TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!

[Kwick709]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Taydex how are you getting on? Have you had much nausea etc.?

Oh My Yes! £10 for 16 tests (may have gone a little overboard....) including express delivery...? DONE. Thanks Shoes!

(Will probably still go buy another kit - earliest delivery is Friday - but at least I can settle for just buying the one! They are darned expensive!)

When I've ordered from HomeHealth (that's the seller - it's not actually Amazon) in the past things have turned up really quickly. They've dispatched my parcel already, so I'm crossing my fingers that it turns up tomorrow.

Yeah, I just got a dispatch notice as well so they look pretty on to it! Nice find Shoes

Hi Shoes,

I'm not feeling too bad thanks. Generally, after I got to about 6 weeks, I started to feel a bit more tired (nothing that going to bed a bit early wouldn't fix), and my tummy started to feel a bit niggly. Kind of like when you're not sure if you're feeling hungry or sicky. So I've taken it as hungry. I've not been sick (dare I say it, yet!). I have eaten a few slightly weird things, basically whatever my body seems to be telling me to eat - which is mostly ready salted crisps, ginger biscuits and Cadbury's chocolate buttons. Yeah, I know, I'm supposed to be being good. I am doing that too. But I figure anything that goes in and stays in at this stage is probably OK (within reason). That said, I've eaten a lot of fruit today and I'm feeling pretty good so maybe that's the way forward.

Cloud - I have one of my pregnancy tests left. I don't know if there's any way to get this to you before the others arrive, but I'm happy to give it a go if you want it. If so, just PM me your address?

TD x

So... Doctor's trip this afternoon was useless (no massive surprise there, my GP surgery is terrible, if they weren't so very convenient location wise they'd be fired). I called up 2 weeks ago to make the appointment. They said not us, try midwife, I called midwife, she said not us, fill out a form with GP, called GP back and got appt (they knew the reason for the appt). So we go along today and turns out they booked us appt with the nurse and not the doctor. The nurse is lovely and was very apologetic (but don't blame her, not her fault) but said she can't fill out and sign the form. She booked me the next available docs appt (for 2 weeks time). I came out, called the reception from my car in the car park (I'm so much braver over the phone and didn't want to talk about this in public) and went ape sh*t at them and now have an appt this Friday morning. Result. ish.

On the plus side the lovely nurse did say she wasn't aware of there being any problems locally getting the hospital of your choice, and she said the appt in 2 weeks time was still plenty early enough,, and there was no need to worry. But I am impatient. I want everything now. He he.

Eeek cloud I'm soooooo happy and excited for you. Suppose one benefit of the migraine was that you couldn't think about waiting till Tuesday to test. How many iui's had you had before this? Or was this your first,sorry can't remember
Glad you managed to get an earlier Gp appt taydex I would have been well pissed off.
I will definitely be taking photos, probably daily haha :)

Have u been tempted to test yet kwick seems like the longest 2ww so far

Jesus, Mary & Joseph you guys have been busy without me!

cloud sorry about your migraine but what amazing news a BFP!!!!!! Congratulations!!!!!

taydex yep will still be considered even if upduffed - hopefully it will be in an area I have wanted to get more into for a while... But beggars cannot be choosers and if I can get a job which does not require 75% travel and is paid okay (I may need to take a pay cut but so be it) and still work for the company I with now that would be great.

I thought we all agreed only to use FRER?????

taydex I love that you phoned the Doctors back as you are more assertive on the phone.... That is what I call playing to your strengths
Did/do you knoy do one fanjo (crinone) gel a day? I have to do two....

pickle actually it is very good I am away as I am very busy so have little day dream time. I think though that I may be out as feeling just like I did with IUIs :( boobage pain has sort of stopped, and I have voracious facial hair growth (pre-af sign). Only strange thing is spots that keep on appearing but this could be all the hormones.
Did you get the costings for the the different op options?

I am exhausted - night night my lovelies :)

I thought we all agreed only to use FRER?????

Right, Kwick , admit it - you actually work for the International marketing department at First Response, don't you?

Some of us, perhaps the more obsessive amongst us , cannot be affording the FRERs!

And, you're not out until you're out. Fingers crossed and have

Blimey, a lots gone on since I was last on here!

Cloud - OMG! A massive congratulations to you, you must be over the moon!! Sorry about your migraines though, my Nan used to suffer with them. She's now on something called Sumatripan - but I'm not sure how safe it is during pregnancy! She completely got her life back...
I'm thrilled you got your BFP

Taydex - what is it with doctors surgeries just recently??? Mine are just as bad! It took 200 times to get through to mine once, and then the receptionist on the phone was snotty... I'm so glad you rang them and gave them what for - they needed to know their mistake!

I went to the doctors about my ultrasound results, and she said my cyst isn't massive but it's not small either. And because my periods are haywire, and because I'm getting pain on the side where the cyst is, she's referring me to gynaecology. Have to wait for an appointment to come through the post now - that'll take ages!

