Thread : Lucky Number 13 take 2. TTC#1 The one where AF can kiss our arse!

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount!

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kats stats I am resident piss stick queen and if you don't test, you get a Starky's Star

When you post stats, add your predicted test/af date. We are currently running at about 49% pregnant with the grads thread over in ante-natal which we all hope to join soon.

WE SHALL WIN IN THE GAME OF SPERM MEETS EGG! IT WILL HAPPEN!

Thanks peaches, miley, jem and ni!

I can't really believe it yet but also can't think about anything else!!! DH just got a new (better) job and it all just feels perfect!

Only thing I did different this month was take EPO! And holiday which I think was what did it really! Drinking less coffee too but been drinking more alcohol and eating more food!

Can't really believe it yet!

Awww congrats Feefs! It must feel a bit surreal. I'm still so early into the TTC journey but it's already feeling like something that I'm only imagining will happen, so whenever I see another lady here make the grad list it's heartening.

Well, AF showed up with a vengeance yesterday - a day later than expected but at least she didn't hang around too long to tease me. Roll on another month, during which I will try to calm my tits and not stress too much! Tis funny though - I was chatting on the phone to a friend with a new baby, worrying about late period, and the moment I heard the baby cry at the other end of the phone ... well, I hung up a few minutes later and that's when AF showed, in sympathy I guess >_<

This will happen for me, I am not ancient by any means. Tempted to book in to a nice hotel for a night around my next fertile window though!!

There is definitely some kind of weird connection between AF and pregnancy related things kavanaugh. I planned to buy a pregnancy test earlier in the week, just in case, and I got home having thought about that and bam, there was the witch.

Think we're taking a month off TTC. DH said he wants to get the kitchen finished as he feels like too many things are happening at once and he wants to concentrate on TTC, not just have it happening in the background. However, he said maybe we can try in a few weeks, and I said well really its 2 weeks or 6 weeks. He was of the mistaken belief that you had AF then 2 weeks of fertility followed by a week pre-AF of "becoming pregnant or not". Silly man.

Thanks vix too sorry missed you there! Cannot focus at work

lol flash they're so dozy sometimes, it really does make you wonder how our OHs ever seemed so intelligent!! We are also on a break, as I've mentioned about 5000 times. Even being on a break I don't really stop thinking about it. Possibly because I was using Ovia to try to avoid ISW but my cycles are still irregular since coming off BCP so now I'm a little worried. Planning to book some flights soon for crazy big holiday so better not be my month! Baby bomb from oldest friend, but I'm delighted as shes been trying for 3 months so its all good. (I'm glad she's going through it first too tbh!!)
Congrats feefs how lovely for you!

Awww feef that is so awesome. Wishing you a happy healthy 9 months :)

Lovely to see you peaches glad to hear all going well. I'm glad people pop back! It's feeling a bit quiet here after the recent run of bfps.

Sorry about AF kav hope she clears off soon so you can crack on to next eggo

Day 12 here and just got an absolute shedload of EWCM the epo really seems have kicked in! It feels too early for me to ov and nothing on the opks but will definitely be upping DTD activity.

Congratulations feef Amazing News! 👑💐🐙🍼🎂🎊🐛

Aw, nice to hear you sounding a bit more excited Feefs :) I can imagine work must be impossible though!

Skip Big holiday sounds fab, I'm very envious. Have fun planning and enjoy not the head space that not being obsessed about TTC will give you!

Welcome CatLady. It sounds like we are in a similar place in terms of age, time coming off the pill etc. Hope your journey has got off to a good start and you're feeling excited about it all.

Jem really sorry to hear you're feeling upset. I don't think the men are able to understand the impact TTC has on us and just how vulnerable it makes us. It sounds like your OH is genuinely sorry though so I hope you are able to enjoy your anniversary

We were very lucky on our first, first go and we conceived.

I feel quite nauseous today, it's too early to test at 8dpo???

feef Brilliant news!!!! Congrats!!
I'm on a course for the next two weeks (and over ISW) so trying to forget about it all this month. Hopefully that'll give DP some breathing space too and another month closer to us buying a place and panicking about money and baby!

