Ttc#1 Lucky no.13. The one where Doreen and Hugh ride the honeymoon gondola down the fallopian canal.

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount!

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kats stats I am resident piss stick queen and if you don't test, you get a Starky's Star

When you post stats, add your predicted test/af date. We are currently running at about 49% pregnant with the grads thread over in ante-natal which we all hope to join soon.

Link to thread 12.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2580240-Thread-12-TTC-1Trying-is-the-fun-part-said-by-nobody-ever-whos-actually-trying?pg=1&order=

Congratulations Callier!

Thanks Rae looking forward to going through this with you!

Congratulations cailler amazing!!

Can you now both send positive get pregnant vix vibes please! I'm going to try a different mental approach this month. Shame my mil doesn't know I'm trying because she had hypnotherapy and all that jazz!

Congratulations cailler!

Lyssie I love that little cartoon
Congrats Callier
I am super pleAsed with all this BFP and a huge part of me can't wait for some names from the old gang to give some news!!!
Come on! Some people have been buying tickets for months

I have no idea about when in my cycle I am so this month I won't be symptom spotting like that alligator.
With the trip and the chocolate and, let's be honest, the daily couple of beers during hols in Belgium (tour lady kept talking about the nutritious value and I drunk the ones made by monks) my temps are all over the place.
On top of that, the second batch of opks that I bought are RUBBISH and I never got a positive for two months. I know it it the tests because of my temps and it worked with the other ones. I read the reviews too late.
Which ones are you ladies using??

Anyhow. No symptom spotting due to date ignorance is pretty great,i might get used to this, drop the calendar and just opks and SMEG plan

How are you today ladies?

Thank you all. Will send some positive vibes your way Vix! There are hypnotherapy fertility sessions available on YouTube..!

We started trying March last year and I naively thought that I'd be holding a baby right now.. Though I am more than happy to be holding a positive test today

Aw Cailler that's fabulous news! Especially after your long wait. Hope your little poppy seed burrows in deep and you have a happy, healthy 9 months! X

My holiday buzz is sailing away today...it's gonna be a stressful day at work 😒

Congratulations cailer, hooray :) hope it's a sticky little bean this time.

I'm feeling rather rubbish girls. I'm full of a cold-flu thing and feel dreadful. Our landlord emailed yesterday and said he needs his flat back from 1 June. We love this flat and it's like home for us. We were hoping to stay here until we buy as we are saving. But now I feel like the rug has been pulled from under my feet.

DH wants us to consider living with my parents (who live nearby and have room) where we could save lots more quickly. But to me that seems like a nightmare - how can we keep ttc and living there? Plus once we are ready to buy it takes months to complete. He's also away for a few nights a week - whilst I'd be stuck in my old bedroom at home like a 32 year old teenager 😔

But if we rent somewhere else we're probably committing to 12 months of renting. Plus all the costs of moving and fees / deposit.

Eurgh. I don't know what to do. This combined with feeling so crappy is bad combo. And I've had zilch symptoms - nada this month. Big fat :(

Cailer this is brilliant! Thanks for sharing! It gives lots of hope to others when someone that has been trying for a bit gets a BFP thanks

Jem so sorry to hear this! Bah.
I don't know what to advise, very personal decision. I would not move in with parents but that means that I have no savings as I moved out a long time ago and never managed to save up.
Lots of my colleagues are saving lots by living with their parents and I defo see the benefits in that and wonder if I made a mistake.
But then I imagine having a relationship under someone else's roof or even being on my own and living with parents. Nope, not for me.
But it might work for other people and it might be more sensible than what I think

Jem I feel for you...same thing happened to us this year. Landlord of my little rented house of 5 yrs wanted it back. He gave us 6 months notice so we tried to buy somewhere but no luck...we moved to another rental place in Feb. It's not as nice as my last place (having upstairs neighbours bugs me) but we managed to dump stuff when we moved, try out a slightly different part of the area we like, and living in another property has given us another experience and made us clearer about what is important in a house we buy (one street away from a tube line doesn't actually mean tube noise!). We did have to shell out 800+ in estate agent fees and moving van costs which totally sucks, but we did get a 12month contract with a 6 month break clause so we could leave if we find a house to buy (nothing happening at all on the house buying front so turns out being stuck in a rental contract didn't matter!) Ask for one of those contracts...most house purchases will take at least 6 months to find and buy!

I can understand your OH thinking it's a good idea if hes away a lot but if you tell him there will be no dtd while living at your parents I'm sure he'll see it differently!.. I know a lot of people who do that to save money but I (and my relationship) couldn't survive more than a month at my parents!

