TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Good luck Eden keeping everything crossed for you.

I'm having one of those days where I feel gripped by fear that it's never going to happen for us which is ridiculous as this is my
first pregnancy and first MC. I'm
trying to blame it on hormones and am taking myself off for a
walk.

sorry to everyone who is worrying about lack of symptoms, until
I got pregnant I never realised what a stressful time it can be. Now I know that if I get pregnant again ok
going to be a wreck the whole
way through.

holly that's so so tough. I'm
so sorry for
your loss xx

Yh it's tough, more days than others tbh. He was our 2nd mmc ( had another mmc in the Nov after) but he was the furthest we've gotten. (DC are from XH) so it just seems that me and my OH aren't compatible or something, idk.
Oh to throw another spanner in the works.. Tmi... Just been to the loo, quite constipated, randomly thought I'd check my cervix pos. Especially after my lovely dark opk this morning. Now my cp is fairly high but I found blood at the opening 😔 nothing on tissue though. Just have to wait and fucking see.... Again!

Happy New Year ladies. Congrats to those with BFPs and sorry to those who are having a difficult time.

DH and I have decided to try again, missed FW this cycle so just 'practising' until next time. Feeling totally panicked and know I will be assuming it is going wrong again if/when I get pregnant again. But also reached a point where I want a baby more than the fear of going through it!

I know the feeling of it's never going to happen for us and I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough day Holly It sounds like we're all a bit low / anxious at the moment. Whenever I have days like this I try to tell myself it'll be better tomorrow, if I can just focus on getting through today.

Currently sat listening to some positive mindset type audiobooks. I really struggle with staying positive and I try to look at affirmations / positive quotes each day to keep me on track.

Good luck Eden I've booked myself a Drs appointment too but can't get one for a few days.

Try not to set too much store by the weeks indicator on those clearblue tests - they aren't very accurate. I know what you mean about it being reassuring but it really needs to be taken with a pinch of salt and the weeks thing can go down as well as up and it doesn't mean something is wrong.

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Hello chaps

Tested this morning (WHY - af not due until Jan 13) and it was a negative. Of course it was!

Stepping back a wee bit from here this week. I can feel my mental calm about TTC is teetering on the edge a bit and I'm down today again. Will probably be up tomorrow!

But for the rest of Jan I'm banning myself from all POAS stuff - any stick, even twigs - and "fugheddding abaahhhhd id, just like Joey from Friends.

I need a mental holiday so I'm having one but I will be back soon xx

I'd like to join in the spirit of having a shit day please.

Just found out my best friend who has been an unbelievable support is 5 weeks pregnant. After 1 month of trying. I should have just had my 12 week scan and Friday is the anniversary of my 2nd MC. Everything just feels so shit right now. I am happy for her, just so unbelievably sad for myself and DH. And jealous.

Now where's that list I made of positives that had come out of my miscarriages...........think I need to go and burn it.

Hi all
Congrats to BFP's. Thoughts and wishes with you all as it is a very hard time and the days go by so slowly. Truly hoping it works out for you.
Sorry to BFN's. January is a long month though with very little to do other then dtd??! Onwards to the next cycle.
I got my first AF since my mc yesterday. Bit worried that it hasn't been 20 days since bleeding stopped (17 days), but they did say I had small amount of thickening left when they scanned me two weeks ago so maybe it just brought it on slightly earlier.
Got our recurrent mc appointment through for February so think we are going to wait to ttc until we have had the appt. jeepers but the urge is strong to just go for it anyway.
Sorry to those having shit days. Baby bombs all over the place for us as well at the moment. Sucks. Just have to remind myself all the time that I don't know individual circumstances and some people have had a very hard time to even get this far.
Anyway back to work tomorrow. Feeling a bit panicked, AF is pretty heavy at the moment and very ill and crampy. Oh well will see how I feel.

Yes the Baby Bombs!
That's a good way to put it.

It's not been anybody that close to me but since my MMC there's been about a dozen or so pregnancies...thanks to FB, otherwise I would've been none the wiser!

It just makes me feel pretty shit- like everyone all around is having babies and I got through the MMC by telling myself that we'd be expecting again soon, and definitely by the end of last year.

How wrong I was!

Although I can't really explain- I had a little voice/gut feeling that things would no longer be as straightforward as before.

Previous 2 pregnancies were within weeks of coming off the pill, while lots of other women I knew were taking 12 months or more to fall pregnant.

This is clearly my comeuppance now!

First day back at work tomorrow after my mmc, I'm dreading it :( xx

Eugh ladies sorry to hear your all feeling a bit crap and having a shit time. I know what it all feels like! Pregnancy in friends everywhere and you just think how lucky are they!! FB is full of it too. Although Miami is right, you don't know the corcumstances of these people!

I've tried to be more positive this cycle since my AF as thinking stressing and worrying myself stupid just isn't helping. Trying to stay chilled and thinking what will be will be.

Praying I ovulated yesterday as believe I did so only 1DPO. I may lose my sanity before testing date though!

I'll join in on having a bad day. Af arrived today! I really thought this was going to be the month so feeling really down. After my miscarriage in November I clung on the the hope that I could be pregnant again by the end of the year so feeling gutted that it hasn't happened. Lots of people say you are more fertile after a miscarriage but I don't feel it.

