bfp's congrats ladies!

ima I had my bloods done at the Gp too, I only went to Epu for my 1st mc, then stayed at home for the others but had them recorded at the gp's, but for mine she said to go on day 3 and day 21 of my cycle...has your gp mentioned going at certain times? It may just be a standard blood test for now that she's doing then can go on further if need be.

Oh Buddha that's so frustrating about your clinic appointment. I hope you get seen soon.

I feel in a state of total confusion. Have carried on with light brown spotting. Gave in and did another test this morning and it still said positive so don't know if this is a chemical or what is going on. I guess I'll have to wait and see what the consultant says this afternoon but I really don't want to have to start on the whole scans at EPU cycle again. Think I must be near hitting double figures with the old dildo cam.

emily the dildo lady from my hospital recognised me in the St recently .

Going to ring my gp I think and see if I can be referred to a different hospital instead. The 1 that got cancelled was the place my ds nearly died in and ended up in ncu for first 2 months of his life cos of there mistakes.

Buddha she didn't tell me to go on a specific day of my cycle no. But I have kept a note of all the dates that I have bled, so I will have them to hand if need be. I will ask what exactly are they testing for on the day & what will it achieve.
Emily could be implantation? That is light bleeding that is no where near is enough to fill a pad? But I guess just wait out. Time will tell. But it's awful being stuck in limbo with it all not knowing what's going on.
Sorry your going through all this. Why can't things just be straight forward for us hey?

Hmmmmm, not sure how I feel after my clinic appointment.

The last miscarriage happened because there was a whole extra set of chromosomes, most likely from a duff egg. The consultant said she wouldn't expect that to happen again. The first 2 happened at home so we don't know why they happened. Because the third one was because of a chromosomal problem she didn't recommend any surgery on the septum. So basically have to just keep on trying and hope for the best.

Because of the bfps/bleeding/spotting situation she scanned me. She could see something which she thinks is most likely retained tissue rather than a new pregnancy. Had bloods taken for hcg and have to ring tomorrow for results and a decision on what to do next.

So feeling a bit deflated. I was really hoping something might be suggested to make me feel we might have a better chance next time.

Och, Emily I'm sorry you feel deflated after what I'm sure must've been a pretty long wait for clinic. Buddha I'm raging on your behalf re cancelled appt.

SO af has arrived, as I guessed she would. Tomorrow I start that ov strips in earnest. I knew this month wouldn't be the lucky one but I'm still bummed out.

BUMMMMMMMMMED OUT.

That is a shame emily. I wonder if it's worth asking for a karyotype (it's a blood test) to rule out genetic markers either you or DH is potentially passing on?

Some other clues which would point to this would be if there is any history of miscarriage, difficulty conceiving or genetic issues in either of your families.

Thanks for the suggestion Bertie. The consultant seemed pretty confident that it was just one of those randomly occurring chromosomal problems rather than anything that warranted testing of DH or I. She said it was either a bad egg or 2 sperm managing to enter the egg, probably the former.

I guess I was just hoping they would say it was probably due to the uterine septum, that they'd chop it out and then all my problems would be solved. But unfortunately that wasn't to be.

Hi all, not read the thread but I've come on to update you all with my situation. I posted a while back about finding out I was pregnant. I told my mum after I posted on here and two days later had heavy bleeding and sadly miscarried again. I hadn't stopped bleeding since this mc until 6 days ago and only after having the dr give me progesterone to stop it. Now there's are queries as to why I was bleeding so much and have miscarried twice in a year. I'm having a smear next week since I've stopped bleeding and the dr has arranged an urgent ultrasound to check what's going on if anything.
So that's that. It hit me a lot harder this time as the baby was more developed as I was 10 weeks.

I don't know who had bfps and who hasn't. I don't know if I will come on here again for a while.

Best wishes to all of you xx

Limbo continues. HCG was 42. Consultant wants me to go for another blood test and scan at EPU next Wednesday. I just want a glass of wine but suppose I better not just in case. I bloody hate going to EPU.

AmyB I'm so sorry to hear that, you must be devastated. Pleased to hear your GP sounds like they're on the ball though and are pushing to get you see asap. Really hope they get some answers for you which will help you along on your baby journey.
Sending hugs and and xxx

AmyB1986 I'm sorry of your sad news, we will all be thinking of you, I hope you get some Answers!!

Sorry guys not been around much, needed some alone time haha, have been feeling emotional and worrying about everything,

Feeling a bit weird as don't feel pregnant really, sore boobs the odd twinge and tired at times but today I sorted my whole kitchen out, it was like I wasn't even pregnant!!!!

How is everyone else.. anyone hear from y?

Xx

amy that's really shit and I'm sorry things are such a headfuck.

This whole thing is a headfuck. I've had another desperate day. I'm just fucked off. I hoped this would be the month. I just want to stop thinking about it all. I try and stay off this thread but I feel it kinda helps. I'm just so done with the thinking, the twinges and the hope...it's the hope that kills.

I am doing the strips as of tomorrow - day 2 of my cycle. I just want to be able to get some more understanding of where my eggs are at. I'm also gonna book in for a smear as it's time for one, last one was Mar 2015.

I'm just so feckin depressed about this. And I feel rotten as I feel that I'm almost making out that DD isn't enough - she is. She's the best thing that ever happened. She was my surprise baby that was the perfect ending to the perfect whirlwind romance after I came out of a rotten, toxic marriage. I fell pg in June at first hit and then losing it was totally shit but I was so so confident that when I was ready then the arrow would hit the target again first, second time.

I'm just wretchedly upset today. The weathers not helping but this whole TTC thing has really shredded my brain and my anxiety is right up and alive again and I'd really rather not have that right now.

Another rant over.

So sorry to hear of your loss Amy, make sure you push for answers where you can & mind yourself.

Also been avoiding this board as I'm a bit scared of where things are going. No positive symptoms as such but some painful (although minor) cramping like when I had my mmc and I'm afraid to think about things too much. Going for early scan tmrw & trying to tell myself at least I'll know but so afraid it'll be all over again.

Delighted to see some good news for others. If anyone gets beyond the magical 12 weeks please post for hope

So sorry about your loss AmyB

I'm feeling the same as both of you Eden and Rose. I had some mild to strong cramps and twinges last week which really freaked me out as all I could do was associate it with my mc. I've had some mild nausea and sore boobs but really not much and sometimes just feel like I'm imagining things.

Feeling very anxious today as my boobs aren't sore at all and my stomach isn't feeling bloated. Feel 'normal' which is what happened last time.

Good luck for the scan tomorrow Eden please let us know how it goes and fx for you x

No I still haven't heard from why, Rose, I hope all is ok.
So sorry for your loss Amy :( Big hugs for you!!

I didn't have an implantation bleed last time, but for those of you who have had it before, what was it like?! I've just had some mucous with a tiny bit of blood in it. Or perhaps it's my first period and it's starting differently to normal with it being the first one since my mc?! Xx

Hi Littlemiss I haven't experience implantation bleed before but I did have some mucus with a bit of blood at the start of my first period after mc (I've never had mucus with blood at the start of af before this). However, don't read too much into this. Remember we're all different. It could be a good sign x

The only time we have dtd this month without condoms is the 2nd but I didn't really get a clear positive ovulation test though. Probably most likely my first af on the way. It'll be 4 weeks on Sunday since I passed the pregnancy sac. The not knowing and wondering what's happening is horrible :/ xx