TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen #loadsofBFPs!!!!

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen

Here is the link to the thread before that: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

[kwick]

How complicated caution... remember though you are in perfect time & you will sort everything.

I have my day 9 scan tomorrow - hope lurgy has not impacted follicle growth am on my way home to binge on milk and other fertility boosting foods!

[CautionHormone]

Thanks karen. You're right, there's so many twists and turns. Yeah it's my initial consult... I debated on going to see what they say, like you said, but I wouldn't want it to be a wasted appointment and for them to just say "see what your gynaecologist says" or "wait until you've had your surgery". You have to pay again for the consult if it's after six months, so it'll only give me until June before I have to pay again... If that makes sense?

[CautionHormone]

Thanks kwick. I hope you're right!
I'll have everything crossed that you've got good follicle growth. 😘

[INeedNewShoes]

Caution - I think in your shoes I would deal with the endometriosis before having your consultation at Care. I know that's hugely disappointing when you're all psyched up for getting started

I know my clinic wouldn't have wanted to proceed without all the info on any existing medical conditions so it might just be less stressful for you to get the gynae stuff resolved first. Also, you want to know that you're in the best possible health when you start your fertility treatment so patience might be the best way forward

Kwick - wishing you a good scan tomorrow!

Happy Friday evening everyone

[HopingForALittleOne]

Sorry to hear that caution my sister has a little one had and had endometriosis so don't lose hope may just take a little longer X
I am so stressed out at work at moment and starting to get more stressed that stress will stop me getting pregnant when I try silly huh! Xx

[Karendvm]

Hahn hoping. * could have written your post. Trying to force myself to be calm. So glad it's the weekend.

[Karendvm]

Hope your scan went well kwick. :)

[CautionHormone]

shoes you're right. Dealing with the endometriosis has to come first because otherwise it's all going to be a waste of time and money!
And you're right about the clinic wanting ally the info too. Especially because it's gynae related. It's possible I don't even have it, it's more a diagnostic thing, but I'd need to know first. Its all through my private hospital which is why I think I'm getting somewhere - if it was through my general hospital I don't think I'd of got this far! When I initially made the appointment to see a gynaecologist I had the option so I opted for private. If I lose the weight quicker than February though, im going to see if I can bring my appointment with him forward to get it done quicker. He wants me to lose a stone...

hoping aw that's good :) my godmother has endometriosis and fell easily for her three after she had the surgery done so hopefully it'll be the same case for me!!
Try not to stress. I know that's easier said than done but stress isn't good for anything, not just getting pregnant! When you come home from work try taking baths and pampering yourself. I work with my dad in the family business so I'm lucky I don't get much stress!!

kwick how'd your scan go?!

[taydex]

Best of luck with the weight loss. I wonder if given a target and a really good reason to lose the weight it will be a bit easier? Probably not he he. Good luck!

[CautionHormone]

taydex - it's definitely made me more determined because the quicker I do it, hopefully the quicker I can have the laparoscopy and the quicker I can get moving on baby plans... I'll keep you all updated anyways! How're you and Mya doing?! X

[taydex]

Good stuff. You know you can always come here for support/encouragement. Mya and I are doing well thank you, she's an absolute star and I love her to bits x

[INeedNewShoes]

Pleased to hear everything's going ok Taydex

I won't be posting for a little while. I have a lot of work to do and my Mumsnet addiction is getting in the way! I tried to reduce my time here but it hasn't worked so I'm banning myself for a little while!

I'll be thinking about you all and hoping that things go well. Please PM me if you want to get in touch for any reason (I'll get an email to alert me). I'll be back to check up on you all soon

Seems overkill to let you know I'm having a break but I didn't want you thinking I've just disappeared!

[taydex]

Shoes - totally understand. I did the same a while back. Not initially on purpose but i just ran out of time to keep on top of everything. You take care of you please xx

[CautionHormone]

I know I can taydex :) you're all so lovely & supportive (perhaps even moreso than some people in my "real" life) so I'll definitely be coming here for a kick up the backside if I need it! I know I'll get the truth if I need it, too!
I'm glad you and Mya are doing well. She's a beauty and you should be very proud of her... Which I'm sure you are! It gives us all hope that it really does work, and that all we need is a bit of hope & faith :)

shoes aw bless you. Take good care of you and I'm sure we'll speak to you soon ❤️

[pickle162]

Thanks for letting us know shoes check in along the way and let us know how ur getting on and how your next scan goes.
Take care xx

[kwick]

Take care shoes we will be here for you when you are ready again.

Scan: 2 follicles - one at 8mm another at 6mm a bit on small side but I guess lurgy set me back.

[Karendvm]

Take care shoes. I hope everything continues to go well for you.

