TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!

[Kwick709]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Lmao=Laugh my arse off

Hope everyone's ok,going through a bit of rubbish at work,we are being taken over by a different company,team will be split, job and responsibilities will be different so trying to keep afloat but love to all and hi to newbies xx

Thank you pickle. Sorry kwick, I have a couple of young people in my life and they make me use silly things when I txt and its spilled over into my typing. Don't be worried. I'm the abnormality. I had retained product. That's why it's taking longer for me. I'm sure you'll be like the majority of people and have Af after 4 weeks and be right on track. I am absolutely not the common situation. I feel bad to have scared you, what we are going through is bad enough. Hugs.

Hi All
Just wanted to share little about me. I tried AI with a friend for a few months and nothing much happened so I decided to jump right in and went for IVF in Cyprus with donor sperm (non anonymous) from Cryos.
Third time lucky and I am now 17 weeks pregnant with twins! Anxiously waiting for the 20 week scan to see if everything is still ok.
Good luck to you all!!

daisyboo thanks for dropping by - nice to hear from you fx for 20 week scan

LOL: LMAO I am going to use that if I can remember it

pickle sorry about hard times at work, just think you will be seeing gorgeous surgeon soon
Work is going to get a bit all over the place for me soon: new main boss (I have 3) starting in Julyish, we are acquiring another company thenish too and they have already started to announce major leadership changes... Once they get down to me lowly level I hope I can find some new jobs to apply for...

This is my 4th week since MC so if I am understanding things correctly AF should turn up any minute karen?
Well yesterday I deforested a mole on my face which always has tampant hair growth around AF so I am going to stay positive that AF will come soon.

Kwick sorry if I've missed this but have you had a negative pregnancy test yet? I believe that it's one way of checking that the miscarriage has completed. It's rubbish timing that you've got uncertainty at work as well

I'm planning to go back to work on Monday. I'm a bit wobbly still but feeling physically a lot better than I was. There's loads of crap going on at my work as well but I'm just going to have to let it go over my head and assume I'll have a job at the end of it. I don't think I can handle another thing to stress about at the moment.

Welcome Daisy fab to have another positive story amongst us. I hope all goes well with your next scan.

shoes so nice to hear from you. Wobbles to be expected - I still cry most days... And I am sad, but having new projects like the allotment are helping (my mum and I just bought some stuff in b&q which is great).
I actually did a POAS this morning, relieved it is a BFN. So now AF just needs to show - maybe I should start wearing white knickers?

Welcome daisy! Which clinic? Was it team miracle? I'm looking at clinics in Cyprus at the mo and would love to hear all about it from you!

Hi all, been uber busy with work and research hence no board action! Hope everyone's having a good weekend. X

White knickers do not seem to be working 😥

Perhaps you need white trousers too.....altho maybe not at work that could be rather embarrassing. Does af have to have come again before you try Ivf again?

I do have white trousers... But that is a BIG risk! Treatment only starts again on AF number 2... Who knows when that will be!

well that feking sucks!!!!! Come on af, show ur ugly head!

AF will turn up Kwick . It's so hard isn't it, having no choice but to be patient? There are some things we can't control, which is soo frustrating.

I did a pregnancy test today to check on my miscarriage status. Still very much positive. It's such a headf*ck!

The silver lining for me today is that I'm enjoying tea and chocolate again, both things I had completely gone off.

Patience has never been my strong suit... Anyway at least the sun is shining today!
Also I am less sore from digging activities at allotment.
Not looking forward to trip this week, starting tomorrow: paris-brussels-paris...away until late on Friday..

Only just finished at work and decided to treat myself to a cab home
Had to do my expenses before I left bloody new system as I realised I do not go back until 2 June due to trips and bank holiday!!
Anyway I hope everyone had a very Happy Monday!

Just got a quasi promotion at work, interim department director for 6mths while my boss goes on sabbatical to a different role in the company. Mother thinks I should hold off on beginning treatment in July/August till the end of the year due to the extra stress of the new job, which I'll be doing at the same time as my old job for no extra money..... Anyway, thoughts? Hold off on potentially scary mood altering IVF drugs till towards the end of the year or the new year, or say screw it, something will always pop up to make me think about delay. Although with a delay I get to save more, so that's a positive, but my eggs will be older so that's a negative...

Guys?

stork that really sucks that you have all this going on at work. When I was doing my iui I had a bunch of stress at work too. It definitely made it harder. Seeing as I don't know the reason behind my miscarriage, I don't know if the stress had a part to play in everything. I think that Ivf will be a lot for you, but on the other hand I don't believe in putting my life on hold for a job. My gut feeling says go for it. Things will work out.

kwick I hope you traveling is uneventful and you return home safe and sound.

shoes I'm hoping to a negative test for you in the very near future. This waiting can really play with ones mind. I had one this morning (poas addiction).

Still no sign of af for me and I'm getting well and truly sick of it. Have exhausted myself this weekend by putting in an enormous garden bed from start to finish. Relaxing in the sun now.

Hope everyone had a good Monday.

Evening all.

