Positive opk after a miscarriage

[jinglebellmel]

Hi, hoping someone a bit more knowledgable than me can help me figure this out! I had a medically managed miscarriage 9 days ago and have had strong positives on opks for the last 2 days. I know that they pick up hcg so presumed that this was just picking up left over hormones from the pregnancy. Today I had a very faint positive on a pregnancy test so looks as though my hormone levels are nearly back to normal, but the opk is still coming up with a strong positive. The pregnancy test is 10 miu and the opk 20 - so my question is this still just left over hormones when the pregnancy tests are getting lighter and the opks aren't?

That's great! I'm sure it wasn't, you know your body can do it so hopefully you'll get a repeat performance very soon.

Blossom if you have managed both you know your body can do it!

Temp is back up yay so now 3dpo as I thought. The waiting game is officially on!

Yay good luck Mcbaby.

Blossom, maybe the positivity of knowing your body can do it will help

I found 2 great articles today on chances of conceiving by age (particularly useful for me given the 5% statistic which I often read):

achildafter40.com/chances-getting-pregnant-naturally-after-40/

www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Hardly any difference between 20's and 40's really according to the last article!

Really interesting reading it has made me feel calmer!

When are you due blossom? It's agony isn't it?! Hopefully this will be the one for you.

Blossom - I hope you manage to hold out to the weekend.

I am 4dpo and it's going slowly I know I will test at 10dpo as its when I have had positives the other 3 times!

So dh is likely to be away on cd 13, which is when is usually ov (although it has been anything from 12-14 since the mc). He's offered not to go but I feel a bit crazy making him stay at home to provide sperm! If I ov on cd 12 it'll be fine but if it's 13 or 14 I'll miss ov or ov-1. What do you think?

Jinglebel I think one day out of your window would be fine to miss. You can still go for every other day.

I think the days leading up to ov are more critical than the day of. Both times I conceived it was from DTD on the days prior. In fact with my DS my DH was already out of the country before I ov'd!

Is he just away for 24 hours Mel?

My anxiety it's through the roof and my insomnia is dreadful which is making getting through each day tough. I am so stressed about not getting pregnant (abd anxiety and stress causing that) and about how anxious I will be if I do get pregnant! I am not sure how I would get through the first trimester next time! Given the mc the baby only made it to 4 weeks but I bled at 10 and it took another 6 weeks for a negative test - so nearly 3 months after the baby died!

Sorry needed to vent as the more I say it the calmer I feel as even written down it's irrational!

Hi McBaby,

Sorry you're having a tough time and I'm sure all those things come hand in hand - eg if you're not sleeping, your anxiety will be worse but the anxiety stops you from sleeping.

Firstly, it's really early days and your hormones are probably still settling down.

Secondly, do you feel like this throughout your cycle or does it get better or worse at certain times.

I'm confident you'll get pg again and it's unlikely you'll have another MC. You could ask for an early scan due to your anxiety and MC?

Try to stay positive and relaxed if you can as that will help you sleep and improve the anxiety.

Have you thought about doing a hypnotherapy tape to help your anxiety and insomnia?

Thank you both. I have seen a hypnotherapist in the past to help with insomnia a few years ago so might try and get an appointment with her.

I would normally take prescribed sleeping tablets to try and help me sleep and bring the anxiety down with the increased sleep but I don't want to take them while Ttc.

I'm glad I'm not alone in my anxiety but sorry if everyone else feels the same its horrible!

Just wanted to echo what Blossom and Ali have already said McBaby... It's not irrational at all. I was totally unprepared for how much time this whole process has taken and how it's affected me.

When I'm struggling to sleep I listen to podcasts or audiobooks. Can highly recommend anything read by David Attenborough, his voice is so soothing & I find it gives your mind something to focus on & distract you from your own thoughts.

Yeah it's just 24 hours, you're all right - if it's going to happen then the days leading up will be enough won't they, I'm just being silly.

Mcbaby, sorry you're feeling rubbish :( I'd second what blossom says about only just keeping a lid on the anxiety of not being pregnant. I know logically it most likely will happen in the next few months but I just can't see it. I have a plan to deal with it if I do get pregnant though, I'll pay for an early scan at 7/8 weeks as my main fear is that the baby isn't growing at all and I don't find out until weeks later (as happened this time). It won't reduce the risk of mc which will be hard to deal with, but it will reduce the number of weeks I'm second guessing whether it's another blighted ovum. That's the best I can do and having a plan in place helps a bit x

The private hospital which did my last scan to show the retained tissue do a early reassurance package so 3 scans at 7,9 and 11 weeks for £300. I think that will help me cope two weeks at a time! Dh might think I'm a bit nuts!

If that's what it takes Mcbaby. We can't really afford the package but dh is pretty supportive in saying we'll get whatever I need to make me feel better, so may do the same. I can't stomach the thought of waiting until 12 weeks to see if there's anything in there this time, I don't think I can cope with that many weeks of stress.

Just a couple of things on a tangent.

Mel: Zita West recommends dtd 3 times a week so every other day or missing a day is fine.

I'm attaching a section of her book discussing drinking mid-cycle...