TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

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Rose do not not not not not get a pup if there's a chance of a baby being in the house. From personal experience and some of my chums it makes the stress of a new baby 100x worse.

I'll shut up now xx

Littlemiss I'm so sorry you feel that way. It is never your fault. I know it doesn't help but you would find a way to blame yourself whatever had happened, as I have for my ectopic and I'm sure most people have done on here for their losses. You've done the best you can with the information you had and it will happen for you. Take the time to feel how you feel, but then remind yourself that there's only so much any of us can do to get the outcome we want.

I just feel like it wouldn't have happened if I'd continued to take the metformin. Perhaps there were other reasons too, but I can't help but think things may have been different if I'd stuck to the original advice :( xx

My DH is desperate for a dog as well but we've decided to wait until any babies we have are over 2. But we might get a cat this year.

Littlemiss Hugs. You don't know that's what caused it and it isn't as if you directly went against all advice.

Don't worry too much about symptoms coming and going Rose I'm sure it's perfectly normal and that's what I'm trying to focus on. I felt a bit queasy this morning (not for long but still hurrah!!) Trying to put my head back into positive mode and focus on each day.

Please, please don't blame yourself littlemiss. MC and the TTC lottery sucks and we all know the heart breaking reality of it. We can't drive ourselves crazy over the 'what ifs.' We just have to keep going and help each other to stay strong.

Popping back in after taking a break over Christmas from TTC as had to wait a month after my MMR jab.

Will catch up properly with how you're all doing. Have my appointment with the RMC this afternoon, no idea what to expect and have a list of questions as long as my arm. I know a couple of people on here have appointments coming up over this and next month so I'll report back on what they say and how it goes if that would be helpful.

Af is 3 days late, I even POAS yesterday though we've been super super careful this month due to the MMR. Got BFN which should have been a relief. However, I'm no longer the logical woman I once was before TTC and I was a bit sad. Stupid.

Now impatient for the witch to show so we can hopefully get back on it as soon as she's gone.

WRT the appointment, I hope they have the test results from the MVA tissue, some sort of plan of action to avoid future losses, and they don't tell us to wait any longer to try again.

Thank you Bertie and Star. At least I can try and avoid the same happening in the future and take the medication as I was originally advised, I'm going to start taking it again today.
Good luck to everyone else xx

Hi ladies,
Am I ok to join this thread? I'm trying to conceive my 3rd child after a miscarriage last June at 12 weeks 1 day gestation.

I'm currently on cd 27 on an average 28-30 day cycle. Been testing every day since 1 week past ovulation, at least when I think ovulated as I don't chart or test for it.

I'm a terrible poas addict!
I've had BFN every day on every different test going. Does that mean I'm definitely out this month? Any one had a late bfp before?

This is my 2nd cycle of us trying to conceive. I'm desperate to have a baby with my OH. We have children from previous relationships but we desperately want a child together too

Aw littlemiss completely understand where your coming from but you have to try not blame yourself. Who knows the weird ways in which the world works. Your baby will come an when it does it will be how it was meant to be hugs

This is our 2nd month properly trying since the mc. I'm now in my 2ww ☹️☹️ Really want it to be our month this month. Dunno if I can ha for the heartbreak when AF comes around!

Welcome Khalee I wouldn't say you're late love, if CD 27 of a 28-30 cycle, I would say you're still in with a shot...my bfp with my mmc didn't come until 2 days past af due, so still a chance!

Good luck today Anne hope you get the answers you need and looking forward to hearing what they have to say..

Still no AF here, will be 5 days post MVA on Friday and no more spotting since Monday (I say spotting, it was really just a couple of brown streaks in discharge when I wiped...such TMI!) so hoping we could be on for a bfp soon. Am going to try and resist testing until this Sunday at the earliest, but hopefully not til next weekend when I'll be 6 weeks post MC...we will see how I go! I can't believe I've managed to resist this long, I think it's because as much as I'm desperate to be pregnant again, I''m scared too, and also I think I want to leave it as long as possible as I found out so early last time waiting for MW appointments was horrible!

All caught up!

Lovely to see the BFP's, what lovely news. I know that it's all sorts of nerve wracking but can't wait to be there and start the next part of the process.

The lucky people who haven't experienced a loss can't begin to imagine the worry, even when you get the BFP you want, and I envy their innocence!

It's 2 months today since I found out about the mmc at 12+5. I didn't have the energy at the time to imagine what the next 2 months would be, I just knew that one day at a time was the only way to go and that DH and I would get through it if we kept talking and being close.

Milestones have been getting first af and it not being too bad (mainly as it gave me a sense things were getting back to normal), DTD just for fun and remembering life before we jumped aboard the TTC wagon, seeing my sister who came home from abroad for xmas (a trip she'd only planned so she could see my bump ), sobbing through an entire carol service (still no idea why), but actually enjoying Christmas day with everyone when all I'd done in the weeks before was dread it, making an effort to chat to the nice woman who's about 6 months pg in my office - her baby isn't my baby etc! - and now the RMC appointment today - lots of apprehension and hope....

