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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!

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Kwick709 · 07/03/2016 17:17

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

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taydex · 18/03/2016 12:01

Happy Friday ladies!!!

Glad to hear you're all doing well.

Caution - Still no news from the docs but you've just reminded me to give them a call. I did get a text about 1/2 an hour ago reminding me I have an appointment on Wednesday, which I didn't know about so maybe that's their way of telling me?!

Cloud - Don't be embarrassed about it being your first IUI. These things take a different amount of time for each of us and you should never feel bad that you were lucky enough for it to work first time. I laughed re the adding "it's still very early days" to the end of every statement. I still do that. 8 weeks today here (yay!). The risk of miscarriage is higher at 4, 8 and 12 weeks (when you would have normally had your AF), so I'm being a bit cautious for the next few days. Once we've got past that, that's another milestone out of the way. I did read that once you get past 8 weeks and they've seen a heartbeat, the chances of m/c fall to 2-3%. I also used the pee sticks (both of my makes) that you have to wait 3 minutes. Exactly 3 minutes, no sooner, no later. The longest 3 minutes of my life. And also, the first couple of tests I did changed to +ve quicker than test 3 and 4. I convinced myself that this meant the first 2 were only +ve as I still had drugs in my system. But they continued on being +ve and I'd say by about 5 days later they were quicker and stronger. And no, I didn't find your story insensitive at all. I felt for you, I have been there (well, similar) and it's nice to know that others go through the same thing. Made me feel a bit more normal! Smile Please don't feel you have to vet what you say on here. As Pickle says, we're all here together for the good and bad.

Kwik - Any luck on getting your hands on those freebie ClearBlues? We'll make you a convert yet... Wink So, I'm now reading the Crinone patient information leaflet online (I can send the link if anyone wants). Not sure I'd recommend reading it (despite the first line saying "Read all of this leaflet carefully before you start using this medicine because it contains important information for you"). So, I have learned that Crinone should be used preferably in the morning. It doesn't mention walking after (or not). It also says it may be used to support your new pregnancy for a total of 30 days. Not 3 months then like my clinic advise (I'm getting cynical that my clinic is all about making as many £ out of the patients as they can! But I'll do as I'm told). I also noticed that it said Crinone can make you tired (I'm feeling that at the moment, ever since I hit 6 weeks), I think I knew that but I am getting confused about what I've read from where now. I also read somewhere that it can cause bloating but that's not mentioned on the official leaflet. Caution - tell me if I'm stepping out of line here, but I think I remember you saying you suffered from depression in the past? The leaflet says it's not recommended if you've suffered depression - just thought I'd let you know so you can have that discussion with your clinic when the time comes. Sure there's alternatives or you can be monitored or lower dose or something. Good luck with your Progesterone test - let us know how it goes?

Pickle - Great news on getting the appointment booked. Onwards and upwards hey? You got that email confirmation through yet?

Boo - Come back to us! Please. We miss you. I hope everything's OK.

Shoes and Kwik - Are you both going to start testing slightly early? Fingers and toes crossed for you both.

I've been thinking of starting another thread for graduates from this thread. What do you think? Feels a bit wrong being on here now. I feel like an imposter. Or is that just me?

taydex · 18/03/2016 12:05

Shoes - Sorry, I didn't see your message until I'd sent mine. I find the time you and Kwik are at right now one of the hardest. It's so hard to stay level headed with all this going on. I've been there 5 times and it never got any easier waiting to find out one way or another with all the sh*t that must be going round in your heads. It is a very emotional time. Please try and stay positive if you can (I realise how hard that is, please don't stress). Best of luck the both of you, and don't forget, we're here for you both. Whatever happens.

INeedNewShoes · 18/03/2016 12:16

Taydex please don't go! (got that song in my head now)

I like having you around on this thread Smile . You're one of us whether you like it or not!

But, I can see that you might like also to start a new thread for those pregnant as a result of IUI/IVF.

taydex · 18/03/2016 13:35

Hey Shoes,

Thanks for that (and for the earworm!). I would like to stay to find out how you all get on. Just feels a bit funny being the other side of the fence now. I will look into starting another thread as well. I might wait a few days, see if I can recruit another couple from here Smile. But I'll hang around here for now too if that's OK.

