TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome!

[Kwick709]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

On day 8 of the 2ww and starting to go a little crazy with the symptom spotting (although logically I know that's daft because it's far too early!). My boobs feel like they've been attacked with a bicycle pump and I'm exhausted. Also starting to have period pains though, so swings and roundabouts of emotions over here.

Oh well, 6 days to go....

Hello ladies.

Sorry for radio silence. This new job mullarkey is keeping me busier than I thought!

Hoping - Welcome. My wife and I are in a similar situation to you (or were a year ago). The delays drove us crazy. It was about 2 years between looking in to this and actually having IUI (although that was at least partly our fault for having a few wobbles and delaying for holidays etc). Anyway, 5 IUI cycles and 1 year later and I'm 16 weeks pregnant! Eep!

Talulah - Great news on the blood test results. Not long to wait now till the consultant appointment. I'm getting excited for you! I totally know what you mean re taking DD to the appt. I often found it odd when we were getting treatment and my OH said it was insensitive. But these things happen and I wouldn't worry about it. Your turn now hey?

Cloud - Awesome scan. Well done you. Does make it feel a lot more real now hey? Awh, cutie little bubba. I went a bit crazy baby clothes buying after 12 week scan (I partly blame Talulah for introducing me to Frugi...). Enjoy!

Stork - It's very personal choice re the scan but we always had and I'm glad we did. I'm a control freak and couldn't deal with the not knowing! Well, that and my clinic did it as standard. At least you will know where you are and what's going on. That said, I agree, clinics can be money grabbing **s. Mine advised us to do medicated IUI for 4 cycles (plus 2 where they got the medication levels wrong and I ovulated too early), we then switched to non medicated and hey presto got up-duffed first time! Hmm...

Kwick - Thanks for Hema tip. Will take a look. That's if there's any money left from buying very small clothes!

Matti - Welcome to the thread. Good to have you on board.

Right, lunchtime!

TD x

I've found out today that I've had a missed miscarriage. Surgical management booked for Monday.

So I'll be back on the ttc treadmill with you all soon.

Oh goodness shoes I'm so sorry!

Nooooo! Oh Shoes I am so sorry to hear that. Life can be poo at times. We're all here for you sweetie xxx

(still me, Matti, just updated a username to go a bit more anon)

Stork thank you, I read pretty much the whole thread before posting, lots of very good advice, and you all seem so lovely and supportive :) I am a little :O at the cost, can anything be funded through the NHS? I'd love to do egg-sharing but I wasn't planning on doing IVF, although I suppose I could lol any suggestions as to good places to look?

taydex Hi, thank you for the welcome :) congrats on your pregnancy, I was just wondering how you found accessing the procedure as a same-sex couple? Are you receiving NHS treatment?

INeedNewShoes I am so sorry :( sending very big hugs your way xxx

Loops I have just started treatment on the NHS after visiting my GP 2 years ago. We're lucky enough to live in a place where same-sex couples get funded for 3 unmedicated IUIs. Had many tests from the Drs and Gynae department before being referred for funding. It's taken a long time (but I was forgotten about for quite a while!) but worth it. No harm speaking to your GP about it.

shoes what can I say? I am so so sorry.

hoping thank you so much :) I think I will!! At least then I know where I'm starting from and can get any tests I might need

shoes I'm so sorry. How are you feeling?

kwick how are you too?

Shitty times are sent to test us, so I'm told...

Xoxox

These few days in Portugal have been a good break. And my mum and I stumbled across an old favourite and had a mammoth shop yesterday (in C&A!!!!!)

Hold up, C&A?! I thought they went bust in the 90's!? They were great! Glad Portugal was lovely. Xoxo

Sending lots of love shoes,I'm so sorry to hear that xxx

shoes I'm so so sorry. I hope you are looking after yourself.

Not much news here, just the long wait until our next appointment. In the meantime I've been keeping busy with DIY, paint-stripping is remarkably therapeutic.

Thanks for all your posts of support and sorry that I've been slow to respond.

I'm ok but a bit fragile. I'll be glad when the surgery is over and done with tomorrow.

I'll find the waiting until I can have my next IUI very difficult (probably around 3 months). I am very impatient to get on with it!

I hear you shoes but your body needs time to be ready again. I hope tomorrow goes as well as it can, please rest up afterwards.

C&A is alive and kicking in Portugal and I think Spain also... Always great bargains!

