Thread 22. TTC #1 - The one where the BFPs rolled in & long may it continue

[AlexiaB]

Calling all Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, OPK-ers, temp-ers, IUI-ers and anyone else on the TTC Bus.

We are long past cervix prodding (in fact we know where it is at any given time just by closing our eyes) and we have ditched the Gregorian calendar in favour of the TTC Cycle Day calendar. We don't do baby dust, or baby-dancing, we just keep legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate, but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face. You get kwick-cake if you behave, and talked down from the ledge when you need it.

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share....

mouse that is super wonderful amazung news. Our little thread group is rapidly decreasing in number.

We managed to dtd for the first time this cycle yesterday cd 11. Due to dh extensive injuries it was an awkward affair but bless him for trying. Not sure this will be our month as we probably wont dtd again until tomorrow and im not convinced that will be enough with starting late in my cycle. No +ve opk yet but they are getting darker.

Mouse - woah so there was probably quite a distance between your last deed and ovulation as you had a -ve opks on CD16. Incredible!

Welcome ns

Pug - funny you should mention asthma as OH and I have just spent the last hour spring cleaning our bedroom. I woke up wheezing last night which is a problem because I was taken off my inhalers a couple of years ago...have pretty much grown out of it now or so I thought. Fx it's a symptom for you, lots of people get cold like symptoms in the first few weeks.

Hi ns my last cycle was also 24 but one before 29 so not really sure when AF due this month CD25 today so did a FRER in the hope it would cover both but now not sure...

pug mouse thanks for the positivity will see how AF rolls and if nothing by this time next will do another test feel AF is lurking though so not hopeful

kwik yes anxiety sucks butt glad I am actually doing something about it now just don't let the stress of a job get you down it really is not worth it

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Hello newbies - I'm just popping by to say congrats mouse!!!! Crappy timing in terms of scans but hey, that's life! I couldn't be happier for you - and what a damn lucky thread December has been - I believe we are running at 27% grads (although I've not added newbies to the list yet) average age still 32 and average cycles before bfp is 9 - so don't lose hope! This year we've proved that dtd every day in fw isn't the holy grail after all, we've got upduffed in our least healthy month and most recent grads have all thought they were out until that magical double line. I think this shows it happens when your body is ready, no matter what your mind thinks! Have a lovely relaxing NY all - onwards and upwards for more bfps, sticky beans and healthy bodies in Jan! Xxx

I'll just have to make do with the cross ones DH got for tomorrow. Couldn't get any pink dye ones today. I don't think I'll believe it fully until ive done a few more tests.

Yay moose 😁

Congrats mouse ! What a lovely start to 2017

Congrats mouse xxxxx

Massive congrats kwick and mouse!!

Congratulations mouse !!!!!!!!

ns1348 I have endometriosis too and this cycle I have had bad cramps every day since the day I think I ovulated...

EJ your OH sounds like a real trooper

fxskip thanks for your analysis - so well done 💜

mouse that is most deinitely a line!!!

Ladies thank you all ever so much for being such a support to me in what has been a very tumultuous year.
Wishing you all a very Happy New Year!!!

mouse that's a fine looking line. Time to start believing!!

Welcome ns, so glad you decided to de-lurk and join us!

Your poor DH EJ but what a trooper! And as has been proved recently, it's not always about quantity when it comes to DTD...

pug, I'm 8DPO and didn't sleep well last night either. Maybe it's a good sign ;)

Thanks for the end of year summary skip, December has been such a lucky month. Let's hope that trend continues into Jan...

I was woken up last night with really strong cramps and they've continued on and off today. I wish at 8 DPO that I could be confident that this was a good sign but sadly it's happened a couple of times before and always led to AF arriving bang on time. Oh well, here's to 2017 being a year filled with BFPs and babies for all of us!

Mouse that's a beautiful line. Fabulous way to start 2017!

Juat wanted to say thanks to marmite, Moose, FXSkip and anyone else I may have forgotten for their words of encouragement yesterday. Keep sending Grad vibes over here ladies!

Hi Eva, hope you're ok?

Sorry about the BFN Missy Hope it's just too early for you.

Welcome NS

I had the mother of all meltdowns yesterday. I was just having one of those days where ttc was just too painful to bear. My mum was messaging me about some stuff and I wasn't in the best of moods so I was a bit short with her (not rude) and she was like 'you sound absolutely miserable'. So I replied 'of course I'm bloody miserable! You just don't and won't ever understand!' She then called me about 3 hours later and it was ok at first but we ended up having the most awful fight. It was really bad! She hung up but then decided to WhatsApp me some stuff so I let rip and basically told her she's a stupid old cow, I'd never have chosen a mother like her, she's the reason I struggle with self-confidence, weight etc, and just a load of other horrible stuff. Some of it's true though! We just don't get on. I'm a nice, caring person usually but she brings out the worst in me and riles me up. I had been properly crying my eyes out on the phone to her but all I was getting was stupid, ignorant and insensitive replies that were just winding me up! Ah well. I told her to leave me alone as she offers nothing of use to my life. So that's that.

Happy New Year everyone 2016 has been the absolute worst year of my life and I can't see 2017 being any different right now. I'm so down and depressed. Hope you all have a lovely evening.