Hola ladies,

Kwik - Great news about the potential new job I have my fingers crossed for you (on 2 counts!). Re FRERs, I didn't use them to be honest. I had the standard ones from the clinic (Alere) and the ClearBlue digital ones (that also say how many weeks along you are). I didn't really like the FRERs (seemed to be the same as the free Alere ones I got and I wanted something more), but I guess whatever everyone is comfortable with. But then if I'd known you worked for them and got a cut of the profit... LOL! And yes, I only do 1 Crinone a day (8 mg I think). My instructions are to do between 6 pm and 8 pm and then walk for 15 mins. I keep meaning to check the patient leaflet to see what it says as I know you've not been told the same.

Caution - I was in the queue to my doctors for 14 minutes yesteday before they answered my phone. Good job my job is flexible enough to allow me to mess about doing things like that (and work from home around an appointment that ends up being with the wrong person!). The nurse was very apologetic when I went in for my (wrong) appointment and said she'd have a word with the receptionist ladies as it's not on. Fingers crossed they manage to sort your cyst out. Surely there's something they can do to fix you sooner rather than later (disclaimer: I am not a medic!).

So, it appears my assertiveness on the phone didn't result in what I wanted as I was phoned back late yesterday and told I needed an appointment with a specific doctor in a specific clinic which appears is only on Tuesdays and he's fully booked for this coming week. What a p*ss take. Anyway, I grumped some more and the receptionist went off to ask him if we can be an exception to the rule. Not heard anything back despite her telling me she'd call me this morning (I do have crap mobile reception at work), so will call them back as soon as I'm done writing this.

Definitely have not been looking on maternity clothes websites today. And more than that I also did not just buy a couple of things from ASOS... I know, I know, it's too early. But there was a sale on, and I am feeling like a fatty in my normal clothes (today's jeans are way too tight) and I figure even if for some reason this pregnancy does not last, I would try again and hopefully it would work in the future.

Taydex - 14 minutes? That's ridiculous. I understand there are a lot of people in need of a doctors attention, but there has to be something they can do to make the process quicker and smoother. Glad the nurse you accidentally saw said she'd have a word too.
Did you ring your doctors back after you wrote your last post? Did they say anything?
I think it's a good idea to start looking at maternity clothes. You're going to need them soon, so why not look a little early?!
You would've thought that they'd be able to sort me out sooner rather than later, but as I said previously, there's a lot of people that need a doctors attention! I've been getting quite a bit of pain today so I just hope they hurry up. They'll probably rescan me before they do anything tho!

Ah, I love the chatter on this thread!

Thanks Caution, Kwick and Pickle! Yup very exciting news indeed!

Err...slightly embarrassed to say this was my first IUI, but its still very early days (though I am looking forward to the time when I no longer feel the need to add that to the end of every statement!!)

Had a bit of a "moment" earlier today. I woke up got up at 6am this morning to pee and remembered I should therefore do a test at the same time (you know, good ole first pee of the day!). I remember thinking this probably wasn't a good idea as it was way too early to handle news of any kind, but still went ahead anyway. So having peed on the stick (sorry Kwick I'm a ClearBlue girl!) I then finished my business and waited for it to change into the pregnant 'cross' (these were one minute tests). I waited. And waited. And waited. Nothing. One straight line, no pregnant cross. Even though two days ago I got four PKP(???) in 12 hours. But I guess the body can be fickle like that.

I was gutted. Couldn't believe I was not pregnant already. I knew I needed to do some more tests to confirm, but I just didn't have the heart for it right then and there - I wanted to believe in the possibility of still being pregnant for a little bit longer. So I went back to bed, in a bit of disbelief, to have a wee cry. About 20 minutes later I decided this is ridiculous, it's not even confirmed yet! I decided I could handle the disappointment and got up to take another test.

Anyway, I got to bathroom and looked at the offending test, only to find it had bloomin well turned into a cross!! Apparently my one minute tests are not in fact one minute tests, but three minute tests! (Though in my defence, the other times I've done one you could see the second line developing while you waited, but this time there was absolutely nuttin happening!)

So, moral of the story - always read the instructions and ALWAYS WAIT THE FULL THREE MINUTES!! ;-)

However I think I can understand better now why so many woman don't tell people early. I got a very small glimpse of the awkwardness and embarrassment and heartache of having to tell people you're no longer pregnant. It probably won't stop me from informing a few more people, but i think I may wait a few more weeks days longer.

BTW. I hope that story wasn't insensitive or upsetting to anyone. And biggest heartfelt apologies if it was! I feel a bit like a fraud sometimes that this happened first time when so many of you have been going through this struggle for some time. I just assumed this would take me a while too. And it may still. But anyway, I just want to say I think you are all very brave, wonderful and determined women! And I hope we all get our hearts desires sooner than we think!

