TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!

[Kwick709]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Stork - they do Skype consults?! That's really good I think I may have to go for that option. I'm heading to Swansea soon to see my best friend - not sure when yet but I could always get it done whilst I'm over there if I plan it right. What a bonus...

How're you feeling today Kwick? X

caution yep indeed! Mine is next Monday by Skype. They also do phone. Best to call, speak with reception, then one of the consultants will call you back if you wish to discuss how to move forward in terms of meetings etc. I love that 2 rounds of IVF is £4800! Amazing price.

Hola all, hope everyone is ok. Xoxoxo

Stork that really is an amazing price... Are you going ahead with IVF? Or are you doing IUI? I'm going to try IUI first :)
I think I may have to do the CRGW in Wales. So much cheaper. It'll just be getting time off work that'll be the pain. X

That is so funny shoes I found the same site yesterday when I got desperate! Hope you are feeling a bit better - this MC thing is defo a rollercoaster.

Absolutely shattered - early start, bumpy plane ride, lots of fast car journeys and a late work dinner.... Looks like hotel in room wifi does not work

Hi all,

Hope everyone's doing well. kwick and shoes I've read so much about what is "normal" after a mc. And nothing seems normal. I know I finally got af once hcg hit zero. And that took forever, but only because I had retained stuff for the first 3 weeks. And my af has been totally normal.

now I'm looking at an iui next week and to be totally honest I'm terrified. Worried it won't work. Worried it will and I'll get hopeful again and experience a loss again. I just remember how happy I was. I really hope that happens again. I have some friends who are trying with their partners. It's just so different for me, doing iui. Blah. This is just my little pity party for the night. I've been feeling a bit weird with the femara I've been taking these past couple of days. And stressed at work. Just a bit of a basket case.

Wishing everyone luck with their next steps, whether it's waiting for that first af, an iui/ivf or a scan.

If Im paying for treatment then Im going to go with the treatment that has a stronger chance of working. IUI at my age is a suggested 10-12% of working, IVF more like 45%.

Then of course you have Cyprus who put back up to 4 embryos hence a near 80% success rate...

I thought about trying IUI first, but both Care and Wales said they didn't really see the point given the price and the % rates.... I can't afford several tries of IUI, Id prefer to lob all eggs (pun intended) into one basket and give IVF a shot. Also, they have an acupuncturist on site in Wales, which makes my acupuncturist very happy as they can co-ordinate and ensure my treatments within 15mins of the procedures.

Caution where are you based again? I know that I can get to wales and back on the train same day for everything except removal and implantation, then I would stay over.

Also look at how much they do in terms of standard - blastocysts, embryoglue, embryoscope, all as standard included in the price.

still, I like the idea a 10 day hols in the sun in cyprus and being all relaxed while doing the baby thing.....

decisions decisions....

karen I know exactly how you feel... In a way I am frightened about getting pregnant again... I know I will just worry the whole time since MC but I am more frightened about not getting pregnant and what that will mean to my life.

I had a lovely chat with my nephew on Monday - we were saying how lucky he was that he got to spend so much time with my mum, and he told me I was a great Auntie... So I must be doing something right and this has nothing to do with the sweets I sneak in for him

This Wales malarkey is beginning to sound enticing... I know my bank balance is feeling pain but I think I will stick with my expensive CRGH - I can get back to work in 15mins if I take the tube...AND it is opposite the Portland Hospital and I am a complete snob

Still no sign of af

kwick I hated waiting for af. Cried myself to sleep many times, thinking it would never come. But it did. And I am totally with you about it being way more important to try. I need to try, even though it's hard and stressful. A baby and a family are what I want. So here we go. Lots of positive thoughts. Every night I try to quiet myself and end my night telling myself ( and my ovaries) that things are going to go well. Lol. And can I say I'm jealous about all this talk regarding Cyprus?? Even going to Wales to have iui/ivf. Ah well. Maybe one day I'll take my kid on vacation. :)

karen the PMA is very good. I am going to start talking to my ovaries too we must believe that our dream will come true.

Still no sign of my AF - have appointment with GP on 13 June (earliest one available)

Hey lovely ladies
Sorry I've been naff at responding, hope u are all well?
Just been watching myleene klass single mums on benefits....(not a huge amount about benefits actually) but bit at end of show about woman choosing to be a single mum like some of us and also there was a group called single mums with kids where single mums (obvs!!!) meet up with others and even go on holidays together so don't feel so alone etc

caution op went well thanks, all healed-scar still very evident but only about 5weeks post op and need another 2 anyway so it won't be the final scar anyway. Have a check up with the consultant on 17th
Well done on the new job

taydex hows the pregnancy going?

kwick hope that naughty af comes soon the little bugger!! Just think of the positives-more money saved along the way

Xx

But pickle what if I have not been saving but have been splurging out on beauty products like a mad woman? 😜

Lol a girl has got to have beauty essentials

That is very true pickle so how is the wound doing?

I dreamed that my AF came and I was sooooo happy but no sign of it this morning

Thank God it is Friday!

Sorry to hear you're getting so frustrated, kwick. Hope it comes soon!

I let this thread drop off my TiO, but I wanted to come check in again. We had another clinic visit yesterday to look at DP's tubes, and they're fine, so apparently we are now good to go for IUI. Eek.

Ooh exciting robin,good luck

Best of luck robins!!!! Have everything crossed for you.

Thanks very much pickle and kwick*. To be honest we're actually a bit confused now - they waved us off with smiles, but we don't quite understand the time frame!

That is strange robins anyway my iui cycles started with a baseline scan on day 1,2 or 3 of period. Then I would have next scan around day 9 and would be instructed to start doing opks... Scans would continue every other day or so.Obvs the days depend on the real cycle also if stims are being used. I would be instructed when to trigger and then next day IUI would happen. And then the TWOT - two weeks of torture - begin!!!!
Different clinics do it differently - maybe less scans and so on.

Robin I had to ring up the clinic on the first day of period and book for a scan for day 12 to see how my follicles were doing. They were a bit small that day, so went back on day 16 - everything looked good so HCG injection to start ovulation, then back the following morning for treatment. Then, the 2WW...

Scan on Wednesday went well - little heartbeat in the right place so now we're discharged from the clinic and passed over to the Dr's surgery for all the usual antenatal stuff.

So amazeballs hoping

Stork I'm based in Northamptonshire :) my best friend lives in Wales and when I go and see her, it takes about just over three hours to get there by driving. I'll have to see what it's like doing it on the train... But I'd say it's definitely a good idea to go there rather than in England.
I don't blame you for going for IVF first - better chances, and all that! When are you looking at going ahead with it??

I'm glad your op went well Pickle. Let us know how you get on on the 17th?

Kwick how're you feeling?

Hoping that's amazing :) congratulations!!

Stork - I've just been looking at CRGW in Wales again, and they also have one in Bristol now. Bristol is about an hour closer to me, and I think the prices are roughly the same. I haven't worked out how to get onto Bristols price list yet - just thought I'd let you know!! X

I have a lurgy :( came on all of a sudden yesterday pm - fortunately I had finished making paella (one of my signature dishes) to celebrate nephews birthday. Mega sore throat, horrific night's sleep at my mum's - now at home of sofa feeling sorry for myself :(

Oh no I'm sorry to hear that Kwick take good care of yourself and rest up!! X

Hope you feel better soon kwick! Up before the sun tomorrow to get to the dr before work. Cd12 scan and bloodwork. Have already started opks. Trying to not focus on it. Had a quiet "me" day today. Read a book. Walked the dogs. Watched a movie. . Had a great day.