TTC #1 Thread 14. Shroedingering Like Champions! (It's an art form and a skill!)

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We've got a few grads sticking around I won't leave and no question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

WE SHALL WIN IN THE GAME OF SPERM MEETS EGG! IT WILL HAPPEN!

Starky It probably means I'm not pregnant! Seems to me the less symptoms you have the more likely you are to be upduffed!!!
Interesting what posters are saying about side boob pain though as that has been where I have had pain. It it a very odd pain too, like a shooting crackling type pain through the sides. Rather as I imagine having a very small taser applied to the side of a boob might feel. I should point out I have never been tasered, and have no idea what that actually does feel like. Have only seen it in the movies.
Anyway catch up properly tomorrow with you all.

I've had side boob pain from 7 dpo till today, when I've only slightly got it in one side boob the

"Never trust the boobs" The ONE part of me I was looking forward to seeing a change in, and it's all the bloating and cramps and crankiness and feeling ill that have stolen the show

Glad things are getting back on track for you Flash!

Thanks ladies. I'm quite enjoying the symptom spotting trying to guess who'll be getting a bfp, hopefully all of you! Yes 5tar it is rubbish isn't it. I know it's different for everyone but if you need to chat I'm here.

Aahh the side boob pain is not fun!! Really wish I could get away with not wearing a bra!

I was planning on calling the doctors tomorrow because it takes forver to get an appointment round here but I'll only be 4+5 is that too early?

orchard how have you not tester again???

I've got all over boob pain, come near me and I'll scream type pain! Also they are two cup sizes bigger and I had to buy non underwired bras two weeks ago I am normally very small of chest

twink I'm scared to test in case it's a bfn! I'm putting it off as long as possible in the hope that either I'll get a really strong positive or AF will arrive in the meantime, then at least I will know.
But I am keeping in mind 'never trust the boobs'!

Never trust those boobs! Hahaha may glad to hear all going well

Morning all, Day 19 here or 4DPO. I've finally got it through to my brain that this is too early for symptom spotting so feeling quite zen

But also a bit "am I pregnant yet???"

Ooh new emoticon!

Still no action last night - last chance saloon for this cycle tonight unless they're hardy little swimmers and managed to stay alive 6 days!
Tried to get him interested, then caved and told him it was close to ovulation. His reply, " I thought you were being relaxed and not bothered this month." Errrr there's relaxed and just not bloody attempting at all like you apparently are! Honestly men!! I actually do give up! He has literally no understanding of ISW though - even though I've explained it about a zillion times! He just doesn't understand that you don't just pregnant at any time of the month, so has just no urgency about doing it at the right time.

Bloody hell, I hope my boobs don't grow two sizes feefs I can barely cope with what I've been endowed with already!

Oh moose that's really not fair of him. Have you let him know how much this upsets you? You might need to go a bit more firm - not so wish washy see what happens blah and say look I'm ovulating we've got about 48 hours or no baby, capiche?

It would be nice if his vision was true but cold hard science says it's not. He needs to get on board if he really wants to start a family.

twink I waited till I was 6 weeks to ring, but round by me it's just a cursory 10 minute appt with the midwife at the gp in order for her to say hello and refer you on. Then booking in appt attend hospital (bloods, weight, starting your notes etc) anywhere from 10-12 weeks, (I was 11 weeks) and at the booking in they give you a scan date ( where I'll be 13 weeks). But in some areas you just self refer to the hospital, some places you have to see the GP. I'd give it a week or so and phone, but it's up to you and there's no real rush.

moose he sounds like he's being really unfair, not cool bro!

feef I live in sports bras but I've gone from a respectable D to probably an F. I'm waiting till after the scan to get some new clothes but I'm struggling to wear my stuff now.

Morning all, moose I am so sorry that you are finding this frustrating with your OH. I know this isn't going to be what you want to hear but if he is reluctant to dtd when you are ovulating but isn't being clear about why, maybe he is just scared, and hasn't admitted it to either you or himself yet?

Theorchard we are (not)testing buddies!! I am also too scared to test, I'm pretty sure its going to be a bfn though so maybe I will just to put my mind at ease. Can't be arsed forking out for FRER when its so unlikely - I put a lot of effort into avoiding ISW this month so will be sods law that I'll be upduffed right before my once-in-a-lifetime-trip.