Nothing much to report here. We have first early scan booked for 1st June. My wife has decided that she's not going to believe it until then, though how she can deny something is happening is beyond me - I'm enormously thirsty and consequently peeing about 50 times a day, and my boobs haven't been so full and pert since I was 15!!

shoes I hope your first day back at work was ok xx

Kwick fingers crossed for AF soon x

Stork I have no words of wisdom unfortunately; I would usually say go with your gut. For me, work would go on a backburner (especially as it's unpaid extra responsibility) as you have already waited and I know how torturous the waiting to get started can be.

stork definitely screw it! You cannot put your life onhold - on your death bed you will never think "I wish I worked harder" but you might think "I wish I had a child". Yes it is that extreme!!!
BTW menopur made me a bit emotional but I was not on that for IVF - in fact I was the highest dosage of a cocktail of zomacton, fostimon & merional and I did not notice any significant mood changes. The rollercoaster bit was the constant scans, bloods and so on.

karen I am sorry you have an unexplained MC. I too was concerned stress could have played a factor but my MC was chromo related - it was nothing I did or did not do and I am pretty sure the same applies to you. Apologies if I have got that wrong but for me it was very important to not cast myself with blame.

hoping boobage problem sounds like a good one to have!!!!

shoes how are you holding up?

On my way to Heathrow... First stop Paris, then Brussels...

Stork I think that one thing that all of us here who have started fertility treatment and haven't been successful first cycle have in common is that we wish we'd started earlier.

Karen I don't believe that stress is thought to cause miscarriages. If you think of the extreme stress some women are under (in war torn countries for example) they still seem to be having children. The vast majority of miscarriages are caused by chromosome abnormality so the chances are that you miscarried a foetus that never could have made it.

It looks like I miscarried due to a blood clotting problem. I have something called elliptocytosis (some of my blood cells are elliptical shape). I was told this as a teenager but GP at the time said 'this is a symptomless condition that won't ever affect you', so I've been ignoring it. But the doctor at the hospital on Monday said he thinks this probably caused the miscarriage. I'm gutted to think I miscarried what might otherwise have been a healthy baby. I'm seeing my GP tomorrow to try and understand it better. It's idiotic because had I followed suit with others on this thread and taken aspirin that may have been enough to stop me miscarrying.

Hoping work was ok yesterday thanks. I felt quite daunted at the prospect of three hours commuting and a full day of work but I survived. I'm working at home the rest of this week.

Kwick I hope your work trip goes ok. I imagine security at CDG might cause long queues this week. I hope it doesn't make your travel any more painful than usual.
I'm ok thanks. Feeling a little brighter today. I think I might write a list of little hurdles so that I can feel positive as I tick them off.

1. Stop bleeding after ERPC
2. Negative pregnancy test
3. AF
4. Start tracking cycle with OPK
5. Ovulate (fingers crossed for that as I gather cycles can be skewy after MC)
6. AF2
7. IUI

That makes it look doable!
And in the meantime I might pay for a consultation with someone who can advise on my blood issue to make sure I've addressed that and have a plan in place.

shoes what a fcuker. Excuse my French. But the good news - sorry if this makes you want to hit me - is a) you CAN get pregnant - implantation is one of the biggest hurdles & b) now you know that you have to take something specific you will.
I say see a specialist right a way so you can know what you need to do.

I LOVE your list. I am waiting for number 3. I only bled for about 1 week after surgical management of MC.

CDG: no extra security that I could see. I am now in a cab on my way to Gare du Nord to get Thalyis to Brussels - we'll see what that is like.

My laptop is nearly out of juice may catch up on Eastenders on the train

shoes and kwick thank you. I hope that for me it was just a fluke. A genetic mishap. Today has been rough, I don't really know why. I think I'm just that kind of person that wants to know why, why it would happen to me while everyone around me seems to have no issues. Like I said, rough day.

shoes I hope your dr gives you some answers. I am so sorry that you had to go through a loss. I guess I kwick said, you know you can get pregnant. While your loss is terrible, maybe next time it will be preventable and you will have the baby you deserve.

And to close the evening (I'm fairly positive most of you are sleeping anyway):
Af will show shortly
I'll be starting my next iui soon after that
This one will stick. It will.

Night all.

Hi all!

Thanks for the thoughts and words of advice. I've decided to wait and see how this new role goes and push treatment for 2 months from August, to October. This means that new interim role will be either in the middle, or in wind down and I won't be in new job mode, so less stress. This has the added bonus of allowing me to save more so I get to choose between three clinics and not just the only one I could afford, and I really like that idea!

Hi to all, hope AFs are showing as they should, bumps are growing well where they should, and those waiting have an easy time of it and find things to distract themselves!

Ps, for some reason my ovulation this month is late. My temp is low, so I'm guessing it's just delayed rather than not happening at all... I hope...

Xx

Aah stork the third alternative I wish I had thought of that! Glad you have a strategy sorted - that is often half the battle.

karen hope you are feeling more sprightley. I have loads of ups and downs too.

Still no sign of af.... Have just spent €6 on sweeties which I am now guzzling on train back to Paris and I wonder why I cannot lose weight!

Blimey I just looked at some other MN actives threads: mon dieu there is a lot of cray-cray out there (and not all is related to TTC! )

Mes Kwick ils sont très important les bonbons!

You're quite right. Mumsnet is positively potty today. I've been posting on other people's threads a bit more in the past few days - it's a good distraction. Of course my increased contribution has no correlation with the increase is the madness!

I just saw my GP who doesn't think my anti-s antibody blood thing would be the cause of the miscarriage. Confused! She is going to look into it for me over the next couple of weeks though.

I feel sick... Too many bonbons!!! Complete caos now at Lille station - glad I am getting off at the next stop.

shoes glad you noticed it too - the MN madness.
How are you feeling?
Bloody annoying to have a different opinion but still good that it is being looked into.
I have a blood disorder which I told my consultant about when I first saw her last year and she referred me to Great Ormond Street Hospital for genetic counselling, it turned out to be a non-issue but I am glad I went and forked out the £500 all the same as it put my mind at rest.