TTC after miscarriage - lucky thread number 3

[Brenna24]

Still hopeing for 3x3 BFPs for this month. Hopefully thread 3 will do that.

Lie back and think of Britain Paco. Then handstands galore

Thanks mrs. I have had the rubella jab. I think it was the mumps one i missed out on as i was born mid 80s. The gp said they only really worry about rubella so it's fine. Might look into it more though.

Come on paco lol!

I'm on cd27. Not sure when I ovulated but I caved in and tested today. A big fat negative! Roll on next month. I'm a bit sick of thinking about it all so maybe need to take a step back. I was going so well on the 5:2 - lost 3.5pounds but at the wedding weekend I comfort ate loads even though it wasn't as bad as I thought and now I've just been eating and eating. Sometimes get like that just before AF. Hopefully new start tomorrow.

Cheeky you're not out until the witch arrives! No harm in stepping away from the pissy sticks though. Only on CD4 but might give DH my collection of OV, IC, FRER and CB digital to prevent the pissy madness of last month happening again

I've thrown all of my pissy stocks out. I will but a CB digital if AF is late. No more squinting at lines or early testing for me. It is too upsetting and stressful!

I am quite proud of myself. For 4 months on the trot I have not tested until AF was at least 3 days late (i.e. not tested as the most she has been was 2 days late). I have a stack of pissy sticks in the cupboard which are still there and have been since last year. My willpower has amazed me.

That is amazing willpower Brenna and Loki. I'm going to try and do the same. I'm 5/6 dpo I think and so have a long old wait.

Can anyone ask an Ovia question? It says I can test in 9 days but it doesn't predict my period will arrive for 14 days. What's that about?! When do I test?

Good luck Cheeky. I agree, you're not out until you're out!!

Xx

I think it is saying that as you should see a line at 14dpo, whereas your luteal phase is clearly a lot longer than 14 days. My LP is normally 15 days so it predicts my testing date 1 day before AF is due.

Ah thanks Brenna. Is it a problem to have a long LP?

It shouldn't be. It gives the baby plenty of time to get implated and established. A short LP is a problem as you can be shedding the uterine lining before the baby has a chance to get there. I think anything above about 10 is good.

Hahah thanks for the vote of confidence ladies! But do you know when you just have an inner feeling that says it's not your month? I have that. When I fell preg last time I had noticeable cramps around. 5-6 days before af was due. It must've been implantation or actual conception? But not had anything of the sort this time!

Well done Brenna! This was my first month POAS after cursing everyone else !!

I think everytime is different. My first pregnany i tested because i musthave had an implantation bleed. I didnt have any symptoms at all tho.

My second pregnany i think i knew right from conception i was pregnant. Weird.

Will keep everything crossed for you! When can you test then?

cheeky that makes sense. My first pregnancy I just knew I was pregnant. This month I know I'm not. Well apart from my mum annoying me which was an early symptom of pregnancy last time

I have been to the climbing wall and taken out all my frustrations on that. I have only been about 5 times in the last 2 years as I had a bad shoulder for ages, then we were in teh run up to the wedding, then I got upduffed so quickly I had no time to get back into it. It is good to be back.

We got a delivery of stuff for the allotment too. The next few weeks are going to be busy but fun.

There have definitely been months I just knew there was no point in me even testing. My main symptom that made me test last pregnancy was that I was even hotter than normal (it was that horrible cold wet august and I was going out at 6.30 to walk the dog in a strappy top at about 8 degrees C and coming home with my back soaked in sweat). Every time I get remotely hot now I start hoping.

Thanks for your advice Brenna - I was scared for a moment so thanks for your reply.

My body behaves so strangely now after the MCs that I don't know whether my body is being normal or not normal, ie we've conceived. This month I'm 5/6 dpo and I'm exhausted, have swollen tummy, bloated and I'm farting galore. But I had that last month and it turned out to be sweet FA. So I have no idea what's going on. I imagine my hormones are still settling down. I need to remind myself that it's only been 2 normal cycles since the MC.