I think the problem is he's very practical and stressing about money/buying a house. His attitude is well if it takes a year, that's better for us as we'll be in a new property and better prepared, whereas I'm more worried about getting closer to 38 and 40 is approaching fast and I want it as quick as possible, and the money and house will all work out in the end. It's not like we've both not got good jobs, people survive on a lot less with kids!
Aaah anyway, at least the two week wait will be a breeze this month! lol

Don't know how you girls are managing to hold on and not test!!! Triple Starky's stars for you!!!

moose both viewpoints are understandable (I'm more in your camp though, my OH just isn't fussed if we do or don't, or adopt, or just get a donkey)

I am 100% convinced I am pregnant, and 100% convinced I can't possibly be. I'm going to test tomorrow though, with FMU if OH has managed to get to a shop. Or I am going to wait until the weekend. Or wait until I get home. NOT COOL BRAIN, CHILL. OUT.

My DH was like that too moose. He thinks we've lined up too many stressful events in one go! I think it's just life! It's hard we compromised and obviously I'm pregnant. He's delighted but definitely finding it quite stressful. I AM NOT myself and 1st trimester is not fun or particularly happy just now. So I can definitely see both sides! I think a full frank chat is in order! And probably compromise on both sides.

flash and 5star I have not tested after my op... Should I be ? And WTF do you mean 6-10 weeks??? I really hope it does not take my junk that long to get going again after MC.
Feelong very low at the mo... PMA seems to have done a bunk :(

moose very sorry about your OH's lack of cooperation. but also quite relieved that I do not have to handle that aspect of on tap magic potion

moose your DH sounds so like mine! The bricks and mortar thing - it's quite cave man. Must have roof and fire to make baby. Hope he comes round and realises there is more urgency on the baby side!

skip haha on the 100% thing - been there many times! Hope you are knocked up

feefs sorry to hear you're not enjoying it. Why is it so unpleasant?

kwick ups and downs are totally normal, go easy on yourself and hope you wake up happier tomorrow.

Day19, 4 dpo for me. Feeling a bit down in the dumps myself today - which is usually an early PMS sign for me. Sigh.

The sickness and tiredness are just not what I was expecting sucha! I knew about morning sickness etc but didn't expect full blown all day nausea and the most extreme tiredness I've ever experienced! I am very forgetful as a result which is affecting my performance at work at times and can't tell anyone yet so just seem a bit of an idiot! Plus the scan worry! It really is Schrödinger's pregnancy at the moment! Is there something in the sac or not? We find out Saturday(hopefully). Also very "out of sync" with DH as needing to go to bed at around 9pm and very picky with food when I normally wouldn't be. Now I'm just having a big old insensitive moan and I feel terribly guilty!!

I am happy I just didn't expect to feel like this

Mosse - time to sit down with DH for a chat and a plan I think. You need to decide together which comes first house or baby. We cant answer that (I think people here have done it both ways!)

Feefs uh oh, i am really worried about sickness etc. I am normally a very healthy person so dreading the idea of being unwell. When did it start?

Jem chin up, I got a bfp on cd23 so it could happen soon!

FX Test tomorrow I'm excited for you!

Around week 5 but really amped up week 6/7 now occasionally a bit better but some vomiting and constant headache. I don't want to be sick from work but that's pretty much all I can do then all my energy gets spent there which isn't very fair on DH

Feefs you're allowed to moan...and it's important for all of us to be realistic-being pregnant is not going to be a walk in the park (funnily enough I did just walk in the park...being super healthy with food and walking at the mo cos I know a time will come when pregnancy is not gonna be easy!). Just like baby arriving is not gonna be all perfect and idyllic! Moan away!

Moose I think we've all been there -it's soooo frustrating!!!!! Do you think if you give him the stats "women of my age who time sex perfectly still take an average of X months to get pregnant cos egg quality and sperm quality deteriorate", would that help him realise that committing to dtd is not committing to having a kid in 9 months (although for you Moose I'm hoping that 9 months IS the case!!!)

Thanks ni sorry just feeling a bit sorry for myself this evening too! Another great side effect! The hormones!

I'm dreading the nausea, fatigue, and mood swings because OH hasn't a clue about pregnancy (he just thinks woman gets pregnant, grows a belly, 9months later baby arrives) and I'm afraid he won't be understanding because of that (he'll probably be fine, I'm just worrying!)

Jem crossing fingers and toes for you (...it's rather disabling but I'll be fine!! 😜 ) You too Fx and Theo

Kwick sending you hugs on your down day!! Hope you're snuggled up on the couch indulging yourself a bit!

Feefs are you able to keep anything down? I'm thinking I'll try almonds or water crackers by my bedside as well as fresh ginger tea, and regular small bites when the nausea kicks in. God knows if it'll work though!!!

feef not insensitive at all, please don't feel guilty. Just because we want to be pregnant doesn't mean being pregnant isn't hard for others. I really hope you feel better soon xx let us know how the scan goes too! Hope all ticking along as it should be.