I am back now - nice to not be out and about and just relaxing on sofa.... Watching Masterchef Australia :)

BTW I am still on my quest to declutter and minimse (although with C&A and I may have just bought some stuff at Marisota splurge it is one step forward two steps back) and right now I am trying to reduce down my make-up haul - which lets face it: even if I wear a full face of make-up for the next 10 years I will not be done! I have just made myself up even though I am in my jimjams and have decided that Chanel perfection lumiere fluid make-up in 32 beige rose is just not my colour, bottle is about half full, PM me if you would like me to send to you :)

My consultant sent me a prescription for 5mg folic acid: result! I am going to stock up on supplements again in a mo.

Now to remove full face of make-up....

Hello everyone,

I've been doing so many google searches, and mumsnet seems to come up a lot. Thought I'd join as you seem to be a lovely group of ladies and I am in desperate need of people to talk with.

A bit about me: 36 years old, live in Canada, and am trying to be a single mom by choice. Very much wanting to move on from my very dismal sucess with relationships and don't feel like waiting for "the one" to come along to be a mum.

I went to see a fertility specialist last fall, got the ok to proceed with iui. Had my first go in Feb of this year and fell pregnant. I was over the moon. Unfortunately I had a mmc at ten weeks, baby had stopped growing a few days prior to my scan. I don't feel like I've been dealing very well with it. on my bad days I feel like I'll never get pregnant again, and that if I do it will end the same way. My regular gp is being useless. I think most of my fear is coming from still waiting for af to show up. It's been 5 weeks and 3 days since I took the pills to medically manage my miscarriage. I'm pretty sure I had retained product, as I bleed for two days, spotted for three weeks, then bleed like crazy for a day are which no more bleeding. Took a test this morning and I'm still a weak positive. I go for more bloods on Tuesday, but I feel like I'm on this roller coaster. Wait for a positive, be happy, lose everything, wait for a negative, then try again. Ugh.

I feel like I'm becoming obsessed with all of this. Waiting each day for stupid af to show so that I can finally get back to trying again.

Thanks for reading my ramble. Just needed to talk about it. People around me don't quite get the process. It's a bit different than just "trying again". Added to that a girl I work with is pregnant and due exactly when I would have been, it's just a bit too much for my head some days.

Karen

Hi Karen

Welcome.im not having iui until next may but have learnt so much from these lovely ladies.
Sorry to hear about the miscarriage sounds like it's been a long road

Thanks -pickle- I had an ok afternoon. It's was quite cool outside but I worked in the garden which helps clear my mind. Hope everyone had a good weekend.

Sigh. Tired to bold your name but that failed lol.

Welcome karen
I am very sorry about your mc. I know it is no consolation that it happens very often.
I hope you get some answers - and your af arrives soon.
I am in waiting game also. I had surgery so hopefully nothing retained. I think I will test though.
I just heard about an organisation for those that have gone through mc. It is called mariposa (which is butterfly in Spanish) - have not had chance to check out yet.

shoes am thinking of you

Shoes darling, I'm so sorry! My heart and thoughts are with you.

Karen welcome to the thread, here is a good place to be and share. These ladies are wonderful, and have definitely made a massive difference to me. I hope we can do the same for you.

kwik cloud thank you so much for you welcome. Had a rough night last night. Feeling crampy and wondering if it is af, which would be fantastic. So might just be hormonal (lol, which is the case during this entire process, start to finish).

Kwik I've been reading through old posts and I hope you are doing ok.

Cloud congrats!

shoes I know how hard this is and I am thinking about you

Welcome karen! I hope this groups helps you on the road to where you want to be emotionally, mentally and physically.

shoes thinking of you honey.

kwick try reading www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00I0C46BO/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 it changed my life! Seriously!

Just got back from a pre treatment a trap follicle scan. Lining, womb, ovaries etc all look good, 10 follicles on the left, 7 on the right. No idea if good or bad as my consultation is not till the 8th June (fed up with the waiting but good practice for this entire process I guess!)

I got to the clinic, had the scan and got home within 70minutes. I think I'm just gonna have to break into the emergency funds and try IVF with the local clinic, it's so easy,no stress, so quick....If it fails, then it's wales for me once I have saved enough for a scone go (assuming I need a second go, of course!)

I have been lurking for a while, but wanted to have this thread on my dashboard so decided to finally speak up. waves shyly I'm going to start IUI with donor sperm as a SMC next year. Starting my tests etc now and am so thankful that you're all sharing your stories so generously. It's so helpful to know there are others out there going through the full gamut of emotions. My utter empathy to everyone recovering from a loss right now, the biggest congratulations to those who have found their success stories, and persistence and hope to all of us between.