TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen #loadsofBFPs!!!!

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen

Here is the link to the thread before that: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

[StorkAhoy]

Jeez excuse the typos in that last message, more haste less speed is needed!

[StorkAhoy]

Re the gonalF edit:
In other news I'm now on GonalF and getting a little worried that I'm not feeling any side effects. Nothing. some people report horrific effects. So trying not to think that it isn't working. Scan on weds will tell I guess....

[taydex]

Hola Stork - If it helps I had no side affects from GonalF and look what happened to me! Try not to worry (easier said than done I'm sure). Stress free is the best environment for growing a little bean. That said I had a couple of major stresses during pregnancy and little one still turned out just fine. Thanks for your views on the DN books, I think that would annoy me too. My friend has signed up to their emails and sends me the occasional one that's relevant to us.

One of my friends had a doula and a home birth (actually, make that 2) and said they were fantastic. I'm not sure it would be for me as I wanted a hospital birth (and in the end was c section), and had my wife there. But I would definitely look into it if I were doing it alone.

[StorkAhoy]

Taydex, thanks for that reassurance, I know everyone is different, but I keep expecting to feel my eggs growing! I'm actually super chilled about it all I think it's all my holistic therapies, im in a state of perpetual sleepiness!

[taydex]

Awesome. Keep up what you're doing then lovely xx

[CautionHormone]

stork, what Clinic have you gone to? I know someone in this thread is going to the same clinic I'm going to but can't remember who it is!
Try not to worry about not having any side effects. I can't be much help because I haven't gone through it yet, but I'm sure everything will be fine

kwick oh I'm glad you have another scan on Tuesday. I'm sure they will have grown loads by then! I'll have my fingers crossed for you :)

pez it sounds like you had a really positive experience at the fertility show... I'm sad I missed it! When I went to my donor coordinator appointment in July she mentioned the books you can get too, so I'll definitely be getting them.
Good idea about the doula - I don't need one - I've got people queueing up to be my birthing partner

Hope everyone's having a nice Monday. X

[taydex]

Kwick - the cycle that worked for me was the one with just 1 follicle that grew slower than any other cycles. I think the follicles were over stimulated by the drugs and grew too fast on previous cycles. Fingers and toes lovely xx

[taydex]

P.S. I'm getting braver with the feeding in public. Boobs out twice at Wembley outlet today x

[taydex]

Boob. I meant boob not boobs! LOL

[Pez82]

Medication apps are another thing I hadn't thought about but it's a great idea karen. I've looked at the one you bought but it seems to be designed to work with medicated cycles so I'll do some research to find one that works for me (I'm doing natural as far as I'm aware )

stark, completely agree with your comment on the 'just us' and how wonderful that you write your own story book, that's a great idea!

taydex, the boobs comment was so funny!

[kwick]

moonbeam/stork teeheehee - you are so funny!!!
I LOVE your idea of writing a book to tell - would you mind If I copied you (imitation is the sincerest form of flattery)? Which are the books you saw and liked?
Sorry to hear about sore things - I absolutely know what that is like - in the end I got some relief from Arnica gel which I picked up in Holland & Barret.

Fanks for all warm wishes for my follicles - makes me feel warm and fuzzy I have consumed so much milk today I feel a bit sick... hopefully will get some progress tomorrow.

Blimey stress just seems to come looking for me.... can you believe that whilst I was giving training this morning on how be an effective investigator (into employee related matters) a new mega case landed on my desk. Why can't people just BEHAVE!!!! Or at least think a bit before they act????? Or ask for advice????

Anyhoo with regards to birth - not really thought that far ahead (still using my "Field of dreams" mentality ie build it and they will come....
I know my mum would be fine about it - but she had me with no pain relief and no Dr present and I am not sure I want that... anyway having a doula (although hate this term as it conjours up images in my mind of matted hair, strong BO and incense ) is worth some thought once I get BFP.

taydex well done on boobage front!!!!!

Just about to go past Pentonville prison on bus - which 2 prisoners have escaped from today....

[CautionHormone]

kwick sorry to hear you're so stressed unfortunately not all people can behave!! What is it that you do? I'm not sure that I've ever asked you before!
Have you got the results of your blood test yet?

Good work on the feeding front taydex! I suppose it's something that just comes with time??

[taydex]

Kwick - one thing you could do is take your mum along with you to NCT classes as your birthing partner. This way she would learn (with you) what current options/theories/methods etc there are. Might be helpful? I know when I've spoken to my mum things have changed a lot in the 37/41 years since she had me and my sister. x

[kwick]

caution I am following up on blood tests tomorrow - work willing - I have back to back meetings all day...
I work in HR - supporting 28 units in 6 countries.

Just 2 weeks and then off for a week!!!

I may be foolish but have decided to get a quote to put carpet down and paint communal hall and stairs... it is not my responsibility to do this but none of my neighbours nor the council (who have the freehold) will bother and I am sick of the state of it!!!! It will need to be done if I ever try to sell - which I will need to at some stage if "project baby" comes to fruition and I would like to get some enjoyment of it... am I cray-cray???

[kwick]

Oh and fricking itching - which I thought had died down is back with a vengenance

[Karendvm]

kwick how crappy the itching is back? Did you ever find out what is causing it? Do you think it could be stress related? Sounds like life is throwing more than your fair share of stress at you. I'm sorry for that. I hope your follicles are steadily growing for you. X

[StorkAhoy]

Hello!

caution care northampton! :)

kwick do it, do it, do it! Our personal stories are superb, why not celebrate them?! So I haven't found one that's the one, so I'm going to amalgamate a few. The book I saw that gave me this idea was great, it went into where the family was from, where the relatives lived, who the relatives were etc. It talked about the family dog and the place they lived etc...Mine will also go into the different types of families there was, to show that we are all normal.

