TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Hi just asking to join this thread. Sorry to hear about all your experiences hopefully 2017 is our year girls x

Had a positive test on :Sep 22nd last year. Had scan & found no heartbeat at 9 weeks. I then went on to have evac. Took 8/9 weeks to get period & it was the heaviest longest period iv ever had.

Started used OVIA app to track fertility etc but not sure of the duration of my cycle.

Anyone got any advice? Totally new to this & would appreciate any help

Welcome amanda sorry, no advice here, perhaps try opks? To give you an idea of when you ov? Ewcm is also a really good sign...you probably won't know how long your cycle will be until you have another af, but fingers x you won't have to wait that long!

Welcome to all the new comers and congrats on more bfps, just the news we needed for 2017!

beans was it sticky? Like school glue? That can be a sign of pregnancy?

Brown spotting here today, twice when I wiped, not much at all, but never had it before and hoping it might be implantation bleeding? Anyone had that before? Was it much? And brown or red?

Thanks oliversmummy26 ❤

Also being daft don't kno all abbreviations yet 🙈🙈🙈

Hey everyone,
How r u all? So had the worst sleep last night, boobs so sore and back aches like hell, only a couple of weeks in to bfp so hoping these aches don't last.
Haven't rang the dr as I feel like every time in the past I've rang the doctor and gone in I've had a miscarriage. When would you to ring the doctors?
Have felt quite emotional for some reason but I guess it's hormones. Let's fingers crossed all the ladies on here for 2017 babies!!!
It's great to be back on here and I hope this time all goes well, of course I will keep you all updated as it's nice to have the support of each other.

I'm just so scared this one is going to end up like the other two, going to the toilet wiping on the tissue and saying that dreaded blood 😩

Morning lovely ladies!

Just want to say welcome to the newbies. I'm sorry for your losses and that you find yourselves here

I'm still stuck! I'm now CD 54!! 🙄 Will it ever end?!? I got a nice dark opk this morning so hopefully my temp shoots up the next few days 😊 (started using opks 3wks ago, got a surge every week but no sustained thermal shift 😒) but this ones the darkest I've ever got so fx!!

The only thing I'm holding onto is when I got pg with my boy (19wk mmc) I ovulated on day 58! So it CAN happen this late!!

Come on ovaries I'm not greedy! I only want one egg

If I haven't said it all ready then a huge congrats to all the BFPs! I hope they're all sticky for you 🤗

Rose I had backache yesterday too seems to have eased up today though. I am terrified of it going wrong again at every little twinge! I'm not going to ring the dr until I get past 6 weeks which is when I lost the last two as stupid as it sounds I feel like it would jinx it. I'm only 4 weeks today so still so early and I can tell the next few weeks are going to drag, how far along are you?

Welcome to the newbies, sorry for your losses and that you find yourself here.

Fx for everyone in their FW or tww, hopefully 2017 will be the year of sticky beans for us all.

Fx for all you ladies with a bfp that everything goes smoothly, it must be an anxious time for you. I think I'd feel the same re: calling Dr etc and I don't think I'd be poas pre missing period either as I knew from so early and then it ended early too :(

I'm heading back to slimming world this morning, need something to focus on and psychologically I think trying to get healthier before starting to try again will help me. I think both me and OH are terrified of sex ATM so hopefully that will change 🙈

Thanks girls. Never done this before so feel totally out my depth. I have such a worry something is wrong with me. Because I had a missed misscarridge I think I'll be so anxious next time however I work in maternity so my consultant said I can go to early pregnancy for early scans so that's a bonus x

Amanda the month I got my bfp I used the ovulation sticks from eBay, found them really helpful x

Oliversmummy I had that when I had my bfp. Fx for you x

Oh really I'll have a look xxx

I had two positive days of OPK Sunday and yesterday and had a temperature shift this morning so think I am now in my 2ww and on 1DPO. Anyone else due to test around 15th Jan? I'm gonna try hold out to test until day after AF due to avoid disappointment.

We dtd last night for the first since my mc. Eeeek! Feeling excited, worried, anxious...anyone else have so many mixed emotions at this stage?! Xx

Please help ladies.
I'm a long term lurker of this thread and I need some advice / reassurance.
My background:
31, started TTC number 1 in June 2016. Pregnant in September but miscarried at just over 6 weeks. I found the thread at this point and I've been reading it daily ever since to try to keep my spirits lifted and feeling more hopeful reading the stories of others in a similar position who have gone on to BFPs and successful pregnancies.
I've gone to introduce myself so many times and not sure why I've stopped myself.
Anyway, I was one of the lucky December BFPs! Found out at 10dpo on the 20th Dec. Not even a squinter and I felt so so lucky! Clear early symptoms too - darkened nipples, slightly tender breasts, breasts felt heavy / sore when taking off bra, implantation cramps around 6dpo. I thought I'd cracked it! Carried on taking pregnancy tests over the xmas period (mental, I know!) and the lines continued to develop and be strong but the breast symptoms started to decrease.
However...I'm now 5 weeks and 2 days. Last night I had strong period like cramps in my left side (this is also the side I felt implantation cramps in) and I haven't really felt any symptoms (breast tenderness / heaviness etc) since New Years Eve. So I'm now on my 3rd day of no symptoms. This is really freaking me out. My breasts seem to be getting lighter as well and are no longer heavy (although the nipples are still darker at the mo). I think I might have had mild nausea this morning but that also could have just been me focusing on everything and driving myself crazy/sick with worry. I took a pregnancy test this morning but it wasn't FMU - still a line but lighter than the control line (had been as dark, if not darker than the control line last week).
This just feels like a repeat of last time when my symptoms disappeared and then bleeding started 2 days later. My husband and I wanted this so badly (and I know you all understand that feeling). I'm scared I'm going to lose this baby too and have to start again. How slim are our chances getting if I have a second miscarriage in a row???
I'm not really sure why I'm posting and I'm sorry for the length! Just needed to get this off my chest and share with people who might understand what I'm going through. I'm off work until Thursday and I'm currently sitting at home feeling so lost and like I have no one to talk to. DH is wonderful but he's at work and tbh I think he feels lost and scared and not sure what to say either.

