First time TTC - thread five!

[LisaSimpsonsbff]

Yet again we've managed to exchange nearly 1000 posts swapping our tales of peeing on sticks, dancing for babies, trying to stop Auntie Flo's all too frequent visits, and sometimes, just sometimes, of Big Fat Positives! So let's begin thread five with some updated stats. Me first...

Age 29
Cycle #4
Cycle day 1

Link to thread four: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2756020-first-time-ttc-thread-four?pg=1

So I had a fairly horrific argument with DH last night after spending the evening with friends and their 2 week old baby and then seeing another pregnancy announcement on Facebook. I had just started to get my hopes up today that 2 days of tiny amounts of brown blood might be a really late implantation bleed, and then went to the toilet and hello stupid AF :'( so fed up. I'm so glad others said about December birthdays, I said that to DH and he said not to be so silly :( Owh.

So sorry kiwi. Have glass of wine and some chocolate. Went to yoga tonight and when we were relaxing at the end. The teacher was like be appreciative of your body and the first thing that came into my head was no im not appreciative as I'm not pregnant yet!! How nuts is that? Ttc definitely going to my brain.

Is lisa still around?

Oh Kiwi I'm so sorry about AF.

My OH gets frustrated with me too, although I think they want children, they just don't get the drive, that deep need that we do.
I've given up telling him I'm upset about other babies & pg announcements, he just doesn't get it. He doesn't share my absolute terror that it there's a problem, that it'll never happen for us. Hence why I offload here!

Take care of yourself sending very unmumsnetty hugs your way.

Thanks basset. I'm enjoying a nice fruit cider :)

So sorry kiwi
flora I 100% do that, I am absolutely convinced there is something wrong and I'm literally counting down to March when we can start tests as that'll be 12 months TTC.
basset sorry about gp, sounds as unhelpful as mine. I haven't seen lisa in a while too...
wishful your cycles sounds completely normal to me, wouldn't worry

I finally got a +OPK today, took some persevering! Cd18. Will dtd tonight and did on cd14 & 16.

Oooo Eva - looks like you're getting some well timed dtd in!! Glad you finally got your positive opk 👍🏼

Sorry about AF kiwi 😞

This ttc business certainly has an impact on relationships. DH and I are definitely in it together, but it does affect me more and he feels helpless.

Hi all!

Had a lovely week in Italy for DH's birthday so sorry I've been radio silent.

Af is due this weekend and I'm starting to feel the odd niggly cramp. Whole body has been aching but that could have something to do with walking 24k steps a day for 5 days.

I'm slightly hoping that I do get af this weekend as it will mean I'm actually back on track after finishing bcp 6 weeks ago...can't see me feeling like that again for a long time!

So sorry about af kiwi!

So af is now nearly two full days late. Bfn again this morning. Pretty grumpy! Don't think I'm pg, but just really want to know! This limbo waiting is just cruel!

A week in Italy - am so jealous blanket! Hope AF stays away.

Argh unicorn how infuriating! Any chance you could have ovulated later? Sorry, can't remember whether you temp or not. Hope you get answers soon, hope you get a BFP even more!

Went to work drinks tonight and drank non-alcoholic beer for the first time ever and no one was the wiser. Was quite fun having my little secret no drinking while they all descended into chaos ha ha. It was only difficult when I had to leave - we were all sitting around a table so couldn't slip away unnoticed, and they seemed shocked and offended that I was going! Oh well, I'm sure it's a forgotten drunken memory by now...

Mental note - non-alcoholic budvar and brew dog's nanny state are on the list of things I can drink if I get a taste for beer once I really can't drink!

Hi ladies, jumping back on this morning! Have been absent for a week and a bit as we had some MAJOR issues last Wednesday with DHs granddad & the care home he was in, awful to be honest :( He is sorted somewhere else now, so that's good, but between us both working full time then helping out with his granddad in the evenings & last weekend, we are both completely knackered!! Written this cycle off completely as we haven't DTD since last Tuesday which was CD12!! CD22 now, I think I ov'd last Friday as I think I felt Ov pains - probably wind! But I only remember as it didn't feel like anything I'd felt before, but who knows!! Anyway, patiently awaiting AF, should arrive a week on Sunday if my cycle is 30 days again, then back to it for the next cycle! At least it's Fri

I have missed so much, but sorry to those AF got, GL to those testing soon & LSFX to those in or coming up to FW, fx for all of you!

Sorry about your dh's granddad kaydee. I'm glad you've got him sorted somewhere you're happier with.

Thanks pjs. Not planning to temp/opk until March! Frustrated further every morning by Ovia kindly assuming af has started! Trying SO hard to not get my hopes up!

Ah I see unicorn - well you may well have ov'd a couple of days later, my ov moves around all the time and it moved massively when I first came off the pill!

Relaxing a bit now af is properly here and revving up for next cycle! At least now I have had two months of 32 day cycles so maybe I can actually calculate it this month. Oh well, c5 here we go; fertility week due to start on our 5 year anniversary 🍾 so fingers crossed ;)

Thank you Pjs it was bloody wonderful! Just what the doctor ordered after a stressful few months at work. I think af is well on her way though if these cramps are anything to go off!

