TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen #loadsofBFPs!!!!

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen

Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

Goodness, Kwick I'm not doing any of that :/ I was thinking of starting a conception multivitamin, and thought that was excessive... clearly way behind lol I don't like milk :( but I like cheese so eat a lot of that, I eat reasonably healthy but I'm on a student budget so struggle to be as picky as I'd like to be.

There's just so much to do, and it feels like so little time to do it

loops chillax - you are in perfect time

haha me and chilling are trying to get reacquainted (lol anxiety disorder jokes)

I have an appointment with the doctor in January so I can talk about the next steps. My current plan is to try another three IUIs, but to look at using a different donor. There is a small part of me considering a trip to Denmark...

£2.5K for a single IUI seems way OTT. My clinic doesn't charge much more than that for three!

Thanks everyone for the thoughts, I thought that I was paying waaaay too much but not sure! (I'm the 2.5k for one IUI girl....at LWC....this includes the sperm I should say)

Would anyone know of any decent clinics in the North East that they would recommend? I may seek a second opinion after I've had my tubes checked out....

latenight I too am now thinking about a Denmark trip......

sj I know the LWC charges £950 for donor sperm. I got mine from the ESB in Denmark and it worked out at around £600 per straw all included.

I paid for my first cycle yesterday and hadn't realised the £37.50 HFEA fee was payable on each cycle - I guess it's a drop in the ocean given the overall cost...

My London clinic charges £790 for the IUI so in total each cycle will cost me roughly £1,440 (plus blood tests when needed)

So I would agree with the others and say that £2,5k seems a bit excessive.

It depends whether the 2.5k includes a load of meds (though for a first attempt I personally would avoid the meds as they may be totally unnecessary for you).

So I told my line manager today about my amh results and that plans may need to move forward, she was really nice but says she is worried about how it will affect me emotionally (had bad depression in the past) if I get a negative.
My response so you try and you may get a yes or a no but you tried, you keep trying cos you need to give it all you got and know you've tried OR you don't try and it's a definite no and you may as well give up on everything. If it's meant to be it'll happen and if it's not then I'll know I did everything I could. Really would people say this to a "normal" couple just starting out trying???
Bit drained from it all but it's done, baby plans are being put first! Only 3weeks,2days and 19hours till my first consultation-not that I'm counting

Love your countdown pickle
You are right - people take liberties with single women who are TTC. You go girl!!

My current dilemma: should I start researching Spain or should I wait to get BFN yet - of course wanting a BFP!!

Definitely start researching Spain.

If you're anything like me then planning is very therapeutic. I made some quite firm plans during my last TWW to have a break from the whole thing for a couple of months!

Ooh Spain for treatment?
I really love my manager and know she didn't mean any harm by it but still

kwick I second shoes. I think researching Spain is a good thing to do. It doesn't mean that you expect a bfn. It just means you have a plan in case.

Thanks guys

Guess what I am up to?

Just back from lovely dinner in Walkie-Talkie... God my neighbour upstairs is so loud!!

Hi everyone
I recognise kwik from my days of ivf earlier this year. Hello :-) and sort of recognise a couple more names but my memory is hazy
Am going to try and have a baby next year. I had a beautiful baby girl, Mabel, in October but she sadly had an underlying disorder and I had her for just 29 days. So heartbreaking. She was amazing and fought to remain with me

Really early to be taking immediate action, I miss my daughter terribly but my dream is to have a family and why wouldn't I try to recreate this experience

Not sure as to how I'll go about it yet nor whether I'll use same clinic but hope to join you lovely lot on a new journey soon

Good luck with all of yours and getting the bfps you desire really soon. 2017 is where it's at xx

ever that is just the saddest news your heart must be broken. I am so so sorry & really proud of what a strong woman you are.

Welcome back to the thread Ever

I am so so sorry that you have been through something so terrible. You sound very brave and your warmth for Mabel is so clear in your writing. What a beautiful name too.

It's good that you are starting to think about becoming pregnant again even if you won't be ready for a while yet.

Even if Kwick is the only familiar name here, we are a friendly bunch and between us have experience of a few different clinics and approaches so I hope you'll find the thread useful

So sorry for the loss of little Mabel ever xx

Oh ever I am so sorry to hear that. Your daughter must have been a real fighter for those 29 days, and it sounds like you have some special memories of her.

ever I am so sorry for your loss. Massive hug.

Thank you so much guys
My first step is to go back to my Consultant Obstetrician (NHS one) to get some reassurance or at least his opinion on a future pregnancy and the odds of a baby having a chromosome disorder. My girl had Edwards syndrome which was not confirmed until a week after birth, but she fought on with major heart issues and they didn't really expect her to live more than a couple of weeks, but she doubled that!! There were markers picked up in earlier pregnancy but I chose to not have the tests or amnio because was not going to terminate. Then later on, she was not growing and there was issues with the placenta. I delivered at 34+5 week gestation by c section. She spent her last week in a lovely hospice which gave me the chance to create some precious memories and was actually happy until really the last 24 hours where she was starting to suffer. If its my only chance to be a mother, then they really were fantastic about letting me spend plenty of time with her without being in a clinical setting. Had plans to bring her home for a time, and celebrate an early xmas, but sadly not to be. Will be a very sad time for me this year, and not really acknowledging it at all.

I will be deciding whether to try again with my own eggs or donor embryos. Very difficult one when IVF works first time, but then have the outcome I did, but it did work and was just a chance occurrence (at least I think...Consultant will let me know). Could have been a fluke and may be better just opting for a more likely successful outcome. Hard one esp when may only be able to fund one more try!! Could try my own next time and fingers crossed, and if doesn't work try donor embryo once a year for a few years, and hope that my endometriosis does not return with a vengeance. Will also go back to my original FC and see what they think.

I have had the chance of motherhood, just loved it so much just want it again desperately.

I will scroll through and see where you're all at. My concentration span is not too great at the moment. Need some time to reflect and recover
Wishing you all well, and will be back soon xxx

Oh ever what a hard time to go through but glad you have all those special memories with Mabel. Wishing u all the luck with your new journey x

HI ladies. I'm letting jack go tonight. I don't want to but I think his spirit is being broken because he can't go out and run around. Even standing by me to get pats leaves him winded. My heart is breaking again.

Peace and love to you all. X

Awe my darling karen I'm so sorry,sending you lots of love and rip little jack :( xxxx

Karen Take care of yourself as best you can.