Littlemiss I had my first day back at work today after my ectopic. It was hard, but most people knew so were sympathetic and let me talk if I needed to (I'm a bit of an information sharer) or just kept conversation on other topics.

Hope your day goes ok

I bet you feel so much better Sarah now that your first day is over. A couple of people have said they just don't know what to say to me at all and I'm worried that it'll be really awkward :( xx

People don't always know what to say. But I found it's sometimes nice for the distraction to get lost in conversations that don't surround babies and TTC etc. And for 5 minutes or so you are free of it all. It normally doesn't last long but that short relief is nice.

I'm 11 weeks on from my mc in October and I am finding as the days and weeks go by, it isn't getting easier necessarily but I've accepted it and I'm having much more good days than bad now. So hang on in ladies, it does ease xxx

I work with a girl who's 7 months pregnant too so I'm not really looking forward to seeing her, and when I went into work to take me sick note in before Xmas she avoided me and messaged me later saying she wanted to say hi but she didn't want to rub my face in it. I just hate it when it's awkward xx

Hey guys prob being paranoid but breasts not feeling as sore tonight... starting to worry its all going to go wrong 😩
I guess will just have to see if this sticky bean sticks... just haste having to go through the thought of the 3rd miscarriage in 4 months!!!
Xx

Best of luck tomorrow littlemiss. Don't put any pressure on yourself about how to behave. I realise I may sound Incredibly cold here but I actually found it reassuring to think that while people are (and absolutely all were) kind & concerned, they don't really care on the level you do (naturally) & will potter off about their business after the initial sympathies so it doesn't matter at all how you react. You just need to survive the day and you can survive anything for one day. Good luck with it anyway.

Positive test with GP again today which is reassuring. She told me not to panic unless there is blood which didn't really help given that I never saw a single drop, not even brown spotting, until after my D&C the last time. Not a single sign of trouble until the 12 week scan when there was just nothing. I seem to be in this funny space where I can just switch off from the whole thing completely. At this stage with my mmc, I was chatting to my little one & had a name for them. This time, I'm not even acknowledging the fact that I'm pregnant (Christ) & don't think I will even think about it unless & until I see a baby on a scan, and not the silent black space that was there the last time.

I'm a bit of a dreary poster - sorry all! Ny resolution to work on a more positive attitude

Thanks Eden, I know what you mean and you're right. I think once the first day is out of the way I'll feel much better.
I had a mmc too and I think I would be slightly annoyed at the doctor if they told me to only worry if I spot blood. You're going to worry no matter what, I will be exactly the same if I'm lucky enough to get pregnant again. Will they arrange for you to have an early/ reassurance scan?! Fingers crossed all will be ok this time around for you xx

My body finally did something (yay) af showed up yesterday evening so I'm now cd 2 which sounds much nicer than 50-something 😊

Positives of this are, I know now where I stand and can track this cycle of ttc again properly. I know that as stubborn as my body can be sometimes it still works! I can't think of anything more right now cos cramps are trying to kill my pma lol

I hope your first day back at work goes smoothly today littlemiss

And I hope everyone has a better day today too x 😊

Well, I'm onto 5+3 and no bleeding but like you Rose it's the boobs which are worrying me - I had clear pains and darkening in week 4 and they haven't ached in days and they seem to be getting lighter in colour each day. Plus, no other symptoms in days.

I found this website datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer.php which gives you the statistics of you having a successful pregnancy based on your age, history, etc. I'm not sure how accurate it is but it's reassuring to see the numbers

Hopefully we all have a more positive day today

StarWish1 Problem is i have no clue how far gone I am 😩 I haven't had a period since October as had 2 mc since then and this time round was hoping I would have a period but I'm pregnant again, tested on one of those clear blue things that said 1-2 weeks but I know the dr adds 2 weeks on for ov, so he'd prob date me around the 4 week mark I'm guessing...
My boobs are sore this morning but they aren't hard as they were... plus I forgot the folic acid last night as I was so tired!!!

My dd is so desperate for me to have a baby but I've kept quiet about this pregnant as last time she was upset, she's 9 this year so grown up enough to understand things.
She really wants a dog but I'm scared about coping with a puppy and being pregnant.. then thinking will it be trained for when the baby comes (if it even gets that far)

I'm hoping my skin clears up I've got some awfully painful spots 😡

How is everyone else feeling?

Sorry everyone is feeling down. the New Year can be hard even without what everyone is going through. Sarah I had surgery for an ectopic in May this year and I didn't know anyone else in real life who'd had one, but if you need to talk to anyone about it, I'm here. It's in no way better or worse than a MC but it is different.

So now I'm feeling pretty crap
I was started on metformin for pcos to help me to get pregnant before my mc by a gynae consultant and I was advised to take it until 12 weeks pregnant. Anyway when I went for my 7 week scan a fertility nurse told me it probably wasn't the metformin that got me pregnant so then I stopped taking the medication. (Yep I know I should have dismissed this information after being told different by a consultant but it was making me feel so ill and after seeing a strong heartbeat I just presumed all would be ok). I found out 4 weeks later I'd had a mmc.
Today a more senior fertility nurse rang me and told me to start taking metformin again and that there's a higher risk of miscarriage coming off the metformin too early. I'm due back in work today and I feel so guilty now :( xx