Thread 22. TTC #1 - The one where the BFPs rolled in & long may it continue

[AlexiaB]

Calling all Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, OPK-ers, temp-ers, IUI-ers and anyone else on the TTC Bus.

We are long past cervix prodding (in fact we know where it is at any given time just by closing our eyes) and we have ditched the Gregorian calendar in favour of the TTC Cycle Day calendar. We don't do baby dust, or baby-dancing, we just keep legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate, but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face. You get kwick-cake if you behave, and talked down from the ledge when you need it.

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share....

Urgh. AF and BFN suck ASS!!!! So sorry girlies. This is a new opportunity for a cosy womb. Chant with me. And Hep, you are not out until the red lady sings!!!

Let's get our positive heads on. 2017 WILL be the year for all of us. We WILL be pregnant at some stage in 2017. We WILL be juicy and fertile. We WILL do it!! PMA PMA.

Sk1pper your egg is not bloody dissolving!! It's implanting right now, visualise, PMA!!!

I will get that damn positive OPK today

I love the positive attitude mouse WE WILL GET PREGNANT !!!

Fingers crossed for a possitive OPK today, I'm taking your advice and testing later today.. So you think It good to test around 2ish and after holding your wee for 4hours? Without any liquids? X

Ladies who opk, I don't know if I said this already but EWCM and +ve OPK can signal OV in the next 6 days, ONLY a sustained temp rise really confirms that it happened. You can get +ve sticks and EWCM and still not ovulate. My acupuncturist asked me to temp and use the OPKs but NOT at the expense of staying hydrated (think plump, juicy eggs) and getting a good sleep. So please don't dehydrate yourself for a POAS!

Hep I agree you aren't out til the red witch comes, remember Choc?! So have drinks, but alternate with water and don't go hard until AF shows up.

Loving all the PMA chaps xx

I hold for only 3 hours in the morning. I have a coffee at 9am. Wee at 10 and then test at 1pm. Have my lunch and drink water in the pm. I struggle for the last hour to hold it and even though I usually drink very little anyways I'm always thirsty the last hour too haha. Mental torture.

I stopped temping this cycle since I have other health issues that effect the readings. It's why I always say "hopefully ovulate" as the only real way to know you're ovulating is a positive pregnancy!!! (And bloods, and temp rise) lol

I never needed to hold my wee for OPKs. Always used do it as soon as I got home from work and I never had trouble getting a result around ovulation. But as I found out from my ultrasound, my bladder doesn't retain water very well so maybe thats why.

Mouse - bloody hell, okay okay my egg isn't dissolving. Ha ha

Sorry Alexia hope the b6 works for you xx

And sorry too hep all round.

To throw a spanner in the opk works. ...I've had my strongest positive opks with fmu (the cheapy onestep ones from amazon).
I too was testing in afternoon and evening and it was only when using clear blue dual once in the summer that I found out. I got a solid flashy smiley and so as I had a bit of wee left in the cup I thought I'd do a cheapy too, and bam it was so dark so quickly. This has happened on two other occasions.
Now, I test in evening and when I get a darkish line I know to test again the following morning.
If I hadn't done fmu I'd have definitely have missed my LH surge.

Thanks mouse just tested and no luck on the OPK :( I'm convinced I've ready ovulated anyway and missed it! Maybe wishful thinking haha!

Sk1.. I guess everyone is different so will have to try everything X

Thanks all. Temping really isn't for me. Opking and just regular dtd are better. But on the plus side..... Since oh has moved in properly, we are dtd-ing twice as often, so therefore I will clearly be pregnant within 4 months . Please don't counter my logic!

Thanks everyone

Skip that temp rise looks weirdly high to me. Was there a reason it jumped so much? (Bad sleep? Woke late?) How's your chart shaping up now?

Music with having such shitty cycles lately I wasn't able to test out my LP but now I know it's regularly just 9 days long. I also stupidly assumed that the b-complex I've been taking was strong enough I feel so thick and hate to think of the time I've wasted! Wish I'd never done relaxed ttc the first year as I'd have known a lot sooner about a LP defect. Did I mention I'm an idiot? Yes in my tiredness, tears and pain last night I stupidly ordered B6 and forgot all about complex. Thanks for reminding me! Just had to reorder because Holland and Barrett don't amend orders, what! Also ordered Bromelain capsules (thanks *Kwick). All quite expensive so hopefully they work. Attached a pic to show what I ordered. Yay to you being 4+5 Have you booked an early scan?

Sorry about the BFN Hep

Yay for Xmas tree We always put ours up as early as possible Dec 1st but this year I haven't bothered! Having Xmas at my parents anyway and not much to celebrate around these parts.

Welcome dangle and Amz

Good luck with the scan MrsG. Very exciting!

Pug how annoying they messed up your swab! So careless and inconvenient for you. Hope you feel better soon

Sorry about the OPK struggles ladies When it's not happening as quickly as you'd like, waiting to O is actually awful! I feel your pain. Keep at it You will get there.

Think I'm caught up and apologies if I missed anything. I feel so shit. Had a massive crying meltdown this morning and told DH I'm not the wife for him and he should go and find someone who can give him a baby! Feel like it's all my fault.

