TTC #1 Thread 14. Shroedingering Like Champions! (It's an art form and a skill!)

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We've got a few grads sticking around I won't leave and no question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

WE SHALL WIN IN THE GAME OF SPERM MEETS EGG! IT WILL HAPPEN!

Good plan ni! Ginger doesn't work for me! The only thing that works is full large meals(!!)very annoying not helpful for the fat bloated feeling!

Went completely off all fish, vegetables and fruit until last week and now I can eat fruit. Hunger is the enemy

I've not been poorly yet but I've been knackered! Have found the tesco preggers multi vitamins easier to take as they've got everything you're supposed to take, folive acid etc and ginger and stuff in them. They get 5/5 Starky stars.

Ice lollies are excellent to have in the freezer feef

I just had loads of stuff to say to everyone and my brain has just gone poof and I've just got like innocuous music or light jazz going on in there as the ability to think has completely escaped me.

Hi everyone. Haven't been on in a couple days...just needed to chill out a bit.

Fx for you girls testing this week..fx orchard and jem and anyone I've missed. Hope you get your bfps!

Sorry about the sickness feefs! It sounds no fun and you're free to moan here.

kwick hope you're feeling better or at least taking some time for yourself. You deserve it.

I had my day 3 bloods this month and all came back normal. I have to go back for day 21 bloods too. Currently day 14. I've reminded Dh that when my bloods are done it's his turn for a SA, which he is pretending to know nothing about (even though we've had this conversation multiple times). I think on the days I say giddy up and he doesn't want to, it's good motivation for him to pull his finger out bc he's hoping I'll be upduffed before he has to jizz in a cup. Well he's got one last shot this month. Starting to properly feel infertile now which is a mindfuck all in it's own.

Sorry you're having a hard time bluebird. I don't know what it's like to have been trying for a long time but I know now what it's like to have fertility issues hanging over you and it's hard. Kwick I have to test because I didn't miscarry naturally so they have to make sure they removed everything. And 6 to 10 weeks is just because they don't know when I'll start ovulating again and they recommend not conceiving for 2-3 months after an ectopic so I'm sure you'll be absolutely fine.

flash I guess ai did not miscarry naturally either - I mean the baby died but then I did not wait to miscarry naturally. Maybe I should test too...

Thanks for all warm wishes. I am off for a long weekend today so that will hopefully help.

Hugs bluebird really hoping you are duffed up before he has to do his bit. It must be all be worrying but the upside is you are getting help which will hopefully lead to quicker bfp. Fx for you.

kwick sorry if that sounded insensitive. if it helps to put your mind at rest then there's definitely no harm. I'm certainly no expert but I think that after an ectopic they want to make sure there isn't a pregnancy anywhere else, or that there's no tissue still growing where it shouldn't. Can you ring your clinic to ask if they recommend anything?

Hello every one,
and best wishes to all where ever you are in this ttc/pregnant lark.

I am 8dpo and trying to stay zen, but constantly monitoring for for pre-AF boobs....must not poke.... must not poke.....

My completely unromantic OH (I have given up on ever getting a flowers from him), actually surprised me this morning! He works away in the week, but is actually coming home tonight to take me out for my birthday! Just a (really good!) curry in the village. Will go out properly on saturday.

He is full of cold, so he might just want to be home before man-flu kicks in ....

Moose, can I give you a sympathy hug? I feel your pain lately.

Trying not to get a complex here but rapidly becoming one I think. :( Just hit peak fertility this morning. Got busy ... and DH couldn't make it. We did it yesterday and the day before so I shouldn't be worried, I guess, but that makes the 3rd month running that he's not been able to on top of peak fertility for whatever reason - unfortunately he's been ill over the last 3 fertile windows which has royally sucked. Just - arghhh!! So frustrating. I'm hoping yesterday's swimmers will still be around but I'm very conscious that as an over 35 timing is particularly important for me.

May try and jump him again later but I think there's just too much pressure and he won't want it. Yesterday he volunteered. Today - probably not happening.

cries

Good luck for everybody testing soon! The BFPs in here keep me going.

Oops - meant to say, happy birthday Hep!

Happy Birthday Hep!! Those gestures mean loads more than a bunch of flowers!

Aaaargh kav Why is it so difficult? It does sound as though you should have got enough swimmers in there though - hopefully it won't make a difference!

It's tough, especially when it's more performance related. It really is not the part of TTC that I expected to be difficult!!!
For me, I don't want to make too big a deal of it and cause more issues in the long run - it is quite bizarre that what you used to class as a fun activity has become essential and has so many emotions attached to it and could have such a life changing outcome! No wonder they find it difficult!!

Fingers crossed for you bluebird hopefully this is a lucky month...