So sorry to hear about your oh's grandad Kaydee :( hope everyone's ok

And oooh huge fx for you Kiwi! That would be such wonderful timing! Until then !

There have been 4 pregnancy announcements on Facebook today, and whilst absolutely over the moon for them all, can't help but think, hmph, what have they done differently?

Who's next to test ladies? There must be a few of you coming up that are in 2ww?

eva well done you! Good dtd timing!

blanket baby bombs sucks but remember that you don't know what others have been through. When I was ttc a friend announced on fb and I was devestated (I'd just had a mc no one knew about too) as I'd had no idea they were ttc. We've spoke since and it turns out they had been trying for 22 months and she had never mentioned it so as crap as it is, you never know personal circumstances.

pjs how come you're not drinking? Are you on the healthy bandwagon?

Mojitos! How lovely to see you 😊 How are you? I'm testing in a week at 16dpo - I'm doing everything to avoid seeing a bfn and I don't like testing during the week. I'm not drinking during the TWW, partly for health reasons (I'm a bit of a lush, truth be told) and even though I know a drink probably won't make much difference, it helps me feel like I'm doing what I can.

I'm seeing pregnancy announcements everywhere as well blanket - have to keep reminding myself that it has absolutely no impact on my chances!

Sorry to hear about AF kiwi, but great attitude from you!

9dpo here and no symptoms - not a sore boob in sight. Not very optimistic to be honest, but weirdly enjoying the 'what if' daydreaming for now...

Hey all
mojitos nice to see you, how's it going?
kaydee sounds awful with your grandads care home, glad things are on the up
pjs love that you were secretly sober haha!

FF says 4dpo but I think it's actually 2dpo. I haven't been too good at taking my temps this month - must try harder! Wanted to dtd last night but DH was having none of it😆

I'm good thanks ladies :). All going well. It's a bit of a funny stage now as (apart from the kicks a few times a day and heartburn) I don't "feel" pregnant. Although I'm not sure what I expected to feel like haha. But at the same time I'm fed up already lol. Pregnancy does not suit me!

pjs you're so good at holding out poas! Fx for next week :)!!! And don't trust the lack of symptoms, remember it doesn't mean anything! Well good job on the not drinking anyway!

Fx for you too eva! I'm sure you've done all you can now anyway! I don't miss the jumping dp pretending to be in the mood when I really wasn't lol.

Hello mojitos good to see you. I have no idea what dpo I am but af is due on the 13th. Now I don't do anything for valentines but i would make the exception if i get a bfp. Although going to meet my friends 6 week old little boy today so that wont help with the broodiness.

Eva sounds like you've done enough.

Urgh temp drop this morning so guessing AF is en route. Trying not to be upset, acknowledge it's a process etc etc but we've done quite a lot this month in terms of healthy eating, reflexology, a frankly ridiculous amount of shagging so I'm just a bit pissed off more than anything. Onto Cycle 8 I suppose.
I stopped early testing too PJs, could never really get over the gut wrenching disappointment of a stark BFN.
Hope TWW passes quickly Eva. Jeez when TTC seems like the only non-stressful week is during AF!
Have a good weekend ladies x

Glad your doing well mojitos! Don't worry too much about not 'feeling' pregnant - my colleague is due next month and other than the bump and kicking, has had absolutely no symptoms throughout her pregnancy, lucky thing! I've never really been tempted by early testing, I'm always worried it's too early!

I'd say 2dpo for you as well Eva - 🤞 for you 😊

Hope the broodiness isn't too much basset - it will be your turn soon 😊.

Ugh seeing that temp drop is horrid Flora - I stopped temping after ov confirmed purely for that reason. You're not out until the fat witch sings, but I understand why you're mentally preparing yourself. I found the cycle 7 fail particularly hard. A cycle 8 fail will be hard as I can't help but have hopes slightly raised that I may be one of the post-HSG lucky ones. 💐 and 🍫 for you x

Sorry for the babybombs blanket

And fx for you kiwi, and congrats

Well done on the being healthy in TWW too pyjamas, good to know you're doing what you can

Sorry for he temp drop flora, but you're not out until AF shows!

Fx for a valentines BFP basset, and GL with the baby!

I'm approx 7dpo. I don't know if I'm making up psychosomatic symptoms though so I'm googling NOTHING!
I guess technically I could test next week but my cycles are usually so long (anything up to 41 days) I think I'm going to test on the 18th.
How do you not get your hopes up?!
Fx to everyone else waiting 🤞🏻

Hi everyone! Sorry for disappearing - I see that a couple of you noticed, which made me feel guilty for not saying anything. About halfway through this cycle I just got really frustrated and fed up of the whole thing, and felt like I just needed to try not to think about TTC for a while. I'm now cd1 of cycle 6, and mostly ok (though I got quite upset and teary after a BFN on Thursday). You're all absolutely fantastic women and this is such a supportive place, but for me personally I think I need to find strategies to think about it less and I think that means staying away from the conception board. Even though I had previous anxiety issues, I never expected TTC to upset me so much, particularly given that I know it is, in the grand scheme of things, still early days for us. So, wanted to wish you all well, and I so hope you get your BFPs ASAP, but I don't think I'll be posting anymore xxx