Amz - yep everyone is different, this is something that is definitely true for fertility. No wonder GPS and consultants get so confused by it all, there is soooo much to learn and so many things that can go wrong. I can't believe 20% of infertility issues are unknown. Is it just me or is this a ridiculously high figure for this day and age?

Hep - no one will counter your logic. Also, although your MC was horrible, I've heard it's fairly common to get another BFP quite soon after. Your body knows what to do now and it's ready!

Forgot the pic idiot

Xmas tree comment was to you Skipper. Sorry! God I'm really having one of those days today. Feel like going back to bed and sleeping forever. Hope your fertilised egg is making its way to your womble!

Hep sounds good to me! You'll be upduffed it no time

Nope Hep your logic is spot on. 2017 is going to be the year for all of us!

My ticket list is a little out of date - new tickets please?

YouOweMeATenner 4th Dec
Londonjam 10th Dec
ScottishLady7 16th Dec
Starmist 19th Dec
geeup 20th Dec
fxSkip 24th Dec

Any other xmas testers out there?! I'm tempted to test a few days early so that the BFN prepares me, I don't want to spend my lovely xmas eve crying my eyes out about my barren womb again

woah Alexia what did your OH say to that? I'm really sorry to hear that, we are our own worst enemies sometimes. I hope that you are feeling better for having got it out of your system, you know your DH didn't marry your uterus right? he married you!

My temp was super high, I agree, although I had slept about 4 hours longer than I normally do and I am sick (although I've been ill all week). Will try and attach new chart pic - I got crosshairs but its all a bit dubious and I've clearly missed pre-ov dtd so I am 100% out this month/year/decade

Chart?!

Skip pop me down for Christmas Day. Might as well. I'll be CD28 (if I make it that long) not that I think I'll have a nice regular length cycle lol.

I have Christmas dinner for 10 to cook so it's not like I can wallow in a BFN.

Alexia - c'mon girl, you need to put your tree up. You have lots to celebrate, your health, your strong relationship with your DH (who probably batted your comment aside) and the sticky BFP which your due imminently. Don't dwell on what could of been, think of what will be! Also decorating the house is a very healthy distraction, put on those classic Xmas tracks and just enjoy yourself.

Skip - woah you weren't kidding regarding that temp rise. Do you have a fever? Can you add me to your list for 21st Dec? Thanks xx

I know sk1 its crazy when you think about it! I didn't know it was that high to be honest 🤔

Skip Yeh those crosshairs are dubious. Being ill and waking up late increases my temp a lot. In a few days it should become clearer though. It could have happened cd19 or cd20 and you'll see it rise further now? You're not barren! It will happen again for you, I just know it. Keep dtd!

I'm lucky DH is lovely and replied along the lines of "don't be so silly! I don't care, we'll just adopt then.. I only want you!" Still doesn't make me feel better about myself I know you'll understand, it hurts so much thinking where we should be and how pregnant we should be!

Put me down for 6th Jan please.

Thanks Skipper I really appreciate it lovely. I don't feel very healthy with all these fertility issues I have! I'll see how I feel at the weekend but I wanted a bump or baby for Xmas so I can't bear to look at a tree until I have one. I have an advent calendar and that's about it

I hope so Alexia. I occasionally check my temp later in the day just to see what kind of difference it makes, and it generally doesn't change too much to be honest. It's just like everything related to ttc - you get AF and then you spend 2 weeks squinting and agonising over OPKS, then you spend two weeks squinting and agonising over temps, then you either start all over again or you spend countless weeks wondering if your bean will stick, and so on....bah. Glad to hear your DH was good about it, these feelings WILL pass.

Sk1pper no fever, goodness knows whats going on!

Anyone seen Jam Gee or Tenner?

Put me down for 1 Jan fx.... it would be a nice way to bring in the new year (pma pma)

What's bromelain alexia is that the pinapple thing?

skip can you put me down for 24th Dec please although not sure what my cycles are up to so may be way out!

Alexia

Sorry I've been a bit dramatic this morning guys. My LP shouldn't be that short on a medicated cycle so it's quite shocking really. Thanks for listening to me moan

Agree it's just one long awful waiting game Skip. Jam's having a little break as AF arrived and Gee was trying to be more relaxed I think? Not sure about Tenner. We also haven't heard from Peaches in soo long!

Yes Wing it's in pineapple core. Thought it'd be worth a try!

I'm going to get my angry determined eyes on with you Alexia!! Get that tree up!

I get you. I really do. Actually reading that last comment about having a bump or a baby really hit home. You know what I've wishes for every single New Years since 2009? A baby that year. Not happened. I was ok about it until 2013.

That Christmas was probably the worse I've had. New Years was horrible. I lost my best friend in the October aged 33, turned 30, and then had to stop TTC as I was having a horrific time at work (which eventually lead me to leaving, being out of work for 4 months and then having to delay TTC for 2 years) . I didn't want to do anything.

But you know what, losing my friend made me realise, life doesn't stop. It can't. There's no rewind, or fast forward, or pause. There is only play. And you have to play life's every little bitch move to a tee. Only you can roll your own dice. Why punish the now by being upset about the past?

I really hope you realise that this will happen for you. This is just a little bitch move beforehand.

Oh and my OPK at least had two lines today. Still not positive but better than yesterday. We'll get there.