CautionHormone · 18/03/2016 16:50

Taydex - don't leave us!! We love having you on this thread, and you're in no way shape or form an imposter..!! We like hearing how you're getting on. You're proof things like this can work - we wouldn't want you to leave!!
I have bipolar - so maybe Crinone won't be suitable for me Hmm. We'll have to see.
Glad you got a text through with an appointment on Wednesday. At least that's not too far away.

Pickle - that's great news about your op. At least it's not too far away!

Good luck to you both Shoes & Kwick if you're testing/going to start testing this weekend. I send lots of hope & positive vibes!

Getting lots of pain today where my cyst is. Arrrrghhh!

Kwick709 · 18/03/2016 17:01

taydex pleeeeeeeeeease stay with us and like shoes says start another thread which we will all join you on soon Wink

These days are definitely hard... I have so much vested... But all I can do is hope and pray and try and stay positive!

No clearblues but it is okay I have 4 FRERs and loads of strip tests plus opks if I get desperate.

On Eurostar on way home... Now what deliveroo shall I get ce soir?

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taydex · 18/03/2016 17:10

Excellent. Thanks ladies, I will stay! Smile

I put a vote in for curry Kwik - but then I would, I could eat curry all day every day (not sure my friends and family would thank me though! Wink).

Cloudburn · 18/03/2016 18:00

Well Taydex I reckon there's probably enough emotional angst and confusion to fill at least two threads! ;-)

But I think staying on here too is good. Good to have hope - and some inkling of what happens next! You're the trail blazer!

(But I get the 'imposter' feeling, particularly as more time goes by, and I can understand a desire for you to get the heads up on what is coming next from others who have gone before. And if you do decide to start a new one let me know - I might have to take a peek! But if it's alright with you ladies I'll still hang around here - you all have been an absolute sanity life saver!)

PS. Friday night is made for one thing and one thing only - chicken tikka masala, pilau rice and garlic naan on the couch. #justsayin

Cloudburn · 18/03/2016 18:03

Kwick and Shoes sending you warm fuzzy, fertile thoughts!!

And be kind to yourselves, all of us. Feel whatever you feel. Be whatever you are. I really don't think there's any right or wrong way to be just now. You just are, and that's okay.

Kwick709 · 18/03/2016 20:37

Have opted for chinese...

taydex you are only allowed to start new thread if you post link on here and invite us to join when we get bfps...ok?!

Getting very nervous about testing to tomorrow...and another spot has appeared... Must be all the hormones I am taking. I am also incredibly sore - But all worth it! I hope!

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INeedNewShoes · 19/03/2016 07:30

Clear bfn here still.

I've found an article to make me feel better that says the average day to first see a positive test if you're testing early is 13.6 dpo. I'm at 12 dpo so there's time yet.

On Thursday I was convinced I was pregnant but that feeling faded yesterday for some reason.

Fingers crossed for you Kwick

Kwick709 · 19/03/2016 07:51

Sorry about bfn shoes but try again tomorrow! What test were you using?

How long can hcg from trigger stay in system? I think I had to inject two vials of something.

I had an awful dream again where my mum was being really horrid to me and giving my room (no I do not live with her anymore!) to an ex-work colleague.... Hmm

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INeedNewShoes · 19/03/2016 08:00

That was one of the internet cheapies. I might pick up a couple of FRERs today so that I've got one for tomorrow and one for OTD.

On the trigger question, a quick Google brought up this:

Trace amounts of hCG can remain the body for as many as fourteen days after hCG injections. The rule of thumb that doctors use is that it takes one day for each 1000 units of hCG to leave your body. So, if you get a 10,000 unit injection of hCG, it will take approximately ten days for it to all leave your system.

But scanning a few other articles people seem to use ten days as rule of thumb.

Do you know how many units you've had?

Kwick709 · 19/03/2016 08:10

Nope Hmm supoose I can find out but may just add to current cray-cray.... Let me take worst case scenario of 14 days.... I triggered on 2 March so +14 days would be 16 March... OMG that does not help with cray-cray!!!

