Thread 22. TTC #1 - The one where the BFPs rolled in & long may it continue

[AlexiaB]

Calling all Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, OPK-ers, temp-ers, IUI-ers and anyone else on the TTC Bus.

We are long past cervix prodding (in fact we know where it is at any given time just by closing our eyes) and we have ditched the Gregorian calendar in favour of the TTC Cycle Day calendar. We don't do baby dust, or baby-dancing, we just keep legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate, but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face. You get kwick-cake if you behave, and talked down from the ledge when you need it.

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share....

Kathrino oh no that's not good about DH but glad to hear he's a little better now. Get jumping on him tomorrow!

Inspector I'm sure it's fairly routine to be called back so try not to worry, best to get it checked. As you say, defo health comes first.
I'm feeling really bloated & tender. Had some mild cramps yesterday. Cramps & a bit of bloating is normal for me but on CD 2-3. I haven't got any spotting or anything yet so I'm keeping everything crossed the witch stays away.

Hippy sorry it was a BFP, maybe it's too early xx you're not out until AF shows.

Harriet that's a shame but I understand DH not wanting to risk it. 1 more month in the scheme of things isn't much, hopefully it will go quickly for you.

I'm sorry about that Blue but it's great you have a date to start IVF. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Kwick hope you're ok. FX this is the lucky cycle & it's a sticky bean.

EJ I'm sorry you're having a hard day. We all know how tough it is & you can always rant to us. Sending you a great big hug. Be kind to yourself today xx

Oh EJ, so sorry, vent away, have you spoken with anyone in RL about how you're dealing with TTC journey, it seems you're really struggling with the mental aspect. That can be really draining and can put you in a spin which is counter active for TTC. We're here to listen. Sending massive hugs. Your time will come hun. X

So, I have an awkward dilemma. My family think I'm going to make an announcement on Christmas Day. My mum keeps giving little hints and I didn't pick up on them until DH pointed it out. ARGH!! I've been trying to make it obvious I'm not pregnant but it's hard as I don't drink!!!!

I also had two awkward moments this weekend. We went for a Christmas dinner with friends on Friday and DH slipped up and mentioned a baby next year which then caused my friend to put her hands over her mouth and look at me. I then had to laugh and make a joke about it.

Second time happened last night, at a friends house and gave them a Christmas card, she opens it and says awwww no, I thought it was going to say " from x, x and bump" not that you've got a bump this early on. Well that was a laugh it off moment.

Thanks Star, I appreciate your optimism. I'm just being realistic... i need to prepare for the worse now... i was feeling so positive and now i am so freaking deflated... I have proper crashed this month, I can't stop crying... i know i want a baby, but i guess the pain of the bfn's makes you realise just how much you want it, which has to be a good thing.

Awwww Mouse - people can be so freaking insensitive, just let their remarks come in one door and out the other. My own mother is insensitive - when i told her i was trying she was like 'oh well it was easy for me, i conceived straight away'. She forgets she was 23 and i'm 37 nearly 38.... awwww mate, seriously do not listen to people.
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bluebird, you are just on the next stage of your ttc journey. I know several beautiful IVF babies, and you will meet yours soon.

Jam can you put me down for Jan 18th ?

Jam my ticket is for 25th Dec! Tested this morning because I started to get lines on opks again last night. I'm thinking I didn't ov this cycle and Im just randomly producing LH, is that a possibility?!

Thanks for those dates I've added them in.

Stick with us bluebird you could soon be onto the grads list with your treatment progressing

Hugs EJ it's so hard I know hang in there

Starmist still no af? Eek! Fx

Gosh mouse that's a lot of expectation! Perhaps walk through the door with a bottle of wine and say I'm looking forward to a few drinks

Hippy my mum said something similar to me. I'm one of four and they didn't actively 'try' to conceive any of us. She's a lot more sensitive now but it really stung when she pointed it out!

Fxskip I could be wrong but I thought we did produce LH all the time - it just peaks when we ovulate? Hmmm

I'm day 12, not feeling too optimistic about it this cycle. No OPK s yet will try and do one today. Egg due Friday and DH is away Wednesday to Saturday. Nicky if you are around I need reassuring again!! we will DTD Wednesday morning and I think I'll put a soft cup in afterwards . Then we will do it again Saturday afternoon. Not sure if egg will be on time - my period came late evening so I could have counted the next day as day one?

Is also my birthday today and DH is taking me out for lunch and an exhibition he got me a lovely watch for my birthday so other than TTC stress I'm feeling jolly! Xxx

Sounds good jam don't sweat about the egg situation - Wednesday and Saturday WILL be enough if it's to be your time - it will happen.

I think I knew that about LH but I get blanks, then faint lines then postives before OV usually. This cycle I had early lead-ups to positive, then a nearly positive last week, then lines last night and this morning. Usually I'd get blanks 4 days before AF, so I freaked and tested with 3rd MU. I guess I'll just stick to testing on xmas morning if no AF.

mouse that's so rough - I get people are excited about it but it's so insensitive. Can you take cheese since you don't drink? Or talk about taking up some extreme sport or martial art?! People are such assholes sometimes when they're trying to be nice. Only other thing for it is to say lightly 'well we're working on it - you'll be the first to know if it happens' and then tell them to shut up if they carry on?

Happy birthday Jam!!
Have a lovely day!

Mouse i think people who did not struggle to conceive do not realise that is not easy for everybody and cannot really understand or don't remember how it felt when they were trying.
London Happy birthday i hope this year brings you health happiness and a BIG FAT POSITIVE! Looking at my ovia now (hope i dont have to open it again any time soon) we dtd on cd 11 and i got positive opk on cd13 so you are in with a chance do not lose hope!!!Can't wait to have you on the grads thread :)!!