Awe bless you, that must have been horrid,glad it was still positive in the end tho.
Don't feel like you are being insensitive tho we are all here together for the good and bad and we are all elated for you :)

Thanks Pickle.

LOL shoes speak to my colleagues they will tell you I do not know the first thing about marketing! I actually just learned that one of my colleagues has a stock pile of clearblue at home as his wife is a rep... I was like "excusez-moi where are my free samples???????"

taydex just to clarify - clinic gave no specific instructions on fanjo gel except to apply twice a day and to declump evey few days. Mine is 8%. I just decided seeing as you kind of need to lie down to appky that it made sense to "adminster" just before bedtime and just before getting up in the am.... I do recall researching it many months ago and some people said that walking helps with clumping but to be honest I do not get a lot of clumping issues.

Ok will return later - dinner just arrived

cloud oh my God I WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN ABLE TO KEEP MY SANITY!!!! What a stresser! I am sure a FRER would not treat you that way
I think it is amazeballs that IUI worked first time - I had begun to lose faith until taydex got her bfp and now look we have another one!

pickle any more news on operation options?

Night night lovely ladies! I am so pleased tomorrow is Friday and I will be travelling back to Blighty!

Op booked for 25th April, having the 3 or 4 scar revision rather than the £2k "shave" op which FREAKED me out. I'm sooooo ocd tho,I've booked and paid upfront for the first op and they said they'd send an email confirmation but nada- I only bkd tue eve but if they say they will do an email rather than a letter then i want it straight away. Don't want to have to chase it up as they think I'm a lunatic (which is slightly true )so trying to be patient arghhhhhh

Kwick - yeah, I suspect the fact that I wasn't fully awake yet probably had something to do with the somewhat subdued response. In fact at one point I recall thinking "well that's properly screwed up my sleep-in..." !

Learning #3. Don't pee on a stick when you're not awake!

Pickle good luck with your op! I think you gotta go with the option that sits right with you - these things are overwhelming enough as it is! I really hope it goes smoothly (and they email you soon!!) Good on you for taking the step!

Taydex I only just saw your note above about spotting. Thanks for the heads up cos yup, that woulda freaked me out as well! (And thank you too for the offer of the spare test! I ended up going for a walk and bought some while I was out (hence the drama above clearly should a bought FRER! )

Shoes did your delivery arrive? Mine was in the mailbox this afternoon so I hope you got yours too!

So, with all my drama I've lost track of what day it is where everyone is at with their cycles. Shoes are you coming up to the end of your 2ww or still a week or so to go? Kwick are you still the 22nd?

Anyone heard from Boo...?

Evening

Cloud I believe that both Kwick and I have an OTD of this coming Tuesday.

My tests arrived today too. Told you they were speedy!

Don't feel awkward about the fact you got a BFP first attempt. Every BFP here just convinces me that it can be done and it's fab if you can save ££ and months of cycle obsession by getting pregnant first time!

Thanks Shoes. And I will be keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you and Kwick this Tuesday!

Caution thanks for sharing about your Nan. Yup, Sumatriptan is the same thing I take - it's an absolute life saver!! When it works it's like I don't even have a migraine!

( SIDE NOTE: for anyone who suffers from or has loved ones who suffer from migraines and are still only using over the counter painkiller (Nurofen Plus etc), they need to STOP. They don't work. The only type of medication that is proven to work are triptans (sumatriptan, zolmatriptan, frovatriptan, Almotriptan, etc) which need to be prescribed by a GP or specialist. They don't have to suffer any more. It will change their life. #sermonover)

However, unfortunately while there aren't any studies proving Sumatriptan is dangerous while pregnant, they can't prove that it isnt so all advice is not not take it. Ironically the preventative the specialist recommended so I could reduce sumatriptan has been proven to increase certain risks while pregnant (reduced fetus growth for one, as well as potential issues at birth), but apparently they can be monitored and managed. Or alternatively my migraines might magically disappear now that I'm pregnant. It's a balancing act trying to find the right solution (but getting a migraine and going with basically no food or water and being incapacitated for three days out of every ten, for the next nine months isn't much of an option either!!)

I have taken executive decision to start testing tomorrow... The way I see it this will help me mitigate my disappointment if a bfn. I will store FMU (I generally go at 4am) and then test at a more decent hour. I have another progesterone level test tomorrow... Which I think is quite early in the morning.

I had to start using my other bum cheek fir injections as right side was getting very sore... I feel battered and bruised....I am only bruised though.

Am worried about boo

Hopefully Boo is just very busy and Mumsnet isn't on her radar at the moment. I hope she's ok too.

Kwick I have started testing. Negative so far. Last month it wasn't until the Sunday night before a Tuesday OTD that I got a very faint line so I can handle seeing BFN until Sunday at least.

This is so hard. Managing one's hopes, expectations, doubts, imagination, sanity etc. feels like a tricky balance to strike. Trying to keep positive whilst being realistic is impossible!

and lots of luck and positive thoughts coming in your direction.