TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!

[Kwick709]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

So, update for anyone interested...

Chat with nice consultant. She agreed that one go if IVF with my eggs would be worth a shot. My chances are lower than in general because of my previous rubbish FSH, even though recent test results look ok. She also dismissed coq10 and DHEA as having no effect, but said I could carry on taking them if I wanted. Previous consultant had recommended I take both so I shall stay on them for now.
Trying to book to start with the drugs etc on my next cycle, we've a few more tests and some paperwork to tie up.
I could be looking at EC the week starting 8th August or thereabouts though.
And if it all fails then my clinic has links with a clinic in Spain and will happily support us through a second round of donor egg IVF.

So as I'm going the classic route for the moment I'm going to say goodbye for now. I'll pop back and update if anyone fancies it in a couple of months x

talula what do you mean by classic route? Stay on the thread!
Anyway glad that you are making progress.

Long protocol own egg IVF. Nothing special!

I'll be lurking, until we get started there's not going to be much more news x

Hmm I see now the title I gave the thread is misleading... Donor referring to the magic potion side if things. But everyone is welcome! The waiting is often the hardest part.

So for once I have a "clear" diary until about 3pm today - so I can catch up (from hotel where I am staying) but cannot find motivation - I had a guilty lie in (which did not really enjoy)... Wish I could spend the day watching "Homes under the Hammer"... But I should carpe dieum and try to get some work done as I am really behind (still)...

It's difficult, isn't it. One part of me thinks 'go easy on yourself' but the other part knows that the less I do now the more things will build up and the worse it will be to catch up. Catch 22!

Well I worked solidly all day and am absolutely shattered - got down to 200 emails and broke the back of some really nasty ones. BUT did not do the one big job I had earmarked for today and I have to before Wed and I am in an all day meeting tomorrow and travelling again on Tuesday and Weds... I FRICKING hate working when I should be off... But looks like I will have to do over long weekend

Morning all.

Well exactly 7 weeks after the start of my mc af has finally arrived. I'm relieved, and happy that things can finally start rolling. Off to the clinic tomorrow for my day 3 bloodwork. I hope everything is getting back to normal. If things go well I should be doing an iui in two weeks. I'm nervous and scared but also hopeful.

kwick I hope today is going better for you. Work sounds quite busy for you right now.

Hope every has a good Friday and a lovely weekend!

Great news Karen

Ooh, you're doing IUI on your first cycle. I've been trying to decide about this. What have your clinic said about it? I've had different advice from different medics on how long to wait before my next IUI attempt.

shoes my dr said that as long as I'm ready emotionally that we can start again with my first period. So far everything seems to be pretty normal - no terrible cramps, pretty normal flow for me. You can find such horror stories if you go looking for them. I'm trying to have only those positive stories I have read floating around in my head.

Last time I took femera days 3-7 of my cycle, had a scan on day 11 and then did opks til I had a positive. Went in the next day for bloodwork and had my iui the day after that. Bfp was 11 days later.

Just keep repeating to myself that it's a new egg with new sperm and fingers crossed for one that sticks.

Well done karen!!! 7 weeks is a long time to wait... I am going into week 6... But was told I had to have 2 afs before any treatment...
Fx for bfp

Spent the afternoon napping. It's so hot outside! Bloodwork and scan looked good so I start femara tonight and go back in on cd12 for another scan and bloodwork. Need to now get my lazy butt off the sofa and go do.....something. My dogs are staring at me so should probably go throw a ball around. Hope the weekend is treating everyone well.

Hello ladies, it's been a long time!
Sorry I've been AWOL - had a lot happening here. Just got myself a new job, so fingers crossed my savings will come on leaps and bounds and I'll be able to go ahead with treatment before the year is out!!!

How have you all been ladies?
Kwick, what's going on with you?
Taydex, NewShoes, how're things going?!
Pickle, have you had your op yet?!

There's new faces on here that I don't know, so let me reintroduce myself.
I'm 25 (had my birthday in May!) and am looking to conceive using donor sperm for a variety of reasons.
How are you all?

Sorry it's been so long... However, I am back! X

Great to have you back caution! Congrats on the new job

We had a family shindig today which was a bit hard with all the little cutie pies running around... I so hope I will have a time to be a mummy. Still no sign of AF and it has been 5 weeks since MC.... What if it never comes?

Why thank you Kwick 😜
You'll have time to be a mummy. And you'll be a brilliant one at that... Don't get disheartened, these things take time. Your AF will come - your body is just taking time to adjust to what's happened. Stress can delay it, also. Stay strong, lovely lady.

Has anyone ever thought about buying sperm from Cryos in Denmark and doing it themselves at home? Because that's seeming like a real good idea to me at the moment... Please help me weigh up the pros and cons!!