Thanks ladies. I'm not even sure it's that, I think they just assume I'll be making an announcement since I'm doing Christmas dinner for mine and DHs family. So frustrating as I know they will be staring at me all day. I'm half tempted to wind them up about an announcement and then say "Right, who wants dessert!!!!????"

London, happy birthday!! X

Happy Birthday London
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Happy Birthday Jam hope you're having a lovely day

Happy happy birthday Jam! Sounds like DH is spoiling you, as he well should!

ej what a fcuker.

Yes jam you can count day 1 from the next day if your AF came after noon

Happy Birthday jam!!!!!

mouse do it, do it, do it!!! I get so shocked by insensitivity stories posted on here!

Mouse - the insensitivity of some people astounds me. Sounds like you've still maintained the moral high ground though, well done for brushing it off. I think sometimes you just feel like exploding when this happens but your family and friends mean well so better to move it along or laugh it off as you did.

London - happy birthday to you!! I personally think you're still in with a chance as sperm can wait around for 5 days. Stay positive x

I tested and it's a BFN. I'm not due till Wednesday and I still haven't had any spotting again this cycle( yes!!). I'm also in a really good and productive mood, normally I've crashed by now from hormones. But that said, I am most definitely out - only because I got my usual temperature dropping headache this afternoon. I'm not tempting anymore I just remember the correlation. Good luck to anyone else still waiting xx

Mouse to echo what others have said that's so rude. You should wind them up, it would serve them right.

London happy birthday my angel, hope you're being spoilt rotten. Didn't someone say before (sorry I forget who) that 2 days before ovulation is the best time. You're defo not out this cycle, go for it!

Still no sign of AF, god this has been the longest day ever.

jam you're definitely still in with a chance. After being on this thread for nearly a year there have been plenty who got their bfps the month they only dtd twice.

kwick my dh has a really low sperm count. And I don't ovulate every month. Both combined mean that it's highly unlikely to get pregnant naturally. They toyed with the use of IUI but with Dh's 3rd crap SA they said it wasn't worth trying. We will have one round of IVF with ICSI on the NHS.

mouse I've found that even the people who you think will be sensitive can just say the entirely WRONG thing. If they haven't been through it they can't understand.

Happy birthday 🎉 Jem 😁

I've just done an epic catch up- sorry in advance if I've missed anyone!

Bluebird sorry about the confirmation of issues but excellent that you can start IVF in Feb. FX that part is a short journey for you and 2017 brings a BFP

Skipper I'm still hopeful for a BFP for you after the symptoms! And Kwick I have my fingers and toes crossed for you too- So want you both to get a BFP!

Mouse OMG what ridiculous comments! Let them expect all they want- just carry on as normal and ignore it all. Then come and vent to us if needed

Hep I am so sorry AF came. I hope you've gorged on wine, cheese, coffee, pate and anything else "forbidden" and well done on the PMA re: cycles being on time

EJ I'm so sorry you're having a down day. We all have them, vent away

Ah kathrino hope your DH is feeling better and you've managed to get some DTD in

Penguin I had to have a colposcopy a few years back and all has been fine since- hope it doesn't get in the way of TTC for you this month

Hi star I agree about Christmas distraction, need something like this every month LSFX for good news from you soon!

Fxskip fx for a Christmas morning BFP! It's so frustrating that our bodies keep us guessing all the time isn't it

London HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Hope you've had an awesome day! I think your DTD plan sounds good- should cover early/ late ov. Also, can I be added for the 5th please?

Harriet I'm sure I'll be here next month when you "properly" join us- Although waiting is frustrating it sounds like a good plan. Fx you won't have much waiting to do afterwards!

I'm CD17 today, not using OPKs this month just going for the every other day approach. It's going reasonably well so far (2 lots of 3 day gaps but I'll take that with his dodgy knee and shifts) so hoping a relaxed approach might be a winner. I'm so so ready for a BFP!

Thanks ladies. It's difficult isn't it. I think my mum definitely knows I'm trying. She's the most amazing mum and she has good intuition and she's totally seen my folic acid, pre-pregnancy vitamins hiding in the kitchen and OPK sticks in the bathroom bin... because she emptied it for me when she went for a wee!! Pahahahahaha. She can't wait to be a nanna so I just know she's being hopeful. Friends on Friday actually have been trying for 2 years for a second child so again just hopeful but friends from last night I think know we're trying from DH and his blabbermouth. We don't hide the fact we love children so I think everyone is tip toeing around us. When I told my drunk gig friend (I think I told you about her last month) that I was doing Christmas dinner for 10 her eyes lit up. I'm waiting for the outright question.

On another note. My neck is giving me trouble today. Think I slept on it weird which resulted in me having robot head all day. Looked like a right idiot!!

I really hope this week is filled with BFP. Ignore all previous tests if you're under 14DPO as I truly believe we have a few due this week. Come on girlies!!!!!!

Just a quick one to say happy birthday London jam! hope you've had a great day.

Will catch up with the rest of you soon!

Thanks for the birthday wishes you lovely lot

Happy birthday Jam! sorry, not hanging around for a long post as it's midnight and I started at 5:30am today and only just now finished my work, (graaaaah) but I wanted to mention Jam, if it helps you at all - the sperm that did it for me was the result of DTD 2 days before I ovulated. Wednesday will be totally fine. ;)

Merry Christmas ladies!

Hmm so it's the day before my period and I have no spotting, no cramps, no 'heavy' feeling in my womble. I don't trust my body one bit right now but there's a glimmer of hope maybe.