TTC for 10 months or more, and now we're moving onto thread 4! Ten plussers welcome!

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Thread for anyone TTC for over ten months. Please feel free to join us!

Took the liberty of starting a new thread (with what is obviously a brilliant piece of rhyme!) as I assume everyone else is sleeping peacefully right now :)

Thanks. Feel pretty demoralised. But at least they are back where they belong and this was even if they don't make it they are in me rather than the lab. Embryologist who consented me was a cow bag. One yesterday am said 10% chance of success this one said she had never seen success with embryos like that and it would take a miracle. Pretty hacked off. Awful week.

Lucie - be kind to yourself. Sounds horrible.

I HATE the motherhood challenge. I wish I was brave enough to respond with a infertility challenge picture of all my needles, my blastocyst photo and a bfn test and write something like 'this is a challenge, being a mother is a gift' - but I'm not.

Bean - thinking positive thoughts for your embies, you never know.

Lucie - hope you're feeling better?

Trixie - good luck for Tuesday!

Waves to everyone. Xx

Hi Ladies!

I am a newbie here and I feel so excited reading all your posts! Got me thinking that I am not the only one experiencing TTC (still has to learn those shortcut names!)

Husband and I are still trying and we do hope to have a baby this year. All tests are normal, our doctor said its "all about the right timing"....

Feel free to reply if you have some advice for me!

Thank you!!! And I do hope and pray for our baby dream to come true!

Motherhood challenge is bullshit. One of my friends posted a great article yesterday that I think you guys will like:

theivftimes.com/2016/05/05/dear-pregnant-folks-and-parents/

AFM, I woke up to find blood on my loo paper. It was brown and mucousy, but I fear the worst. Nothing to be done before scan on Monday but it's not feeling good ladies.

Stealth love that! I hate the motherhood challenge it's just for smug parents in their special little club. Sorry to hear about the bleeding. Brown is not normally anything to worry about though and bleeding is very common after ivf especially around the 6-7 week so try not to worry too much. I know it's hard though.

Hugs Stealth. Brown blood is not as big a problem. It quite often comes from the baby burrowing into your pining and nicking a tiny blood vessel. Also if you are on progesterone pessaries they can irritate your cervix and cause it to bleed. If you aren't cramping at all and if the blood isn't red then the chances are it is all ok. I know The Frear though. I've been down that route a few times

Thanks guys. Not on pessaries anymore (they're going in the back door) so it's not that. I have mild cramping which is a concern. Nothing I can do though. FEAR.

Big hugs. Just snuggle down in bed with movies and good books and sit our the weekend. Hopefully it is everything just bedding in.

Stealth - I love that article. I swear if we ever get our baby I'm going to tell the world how much their baby announcement/complaining/smug posts hurt some people. Not to be mean, but to try to make them understand.
I myself may well have been guilty of asking someone when they were going to have a baby before I found myself struggling. I would never have thought it could have resulted in that person going home in tears or cutting me out their life.

I'm keeping everything crossed for you that this bleeding is nothing to worry about.

Welcome longing - tell us about yourself. How long have you been trying? How old are you? What tests have you had? Xx

Trixie good luck for Tuesday! Hope it wasn't too much hassle for DH to change his day off.
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Bean* urgh I think your nurse needs a lesson on bedside manner - talk about being totally tactless, especially as they know what the women they look after are going through. Let's hope you don't have to deal with her again, rude bitch.

Welcome longing sorry you find yourself here. What's your story?

Fingers crossed for you stealth I know it's easier said than done but it's brown and not massive cramping so try not to worry too much - pretty sure some cramping is normal.

That bloody motherhood challenge!!! My sisters friend who has been going through IVF did actually write on her FB though a retort to it - very brave of her.

Sammy I have been totally guilty of asking about kids before - I feel terrible about it now. I know if I ever have a baby, I'll make sure I spread awareness around the difficulties I, and many other women face.

Oops got all my bold text mixed up!

Stealth, when I was going through all this I read that the placenta starts attaching around 6 weeks and can cause some blood and minor cramps. Cramping is always going to be a part of pregnancy with so much growing and stretching going on in there so it's completely normal. The difference with me is that I had pink and red blood. Brown is just old and could well be from the placenta and has only just made its way out. I hope it eases off for you soon.

What the ladies have said. Stealthini is just getting settled in, burrowing in which can mean spitting of some old blood. And the cramping is normal as your uterus is stretching as stealthini is down there building an extension. Obv no less scary but very very normal

If you're really worried call the 24h number and they'll get hold of the Dr who can reassure you. Remember the batphone is there! He told me I should have called it when I was in a tiz about being unsure about the dose I was supposed to take of buserelin - I said I thought 'emergency' meant 'I've gone into labour' emergency. He said no, it's for out of hours contact, so don't feel you can't call

Spitting = spotting obvs

Hi Longing and welcome. I hope you aren't trying much longer.

Our referral has come through for the Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic. 25th of May. The day after our wedding anniversary and 1 year and 1 day since we started trying.

Brenna - glad you've got your appointment, and not too long to wait either xx

Brenna, that's great news that you've got your appt so soon.

Stealth, how are things today?

My godmother has been here the last 2 evenings learning how to bake and doing a massive cake for her church party today. She is really bad for feeding DDoig snacks - he got the better part of a chicken both days when she got here plus goodness knows what else. I got up this morning and DDog now has the shits, spectacularly. I was Poomageddon in the flat today. I have been taking him out regularly and cleaning the floor in between times. He is exploding over the place within 10 minutes of getting back in from the last trip outside. I am so tempted to ban her from ever coming back.

How are you doing today Stealth?

Oh and how are you feeling now Lucie?

Oh Brenna that doesn't sound good! Poor you and ddog! I am feeling a lot better now. The stomach pains have eased off a lot and I'm no longer having to take the painkillers.

Hi guys

brenna that's great news re your appointment. And poor DDog. (Actually more poor you having to deal with all the poo .)

lucie glad you are feeling better.

I am feeling a bit calmer today. Bleeding seems to have stopped, I am still crampy but in a weird way - it feels more like it's coming from the top of my vagina than from my stomach. Still absolutely panicked about scan tomorrow, and am guessing tonight won't be my most restful night's sleep ever, but have managed to have a nice anniversary weekend rambling about in the sun & relaxing at the spa, so that has been nice - just on the train back to London now. Whatever will be, will be, I guess.

That sounds a lovely weekend stealth. Where did you go? It's out anniversary in a few weeks so looking for ideas! Brilliant that the bleeding has stopped now. I'm sure it was nothing to worry about. Good luck for the scan tomorrow. I know how utterly terrifying they are x

We went to a fabulous hotel spa in the New Forest - I can pm you the name if you want. It was absolutely stunning.

I'd feel better if I wasn't still cramping but that's life I suppose. Definitely feel a lot better than I did yesterday - thank you guys for hand holding me through the mini meltdown!

Glad things have settled a bit Stealth. I really hope tomorrow gives you good news. Sounds like a fab weekend. I'm really glad you had some fun and relaxation. Well worth it. Happy anniversary too.

Glad you are less sore too Lucie.