[CautionHormone]

Oh kwick - so what is the plan now? x

[kwick]

caution no need to panic! I have my next scan on Tuesday - hopefully they will have grown.

Did anyone get to the Fertility Show?

[Pez82]

Hi ladies,

So I went to the fertility show today.

I felt it was an overall positive experience, it was really easy to talk to everyone. I'm definitively joining the DCN (Donor Conception Network). I have waited to do so as I was unsure whether there were some groups in London and I was told there are several groups and they meet every 3 weeks or so. I went to a session for single mothers by choice and it was really empowering to be in a room full of women going the same route.

I spent time talking to different natural fertility boosting techniques, such as acupuncture, fertility massages, reflexology, but I found it a bit overwhelming to be fair as they all look so great but are also all so expensive!! I'm going to stick to my yoga classes for the moment and think it over...

There is a book that is highly recommended to talk to our future children about the way they were conceived and which also has some tips to talk to adults in our different circles (the woman basically explained that we need to be ready to answer any question from any of these groups - e.g. relatives, close friends, work colleagues, teachers but also the supermarket cashier, etc as the question will pop up. What was great is that she said that as long as kids are told at a very early age (from 2 onwards), for them it is completely normal not to have a dad (or have 2 mums) and that studies have shown that kids do not suffer from the absence of a dad as long as they receive love from their mother. I know it seems obvious but it was so nice to hear it! Anyway, the book is called 'Modern families' and is written by Susan Golombok. There are also books for children that were created by the DCN and they're really cute.

Also, last night I decided I'm definitely getting a doula. I would like my mum to be with me in the delivery room but she doesn't speak English and doesn't know anything about the health system here so it makes sense to have someone who can support me 100% in the preparation to the birth and also in the few weeks after. If you haven't considered this yet, have a look at the Doula UK website . I spoke to a massage therapist today and she used to be a doula and she strongly recommended it too.

This is an awfully long post - sorry!

Hope you all had a lovely weekend x

[pickle162]

Thanks pez, sounds like a really good day.
That group sounds fab will need to look into that when (hopefully)get pregnant.

Ooh my friend just recently had a doula as she was rather anxious about the whole thing and had a very positive experience with them. Personally It's not really my thing, I'm much more of a solitary person when I'm in pain and don't mind medical things or injections/canulas etc but think they are a fab service :)

[Karendvm]

That sounds like a great time pez. I'm glad you got so much out of it. Personally I love acupuncture. The thing that has helped the most is meditating each night. I bought the iui series from circle and bloom and have felt it to be well worth the money. I might look into a doula if I get pregnant. I don't have any family near me and I think the support would be good for me. That book sounds great too! Lots of things to consider.....

[taydex]

Sounds like you had a great time at the show Pez - I will definitely look up that book. I was just this morning looking at kiddies books to explain our family type on Amazon so will add yours to the list. Will let you ladies know if any of the others are any good.

[kwick]

pez you are a!! Thanks for sharing your Fertility Show experience so well I really appreciate it!

[StorkAhoy]

Hey Pez! thanks for sharing!eeek, so much to comment on:

Doulas, hell yes, a great idea, a bit expensive around here, but very attractive idea, especially if you get one who can do labour massage. I'm considering having one, as well as my sister in law who is a nurse.

Acupuncture, reflexology and reiki, I do all of it. And I love it! I can feel my energy shifting at every session, frankly these days I'm so alternative I should change my name to Moonbeam Rainbow.....but I highly, home they rate them. If I had to choose one, it would be acupuncture. Find a good doc and she'll become a friend, therapist, all in one.

Books for baby: so i had to go for coucelling at my clinic, all donor users single or in coup,es have to do this at my clinic, and while I went in a tad snooty about it, actually found it quite helpful. We discussed the donor network there and she actually had some of the books they produce. Now let me say, to each her own, this is a journey we all walk alone so do what feels right, and which that in mind, let me expa,in that I didn't like their books as they refer to a single parent and child as 'it's just us', I don't like the connotations of the 'just', as the perception is that my child and I are less than others, I know that's not how they meant it, but I don't like the language. So, while in the same session she showed me a book that a couple had written and self published, in the style of a bedtime story and that is what I am doing. Taking lots of pictures, turning them into cartoons via an app, writing a narrative and having the whole thing bound. Telling the story my way, from the time I start reading bedtime stories (i.e. From the very beginning), I'm going to use the DC books as a guide for the narrative, but it will be my words, my pictures, and personal to our family.

kwick I hope those follicles grow and grow!

In other news I'm now on GonalF and getting a little worried that I'm. To feeling any side effects. Nothing. some people report horrific effects. So tryouts no not to think that it isn't working. Scan on weds will tell I guess....

Thighs are black and blue and getting a touch tender....