Must dash as have to go to clinic for another progesterone test....I am literally a pin cushion... Left bum cheek has got a hard lump where I injected a few days ago.... Bruising on both sides and on tummy... Not a pretty sight!

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Kwick709 · 19/03/2016 12:03

So had lovely nurse today that confirmed I had 10000 of pregnyl and that it normally lasts 10-11 days in the system... I am beyond that!!!! Cray-crayville ove here!

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Kwick709 · 19/03/2016 12:03

*oops over here!

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Cloudburn · 19/03/2016 13:30

Hang in there! You're nearly there! Fingers, toes, arms and legs crossed! (Moving is awkward....)

Kwick709 · 20/03/2016 16:46

caution how are you feeling? Still in pain? I hope you get this sorted soon.

shoes did you test again?

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pickle162 · 20/03/2016 18:15

How ru kwick?have u started testing? Any new symptoms or just the dreaded spots?x

CautionHormone · 20/03/2016 18:40

Good evening ladies :) hope you've all had a nice weekend.

Kwick - yep I'm still in pain. It comes and goes though so it's good it's not constant. I found out it was a haemorrhagic cyst, which means it's filled with blood & not fluid... Not quite sure what that means? Hmm
I got an appointment booking form through, and when I rang up to make the appointment I had the choice of my general hospital or the private hospital!! How good is that?? I chose to go private because it might get sorted quicker/more efficiently. I've got an appointment on 28th April, so not too long to wait.
How're you feeling?? Have you tested again? It's nearly Tuesday!!

Shoes how're you feeling? Did you test again? X

Kwick709 · 20/03/2016 19:46

caution that seems like a bit of time to wait... Have they given you pain relief?

So here is the deal: I started testing yesterday BUT I cannot trust the results, so am just gonna carry on until OTD - which is Tuesday. I am going to Paris for the day tomorrow and then back to the clinic first thing on Tuesday to pick up more meds (hopefully).
Spots have died away, I felt quite sick this morning but IT IS ALL IN MY HEAD!!!!!
Finding it hard to find a non-sore spot for the injections...would love to have a bath!

Hope you all had a fab weekend :)

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Kwick709 · 20/03/2016 20:14

pickle did you see Masterchef (UK) is back on this week!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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pickle162 · 20/03/2016 20:30

Oooh exciting, I'll set up sky+ for that :)
Glad you have more distractions but until Tuesday, thinking positively for you

I'm off to ideal home show tomorrow wahoooo

caution hope the pain eases up for you or they give u decent pain meds

Kwick709 · 20/03/2016 20:47

pickle I am very jealous of you going to Ideal Home show!!! I have only been once, about 30 years ago, but I loved it!

I have decided to have an early night - see as have to get up extra early for trip tomorrow. Am going to carry on with Malory Towers :)

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taydex · 20/03/2016 21:07

Good evening ladies,

Sorry for the quiet, been a busy weekend here. Had visitors - including a 9 month old and a 3 year old which was tiring. Also went into that there big smoke on Saturday to see Adele, which was really good. Spent most of the afternoon napping on the sofa to recover.

I will keep you posted as and when I start a new thread. Quite happy hanging round here for now. Will get one sorted in the next few weeks but no hurry. Will certainly share details when I get my lazy ass round to doing it Smile

So, how is everyone doing with their tests? Or are we waiting till Tuesday (I think that's official test day, right?). Any symptoms? I know, I know, I said symptom spotting is bad. I'm just overly excited for you both. And I'm impatient Smile, did I mention that at all? He he he.

Kwik - Your dream sounds so funny. How's the bum cheeks doing? Guess that sounds really odd if you'd not read your above post! Wink Why do you say you can't trust the results? Is it because it's before the official test date and you may have the trigger in your system still? Have fun in Paris and keep us updated please.

Cloud - Don't forget to cross your eyes too. Believe me, it's a good look!

Caution - Great news on the appointment. That's not too long to wait. Be good to get it all sorted.

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