TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

beans - beautiful ring! Wow! Congratulations. I agree with all your wishes. Me personally I'm looking forward to relaxing my diet, eating all the cheese, mince pies and most importantly wine!!!

We must be due a bfp on this thread soon...

I'd say do whatever you feel like Eden. But I'm fairly ruled by my gut instinct, so whatever feels like my first answer is usually what I end up doing

I had a proper full on meltdown last night and feel better for it. The headache and puffy eyes while doing the Christmas shop this morning at 8am was a killer though.

Today is my first day of leave and I managed a short run. I've got really out of shape and it's something I'm gradually getting an inclination to do something about. I think I'm in need of being kinder to myself and good food and exercise seems like a place to start. Plus, having been a runner for 10 years my knees are fairly unhappy if I don't keep them in some sort of shape

Also, Beans I echo that ring is stunning. Very unique.

Lovely ring!

Have any of you ladies suffered with your skin since mc? My skin had not been brilliant for a few years but I had it under control and I was clear in my 13 weeks of pregnancy. Since however it is a different story and my skin has been terrible! I'm trying to wait it out but after 10 weeks I am getting truly fed up with it!

Thanks all!

Anna my skin went whacko after my mc in Aug. Oily, greasy, red then dry dry dry...and dryness has been a "thing" ever since.

Weird.

Say I know what you mean about being kinder to yourself. My Dh and I were talking last night about how we've eaten too much lately and will of course drink too much over Christmas. I'm also an ex runner and am really feeling the need to start up again. It helps me mentally as well as physically. So once Christmas is done and I'm recovered from surgery, I'm going to give it a go.

Then hopefully it will lead to a BFP in the New Year!

Hi everyone,

Anna my forehead is mega dry since my last mmc but the rest of my skin is fine. Bit odd...

Hope you're all having a good day

I keep breaking out all on my jawline and I'm sick of it! Crazy women hormones hey!

Anna I am basically one big spot at the moment. My forehead is covered in really dry little bumps. I have gotten a nice face scrub, I think I might treat myself to a facial in January.
Any ladies been to the recurrent miscarriage clinic? Just got an outpatient appointment through for February with obstetrics, it says nothing at all on the letter! Like is it just for a chat? Or do they start in on tests straight away??

Gorgeous ring Beans very unique and beautiful.

Anna thanks for your message. I hadn't done any OPKs, was all based on ewcm about a week after MC. No symptoms of anything really now..I think I'm just going to see what happens over Christmas and might start OPKing in the new year.

As DH is only home at weekends, we're kind of limited to when we can DTD anyway! we are very good when he is home though, at least every day, if not every other. So sure we'll catch eventually...

I'm just about to finish work for Christmas and DH has just collected DS from his dad, so my two best boys are on their way home for Christmas - so excited!!!

Glad I'm not the only one Miami

Good idea oliversmummy. I think start the new year afresh. It all seems so long to wait all the time so not sure how you lovely ladies that have been waiting several cycles to fall again feel. 2017 will be all of our years!!

RANT WARNING!

Ok I'm losing my Xmas spirit. I hate being in limbo, it sucks tbh! CD 42 temps are steady pre o. So idk what to think! I was ill a while ago (nasty flu bug) so could that have delayed it? When I have anov cycles my temps are all over the place and mine atm are nice and low! I'm kicking myself for stopping temping! The last time this happened I ended up pg but not holding out much hope atm! DP is being as supportive as he can but because we don't "officially" start again until next cycle he's not understanding that we may still have a fucking small chance this cycle and being really quite chill about it!
Oh idk someone tell me I'm being unreasonable!

Sorry for the rant ladies. I'm not normally like this. I just want my body to do something even if it is af!

Thumbs up on those getting back into running. After my first 2 bfps I carried on running. With the third one I stopped with some forlorn hope it might make a difference. It didn't! Anyway, I started running again last week. I find it helpful as it gives me time for working things through in my mind and also to run off some rage! Also, I've found signing up for various 10ks and half marathons good for having something else to focus on.

Holly rant away! I've never temped or really got on board with opks so I don't really have any suggestions. But there's no such thing as being unreasonable on this thread.

The waiting is the worst, Holly. I hope you get resolution soon.

Thanks ladies, idk what got into me yesterday. Just having an off day I suppose?
Well done say and GL to the ladies who've taken up/want to start running again! I'd love to get back into it but not sure my knees would thank me after all these years!

Didn't poas this morning cause I wanted to keep the hope alive. Really regretting that now, was up all night with sick dd & think I would prefer to just know I'm out. think I need someone to take me aside and just say Eden you're out this month. This is not happening for you in 2016 - pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick & pull yourself together (Liz Taylor?!) - this is not your year. Now put on the best Christmas you can for dh & dd & think positively about how blessed you really are & how much you have already. It's over for now.

Sorry, not sure what that was! I think I'm trying to Oreo myself for disappointment.

Anyone here have any experience with clomid?

Oreo = brace! I hate Oreos!!

Oh god, I'm losing my mind!!

Oh eden.
Sounds like you don't need anyone to pull you aside, you have already done it yourself with your little chat!! Be kind to yourself.

Eden The whole not knowing thing is just awful isn't it?! Just test when you're ready hun and what will be will be. We've got Christmas to keep our spirits up this time of year at least, although I'd lost my Ho Ho Ho yesterday! The "oreo" thing put a smile on my face tho lol We'll all get through this, one way or another

Thanks Miami & Holly you two not having it very easy at the moment either. Maybe it's a good thing to release the pressure valve every so often & let it out so we can carry on like normal people in society kindness to self is key though I think, esp when you both find the time & energy to be kind to others in the middle of all this - that's a lovely thing & it's the core value I want to teach my dd & the reason I fell in love with dh, for all his flaws, he's got a kind heart.

I think I might be drunk with tiredness, nothing is coming out right this morning & im wittering on like a mad woman!!!!.

I'm digging my heels in though, just not bloody poas - let the witch do her worst!

Merry Christmas everyone

Oh gosh eden your post -well I could have written word for word. Im feeling the same. I nearly Poas this morning and then thought no, I don't want know, I'd rather keep hoping. But now I feel like I need to know so like you I can just focus on making Christmas special for DD and enjoying the holidays with DD and DH.

I'm another one running, DH bought me a running buggy so I pop DD in it and off I go. I also joined SW and have lost a stone in 6 weeks. I was heavier than I should be when I had my most recent MC and then continued comfort eating so really piled it on!

I hope no matter come what may, everyone on this thread has a happy Christmas x

Right all you running ladies are inspiring me to get going. I'll allow myself to comfort eat / enjoy Christmas and then once I'm back to work on the 3rd and all the "goodies" are gone, I am going to eat better and get out running!

Merry Christmas to all and a Happy New BFP Year!

I'm a right fat little hippo at the moment so all good examples set by the other ladies of this thread will motivate me into shifting my gut come January

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Pffffft! Bloody Google put some notification up on my phone about post-pregnancy diets. Not helpful when A) I have just had a miscarriage and B) am the heaviest I've ever been. Must work out how to turn those things off!

Arrived at my husband's aunt and uncle's house today. All his family are lovely buto the first family strop has already occurred with his Dad going to bed in a tizz after a game of articulate. I can't be bothered with playing nice this year and didn't take too kindly to his Dad calling us all ignorant! Fingers crossed it'll all be forgotten in the morning bit DH is saying he wants to go home and I'm kind of with him......

Please tell me it isn't just us and our family?!