Morning!
I bought my first 5 batches of magic potion from Cryos and used for IUI.
For home use some questions come to mind:

• how would you store?
• how would you desfrost?
• how would you know when to turkey baste? In clinics they monitor you - but I guess you can use OPKs.

It MUST be possible as I have read stories of this being done. Keep us posted caution

You can just use OPKs to get the timing right.

I've looked into ordering from Cryos to home and came to the conclusion that with the delivery charges and the fact you need higher motility sperm which is more expensive for home insemination, it costs nearly as much as going to one of the Denmark clinics to get it done.

And at a clinic the sperm is put into your uterus so has less far to travel and therefore I would have thought is more likely to work.

Also the clinic 'wash' the sperm and double check that the motility is as stated for the sample to make sure it's of the best possible quality, which probably makes a difference too.

So, for me the only reason to go with home insemination would be to make the logistics a little more straightforward.

If you go on the Fertility Friends website you'll find plenty of women who are doing home insemination so you could find out more there.

Kwick your AF will turn up. It's just taking its time. I wonder if it's like the 'watched pot never boils' thing!

My body is still producing HCG so hasn't even cottoned on to the fact I'm no longer pregnant. Very frustrating and a bit cruel to be getting pregnancy symptoms. I'm a bit cross with my body!

I'm spending the day today with friends who have a toddler and a baby. I'm a little apprehensive as to whether it might make me emotional.

I hope everyone is enjoying the long weekend!

caution I seriously considered doing home insemination, but the cost v success rate didn't add up for me. The only way to bring the cost down was to reduce sperm quality or safety ie using non sperm bank sperm from prideAngel or coparent websites. People have been successful doing this and the cost is tiny, but for me, the safety concerns just didn't quite add up, although frankly it's the same risk as a one night stand, so it's something I would still think about if I needed to eg finances dried up...

You could consider CRGW in Wales, lots cheaper than English clinics for iui, and IVF. I'm also thinking of Cyprus for IVF too. So much more for you money in Cyprus and Wales than in English clinics.

kwick AF will come. It will, your body is just doing what it needs to do. I know you feel like you're on a clock that's speeding up, and you are in one respect(I know this feeling!) but in another you can't focus on it, go listen to some mindfulness meditations and try and channel your chi, turn that nervous energy into positive feelings.

Or just tell me to shut up, I won't be offended, promise! Xoxoxo

Hi ladies,

Upon reading your messages, I think it is probably the logical idea to stick with the clinics..!! Purely because what you said Shoes - about the clinics being able to put the catheter in further, and about the sperm being washed - made sense. It may be a little more dearer but there is no price on being able to have a baby.

Stork I've just looked at CRGW in Wales. They seem a lot cheaper than English clinics!!! The only pain in the ass would be driving three hours... But like I said about the money, driving three hours is a small price to pay!!

Thanks ladies .

caution they do a Skype consult, and if you can find a local sonography clinic to do pre treatment scans then you only need to go to Wales for treatment! If you enquiry with them then an actual embryologist responds and tells you all you need to know. Also Welsh sperm is under £500! They also partner with xytex and esb.

caution everything that shoes said and an FC will also "centrifuge" the magic potion which I think makes them more active than usual.

I am trying white knickers approach again...

What with price of petrol vs flights you may find Cyprus cheaper to get to than Wales caution!!!!

pickle you okay?

Got all scared that I needed to renew my flat's lease - great news though, still 102 years left on it!

Ps, no there's a hotel 6mins walk from the clinic at £70 a night if you need it!

A return to Cardiff is under £70 so I'll, be doing that, rather than driving and worrying about traffic I think.

Getting a little anxious today. First early scan on Wednesday, but have been having quite a bit of backache and some cramping throughout the day. Also been exhausted (3hour nap this afternoon!) and a little nauseous so hoping it's just things stretching about. On a brighter note - I bought a maternity bra today as it's the only thing that can contain them and stop them hurting as I walk! Not the most attractive thing in the world, but at this moment I'm valuing comfort over pretty!

caution We considered the DIY option, but figured that it would be safer/less complications and easier to use a clinic, and, as has been said before - the sperm goes directly to the source so seems more likely to take.

Hope that AF comes soon Kwick, and that today hasn't been too upsetting shoes xx

Kwick how are you today?

I was just looking up some info on miscarriage (I'm utterly depressed and hopeless today and was wondering if this is par for the course as my HCG level has nearly dropped to nothing) and stumbled upon this website.

I think there might be some reassuring stuff here for you. This info makes it sound quite normal to wait 7 weeks for AF. How long have you been waiting now?

www.pregnancyloss.info/waitingforaf.htm