[HopingForALittleOne]

Re books I bought about half a dozen and prefer the ones which show lots of different families or the story is about an animal going to visit his friends who all have different families . I think the tales where the family structure isn't the focus but a natural Orr of story is of story is a good thing . I bought one which was to do with a pea in a pod the front cover looked cute and it was about artificial insemination but didn't really do it for me for two reasons - talked about sperm and eggs which I personally o don't want to start talking to my child about at such an early stages and 2) it was about a mum and dad and the dads sperm didn't work which would probably leave my kid more confused as we would have no dad...

Like the idea of writing own story.

I went for smear test today. I bled when she was doing it and it wasn't af this time! She said it might be ok to do sample but if not it could be I think she said endometriosis. She said if that it could be caused by stress ( my job quite stressful I did equivalent of 8 days in 5 last week) and would have l wait12 weeks until could do another smear. Slightly gutted if that is what happens as was gearing up to try in December. Also I think LWC said screening tests had to be done within 3'onths of starting iui so don't know whether that means will have to do all tests gain... Docs did it this time but might not be willing to do it a second time?

[CautionHormone]

kwick let us know if you manage to get your blood results! Fingers crossed they come back as normal.

stork I thought it was you! I'm at Care Northampton too! How do you find them?

Oh bless you hoping. You don't have a lot of luck with your smears! I'm currently under a gynaecologist and he wants to do a laparoscopy to check to see if I have endometriosis you could always ask your docs to do it a second time and just explain your situation?

[StorkAhoy]

Caution - It is I!!! so,they are ok. When I was going for my first appointments, I felt that I had to keep calling and pushing, - but I think thats just my own hyper vigilance - now we are in the process of IVF its all quick slick really. They have been really good though, very very professional. The paperwork comes through in an ordered way, and their billing is organised too. I don't like that there is no continuity of care, meaning that you see whatever nurse is on at the time, but their paperwork is detailed enough that Ive never had to correct them on something, they actually know who you are and what you are there for which is good as1st time IVF everything is new and scary.

We shall see!

[CautionHormone]

Stork, I'm glad they're being good to you. I'm glad that they're looking after you and they actually treat you like an person, because I know some places can get a bit complacent and treat everyone the same. Have you had many dealings with the donor coordinator there, called Karen? I saw her in July, and went through her to book my initial consult (which I now have to cancel & rebook ) and I think she's lovely.

What consultant are you under/seeing, if you don't mind me asking (you don't have to tell me!)? What are they like?!

Happy Tuesday everyone. I can't believe how cold it is.. I'm not made for winter!!

[CautionHormone]

Like A person, not AN person!

[StorkAhoy]

hey caution so I saw Karen first, that was fine, but really they know very little about the medical side. So dave your questions for the proper consultation.

I next saw the Director of the clinic at my proper consultation to get my protocol agreed (she talks through IUI, IVF, type of meds, goes completely thorough your file, tells you dates etc, that is the appointment where it all becomes glaringly real. - I saw the counsellor on that day too.

I deal with the embryologist for donor info and actually deciding who to use. she is lovely, very on the ball.

Blood tests, injection tutorials, scans, and trial embryo transfer have all been administered by different nurses. That what I mean about lack of care continuity.

On the phone at any time and again, many different nurses, but they know what they are doing, they read your file, so its all fine.

So essentially Im not under a consultant. It is all nurse administered, under the protocol directives of the Director of medicine. (I get the impression that she and the other consultant see all patients, and write the protocols personally, then its administered by the nurses.)

I deal with the lack of care continuity by having a large binder with everything in it. I write everything down and double check each next step against what they are saying.

Oh and when I had my medication meltdown last week they had an emergency number that is staffed till midnight and that nurse was great, knew her stuff, set me right very quickly.

[kwick]

What a bugger hoping! GP Should do again if they did not do right first time - surely???
Is the 12 week down to your availability?

Wild goose chase once more re: blood test results (which will hopefully come back that the itching is not down to diabetes). My GP surgery is pants, so is where I give the blood

Stress city at work again - no wonder my largest follicle has only grown by 1mm!!!! Next scan on Friday unless I get LH surge before...

Just waiting to see nurse...
Still have another work call to go on...

[CautionHormone]

Thank you for explaining all of that Stork - it's nice to be able to go in with my eyes open and half expect what's coming!!

Yeah, I'll have to see the counsellor on the day of my first consult too. I have an appointment with a consultant (can't remember the name, it's in my letter confirming my app on the 9th Dec), but I don't think it's the Director. Either way it doesn't matter who it is because to me (naively) they're all the same and do the same job, I guess!
It surprises me that it's more nurse run that consultant run, even if they are running off consultant protocol. I would've thought that you would have had to of seen the consultant a lot more than you have done, but I suppose if the nurses can tell you what's what, there's no real need...

I can understand why you'd get a bit peeved re the lack of continuity. It's a bit slapdash, isn't it? But on the other hand, in their defence, i guess they're so busy that they can't have an assigned case load! I'm glad that they managed to sort out your medication problem though. They all know what they're doing... It's just the fact you see a different face every time you go/phone!!

Kwick, sorry to hear about your wild goose chase with your blood tests. GP surgeries get worse!! Have they just not come back yet, or have they lost them?!
Oh no - what did the nurse say re your follicles?? X