I've not been in your position Jem but I can definitely understand the struggle between trying to balance various aspects of what you want and what makes sense financially. DH and I went through a phase where I was desperate to move house even though we've only been here just under 3 years, and the best thing we did was to sit down and really work out the short and long term reality of the situtation. I would suggest, if you haven't done so already, that you work out how long you would need to stay with your parents to save enough to look for a house and how long it would take you to save if you rent somewhere else. If it cuts the time in half, you might decide you can stick it out but if it only brings it forward by a couple of months then it might not feel worth it. Similarly you might be prepared to put up with it if you'd rather own a home by the time you have a baby rather than renting. Sorry if you've thought of all this already but sometimes it's hard to see the wood for the trees!

Jem sorry to hear about this. It is never nice when your plans are thrown up in the air.

why don't you focus on getting better and then have a good discussion with OH? there are pros/cons to either renting or living with ILs.
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Morning ☺

Congratulations calier wishing you a happy healthy 8 months x

jem i hate when life throws you a curve ball! Lots to consider. If you did move in with your parents could you agree to maybe do some over night hotel breaks in order to keep our track with ttc and just to have fun without worrying about noise etc..with your parents? Our friends where in very similar position to you, moved back in with her mum. They look for little over night deals, quite local and cheap and cheerful but it gives them a little bit of a break and they feel it can be quite romantic to just up sticks and get out their routine. I'm sure everything will work out x

Congratulations Cailler & Rae, been awol for a few days and just catching up. Spotting both of your BFPs has just made my TWW a little easier . Hope you're both feeling well?

Back to some rampant symptom spotting work for me!

Congrats callier!!!

Congrats callier!

jem, DH and I took the decision to move in with DH's grandparents when we moved due to me changing jobs so we could save. We were quite lucky in that they had a 4 bedroom house so we chose the furthest bedroom away! We lived with them for nearly 4 years whilst saving (we had no savings at all and some debts when we moved) and paying stuff off before finally buying our house last year. It was at times stressful and hard. Admittedly we weren't ttc then, although we weren't preventing it from happening either. It was worth it.

Noticed the slightest tinge of brown cm on tissue this morning, 14dpo today, so think the witch is on her way
Felt very emotional after doing a visit to a lady today who has such a lovely, rewarding story, obviously I can't talk about it on here due to confidentiality, but I couldn't help but think about if I never fall pregnant, is that an option for me. Sat in my car after and had a few tears.

pug nothing wrong with a good cry. is needed from time to time

Thanks so much for your replies and support – they honestly mean so much to me and have helped me feel calmer.

I feel like there’s no right answer but my gut is telling me not to move in with my parents. Partly because it’s not just them – my sister and brother are both currently living at home too, so it would be quite crowded having us there too. If it was just mum and dad I think I could just about cope.

I think I’d rather sign up to a 12 month rental agreement (and get a 6 month break if I can ni) and review our savings plan – making sure that by the end of it, our next move is into a home that we own. I think DH disagrees and thinks we should sacrifice quality of life for the higher saving rate, but a) it isn’t his family and b) he’s away a lot. It isn’t as hard for him.

I think he’s being a bit caveman and thinking he wants to own his own bricks and mortar before starting a family. I get that. But buying in London is so hard, it seems the impossible dream, and so many couples are having to start families in rented – its much more the norm.

Big hug for you pug, really hope it’s not AF.

Ive had to accept that too Jem...always thought my life would be settled (ie not in rented accommodation) by the time I had kids...but have had to come around to realising that a home is a home! Bloody London housing market... And my parents are in Ireland and his are elsewhere in UK so moving in with them isn't even an option!

No rush with your decision anyway if you have til May. Take it easy and get better first! xx

Pug I had a little cry in my car last night, another pregnancy announcement from an old friend and I ended up feeling quite sorry for myself. It's not fun but you do feel better once you've got it out your system! Hope AF is going to stay away.

Jem in one of my previous flats I didn't know if I was continuing to work or going to Uni and the landlord gave us a 10 month lease which we needed rather than a 12 month one. Maybe if you try having a chat with a potential landlord they'd do something similar?

Ooh, and congratulations Rae and Callier!

Congratulations Rae and calliper!

Sorry i don't have enough time to catch up properly! On holidays here enjoying the sunshine and ISW!! Used ovulation stock for the first time this month and got peak today along with EWCM makes me feel a bit better that things are probably working as they should

Away until Sunday so will try and drop in and say hi! I hope everyone's okay and being kind to themselves!

Ohh congratulations peaches!

Jem Could you compromise and find a house-share for you and OH? They tend to be more flexible than private rentals in terms of length of contract, you can avoid estate agent fees by going through Gumtree etc, and obviously you will paying much less than if you were in your own flat.

I know it's not ideal, but it could strike the balance between your own place and being with your parents. So many people in their 20s and 30s do it in London now that I'm sure wouldn't have a problem finding people you get on with in a nice area; it might even only be you and one other person/couple.

Best of luck whatever you choose to do though, I really hope it works out :)