Happy birthday Hep 🍻🎂🎉💐 it's mine in just over a week and I'm hoping my present will be af staying away 😝😄.
3dpo and oh my god time has slowed down to almost go in reverse. I can't wait for next cycle to start (unless it doesn't!) as I'm starting Clomid etc. my RE has told me there's more like a 30% chance of it working within 3 cycles and 80% of it working within 6. Compared to my 5-8% per natural cycle I'm very optimistic.
The sun and wa weather seems to have come now so it's lovely here, flowers coming all over the place, trees blossoming, it's really quite lovely. We might have found a house (to rent, as we are thinking of getting a new build in a really nice town) and I'm feeling quite settled here after a few weeks of not really feeling like I belonged anywhere. Dh is working hard and I'm loving the equivalent salary here. I'm going to work as a nursery school assistant at a lovely preschool/daycare type place as I'm already planning on sending my future child there and staff get a 75% discount. It's expensive a forest type school with loads of land and excellent facilities. Crazy to think ahead so far but I need to work as staying at home means I basically shop all day 😜😂😖😄

Hope everyone is doing well? Lots of lovely beans growing nicely, and plenty more to come I hope!

thanks everyone!
snow yes i am certainly getting impatient this tww. I confess, when I came off the pill last year, i honestly thought (though didn't admit it even to my self) that we would be successful by now.
Moose i feel for you, OH is just so relaxed about it .....

Am going to divert my energy into planning some holidays. we need to plan a holiday for next bank holiday (co-incidently partially overlapping with ISW ) . I also want him to commit to another one for the autumn, as I would love to have a few days on west coast scotland including seeing the eagles on Mull.

holidays can only help right ? well... except the bank balance but pfft.... to that.

Good work mrhep! Happy birthday

How frustrating kav. They say having swimmers ready to greet egg is key so hopefully you'll catch it. Hope he's up for it tonight.

Aaah kav I feel for you! Men are so troublesome!!

So I caved and tested last night, BFN of course! I'm wondering if I am just late due to stress, although I feel fine, because I leave for my big holiday next week and we have just moved house and finished doing the kitchen? I'm sure thats it, I just want AF to hurry up now and not interrupt my holiday! Hep holiday planning has been a huge distraction, but clearly not enough as I am still super chilled totally freaked out right now and feeling ALL the emotions. FFS I hate this.

Happy birthday hep.

Fingers crossed bluebird!

Thanks to you all for your patience yesterday! Feeling a bit more positive after seeing the midwife this morning! It was a nice experience and much more relaxed than I was experiencing. Roll on Saturday scan and hopefully I can start getting excited!

Happy birthday hep hope you had a lovely day and have an even lovelier evening! 🎉🔔👑🐛🎂🍸🍹🎁🎀🎊🐙

Happy Birthday Hep 🎂 Hope you have a lovely evening.

Kav my OH decided that he couldn't do every day dtd so we had to just aim for every other day or less during FW. It sounds like you got plenty swimmers in place. Good work!

Feefs you have your scan Saturday??

Fx sorry about the bfn. What test did you use? I'm hoping it just wasn't a sensitive enough one?!

Yeah ni it's a repeat of the private one not an NHS one. Don't have to pay again either.

Sorry about bfn skip, hope it was just too early.

I'm so and this evening. Being a total cow to my DH. Worst of all this is classic PMS for me. Why can't I get pregnant??

Oh jem, sorry you feel like that. It's horrible when things are out of our control like this. I wish we could just take a baby pill and get on with it.

First creamy cm since mc today and negative opks so giving ourselves a break from dtd. Been doing every other day for about a fortnight now! Going to wait for cm to start being clear again i reckon- it's lotiony now as opposed to tacky so fingers crossed i'm still pre- ov

Good luck to everyone!

Sorry you're feeling down jem. I completely understand. But you aren't out until your out so there's still hope.

It's fw for me... Dh was working upstairs and just informed me he's ready to dtd. I was half asleep on the sofa and decided it wasn't happening. But I've been in our room doing star jumps to wake myself up and I've just given him my 'come hither' call. Sometimes I just think wtf with this Ttc business...

Ack, just had another baby bomb. What's worse this time is it's a couple our age, same situation as us, and I know they've been trying as long or a little less than us.

Currently cd 23 and don't feel pregnant in the slightest, not even the hint of sore boobs and have slightly more energy than usual. I'm totally with Jem on her comment - why can't I get pregnant?

Right there with you Jem. We have another week to go through right, it's not over til its over.

Good luck people in the FW. Does anyone else try to remember DTD close to ovulation so they would have a rough idea of when their baby was made? Or is that just me being terribly sentimental

In other news I'm bleeding on CD20! Yay! /sarcasm. Going to make an appt to see GP, I'm approaching 6 months and I'm bleeding between cycles now, I hope that's a good enough reason. Why is it that when you Google symptoms they are always liked to cancer? Google should be banned.

Cd26, no sign of sore boobage... 9or 10 dpo.

OH has manflu and expects sympathy....