Good luck Cheeky though. We are due another bit of good luck on here!

hopefulkate no idea how many days post ovulation I am but I'm another bloated farter at the moment. Its so uncomfortable!

I'm consoling myself that we are going on holiday this month so will be able to have a few drinks of its not our month.

Sorry didn't mean to scare you.

Each cycle that goes past since my m/c I have been a little less bloated and farty. Thank goodness. DH has strted calling our house the shrek house as he farts all the time, the dog belches and then I took up farting as a hobby too.

Hi, I hope you don't mind if I join you? This is my first month of ttc after a mc, and I'd forgotten just how crazy it makes me! I need to talk to others in a similar boat rather than obsessing in isolation.
It feels like dh and I have been ttc forever. I came off the pill around 3 years ago. Had one mc at 9 weeks, which was a terrible loss at the time, but went on to conceive 3 months later. At 12 weeks scan we were shocked and delighted to find out we were expecting identical twins, after expecting to find nothing, and we were beyond excited at our ready made family (thought with relief I would never have to go through the ups and downs of ttc again or dreadful ms). We had regular scans as it was a high risk pregnancy but never expected the worst could happen to us, and it felt like we'd already got our bad luck out of the way. At 17 weeks they were growing fine and perfectly healthy, expecting boys who we named Charlie and Archie. At 19 week scan (Jan 18th) found they had died.
This latest loss has been dreadfully hard. I have finally had a period and am now back on the ttc roller coaster. I think my period is due early next week and have convinced myself I might be pregnant. Not sure if I'm just imagining it or if symptoms are real, but I'm trying not to get to carried away. I didn't think I would get excited this early on again, and I know I'm going to be devastated if I'm not, but I keep thinking maybe I am and can't help daydreaming already. I need to stop!!!

Sorry for the long message!xxx

So sorry for ur loss obsessed how sad. I know that feeling of thinking a pregnancy is successful aftee mc. I think youre very brave to be jumping in so soon and would like to wish u all the look in the world.

Youre extra fertile after mc so ur feelings / daydreaming could be true you never know!

Thanks gingerbread. Sorry for your losses also.
I feel like I need to throw myself in, and start moving forward. It's been such a long time already, I just can't waste any more time. I just want to be holding a baby by the end of the year. I'm not setting myself up for a fall at all, haha xx

Hi all and welcome obsessed, my story is very similar to yours, my first pregnancy was identical twin boys Bradley and mason. My waters ruptured at 20 weeks unbeknown to me and they were born at 21+5. It was very difficult to deal with. This was 10 years ago this year for me but I've gone on to have two very healthy daughters. I had one chemical pregnancy on my second cycle after losing our boys and my eldest DD was a non identical twin, I miscarried her twin at 8 weeks. DD2 my pregnancy was uneventful but I had uti's galore and swine flu. I had an early mc in Jan this year.
Wishing you luck ttc again, take each day as it comes that's how I got through it.

So I'm cd6 today and af has buggered off finally! I went to my gp about my super clots this cycle and he said it doesn't sound like retained tissue just a very heavy period, sometimes because it's really heavy the chemical that stops clots while you're on doesn't have chance to work because of the fast flow and that's what causes these big clots. I have to go back if I have it again though. I didn't have any period pains apart from on my first day this month so that's a bonus and no spotting before or after af so guessing that I'm returning to normal finally.

Hope everyone else is ok too xx

Welcome obsessed and so sorry for your losses

Hello obsessed I'm so sorry for your loss we were on the June board together but I left a few weeks before you

Wrote a reply earlier but phone crashed!

I'm sorry for your loses obsessed. But much admiration for your strength and bravery to try again

I'm also in the convinced myself is be pregnant again by the end of the year club (I know I've missed the boat this month). So will be here to congratulate/commiserate as appropriate

I felt the same after mmc but after spending such a long time pregnant with no baby to show for it i was ready for a break. Now im trying to pluck up the courage.

Hi amy sorry for your losses. Good luck on your journey.