I wonder how any of our men hold down good jobs and get through every day life when they can be so dense sometimes!!!! Lol

congrats feef!

Congrats feef! That's definitely 2 lines to me.

I'm now 12dpo and due Af tues/wed I think. I had been feeling quite hopeful (although I was really, really trying not to think about it) but I have some very, very mild cramp going on today, so thinking AF will be showing up soon .

julia faaaaaaar too early to test.leave it at least till 12 dpo. No point in wasting tests. It will my mess with your head mate! Tricky as it is, just let nature take its course for the next few days and see what happens! Chances are at 8 dpo any symptom would be psychosematic anyway.

I tested and got a bfn. 😔 silly me!

Can I ask, if I was pregnant, don't sore boobs and nausea come from the hormone released once implantation occurs? So if I was pregnant that hormone, hcg should show up now? Or are these symptoms too early to really have for pregnancy?

Congratulations feef ... it's great to see another BFP

Think I'm due to ovulate today (in the office so haven't had a chance to OPK, but they've been faint everyday since last Monday) so I'm going to head home and jump poor DH's bones and then go to sleep ... I'm k-o'd today.

My appetite is through the roof today too, feeling like drowning myself in a box of Pringles!

Julia, your symptoms I am afraid are too early to mean anything. you have to wait. sorry! you may have hcg but the levels have to be above a certain amount to be detectable.

Julie my period is 4 days late and I only just got that faint bfp this am all negative before that. Otherwise minimal symptoms, had more energy than normal, bolted and boobs a bit sore but not especially. Think I'm falling into the camp that most in this group have! Bad PMS symptoms, minimal bfp symptoms! I hope you're different!

Thanks celi, hep, starky, ski, moose, sucha and fx! Such a supportive bunch! Hopefully I can get a stronger one tomorrow and start to believe it!!!

And kav thanks kav!

julia the most important thing is don't convince yourself your pregnant in the tww it will mess with your head. So will testing early. There is very little point to testing before at minimum 12 dpo. It's best to wait till 14-16 dpo/af being actually late. I had all of my usual af symptoms and zero bfp symptoms. If I hadn't tested, I'd still think af was coming and I'm 6+4 with long cycles.

Most symptoms, sore boobs, feeling sick etc can be because you're producing progesterone whether you're getting af or a bfp. Thats just how the cucle works. So don't set too much stock in symptom spotting, it will drive you insane. If you're going to test early, then only use fmu, it's the most concentrated. Doing a 3-4 hour hold at this point in your cycle is fairly pointless because you will have been taking in fluid so your urine will be diluted. Testing early is tempting but often more disappointing. You may get a faint bfp, only for af to turn up as usual. Chemical pregnancies are common, if you don't test, you wouldn't know.

Hcg is produced once implantation has occurred. This can take anything from 7-12 days. And even then you may not be producing enough hcg for it to register on a test (even a super sensitive early test). It will happen. But, testing obsessively won't make it happen any quicker and it's more likely to be disappointing if af turns up.

I sound harsh, but really, step away from the tests. Leave it for a few days. Then test. After 14dpo/af day then feel free to test at will. But doing it before will only stress you out.

Thanks Starky for your post, I need to let it be for now. Fingers crossed for everyone who is waiting. 😊

Yip, everything stark said ⬆

how are you stark*? Hope your well ☺

Feefs I can see a line

Hello everyone, just checking in! I hadn't posted in so long that the thread was removed from my "I'm on" so I had to go find it again. Haven't caught up yet so I hope there were lots of happy BFPs over the weekend. AF has gone now so I have a week off before ISW begins again. Can't even be arsed anymore. Lol.

Feef I also see a line, congratulations!!

Sorry the witch got you Kav.

So DH seems to have really got on board with ttc this month, currently cd 13. However... I think he's got a bit of our crazy, he's stressing himself out so much that couldn't dtd last night! This is very new for him and stressing him out even more. I've chilled out a lot more this month. I've tried reassuring him but like us is this just something I need to let him go through, get out of his system?

starky I've missed your stern POAS advice! Glad to hear all going well.

Hello kat how are you doing?

fishy oh no the crazy catching is dangerous news! I hope he calms down and you can crack on. I'm day 12 today - which makes us almost cycle twins