MrsY87 - glad I'm not the only one!! Well the clear blue said 1-2 weeks which I'm guessing is 3-4 weeks in dr terms!!!?
Every now and again I get a little stomach twinge and I feel so anxious!!!!!

Don't buy pregnancy tests off eBay btw girls.. I bought a pack of early Ones, they were all fake and hadn't realised I was pregnant until I thought sore boobs, hungry, back ache... mmmm but negative test, went to Tesco thinking I'm gonna try a store test and clear blue said pregnant.. I have made a complaint to eBay but prob thousands of fakes on there!!

Does anyone know how many decaf coffees you can drink? May sound silly but I have a nespresso machine have bought decaf pods and not gone off coffee as yet so was wondering if i could drink my usual 4 cups a day?

Xx

StarWish1
Hi, Welcome to the thread. I can understand your anxieties we are all feeling the same, that's why we are all here supporting each other.

I think it's positive that you've had no bleeding and cramping can just be signs of your body stretching etc.
If you are concerned then maybe ring your doctor and see if you can get a blood test to test your level of HCG.

What I have found useful is the clear blue digital tests that give you the dates, it's a little cheat into finding out whether your HCG is rising, what happened with me is that the test never went past 1 to 2 weeks which is technically a month pregnant, I'm hoping this time round I will get to the point where the test will say 2 to 3 weeks..

Hope that things do work out for you :) x

Hi all, hope everyone is doing okay. Welcome newcomers, this is a lovely thread for understanding.

I'm due to go to the GP today, think I'm at 5+4 but all symptoms have disappeared since New Year's Day & had awful period like cramps last night. just trying to stay detached from it all now for the sake of my sanity.

Sending love to you Star and Eden fingers tightly crossed and know you have people here that know exactly how you feel and will be with you all the way either way. Big love x

Rose decaf is fine, drink away

Oh gosh Star and Eden it's awful isn't it?!
All of my pregnancies (full term and Mmcs) I had af like cramping in the beginning and ups and downs with symptoms. I honestly think it's normal and your body settling into the pregnancy.
But I know now what my mc symptoms are and they're slightly different cramps/pain. I don't bleed when I miscarry, very very low down dull pain in abdomen and lower back and pain on both my inner thighs. It's nothing like af cramps it's more of a bad pulled muscle ache.
I've got everything crossed for you girls. Really hope they stick for you x

Thank you for your kind words.

Holly you're right this ttc business is awful. I'm being baby bombed every couple of weeks at the moment including one friend who's due on my first due date and 3 babies born in the weeks up to Christmas. They all make it look so easy! Why can't it be that way for us?

Rose I'm reluctant to contact my doctors yet. They were really unhelpful last time when my miscarriage started. I saw 2 different Drs and found both upsetting rather than comforting. There was no mention of HCG tests last time and don't think they'll offer it.

Eden sorry you're in the same boat as me. I've had no symptoms really since New Year's Eve. I'm convincing myself my breasts are still different but think that's down to me pinching / pulling them every 2 minutes. Please let me know how you get on and I've got my fx.

Haven't been on here for a while, congrats all those who got BFPs recently!

And fingers crossed for everyone else.

6 long months since my MMC at 13 weeks last summer. The only excitement I've had are the OPKs turning positive each month!
Kind of felt like something was happening you know.

Over the last couple of weeks, I was thinking we should book a luxury holiday (not that we can afford one) or I should sell off all our baby stuff- pram/pushchair, cot & changing table.

That may guarantee a BFP soon!
Or maybe not

Just got negative pregnancy test for this month 😢 Defo thought it would be easier

Ah yes the baby bombs! They suck 😔 been bombed 4 times so far!

It's hard when you know someone who's got your due date too. Another friend of mine found out she was pg the same week I did with my boy. Our 12 wk scans were good, our midwife appts were for the same wk 16, again both good. We both had extra appts at 19 wks with the midwife, only I got a text from my friend saying how well hers went whilst I was sitting up the hospital waiting for a scan to find out why my midwife couldn't find my boys heartbeat. He was born 3 days later. I still look at her LO now and wonder what my boy would've been like. I don't think that will ever go away.

I know women who got pg first go, I also know a lady who had 26 mcs before getting her first LO. It just goes to show that everyone's journey is so very different even if our destinations are the same.

Things get hard but we plod along and find people in a similar situation to help us through the dark days, that's how I found this thread.

Sorry for the deep post, I'm in a very up/down, calm/terrified, should I/ shouldn't I kinda mood again today.

Thanks girls, sitting in waiting room now admiring pic of my new niece. She's gorgeous!!

I have decided that if I am still pregnant today then that will be enough for today. I think because it was a mmc the last time & I had been so excited & relaxed about the truly awful morning sickness & ignoring all cramps with a "chill out Eden" I'm terrified to ignore anything - or nothing - this time!! I'm staying so detached from it all though, in daylight at least. There's no hope, so no loss I guess. I truly am a basket case!!

Sorry to hear you're having a hard time HollyIt's so true about everyone having their own path to motherhood. My friends and I have all had such widely varying experiences you just never know how it will work out.

star this is such a nervous time. I don't know if hearing positive stories helps or fills you with murderous rage but a very good friend of mine bled very badly at 7 weeks & has a beautiful daughter now. You just never know. Wishing you the very best