Thanks olivers, been thinking of you. I think you're right to wait as long as you can. It might have ended as a MMC but when I last got pregnant it was straight after my previous early MC, didn't even have af. It's absolutely possible. So so hope you get your BFP x

Thanks Anne me too I don't feel particularly pregnant, headachey, spots, tiredness is all I've really got to go on other than the spotting and very mild cramping. I will try to be strong, as I realise it can take ages for AF to return after a MC, so will give her a fair chance to catch up. At the very least when she does I'll be happy that I will know where I am and can start TTC properly

Good luck with the appointment today Amne. I'll be interested to hear how you get on. The secretary is meant to be ringing me back tomorrow to get mine booked.

I'm currently dithering about whether to POAS or not. I'm now 4 weeks post-medical management. After my first MC it took 6 weeks to get AF, but only 4 after the second. Should probably just do it and get it out the way. Then I'll know if I'm alright to have a glass of wine at the weekend.

@Emily86 do you know that you ovulated? Or you were just waiting for AF to arrive?

We're all your mc medical management? I think medical management they tend to come back nearer to 4 weeks for some reason. An natural takes a while longer so maybe worth a test x

No idea about ovulation Anna. I've never gone in for OPKs. Have always just DTD every other day or so throughout the month.

Yep medical management for all 3 miscarriages. The first one dragged on a bit and I had an infection so I think that's why AF took a little longer. To be honest, I don't really want the result whatever it is. Although the we're not really trying but not preventing I know I'll be disappointed with a bfn, but if it is another bfp then it is back to anxiety and waiting for failure. And with my best friend just telling me she's pregnant, which is hard enough anyway, I don't know how I'd copy with another miscarriage. I don't really want another bfp until I've been to RMC and hopefully made a bit of a plan for the next go.

Maybe it is best to just carry on in ignorance.

Joining...I'm on this band wagon too. MMC May, 8+3, 2 chemical pregnancies since then. What the fuck is going on? Here's to hoping this year is the year!

If your not sure if you've ovulated yet Emily I would mahbe wait in ignorance until 6 weeks. An then test if nothing has happened maybe? Than blankness where you want a line to be is just too hard to bear sometimes!

I do use OPKs and have a very regular cycle. But I didn't ovulate until 4 weeks after my mmc but i mc'd naturally. But if your DTD regularly than you should hit it whatever. Xx

Hey guys, so today I still have the sore boobs but have had a little cramping... think I'm being paranoid!!

Nice to see you again oliversmummy26 what's been going on??

Thelegendofbeans - yes I know.. my dp and dd are so desperate.. but it's me and home all day!! wondering if pregnant and puppy mix...

Appointment went really well. Buddha and Miami, yours are coming up soon I think?

Got results of tests of the fetus. She was a little girl, and it's really nice knowing We've given her a name. And she was perfect, no abnormalities picked up at all.

They took a massive armful to run blood tests and we're back there in 4 weeks for the results. He did a full history - periods, cycle length, pregnancies, general health, lifestyle, past surgeries, reviewed the bloods from my booking appointment.

He said his approach is slightly beyond the normal NHS guidelines and he's going to be publishing research on it soon so there's nothing yet out there on what he does. But if the bloods come back positive (for whatever it is, it was all so quick I didn't ask a lot) when I get the next BFP I call him, get a blood test the same day, another 48 hours later, and start on daily injections. It's to help the placenta develop as he thinks that may be what went wrong.

Because of his faith in the approach, he said even if they come back negative, he recommends doing exactly the same. He said crack on and emphasised that his secretary has to be my first phone call and the drugs can't wait any time at all so to find out if I'm pg asap and tell him.

I mentioned baby aspirin and he said the injections do the same sort of thing but are a bit different. So there goes my plan of taking them secretly

Still waiting for af, he did ask if I'm pregnant when we were talking about my cycle and I said almost certainly not but he said to test soon as it might affect the test results. I'll give it till Friday and POAS again.

Hi Rose sorry I've been quiet lately, was busy at home over christmas and new year and I usually pop on when I'm cyber slacking at work as I'm sat in front of a computer all day. I don't tend to come on on my phone and DH is always hogging the home pc!

As much as I love chatting to you all, it was really nice to have some family time and not to think too much about ttc...we dtd loads though, so hopefully we could be on for a bfp soon...

Have been thinking about you all, and so happy to see so many bfps!

Anne that sounds fascinating and really positive! It sounds like it's really given you some news you needed too!

Interesting he said your injections are similar thing to baby aspirin, I think I might get on that when/if I get a bfp.

So pleased for you, lots of positive news in 2017 for us all already!

Hi girls.

I am tracking ovulation. So I don't even know the length of my cycle so every day on my Ovia app it's saying I should have a period but I don't so I put in that I don't and it changes the fertile week from December. Is that correct??? So the week I presumed I was fertile I might not have been???

Hi Anne that does sound like a really positive meeting. Where did you find your consultant? Is he in the London area?

I keep seeing things about baby aspirin come up. What is it supposed to do? Does it have to be prescribed? I'm wondering whether I should start taking it asap? I'm having lots of cramping again this afternoon

Wow Anne sounds like you've got yourself a good dr there 😊

I've heard about baby aspirin too but was told only to start taking it at 12 wks? Not sure if that's right though as I've heard of ladies taking it earlier

Amanda are you using opks, taking your bbt or just imputing af days into your app?