Oh Alexia, that sounds so shit. It's really hard when you just fundamentally don't get on with someone that you're supposed to be so close to. I hope you've got something nice planned for tonight (or just a nice bottle of champagne in the fridge...). Take care of yourself

Alexia - if I could hug you right now I would be. Your mother sounds truly terrible, and if she can't provide the support a mother should then perhaps it's best you cut ties with her for a bit. If you're anything like me though this recent arguement will probably play on your mind a lot and it may be worth making up eventually, just for your own peace of mind. I'm not saying you should forgive her, just come to a mutual understanding which means you can get on with your life and focus on baby making. Sorry you've had such a shit year, my money's on you for the next BFP though so chin up xx

Thanks for the welcomes everyone.

Oh Alexia, I'm so sorry to hear that about your Mum, and that you're feeling so low. Relationships with Mums can be really tough, I know: mine has been pretty bad at times (I struggle to understand friends who just seem to get on like bessies with their Mums!). I'm really sorry she's not being more understanding. Do you have some supportive friends you can chat to about it and who're geographically close? I really hope 2017 is better for you, even though it doesn't feel like it will be right now.

Orange thanks for sharing about your endo.

pug funny we are at similar points in cycle with birthdays v soon - let's hope for great birthday gifts!

kathrino, when is your AF due? I've been having at least some cramping in uterine area most days since about 3 or 4 dpo, but don't really have much of a cycle precedent to know whether it's a good sign. Very good at reading into stuff though!

missy sorry for the BFN, hopefully it's maybe too early for us both: what cd are you on? I am dreading my AF not showing AND getting a string of BFNs as don't deal well with uncertainty - was quite relieved by AF at CD24 last time tbh, as at least I knew where I was at.

Best wishes for happy 2017s with BFPs for us all!

Happy new year ladies xxx

Congratulations to all those lucky ladies who have graduated xxx

And the biggest bestest of wishes to all those who are still tTC - especially those who are doing so under difficult and challenging circumstances.... bring on 2017 .... fack off af ... and bring on more bfp's

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Alexia so sorry to hear that. I hope you feel better soon, 2017 WILL be a better year for you.

Happy new year to everyone else, congratulations to anyone who has had a BFP and for the rest of us we will be joining them all soon, I'm sure of it!

You girls are so sweet ❤️

Kathrino that's so true, it sucks. I can only handle her in small doses as she's very volatile and doesn't think before she speaks. I've got my fx for you! I hope the cramps are a sign of something good to come.

Skipper hugs She really is! You're right it's been playing on my mind a lot today. It causes me stress but then also speaking to her causes me stress so I can't win! Even though I've explained everything to her now the first thing she asks on the phone is 'so why are you so miserable then?' I was like are you really actually asking me that after everything I've told you? She just kept saying it will happen, just relax blah blah. Told me I was getting too hysterical etc. She won't ever understand because she had 3 children in 4 years without even trying and practically everyone we know fell pregnant instantly and have loads of kids. She actually told me "it's in the genes". Well not my bloody genes is it?! She comes from a family of 9 who all have loads of children. Her brother got married and had his first son at 50+ and now has 3 healthy boys. His wife was 38+ and they needed no help at all! The babies just popped out one after the other. It's upsetting just thinking about that as the last boy was born Dec 2015. I'm past trying to get her sympathy now anyway. Thank you for your words though I actually think you're next in line

NS thank you. Sorry you have issues with your mum too. I just know I'll never be like she's been to me. If I'm ever lucky enough to have a girl, I'd love to be her best friend. I don't really have any friends here. We moved a year ago and have been busy with business and renovations since. My two best friends have been awful to me lately and basically don't even talk to me anymore so I've given up with them. So I'm quite isolated now. I really need a baby to give me a purpose in life, enjoyment and also help me make some nice mummy friends. I must sound like such a weirdo Hope you get your BFP soon lovely.

Thank you Miranda

Aaww alexia big hug. Its crap but you will be an amazing mum for knowing how not to speak to your own girl.

I get your the pain though. My friend is due in 2 weeks and it feels unbearable to think of going to see her newborn. I honestly feel it won't happen for us & every pregnancy i hear of makes me feel devastated. I have days when i feel blessed to have what i have & feel like next month might be ours & i have days when i feel like i just can't bear this. I am lucky with my life but i want a baby so much. I want my bfp.

Awww Alexia 💐💐💐💐🌸🌸you will have your time to shine.

To everyone on here Happy new year. . May everyone have their BFP in 2017.

I could have written that myself EJ. It's so tough! I really feel for you Hoping your BFP is just around the corner lovey xx

Thanks miw Hope 2017 makes all your dreams come true!

Aw alexia, I'm so sorry you've had this upset when you need support most I am sure that every one of us on here will get our BFP- it might take time or help but it will happen. And these stresses and upsets will help us to be even better mums. Know that we are here to moan at when it's feeling tough- even if RL isn't feeling supportive atm we are here and going through the ups and downs too. Really hoping 2017 is a better year

For those talking of cramps, I had the most awful cramps this morning- so much so that my DH (Doctor) nearly took me to a&e. Have felt a bit crampy last couple of days and am expecting AF on weds- ish but this morning I was nearly sick with pain, couldn't stand for almost an hour etc. And then it settled down to just bad period pains again Usually I get cramps after AF starts (couple of days in) so goodness knows what that was but hope it doesn't happen again! From reading however looks like gentle cramps can be a very positive sign- fx for you ladies!

Hello newbies and happy new year to all! May 2017 bring the blooming BFPs to all!

Binky - what you're describing used to be business as usual for me every cycle. I was having to call in sick or leave work early and I would never plan special days around AF as the pain used to write 1-2 days off completely. I've controlled it with my diet, if you find it happens more and more I can share my tips with you. Fingers crossed it's a one off though!